★★★★☆ | "You can tell me anything. But I'm not gonna ask"
I liked this one more than the last.
It explores the complexity of good intentions not always being enough and the importance of not speaking over the marginalised people. About some 'allies' just wanting to claim higher moral ground and not actually trying to understand us.
But it's also about standing up for yourself and your community. About saying 'that's enough.' About being there for each other.
There's some internalised homophobia as well (at least, I think?) and other nuance.
this volume showcased two kinds of homophobia: the intensely painful kind that results in an outburst of hatred and the kind that hides itself behind a well-meaning smile and good intentions. pretty hard to read but watching these characters confront the pain and stand up for themselves was quite affirming too.
My current favorite manga continues to slam me with heavy drama. This time a trans man has to deal with an old friend who shows up dragging her cheerfully oblivious transphobia with her. And another character who previously seemed nice suddenly becomes a homophobic asshole.
I put this volume on hold in two different library systems, then got impatient and drove to the bookstore to buy myself a copy instead. I was worried, because I'm trying to cut back on my book-buying, and I had no way of knowing whether this volume would let me down...
...and it certainly did hurt quite a lot. But not, I think, in a bad way.
The art is, as with the other two volumes, simply beautiful. I love graphic novels/manga as a genre, because you can learn so much through silent facial expressions, or a text-less panel, or the visual metaphors carrying through background imagery. That's all handled masterfully here; I wanted to buy these because they're something worth spending time with and returning to.
There are two main threads in this volume. One focuses on Utsumi, who is essentially outed as trans when his former volleyball teammate, Oyama, shows up to the drop-in center with her daughter and cheerfully inserts herself into their renovation projects. What's unique about this story is that Oyama is relentlessly positive. As one character says: it's hard to get mad at someone when they're being nice to you.
And that's the thing about Oyama: she does mean well. The problem is, she's also the kind of person who tramples over everything in her path, not realizing that different people want different things and that what she sees as best for someone (Utsumi being reconnected with all his former teammates and making speeches about acceptance to young children in school, her daughter decorating with pretty flowers instead of boats) doesn't necessarily match what they want or feel comfortable with.
The second thread follows Tasuku slowly getting to know his crush, Tsubaki, who gets involved with the same renovation project because he's helping his dad - a city planner overseeing the center's work - deliver some heavy bags of cement. It's easy to see why Tasuku likes Tsubaki; it's more than his physical appearance. He's friendly and kind and perceptive; he immediately notices Oyama's overbearing relationship with her daughter and makes a point of gently encouraging her to design whatever she likes - whether it's flowers or boats, it doesn't matter.
It's so promising. Tsubaki is such a good person!
Except...he's not, in some really awful scenes where he says really terrible things.
That's one of the things these books do so incredibly well. People aren't wholly good or bad. Sometimes someone says things with the full intention of being open and welcoming and generous but ends up hurting their target instead. (There's such a thing as being kind to someone because you feel superior to them, the characters point out; it's not the same as genuine friendship or support.) And sometimes someone uses slurs or lashes out because they're terrified of what they haven't come to terms with yet inside of themselves.
There are a couple rough scenes with Tsubaki. The first time, Tasuku doesn't say anything; he's not sure if he would've had the courage, but fortunately he didn't need to, because a classmate whose name he couldn't even remember spoke up instead. Tsubaki backed down, seeming genuinely apologetic, and never treated Tasuku differently, despite seeming to have figured out that he, like everyone else at the drop-in center, is some form of not-straight.
But then he does it again, after being quietly confronted by Someone-san into thinking too deeply about parts of himself he doesn't understand yet. And this time, when he lashes out against Tasuku, Tasuku pushes back. It's raw. It's wonderfully done. Tasuku says a lot of important things: about his growing confidence in himself, and how crucial it is to find a support system with people who understand you.
The scene ends with Tsubaki in tears. He doesn't apologize, exactly, but he does thank Tasuku for saying his piece. It's not an amazing note to end on, but as Tasuku says, it's clear that Tsubaki is carrying his own burdens. And as each of these volumes has expressed, every person operates at a different pace and has to figure out their own journey. You can help some people along the way, but you can't force anyone, and you shouldn't. And it looks like Tsubaki is just beginning his.
I hereby return to a series I started reading and liked a couple years ago. Non-binary writer/artist Yuhki Kamatani’s glbtq coming-out-and-growing-up manga series, volume three, focused on Tasuku, who gets support from a neighborhood drop-in center, and when working with a house rehab group called Cat Clutter, meets his secret crush, who clearly likes him though says sometimes homophobic things, which of course complicates his feelings for said crush.
Well, we can pretty much guess how Mr. Crush may change his views over time, but what I really like about this series is the q-ness that (non-binary) Kamatani emphasizes, especially for young folks who just may not be sure who they are or what they feel or what the heck desire itself may itself be for them. Folks that drop into this center sometimes are pretty sure that they are gay and want to figure how to come out in, under uncertain family and social circumstances, but some folks are all over the place across a changing continuum.
This is the gift for some youth that is maybe less true of older (or younger) ages: the joy and anguish of gender/sexual identity. This series captures this flux so well. There's a favorite image that permeates the series, the idea of flying, leaving the deck of the neighborhood center and diving off the cliff and either soaring into joy or.... despair. Great series I'll try to catch up with.
I've waited for this volume for almost a year, and it did not dissapoint! Kamatani continues to tackle heavy issues within the LGBT+ community in this book, and they're handled very well. The amount of relief and pride you feel towards the main characters when they stand up for themselves and the people around them is astounding. The best thing about this series is the visual metaphors, though. Coupled with a beautiful artstyle, the effect is so powerful. They're also so relatable, and everything just makes for a breathtaking experience.
TWs: Portrayals of bullying and homophobia, use of homophobic slurs
Once again, Our Dreams at Dusk leaves me feeling astonished in its wake.
This particular volume explores the relationship between Tasuku and Utsumi, a trans man. Both Utsumi and Tasuku are dealing with friends who make casual and flippant homophobic remarks and the constant challenging of their identities, which are deeply personal and held close. Through watching Utsumi stand up for himself, Tasuku is also learning that he doesn't have to keep his pain secret for anyone's sake.
This volume deftly explores how societal norms force queer folks into silence and shame, but also how that same silence comes at the cost of future queer generations. Tasuku is learning how to navigate that tightrope of a conflict, which is an important part of his journey. And I appreciate it so much for being shown.
Even though parts of this volume (and this series in general) are difficult to read and face at times, it's a necessary kind of hurt that many queer folks have faced in their lifetimes, and seeing characters confronting that pain is extremely validating. Very much looking forward to the conclusion of this incredible, poignant series.
This particular volume dealt with the relationship between Tasuku and Utsumi, who is a trans man. Both of them are trying to figure out the best way to deal with friends who make casual and flippant homophobic remarks. As Tasuku watches Utsumi stand up for himself, Tasuku learns that he doesn't have to keep his pain to himself and a secret for the sake of others.
Parts of this volume - and this whole series - are difficult to read and face at times, but it is necessary. This is the pain that many queer individuals face all their lives and it is so important and validating to see these characters confront their pain. I don't know if I'm reading for the fourth and final volume.
Wunderbar gezeichnet, wahnsinnige Atmosphäre, sehr authentisch und dabei doch irgendwie transzendent. Tolle Mischung. Ich wünschte nur, man wäre etwas näher an den Charakteren.
Is silence really golden? And the importance of role models and not being blind for the character failings of hot people I don’t get you at all.
Utsumi-chan or Utsumi-kun gets closer to his crush, who might be less cool and aloof than anticipated. Emotions are high in the centre on the mountain: I’m not so desperate for people to understand me that I’m okay with being hurt like this. Tsubaki is going through a lot himself. Fortunately someone does learns to stand up for themselves. A solid instalment on the road to the big finale of the series.
Parfois je peine à comprendre ce manga. En effet, comment le protagoniste peut-il aimer quelqu’un qui ne connaît que de visu? Comment peut-il continuer à l’aimer après toutes ses remarques homophobes? Et au final, je me dis que moi aussi je ne le comprends pas, que je suis comme « les autres ». Ce manga me pousse à être plus tolérante, pas forcément envers une communautés mais tout simplement envers les gens. Ce n’est pas parce qu’ils ne pensent pas comme moi qu’ils ne sont pas dignes d’intérêt.
this is kind of a rough read in comparison to the first two volumes because the homophobia and transphobia REALLY jump out. i was ready to throw hands with tsubaki for most of the volume. luckily tasuku was confronted him in a scene of incredible bravery and my irritation subsided in favour of feeling intensely proud of my son
**Read for #buzzwordathon. January prompt: "Dream"**
TW/CW: Use of the "f" slur; use of a character's deadname; grating overuse of the word "homo" like homosexual or gay are that hard; internalized homophobia and just internalized LGBTQ+ prejudice in general
Diverse YA coming-of-age. LGBTQ+ characters of all ages
The theme on non consensual help continues and how good intentions can still be hurtful. Sometimes, when you help marginalised individuals you may do it in a way that just accentuates their "difference", despite the fact they're normal people just trying to live in peace, being themselves.
In this installment we discover that one of the found family is a trans man, and when an old classmate shows up, things get tricky. Throughout this manga there is a wonderful exploration of identity and sexuality. How do you deal with family and "well-meaning" people, who nevertheless say hateful and harmful things? Navigating life is tricky, and that these characters allow each other to be who they are, in whatever way works for them make me so happy. I cannot wait to read the final installment.
There is more lgbtq+ representation in each volume and seriously, I really REALLY love that💙.
A lot of things happened in this volume that hurt me, but there were also things that made me proud of Tasuku (that's my boy!). AND PLEASE, CAN I LOVE UTSUMI MORE? HE'S THE MOST PRECIOUS BOY EVER, I LOVE HIM🥺💚.
This manga conveys so many messages. It has happy, sad, truthful, hurtful and hopeful moments. I'd recommend it to everyone. I'm a bit sad the next volume is the last one already. I want to know so much more about all the characters and want to get to know new ones in this universe, too.
Our Dreams at Dusk: Shimanami Tasogare, Vol. 3 continues where the previous tankōbon left off and contains the next five chapters (11–15) of the on-going manga series.
This tankōbon focuses on fellow drop-in center Natsuyoshi Utsumi and his relationship with the other members and serves as a role model of sorts to Tasuku Kaname. It is revealed to readers that Natsuyoshi Utsumi is a transgendered man. While doing a workshop for Cat Clowder, Natsuyoshi Utsumi meets an old school friend, Shouko Koyama, who was his friend and fellow volleyball team member.
Shouko Koyama is a well-intentioned LGBTQ+ ally, albeit thoughtless – as she thinks she know what is best for Natsuyoshi Utsumi in advocating his rights as a transgendered man. Well, ally may be too strong a word as all she cares about is that her childhood friend wouldn't be misunderstood as being gay, which she thinks is more abnormal. It is here that Tasuku Kaname witnesses Natsuyoshi Utsumi standing up for his friends and tells his old friend not to demean himself and his friends – a lesson that Tasuku Kaname took to heart.
Meanwhile, Tasuku Kaname and Touma Tsubaki are spending more time together – through their time on the Health Committee, homework assignments, and volunteer work Cat Clowder, which Touma Tsubaki has been attending more often. Through one of these outings, Tasuku Kaname realized that Touma Tsubaki – his infatuation is a homophobe or at least LGBTQ+ ignorant.
It is revealed later with his meeting with Someone that he has a hatred for anyone that are sexually different from the norm. Furthermore, he is offended to be thought of such – perhaps a hatred of himself for questioning his sexuality. This anger is carried on towards Tasuku Kaname, who stood up to him not to belittle him or his friends and confesses his feelings for him.
This tankōbon is written and illustrated by Yuhki Kamatani. For the most part, it is written and illustrated rather well. It tells the story of Natsuyoshi Utsumi and it is revealed that he is a transsexual man. It tells the backstory of his coming-out to his present life with Cat Clowder. His interactions with an old and well-intentioned friend in Shouko Koyama serve as a wonderful parallel to what is going with Tasuku Kaname's life.
All in all, Our Dreams at Dusk: Shimanami Tasogare, Vol. 3 is a wonderful continuation to a series that seems really intriguing and I can't wait to read more.