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Leaving Cloud 9: The True Story of a Life Resurrected from the Ashes of Poverty, Trauma, and Mental Illness
A powerful, heartbreaking, and redemptive account of a boy who endured a childhood of poverty and abuse in an American Southwest trailer park named Cloud 9.
Abandoned by his father at age two, Rick Sylvester lived with an abusive mother whose struggles as a member of the working poor led her to drugs, alcohol, theft, and prostitution--and eventually attempted suicide. Rick battled depression, anxiety, and PTSD as the chaos, neglect, and unpredictability of his childhood seemed to doom him to follow in his mother's footsteps.
Well into adulthood, Rick stumbled through unemployment and divorce, using drugs and alcohol to numb the pain until he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Miraculously, though, he overcame the odds and today is a happy husband and father. How did this happen? Rick's answer is this: "It was the Lord."
A message of hope to those who are drowning from an undeserved childhood, Leaving Cloud 9 speaks to millions who grew up poor, feeling ignored and hopeless, and who need the healing power of God. This indelibly American story conveys the steadfast love of Jesus and his power to deliver us from the most devastating of pasts.
Abandoned by his father at age two, Rick Sylvester lived with an abusive mother whose struggles as a member of the working poor led her to drugs, alcohol, theft, and prostitution--and eventually attempted suicide. Rick battled depression, anxiety, and PTSD as the chaos, neglect, and unpredictability of his childhood seemed to doom him to follow in his mother's footsteps.
Well into adulthood, Rick stumbled through unemployment and divorce, using drugs and alcohol to numb the pain until he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Miraculously, though, he overcame the odds and today is a happy husband and father. How did this happen? Rick's answer is this: "It was the Lord."
A message of hope to those who are drowning from an undeserved childhood, Leaving Cloud 9 speaks to millions who grew up poor, feeling ignored and hopeless, and who need the healing power of God. This indelibly American story conveys the steadfast love of Jesus and his power to deliver us from the most devastating of pasts.
272 pages, Hardcover
Published June 26, 2018
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Ericka Andersen
4 books97 followersEricka Andersen is a freelance writer and the author of the Harper Collins' title, "Leaving Cloud 9: The True Story of a Life Resurrected From the Ashes of Poverty, Trauma and Mental Illness."
She hosts "Worth Your Time" podcast, part of the Christianity Today podcasting network. She has written on matters of faith and culture for the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, the Washington Post, the New York Post, Christianity Today and more.
Her second book is "Reason to Return: Why Women Need the Church and the Church Needs Women" will be released in January 2023 with NavPress publishing.
Ericka is also a wife and mom of two living in Indianapolis, Indiana. Follow her on Instagram @ericka_andersen.
She hosts "Worth Your Time" podcast, part of the Christianity Today podcasting network. She has written on matters of faith and culture for the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, the Washington Post, the New York Post, Christianity Today and more.
Her second book is "Reason to Return: Why Women Need the Church and the Church Needs Women" will be released in January 2023 with NavPress publishing.
Ericka is also a wife and mom of two living in Indianapolis, Indiana. Follow her on Instagram @ericka_andersen.
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June 26, 2018
With the great title and book cover, Leaving Cloud 9 by Ericka Andersen is a deeply sensitive and sympathetic portrayal of her husband’s life story. Rick Sylvester and his sister were abandoned by their biological father, and raised by an alcoholic mother who was also addicted to drugs. The children were often left in the care of their overburdened and resentful grandparents, furthering their sorrow of being unloved and unwanted by members of their own family.
Already divorced then widowed when her young husband was killed while serving in the Army, Sylvia supported her two small children with a military survivor’s pension. Perhaps looking for a break from the demands of single motherhood, Sylvia drank heavily and brought home a long parade of men, many were unaware she had children. It was obvious Sylvia had behavioral, emotional and mental issues by the way she became addicted to alcohol, drugs and volatile relationships with men who exploited and abused her; she was totally unable to parent her children, exposing them her own suicide attempts, along with unsafe or dangerous situations. A long term relationship Sylvia had of at least a decade brought Rick a sense of somewhat being cared for and nurtured by a father figure, though eventually the man would exit their lives-- it was unclear if this father-son relationship was maintained. Eventually Rick’s sister would sever all contact with her mother.
The pediatric research of Nadine Blake Harris was noted: Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s) alter a child’s biology resulting in various problematic health conditions throughout life. The differences between foster care and the problematic kinship care provided by Rick’s grandparents were also discussed; the author seldom missed a chance to bitterly reiterate that Sylvia was a terrible person and mother.
In adulthood, Rick served in the Army, which included a tour in Kuwait, before being honorably discharged. Twice married and divorced, Rick’s life improved considerably after he met and married Anderson, the couple celebrated the birth of their son Jacob. In recent times, Rick received multiple diagnoses for mental health conditions; given his traumatic history this wasn’t surprising. Inspired by his spirituality and faith in God, Rick reconnected with Sylvia after years of estrangement. This is a story of redemption and healing from serious abuse and psychological wounds, discovering the strength of forgiveness and moving forward through the grace of God.. ~ 3* GOOD. ~ With thanks to Thomas Nelson Books via NetGalley for the DDC for the purpose of review.
Already divorced then widowed when her young husband was killed while serving in the Army, Sylvia supported her two small children with a military survivor’s pension. Perhaps looking for a break from the demands of single motherhood, Sylvia drank heavily and brought home a long parade of men, many were unaware she had children. It was obvious Sylvia had behavioral, emotional and mental issues by the way she became addicted to alcohol, drugs and volatile relationships with men who exploited and abused her; she was totally unable to parent her children, exposing them her own suicide attempts, along with unsafe or dangerous situations. A long term relationship Sylvia had of at least a decade brought Rick a sense of somewhat being cared for and nurtured by a father figure, though eventually the man would exit their lives-- it was unclear if this father-son relationship was maintained. Eventually Rick’s sister would sever all contact with her mother.
The pediatric research of Nadine Blake Harris was noted: Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s) alter a child’s biology resulting in various problematic health conditions throughout life. The differences between foster care and the problematic kinship care provided by Rick’s grandparents were also discussed; the author seldom missed a chance to bitterly reiterate that Sylvia was a terrible person and mother.
In adulthood, Rick served in the Army, which included a tour in Kuwait, before being honorably discharged. Twice married and divorced, Rick’s life improved considerably after he met and married Anderson, the couple celebrated the birth of their son Jacob. In recent times, Rick received multiple diagnoses for mental health conditions; given his traumatic history this wasn’t surprising. Inspired by his spirituality and faith in God, Rick reconnected with Sylvia after years of estrangement. This is a story of redemption and healing from serious abuse and psychological wounds, discovering the strength of forgiveness and moving forward through the grace of God.. ~ 3* GOOD. ~ With thanks to Thomas Nelson Books via NetGalley for the DDC for the purpose of review.
March 8, 2021
This book was a labor of love and the redemption story you read here is timeless. I hope those who have experienced or are struggling with childhood trauma, abuse, neglect, PTSD, depression, biploar -- or something related -- will find hope and truth here.
I had no idea writing this would ultimately lead me to a new passion for writing about God for those who are searching. I have new book in the works now. If you are interested in keeping up with my progress and publishing info for a new book on women seeking a deeper, more authentic faith, you can sign up here: https://mailchi.mp/097c6a2c01ae/churc...
I had no idea writing this would ultimately lead me to a new passion for writing about God for those who are searching. I have new book in the works now. If you are interested in keeping up with my progress and publishing info for a new book on women seeking a deeper, more authentic faith, you can sign up here: https://mailchi.mp/097c6a2c01ae/churc...
July 12, 2018
I received an ARC from the publisher, and the opinions in this review are my own.
By the time I was halfway through the book, I was having a visceral reaction to Leaving Cloud 9 by Erika Andersen. Leaving Cloud 9 tells the heartbreaking story of the author’s husband, Rick, and his horrifying and debilitating upbringing. Formative influences in Rick’s life included his mother Sylvia, her parents, three husbands, and a revolving door of men ranging from a violent criminal, to a well-meaning but toxic few. He was constantly in alcohol- and drug-drenched environments that habitually fueled the trauma, poverty, and mental illness in his family.
The author, Erika Andersen, makes a serious effort to treat these topics with transparency, caring, and sensitivity, but there are elements of her theology and her politics that left me arguing in my head with the book constantly. The About the Author page was instructive: “Ericka Andersen is a freelance writer who also serves as the digital marketing director at the Independent Women’s Forum and as a consultant for The Steamboat Institute. She previously wrote for and was the digital director at National Review magazine. Before that, Ericka was the digital manager at the Heritage Foundation and worked in communications for Vice President Mike Pence at the GOP conference....”
I am clearly not part of the book’s intended target audience. Parts of it left me distinctly uneasy about what I perceived to be undertones of racism and right-wing political policy. I am a leftist liberal Social Democrat, a Progressive Christian refugee of a Baptist upbringing, a person with Complex PTSD and addictions that went undiagnosed and untreated for 30 years, and an activist for racial, economic, and civil justice reforms.
The nuances in some of her language left me convinced that I have a very different perception of how our God of love, mercy, compassion, and forgiveness operates in a very real world with people living authentic human lives. The following three passages from early chapters of the book triggered my distress antennae:
— “There’s so much more to rescuing people than big government aid programs doling out money.“
— “In today’s heated conversations about race and privilege, the plight of poor, disadvantaged white children like Rick can be avoided. Issues of class are discussed and prioritized far less than those of race, leaving some in the impoverished white community to feel overlooked. Privilege is many things—white privilege being just one of them...”
— “It’s concerning that the problems of children like Rick aren’t addressed as thoughtfully as those of racial minorities. Those populations of course need help and focus, but there is another type of minority—the poor, white, broken family—that needs help and focus too.”
I agree wholeheartedly with her on the profound and complex multi-generational aspects of family dysfunction. I also agree with her that God is integral to healing, surviving, and thriving. However, American Christianity and faith communities have a mixed track record on these issues. My lived experience is that faith communities can just as easily arouse shame (as opposed to guilt) as they are to reduce or relieve it. That said, she effectively relates the tragic story of her husband’s abysmal childhood with heartfelt love and compassion for him. I was left wishing the story had come more directly from Rick in a less filtered way.
Her chapters are thoroughly footnoted, and my views are fundamentally opposed to those she offers as experts: conservative theologians, and writers from the National Review, for example. Despite efforts to present a good deal of clinical research and analysis in support of her views, I felt that she gave short shrift to some of the most groundbreaking insights drawn from Kaiser Permanente’s ACES research.
I am daily appalled by the way white, conservative, evangelical Christians and the GOP wage war against the poor, the diseased, the mentally ill, the addicted, the uninsured, the disabled, the sexual outcasts, the non-whites, the women, and the otherwise marginalized in the U.S. Are these not the people to whom Jesus unstintingly revealed his lovingkindness and tolerance through his actions, his parables, and his teachings, regardless of who and what they were? The lowly poor, the diseased lepers, the spiritually ill demoniacs, the “uninsured” chronically ill, the disabled blind, deaf, and lame, the sexual “others” like the eunuch in Acts, women like the ostracized and reviled woman at the well, despised foreigners like the Samaritans, and those otherwise marginalized in Roman Judea?
I think this book will generally appeal to white evangelical Christian conservatives that voted for President Trump, and many members of the GOP. It supports their world view. The same is not likely to be true for the liberal left, racial and economic justice activists, Obama voters, people of color, trauma and abuse survivors who are practicing Christians and were raised in Christian homes but still battle with periodic bouts of PTSD, and those who have wrestled with suicidality.
By the time I was halfway through the book, I was having a visceral reaction to Leaving Cloud 9 by Erika Andersen. Leaving Cloud 9 tells the heartbreaking story of the author’s husband, Rick, and his horrifying and debilitating upbringing. Formative influences in Rick’s life included his mother Sylvia, her parents, three husbands, and a revolving door of men ranging from a violent criminal, to a well-meaning but toxic few. He was constantly in alcohol- and drug-drenched environments that habitually fueled the trauma, poverty, and mental illness in his family.
The author, Erika Andersen, makes a serious effort to treat these topics with transparency, caring, and sensitivity, but there are elements of her theology and her politics that left me arguing in my head with the book constantly. The About the Author page was instructive: “Ericka Andersen is a freelance writer who also serves as the digital marketing director at the Independent Women’s Forum and as a consultant for The Steamboat Institute. She previously wrote for and was the digital director at National Review magazine. Before that, Ericka was the digital manager at the Heritage Foundation and worked in communications for Vice President Mike Pence at the GOP conference....”
I am clearly not part of the book’s intended target audience. Parts of it left me distinctly uneasy about what I perceived to be undertones of racism and right-wing political policy. I am a leftist liberal Social Democrat, a Progressive Christian refugee of a Baptist upbringing, a person with Complex PTSD and addictions that went undiagnosed and untreated for 30 years, and an activist for racial, economic, and civil justice reforms.
The nuances in some of her language left me convinced that I have a very different perception of how our God of love, mercy, compassion, and forgiveness operates in a very real world with people living authentic human lives. The following three passages from early chapters of the book triggered my distress antennae:
— “There’s so much more to rescuing people than big government aid programs doling out money.“
— “In today’s heated conversations about race and privilege, the plight of poor, disadvantaged white children like Rick can be avoided. Issues of class are discussed and prioritized far less than those of race, leaving some in the impoverished white community to feel overlooked. Privilege is many things—white privilege being just one of them...”
— “It’s concerning that the problems of children like Rick aren’t addressed as thoughtfully as those of racial minorities. Those populations of course need help and focus, but there is another type of minority—the poor, white, broken family—that needs help and focus too.”
I agree wholeheartedly with her on the profound and complex multi-generational aspects of family dysfunction. I also agree with her that God is integral to healing, surviving, and thriving. However, American Christianity and faith communities have a mixed track record on these issues. My lived experience is that faith communities can just as easily arouse shame (as opposed to guilt) as they are to reduce or relieve it. That said, she effectively relates the tragic story of her husband’s abysmal childhood with heartfelt love and compassion for him. I was left wishing the story had come more directly from Rick in a less filtered way.
Her chapters are thoroughly footnoted, and my views are fundamentally opposed to those she offers as experts: conservative theologians, and writers from the National Review, for example. Despite efforts to present a good deal of clinical research and analysis in support of her views, I felt that she gave short shrift to some of the most groundbreaking insights drawn from Kaiser Permanente’s ACES research.
I am daily appalled by the way white, conservative, evangelical Christians and the GOP wage war against the poor, the diseased, the mentally ill, the addicted, the uninsured, the disabled, the sexual outcasts, the non-whites, the women, and the otherwise marginalized in the U.S. Are these not the people to whom Jesus unstintingly revealed his lovingkindness and tolerance through his actions, his parables, and his teachings, regardless of who and what they were? The lowly poor, the diseased lepers, the spiritually ill demoniacs, the “uninsured” chronically ill, the disabled blind, deaf, and lame, the sexual “others” like the eunuch in Acts, women like the ostracized and reviled woman at the well, despised foreigners like the Samaritans, and those otherwise marginalized in Roman Judea?
I think this book will generally appeal to white evangelical Christian conservatives that voted for President Trump, and many members of the GOP. It supports their world view. The same is not likely to be true for the liberal left, racial and economic justice activists, Obama voters, people of color, trauma and abuse survivors who are practicing Christians and were raised in Christian homes but still battle with periodic bouts of PTSD, and those who have wrestled with suicidality.
July 13, 2018
This was nearly as suspenseful or gripping as a good horror movie, but then you remember the book is no sort of fictionalized account -- Rick Sylvester actually experienced this harsh childhood.
However, he fortunately survived and eventually met and wed author Andersen. I think she did an excellent job bringing her husband's sad story - growing up in near-poverty of Arizona and Colorado trailer parks amidst a single-parent's endless substance abuse, domestic disputes, and mental illness - vividly to life. I especially liked her strong Christian viewpoint on the circumstances, and I believe it wasn't merely luck or chance that Sylvester did not end up repeating his family's troublesome cycle.
However, he fortunately survived and eventually met and wed author Andersen. I think she did an excellent job bringing her husband's sad story - growing up in near-poverty of Arizona and Colorado trailer parks amidst a single-parent's endless substance abuse, domestic disputes, and mental illness - vividly to life. I especially liked her strong Christian viewpoint on the circumstances, and I believe it wasn't merely luck or chance that Sylvester did not end up repeating his family's troublesome cycle.
July 28, 2018
I had difficulty with this memoir style biography. I found Ericka's writing style somewhat hard to follow, events of her husband's life interwoven with her own opinions and facts from research. I also found the third person point of view rather odd. For example, “Rick wants people to know...” (3924/4152)
Ericka shares her husband's childhood experiences and the effect they had on him. Some might say his life wasn't so bad. He had to eat stale sugared cereals, although the milk was never sour. Some kids might have nothing at all for breakfast. While at his grandparents, he was forced to eat everything on his plate or it would be there the next morning for breakfast. (1113/4152) Yep. That was my parents' philosophy too. Rick felt unwanted in his grandparent's home. (1135/4152) Yep. I was relegated to play in a dank basement while at my grandparent's. I had lunch with a lady this week who had her teeth punched out by an abusive parent. She came out of her abusive childhood a mentally healthy woman even though she became a Christian as an adult. It seems to me that Rick's childhood experiences were not nearly as bad as some, from other memoirs I have read. Ericka says Rick was “a sensitive child.” (1100/4152) Perhaps that is more telling about this memoir than the actual circumstances he experienced.
Ericka's account of her husband's childhood is rather detailed and I had trouble keeping engaged with the text. It also seemed that Ericka had an agenda in her writing as she included much commentary with the record of her husband's early life. Some of it was about findings from research. Some of it was about her own emotions, I think. There was even some commentary about the Republican party.
I felt that sometimes Ericka embellished the hardness of Rick's childhood. She writes of Rick and his sister, “These siblings never heard the affirmation and encouragement all little boys and girls crave, not even from a schoolteacher or a social worker.” (1252/4152) Really? I find that very hard to believe, that never even once did they hear an encouraging word from a teacher. I did not like the racial implications either. Ericka writes that, “the problems of children like Rick [white] aren't addressed as thoughtfully as those of racial minorities.” (1307/4152) Really? I bet there are many who would greatly disagree with that.
In the end, Rick is finally healing through his relationship with Jesus and his increasingly more stable marriage to Erika. That is encouraging.
Some may appreciate Erika's style of writing and the very detailed account of her husband's hard childhood, hard army experiences, failed marriages, etc. It was okay, I suppose, but I feel the book could have been written so as to be much more positive and encouraging for readers.
I received a complimentary digital copy of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.
Ericka shares her husband's childhood experiences and the effect they had on him. Some might say his life wasn't so bad. He had to eat stale sugared cereals, although the milk was never sour. Some kids might have nothing at all for breakfast. While at his grandparents, he was forced to eat everything on his plate or it would be there the next morning for breakfast. (1113/4152) Yep. That was my parents' philosophy too. Rick felt unwanted in his grandparent's home. (1135/4152) Yep. I was relegated to play in a dank basement while at my grandparent's. I had lunch with a lady this week who had her teeth punched out by an abusive parent. She came out of her abusive childhood a mentally healthy woman even though she became a Christian as an adult. It seems to me that Rick's childhood experiences were not nearly as bad as some, from other memoirs I have read. Ericka says Rick was “a sensitive child.” (1100/4152) Perhaps that is more telling about this memoir than the actual circumstances he experienced.
Ericka's account of her husband's childhood is rather detailed and I had trouble keeping engaged with the text. It also seemed that Ericka had an agenda in her writing as she included much commentary with the record of her husband's early life. Some of it was about findings from research. Some of it was about her own emotions, I think. There was even some commentary about the Republican party.
I felt that sometimes Ericka embellished the hardness of Rick's childhood. She writes of Rick and his sister, “These siblings never heard the affirmation and encouragement all little boys and girls crave, not even from a schoolteacher or a social worker.” (1252/4152) Really? I find that very hard to believe, that never even once did they hear an encouraging word from a teacher. I did not like the racial implications either. Ericka writes that, “the problems of children like Rick [white] aren't addressed as thoughtfully as those of racial minorities.” (1307/4152) Really? I bet there are many who would greatly disagree with that.
In the end, Rick is finally healing through his relationship with Jesus and his increasingly more stable marriage to Erika. That is encouraging.
Some may appreciate Erika's style of writing and the very detailed account of her husband's hard childhood, hard army experiences, failed marriages, etc. It was okay, I suppose, but I feel the book could have been written so as to be much more positive and encouraging for readers.
I received a complimentary digital copy of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.
December 3, 2021
Oh my gosh. Finishing this book with tears in my eyes. The last half of the book had me up at night and anxious to see what happened next.
What a beautiful, incredible and mind blowing story of redemption. I’m glad the author was so thorough to cover every detail because she really steeped me deep in the story throughout the beginning and middle so that by the end, I was able to understand the scope of the transformation.
This book was so sad in some parts, and hard to understand that someone can suffer quietly for so long. It’s heartbreaking.
I loved this and felt it was more enjoyable to read than a popular similar memoir- Hillbilly Elegy. I also really appreciated the faith tone and vivid example of the truth of the gospel.
Wow. Thank you Ericka for sharing your family’s story in such honesty and clarity❤️
What a beautiful, incredible and mind blowing story of redemption. I’m glad the author was so thorough to cover every detail because she really steeped me deep in the story throughout the beginning and middle so that by the end, I was able to understand the scope of the transformation.
This book was so sad in some parts, and hard to understand that someone can suffer quietly for so long. It’s heartbreaking.
I loved this and felt it was more enjoyable to read than a popular similar memoir- Hillbilly Elegy. I also really appreciated the faith tone and vivid example of the truth of the gospel.
Wow. Thank you Ericka for sharing your family’s story in such honesty and clarity❤️
June 26, 2018
I was offered the chance to read an advanced reader copy of this debut book. An open, honest, unbelievably transparent account of Ericka's husband Rick's childhood. Growing up in an addicted and neglectful home with only his younger sister as a constant, this book opens the readers' eyes to mental illness and growing up in poverty without a stable home life or outside support - family or otherwise. And overcoming these obstacles - growing and healing through faith and God
Ericka does a great job of using fact based research on mental illness and addiction along with weaving the reader through Rick's journey.
I highly recommend this book as an easy but eye opening and heart opening read.
Ericka does a great job of using fact based research on mental illness and addiction along with weaving the reader through Rick's journey.
I highly recommend this book as an easy but eye opening and heart opening read.
May 26, 2018
I have an advanced copy of “Leaving Cloud 9” from Ericka and couldn’t wait to read it. This book, Ericka’s debut as an author, is a gripping read. I felt compelled to read the entire book in a day, and it didn’t disappoint. While many of us come from stable family homes, many of our peers don’t have that luxury. This heartfelt story of Ericka’s husband and his journey to find God to heal from a troubled childhood is a story everyone should be able to relate to. I’ll have a more complete review at The Resurgent shortly.
July 6, 2018
I received an advance copy of Leaving Cloud 9 from the publisher, and am so grateful that I had an opportunity to read it. The book is an incredible story of redemption, grace and the overwhelming power of God. We follow the story of Rick Sylvester, a man who grew up in some of the most challenging conditions imaginable. As I read, my heart hurt for him. He was a boy who had been robbed of his childhood. Forced to grow up too early, and required to deal with circumstances no human should ever have to deal with. Amazingly, he overcomes those circumstances and manages to avoid the path that many would have assumed he follow - drugs, jail or worse. It is an open and honest look at the life that many Americans lead every day. It also is a great testimony of God's presence in our lives, even when we choose not to see it. I would definitely recommend this to others.
July 6, 2018
This was a wonderful book. I read the entire book in a single weekend because once I got wrapped into Rick's story, I could not let it go.
May 31, 2018
Love this book!
June 23, 2018
All I can say about this book is be sure you're ready for it. It is a challenging book, filled with heartache and child abuse, PTSD, addiction and alcoholism. However, there are many good things that come from this story of Rick, the husband of the author. A chance to break generational chains, a chance to start afresh with God in his life, a healthy third marriage and a baby daughter.
There is so much unpacked in this book, and although it ends on an uplifting note, it was hard for me to read. I am familiar with the ravages on a family from alcoholism and addiction.
Erika does a great job of deciphering the jagged pieces of her husband's formative years in the home of his mother, Sylvia. I imagine writing this book and learning how her husband grew up was hard, but I admire the fact that she wrote it in a way that causes the reader to feel for, and possibly identify with, Rick and his sister, Jenny, in their search for stability with a mother that was anything but. I appreciate her willingness to share Rick and Jenny's story in the first place, instead of glossing over it.
The reader also learns about the long term trauma associated with childhood abuse, homelessness and poverty. Erika weaves some of her personal opinions throughout, which humanizes her husband and echoes the pain she processes through with him in their life together in the present. However, her husband does find his strength and support through Christ, and as a result, becomes the parent he always wished he had. I also felt the frustration of the other adults around these kids (neighbors, social workers, teachers, etc) that saw what was happening, yet chose to turn a blind eye.
There are some bright notes along the way in Leaving Cloud 9, but overall it is a book that is unflinchingly honest, and if you're struggling with past trauma, this might be a trigger. If you are in a healthy place and willing to seek for hope in a place where there seems to be none, then this book is for you.
* I received a PDF advanced readers copy from the publisher.*
There is so much unpacked in this book, and although it ends on an uplifting note, it was hard for me to read. I am familiar with the ravages on a family from alcoholism and addiction.
Erika does a great job of deciphering the jagged pieces of her husband's formative years in the home of his mother, Sylvia. I imagine writing this book and learning how her husband grew up was hard, but I admire the fact that she wrote it in a way that causes the reader to feel for, and possibly identify with, Rick and his sister, Jenny, in their search for stability with a mother that was anything but. I appreciate her willingness to share Rick and Jenny's story in the first place, instead of glossing over it.
The reader also learns about the long term trauma associated with childhood abuse, homelessness and poverty. Erika weaves some of her personal opinions throughout, which humanizes her husband and echoes the pain she processes through with him in their life together in the present. However, her husband does find his strength and support through Christ, and as a result, becomes the parent he always wished he had. I also felt the frustration of the other adults around these kids (neighbors, social workers, teachers, etc) that saw what was happening, yet chose to turn a blind eye.
There are some bright notes along the way in Leaving Cloud 9, but overall it is a book that is unflinchingly honest, and if you're struggling with past trauma, this might be a trigger. If you are in a healthy place and willing to seek for hope in a place where there seems to be none, then this book is for you.
* I received a PDF advanced readers copy from the publisher.*
August 3, 2018
I've never intentionally quit reading a book (normally I just get distracted and pick up other things). The story is fine, the man it focuses on is a courageous success story, but the way it was written...I honestly couldn't bear to spend any more time with it. It didn't help engage me with the story any more either to make it worth bearing through another few hundred pages of simplistic, half-hearted prose:
- While some people enjoy the unique perspective of the main character's wife telling his story, I couldn't get past it. I thought it did nothing but make this incredible real life human and success story of a man overcoming his past appear more like a child in every anecdote told. I would have loved to hear the story about this courageous man told by himself, instead of him being absent in the storytelling.
- After about 1/3 of the book (when I returned it to the library) there was still little to no rhyme or reason for the timeline of events. It was vaguely chronological with out of the blue snippets of commentary that only went one layer deep, heavily foreshadowing things that would eventually be talked about only by the end of the book, leaving me wondering why we even bothered to bring these things up already.
-Honestly? The straw that broke the camel's back was when the author described Rick's upbringing as "crappy". If that kind of language or tone was prevalent throughout the entire book, I wouldn't mind, but being tossed in amongst other, not quite eloquent but at least respectable, language and word choices...it continued to devalue the story and make it appear much more juvenile than it really is.
- While some people enjoy the unique perspective of the main character's wife telling his story, I couldn't get past it. I thought it did nothing but make this incredible real life human and success story of a man overcoming his past appear more like a child in every anecdote told. I would have loved to hear the story about this courageous man told by himself, instead of him being absent in the storytelling.
- After about 1/3 of the book (when I returned it to the library) there was still little to no rhyme or reason for the timeline of events. It was vaguely chronological with out of the blue snippets of commentary that only went one layer deep, heavily foreshadowing things that would eventually be talked about only by the end of the book, leaving me wondering why we even bothered to bring these things up already.
-Honestly? The straw that broke the camel's back was when the author described Rick's upbringing as "crappy". If that kind of language or tone was prevalent throughout the entire book, I wouldn't mind, but being tossed in amongst other, not quite eloquent but at least respectable, language and word choices...it continued to devalue the story and make it appear much more juvenile than it really is.
June 13, 2018
I've been on a non-fiction kick lately, and "Leaving Cloud 9" is one of the latest. This book is the story of Ericka Andersen's husband, Rick. The title seemed a little odd to me at first, but the book explains the meaning: Cloud 9 was the trailer park where Rick grew up, and where he experienced much of his abuse, heartache, and devastation as a child. His story shows how drug addiction, mental health issues, and abuse can cripple families for generations, as well as how difficult it is to break this cycle.
For many children, this cycle isn't broken; they grow up to be adults haunted by these demons like the generations before them. But it was different for Rick, and "Leaving Cloud 9" is an inspirational story, showing just how it was that he was able to become a stable, functional adult with a healthy family. This book shows that no one, no matter their past or their upbringing or the obstacles they've had to overcome, is beyond hope or redemption. Rick's story shows the powerful influence love can have on someone's life -- love from family, love from mentors, love from a husband or wife, but most importantly, God's love. Andersen repeatedly stresses that without God's hand guiding Rick's life, he would not be where he is today. It's a very powerful, moving, emotional book, and I very much enjoyed reading it.
I received an Advance Reader Copy of the book from the publisher.
For many children, this cycle isn't broken; they grow up to be adults haunted by these demons like the generations before them. But it was different for Rick, and "Leaving Cloud 9" is an inspirational story, showing just how it was that he was able to become a stable, functional adult with a healthy family. This book shows that no one, no matter their past or their upbringing or the obstacles they've had to overcome, is beyond hope or redemption. Rick's story shows the powerful influence love can have on someone's life -- love from family, love from mentors, love from a husband or wife, but most importantly, God's love. Andersen repeatedly stresses that without God's hand guiding Rick's life, he would not be where he is today. It's a very powerful, moving, emotional book, and I very much enjoyed reading it.
I received an Advance Reader Copy of the book from the publisher.
June 21, 2018
Not quite a memoir, Ericka Andersen writes her husband's story, which makes this an interesting genre. While it is technically a biography, having it written by the subject's spouse definitely makes it feel much more like a memoir.
Rick Sylvester's life is one that could easily become a statistic, but this book shows how he was able to rise above the circumstances of his formative years to create a life that appears "normal". Andersen's love and respect for her husband is evident throughout the book, as is the grace she shows even the most unsavory characters. It would be easy for Andersen to paint everyone who hurt her husband in his childhood as bad or evil, and yet, she is quick to point out their humanity as well.
This book shows a side of America that we often choose to sweep under the rug. The subject matter can be difficult at times, but Andersen handles even the most horrid aspects of Sylvester's life in such a way that these facts are not sensationalized.
I was approached by the publisher to read and advanced copy, and while I initially hesitated, because it is not the type of book I normally read, I am extremely thankful for the advanced digital copy I received. This is a book that has stuck with me long after I have finished reading it.
Rick Sylvester's life is one that could easily become a statistic, but this book shows how he was able to rise above the circumstances of his formative years to create a life that appears "normal". Andersen's love and respect for her husband is evident throughout the book, as is the grace she shows even the most unsavory characters. It would be easy for Andersen to paint everyone who hurt her husband in his childhood as bad or evil, and yet, she is quick to point out their humanity as well.
This book shows a side of America that we often choose to sweep under the rug. The subject matter can be difficult at times, but Andersen handles even the most horrid aspects of Sylvester's life in such a way that these facts are not sensationalized.
I was approached by the publisher to read and advanced copy, and while I initially hesitated, because it is not the type of book I normally read, I am extremely thankful for the advanced digital copy I received. This is a book that has stuck with me long after I have finished reading it.
April 17, 2020
This is the story of a man's difficult childhood as told by his wife. An absent father, a neglectful mother's mental illness and addiction, a childhood of poverty raises the question of nature versus nurture. This guy overcame great obstacles. This is not a 'first this happened, then that happened' story. The author does a great job of researching statistics and delving into the minds of people that not only have lived with an addict and are the addict themselves. I loved that she didnt go into this with a victim atttitude and totally tried to see inside the mind of the addict and felt sympathy for her. She doesnt gloss over her husband's faults. She lays it all on the line. The author is a Christian and there is a lot of credit given to there higher power so if that bothers you then you should probably skip this.
June 21, 2018
This book takes you on a heartbreaking ride, opening your eyes to the trials that many children face in this world. Once you read, you will have a new outlook on what it means to suffer and live with an undiagnosed mental illness. You empathize with Rick, the main character, and then begin to feel proud of him as his story unfolds. It truly is a roller coaster ride and will open your eyes and heart.
The author Erika has such a beautiful way of writing and conveying a scene through carefully constructed sentences. I found myself highlighting the book in many places to remember these powerful descriptions. Please do yourself a favor and read this book! I know this is the authors first book but hopefully not her last!
The author Erika has such a beautiful way of writing and conveying a scene through carefully constructed sentences. I found myself highlighting the book in many places to remember these powerful descriptions. Please do yourself a favor and read this book! I know this is the authors first book but hopefully not her last!
June 25, 2018
A heart breaking and redemptive story about how God is at work in our lives, even when we don't realize it.
June 30, 2018
Review to follow!
July 1, 2018
Leaving Cloud 9 is a story of hope. If you're looking for a read that will inspire you in ways you didn't imagine, this is for you. Erika does a wonderful job of bringing her husband's story to life in a way where you can truly empathize and feel overjoyed with the outcome. There is something relatable for everyone in this story. At some point we've been in valley, maybe you're in one right now, if so I highly suggest this book. It will help you see the light and get back to the peak!
I'm in progress to chapter 24 and have to say - Ericka does an amazing job of painting a vivid picture of what trauma and road blocks Rick endured! The story captures you and you just can't put it down. Full review to follow.
I'm in progress to chapter 24 and have to say - Ericka does an amazing job of painting a vivid picture of what trauma and road blocks Rick endured! The story captures you and you just can't put it down. Full review to follow.
June 21, 2018
I was honored to have the privilege to read Leaving Cloud9 9 early. Love this book, it is full of inspiration and hope, especially to anyone that is dealing with an alcohol or drug addiction or knows someone that is.
June 26, 2018
I had the privilege of receiving an Advance Readers copy of this book from the publisher. Leaving Cloud 9 is a gripping story of one man’s troubled upbringing in poor white America and his journey to stability and success through God’s grace and redemption. This story is an eye-opening account into the reality of so many children in this country, as well as the toll that drugs, alcohol, and issues with mental health can have in a child and family for generations. It also highlights the immense impact even one loving adult can have on a child’s life. It’s told from the interesting perspective of Rick’s wife and the truth of God’s love and persistence, even when we don’t see it, is beautifully woven throughout. The reader is left with hope for healing and change both in Rick’s life and their own with the power of God, determination, and a the support of a loving few.
June 25, 2018
I was so impressed with Ericka Andersen's debut book, Leaving Cloud 9. I've been reading her columns for years but never knew the very personal journey of her husband from a tragic childhood to a father and Christian. Two themes that are weaved throughout this story are that no one is beyond redemption and God's mercy is infinite.
Perhaps the most fascinating part of the story is the trust that Ericka's husband, Rick, showed to her as a writer and as his wife. Some stories from the book, which chronicles Rick's upbringing, are very difficult to read. I can't imagine that it was easy for Rick to talk about them and allow the world to read about his life through this book. I think it shows a level of vulnerability that Rick achieved, with the help of God's grace, to let Ericka tell his story.
The other interesting aspect of the story is how Ericka consistently uses statistics to demonstrate that kids in Rick's position are often forgotten, that children who experience what he did have an exponentially high risk of becoming criminals, leading distraught lives, and never breaking the cycle of poverty. It made all those numbers real to the reader.
So do I recommend you read this book? Absolutely. It is one of those stories that you'll think about often, that will cross your mind long after you close the pages, and that will leave you hoping for another book from this author.
I received an Advance Reader Copy of the book from the publisher.
Perhaps the most fascinating part of the story is the trust that Ericka's husband, Rick, showed to her as a writer and as his wife. Some stories from the book, which chronicles Rick's upbringing, are very difficult to read. I can't imagine that it was easy for Rick to talk about them and allow the world to read about his life through this book. I think it shows a level of vulnerability that Rick achieved, with the help of God's grace, to let Ericka tell his story.
The other interesting aspect of the story is how Ericka consistently uses statistics to demonstrate that kids in Rick's position are often forgotten, that children who experience what he did have an exponentially high risk of becoming criminals, leading distraught lives, and never breaking the cycle of poverty. It made all those numbers real to the reader.
So do I recommend you read this book? Absolutely. It is one of those stories that you'll think about often, that will cross your mind long after you close the pages, and that will leave you hoping for another book from this author.
I received an Advance Reader Copy of the book from the publisher.
July 3, 2018
LEAVING CLOUD 9 BY ERICKA ANDERSEN
BY KEVIN HOLTSBERRY
I’ve known Ericka Andersen for over a decade going back to my days as a conservative blogger/online activist type. Over the years I have been impressed with her career as she became an expert in social media marketing, digital influence and communications. She works hard, has a lot of energy and works for some great organizations.
I was equally impressed when she moved back to Indiana to be closer to her family and to start a family herself. And although I followed many of these changes via Facebook, we weren’t particularly close friends and my busy life and own family meant I only saw bits and pieces when I happened to catch them in my feed.
So when I heard that she was publishing a book, Leaving Cloud 9, about her husband and his remarkable life story I was intrigued. I try to make a point of reading books by people I know (even if only online). The dramatic nature of the story she would tell grabbed my attention even more. I was lucky enough to be able to get a review copy from NetGalley and dove in.
As I have mentioned on social media a few times, Leaving Cloud 9 is not an easy book to read. It tells the story of abuse, neglect, and abandonment; of PTSD, bipolar, social anxiety, divorce and depression. But it is also a story about love and redemption; about beating the odds and rising above the most challenging environment to find faith, hope and love.
The book reads like a memoir in the sense that it recounts the life of Rick Sylvester but it does so through the voice and eyes of his now wife Ericka. Along the way she folds in social sciences research and public policy issues related to the problems and issues Rick faced.
As I read through the traumas Rick and his sister suffered through and their continued attempts to simply survive when everything in life seems stacked against them, I couldn’t help but thinking 1) what a harsh reminder of how some people live and how blessed I am, even with challenges of my own family and 2) how did the @#$% did Rick survive?
And that is what the book drives at; that question looms throughout. Andersen’s answer is a combination of Rick’s own refusal to give up, a few people and circumstances at key points, and God’s saving grace.
Rick showed an amazing determination to just keep trying; to keep pushing forward. He joined the military after high school which gave him discipline, solidarity and friendships. It was not a smooth experience and he didn’t find the military his ultimate vocation but there were important elements of adulthood that were gained.
There were a few key people who helped Rick survive. First and foremost was his sister. They clearly relied on each other their whole lives and just having some else there with you as you went through hell meant something important. And later his sister would play a key role in helping Rick keep trying and moving forward. One of his mom’s boyfriends also helped Rick see that there were adults who cared about him and who could serve as role models, no matter how flawed. Just a glimpse of love and support meant a lot. And of course, Ericka is in many ways the final necessary piece to his healing process.
God is the other thread that is weaved into the whole story. Ericka and Rick are not shy about their belief that God is the ultimate reason that Rick has come through the incredible traumas he faced and found a life of stability, love and support. This foundational belief that God was moving in Rick’s life and in Ericka’s and that the only path to salvation was faith in Jesus Christ; both in the abstract theological sense and in the very real life sense.
You may or may not agree with this theological perspective. You may have nagging questions about the existence of evil and the role of faith; may wonder how Rick is different from the many other children who didn’t find a happy ending. But you can’t question the role it played in their respective lives and, as Ericka relates, how Rick truly found healing in the church and through his faith.
And as these threads begin to connect in the book’s closing chapters what struck me was the amazing love Ericka obviously has for Rick and the deep faith required to believe that 1) the real Rick was not reflected in his problems, his anger and social anxiety 2) that God was calling her to something important in this relationship. I don’t mean to imply that Ericka took on Rick as some sort of mission project but rather she understood that their relationship could be a true reflection of the redemptive love of Jesus and that would be a beautiful thing. To see through all the challenges and truly believe that God could make something beautiful out of all of the suffering, and of Ericka’s life, struggles and experiences, etc..
It is truly an incredible story. Not just that Rick could overcome incredible odds and graduate college, find stable employment, find a lasting love, and begin to create a loving family of his own, but that he and Ericka could meet in Washington, DC and create a bond that would lead to love, marriage and parenthood. Even having children was an act of faith and another example of how they persevered through love and faith.
So the question that lingers in many people’s minds has to be why write a book like this and why read it? Ericka and Rick took the risk to tell their story because they believed it would give hope and faith to those who might be struggling with the same or similar issues. They want to spread the message that you can survive and even thrive.
And in the same way reading it is a stark reminder of the incredible hardships many American’s face every day and that faith, hope and love are needed more than ever. Ericka and Rick’s story is inspiring and humbling. For many who read it, like me, it will be a reminder to count your blessings and an opportunity to reflect on the importance of faith and family.
And that is a message we all need to hear.
BY KEVIN HOLTSBERRY
I’ve known Ericka Andersen for over a decade going back to my days as a conservative blogger/online activist type. Over the years I have been impressed with her career as she became an expert in social media marketing, digital influence and communications. She works hard, has a lot of energy and works for some great organizations.
I was equally impressed when she moved back to Indiana to be closer to her family and to start a family herself. And although I followed many of these changes via Facebook, we weren’t particularly close friends and my busy life and own family meant I only saw bits and pieces when I happened to catch them in my feed.
So when I heard that she was publishing a book, Leaving Cloud 9, about her husband and his remarkable life story I was intrigued. I try to make a point of reading books by people I know (even if only online). The dramatic nature of the story she would tell grabbed my attention even more. I was lucky enough to be able to get a review copy from NetGalley and dove in.
As I have mentioned on social media a few times, Leaving Cloud 9 is not an easy book to read. It tells the story of abuse, neglect, and abandonment; of PTSD, bipolar, social anxiety, divorce and depression. But it is also a story about love and redemption; about beating the odds and rising above the most challenging environment to find faith, hope and love.
The book reads like a memoir in the sense that it recounts the life of Rick Sylvester but it does so through the voice and eyes of his now wife Ericka. Along the way she folds in social sciences research and public policy issues related to the problems and issues Rick faced.
As I read through the traumas Rick and his sister suffered through and their continued attempts to simply survive when everything in life seems stacked against them, I couldn’t help but thinking 1) what a harsh reminder of how some people live and how blessed I am, even with challenges of my own family and 2) how did the @#$% did Rick survive?
And that is what the book drives at; that question looms throughout. Andersen’s answer is a combination of Rick’s own refusal to give up, a few people and circumstances at key points, and God’s saving grace.
Rick showed an amazing determination to just keep trying; to keep pushing forward. He joined the military after high school which gave him discipline, solidarity and friendships. It was not a smooth experience and he didn’t find the military his ultimate vocation but there were important elements of adulthood that were gained.
There were a few key people who helped Rick survive. First and foremost was his sister. They clearly relied on each other their whole lives and just having some else there with you as you went through hell meant something important. And later his sister would play a key role in helping Rick keep trying and moving forward. One of his mom’s boyfriends also helped Rick see that there were adults who cared about him and who could serve as role models, no matter how flawed. Just a glimpse of love and support meant a lot. And of course, Ericka is in many ways the final necessary piece to his healing process.
God is the other thread that is weaved into the whole story. Ericka and Rick are not shy about their belief that God is the ultimate reason that Rick has come through the incredible traumas he faced and found a life of stability, love and support. This foundational belief that God was moving in Rick’s life and in Ericka’s and that the only path to salvation was faith in Jesus Christ; both in the abstract theological sense and in the very real life sense.
You may or may not agree with this theological perspective. You may have nagging questions about the existence of evil and the role of faith; may wonder how Rick is different from the many other children who didn’t find a happy ending. But you can’t question the role it played in their respective lives and, as Ericka relates, how Rick truly found healing in the church and through his faith.
And as these threads begin to connect in the book’s closing chapters what struck me was the amazing love Ericka obviously has for Rick and the deep faith required to believe that 1) the real Rick was not reflected in his problems, his anger and social anxiety 2) that God was calling her to something important in this relationship. I don’t mean to imply that Ericka took on Rick as some sort of mission project but rather she understood that their relationship could be a true reflection of the redemptive love of Jesus and that would be a beautiful thing. To see through all the challenges and truly believe that God could make something beautiful out of all of the suffering, and of Ericka’s life, struggles and experiences, etc..
It is truly an incredible story. Not just that Rick could overcome incredible odds and graduate college, find stable employment, find a lasting love, and begin to create a loving family of his own, but that he and Ericka could meet in Washington, DC and create a bond that would lead to love, marriage and parenthood. Even having children was an act of faith and another example of how they persevered through love and faith.
So the question that lingers in many people’s minds has to be why write a book like this and why read it? Ericka and Rick took the risk to tell their story because they believed it would give hope and faith to those who might be struggling with the same or similar issues. They want to spread the message that you can survive and even thrive.
And in the same way reading it is a stark reminder of the incredible hardships many American’s face every day and that faith, hope and love are needed more than ever. Ericka and Rick’s story is inspiring and humbling. For many who read it, like me, it will be a reminder to count your blessings and an opportunity to reflect on the importance of faith and family.
And that is a message we all need to hear.
January 10, 2019
DNF - This author is a little too judgmental for my taste.
January 10, 2019
DNF - this author is a little too judgmental for my taste. And a little racist. And a little politically biased. And so on.
September 16, 2019
This book was not what I expected. I thought there would be more about his life. This was just a book of statistical data and gospel.
September 7, 2020
I started listening to this book. I touched it out for about an hour but found the story too formulaic and rather sappy. Could not finish it.
August 18, 2022
Leaving Cloud 9: The True Story of a Life Resurrected from the Ashes of Poverty, Trauma, and Mental Illness truly is what the book is titled. Rick and his sister, Jenny, had to endure living with a mother who is an alcoholic and has a drug addiction. From mental abuse, watching his mother attempt suicide on multiple occasions, to bringing home men that would beat his mother past recognition his just the surface of what Rick and his sister Jenny had to endure.
Ericka goes into great detail about Ricks' life growing up with a mother who abused him and his sister their entire lives before finally leaving his mother to try and better his life. Ericka starts off by telling the reader about Rick's mother Sylvia and how the way her parents raised her made her "rotten" and was the reason why she wasn't the best mother. "All the while, Hank and Annika were drinking regularly themselves, contributing to that unhealthy generational reliance on alcohol that seeped into everything they did"(10). Ericka then goes on to mention that it seems a bit childish to blame your own parents for why you treated your kids so poorly, but mental illness is hard to deal with especially when you have no one there for you and that is more than likely what happened with Sylvia. She had no support line therefore, she felt as if she was on her own. Nothing in life could make her happy except the men that constantly walked in and out of her life, alcohol, drugs, and knowing that her kids were still there with her and not in foster care. She did the bare minimum to keep them out of "the system."
Rick remembers all the holidays growing up. Christmas was especially one that stood out on two occasions. The first was waking up Christmas morning with his sister and remembering they were always better than the night due to Sylvia's drinking. Eventually that happy Christmas morning turned into a party full of Sylvia's "friends" from the bar. "Bottles were emptied. Random people showed up. Things got loud. The innocence of Christmas morning would be all but demolished as Sylvia once again corrupted happy memories"(26). The second Christmas was a bit of the same. Sylvia later on in the story meets a guy named Tony who already has a criminal track record. On this Christmas, he thought he would try making it up to Rick (after already beating his mother right in front of him a couple chapters back) by getting him a bike he really wanted. "'Tony stole that just for you,' Sylvia said, her words strung out in drunken singsong. 'He risked going to jail for you, Rick. Tell him thank you.'"(87). His own mother was even too mentally unstable to realize the amount of despair and hurt she caused to both him and his sister their entire childhood.
Rick eventually gets away from his mothers restraints and starts the hunt to find himself again. With the power of God on his side and leading him through life, Rick eventually finds himself understanding what happened in his past that caused him to be the way he is now. He now understands how his mental illnesses play a part in his everyday life now because of the amount of trauma he's been through. Rick was in the end able to forgive his mother for the amount of abuse she caused (although finding an essay he wrote while younger about the abuse and completely blowing up on him) and even find lost family from his dad's side he never thought he had. In the end, Rick finds his God and uses him to get through his everyday life. Rick goes back to floating on Cloud 9 except not in a trailer park this time.
Such a beautiful memoir and one that really grabs at the heart because you wouldn't image and couldn't image that happening to you or a family member or friend. But it does. It happens more often than people like to admit it does and that why these people need such a huge support group. They need something else to believe in because everyone/everything else that they have has let them down. Thank you Ericka for sharing Rick's story with us and a thank you to Rick for allowing you to write this memoir to share with millions of people. Truly a book I would recommend to anyone who is struggling with addiction and to remember that there is hope. You can change your life around at any age. There is a way to get better and do better. You just have to be willing to take that first step in learning how to not only love yourself again, but to love and trust others who are going to be by your side through every step of the way no matter how many bumps or hills you have to go over. Emotionally healing is a long, constantly moving process that seems like it never has an end. But once you start to close of the bigger wounds that plagued your life, it will start to get better and that's what happened to our friend Rick. 10/10 would read this over and over again.
Ericka goes into great detail about Ricks' life growing up with a mother who abused him and his sister their entire lives before finally leaving his mother to try and better his life. Ericka starts off by telling the reader about Rick's mother Sylvia and how the way her parents raised her made her "rotten" and was the reason why she wasn't the best mother. "All the while, Hank and Annika were drinking regularly themselves, contributing to that unhealthy generational reliance on alcohol that seeped into everything they did"(10). Ericka then goes on to mention that it seems a bit childish to blame your own parents for why you treated your kids so poorly, but mental illness is hard to deal with especially when you have no one there for you and that is more than likely what happened with Sylvia. She had no support line therefore, she felt as if she was on her own. Nothing in life could make her happy except the men that constantly walked in and out of her life, alcohol, drugs, and knowing that her kids were still there with her and not in foster care. She did the bare minimum to keep them out of "the system."
Rick remembers all the holidays growing up. Christmas was especially one that stood out on two occasions. The first was waking up Christmas morning with his sister and remembering they were always better than the night due to Sylvia's drinking. Eventually that happy Christmas morning turned into a party full of Sylvia's "friends" from the bar. "Bottles were emptied. Random people showed up. Things got loud. The innocence of Christmas morning would be all but demolished as Sylvia once again corrupted happy memories"(26). The second Christmas was a bit of the same. Sylvia later on in the story meets a guy named Tony who already has a criminal track record. On this Christmas, he thought he would try making it up to Rick (after already beating his mother right in front of him a couple chapters back) by getting him a bike he really wanted. "'Tony stole that just for you,' Sylvia said, her words strung out in drunken singsong. 'He risked going to jail for you, Rick. Tell him thank you.'"(87). His own mother was even too mentally unstable to realize the amount of despair and hurt she caused to both him and his sister their entire childhood.
Rick eventually gets away from his mothers restraints and starts the hunt to find himself again. With the power of God on his side and leading him through life, Rick eventually finds himself understanding what happened in his past that caused him to be the way he is now. He now understands how his mental illnesses play a part in his everyday life now because of the amount of trauma he's been through. Rick was in the end able to forgive his mother for the amount of abuse she caused (although finding an essay he wrote while younger about the abuse and completely blowing up on him) and even find lost family from his dad's side he never thought he had. In the end, Rick finds his God and uses him to get through his everyday life. Rick goes back to floating on Cloud 9 except not in a trailer park this time.
Such a beautiful memoir and one that really grabs at the heart because you wouldn't image and couldn't image that happening to you or a family member or friend. But it does. It happens more often than people like to admit it does and that why these people need such a huge support group. They need something else to believe in because everyone/everything else that they have has let them down. Thank you Ericka for sharing Rick's story with us and a thank you to Rick for allowing you to write this memoir to share with millions of people. Truly a book I would recommend to anyone who is struggling with addiction and to remember that there is hope. You can change your life around at any age. There is a way to get better and do better. You just have to be willing to take that first step in learning how to not only love yourself again, but to love and trust others who are going to be by your side through every step of the way no matter how many bumps or hills you have to go over. Emotionally healing is a long, constantly moving process that seems like it never has an end. But once you start to close of the bigger wounds that plagued your life, it will start to get better and that's what happened to our friend Rick. 10/10 would read this over and over again.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
June 21, 2018
This book is an easy read, her wording was sort of juvenile and sometimes cliche. There are some great quotes & statistics.
Some quotes from this book that I enjoyed and could identify with:
“When you’re attempting to fill up the place in your life where God belongs, you’ll try anything. We have that longing because it’s how God created us. We’re not meant to be fulfilled without Him.”
“It may take years for him to come to terms with the fact that he is exactly who God made him to be.”
“You don’t just become a man because you were born a boy. It requires modeling, teaching, advice giving, action...”
“We are not each other’s all in all- and that is incredibly important in building a marriage that will last through the really, really hard moments- or months or years.”
There was a discussion of “white privilege”, which seemed out of place & largely unnecessary because it was briefly touched on (and in a more appropriate context) elsewhere in the book.
My eyes welled up reading about Rick & Jenny picking off roaches from their mom. & that she never knew.
I won't ruin it, but loved the last sentence. Great ending line.
Some quotes from this book that I enjoyed and could identify with:
“When you’re attempting to fill up the place in your life where God belongs, you’ll try anything. We have that longing because it’s how God created us. We’re not meant to be fulfilled without Him.”
“It may take years for him to come to terms with the fact that he is exactly who God made him to be.”
“You don’t just become a man because you were born a boy. It requires modeling, teaching, advice giving, action...”
“We are not each other’s all in all- and that is incredibly important in building a marriage that will last through the really, really hard moments- or months or years.”
There was a discussion of “white privilege”, which seemed out of place & largely unnecessary because it was briefly touched on (and in a more appropriate context) elsewhere in the book.
My eyes welled up reading about Rick & Jenny picking off roaches from their mom. & that she never knew.
I won't ruin it, but loved the last sentence. Great ending line.
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