“I need some distraction
Oh, beautiful release
Memories seep from my veins
“And maybe empty
Oh, and weightless, and maybe
I'll find some peace tonight
”In the arms of the angel
Fly away from here
From this dark cold hotel room
And the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage
Of your silent reverie
You're in the arms of the angel
May you find some comfort here”
-- Angel, lyrics by Sarah McLachlan
”Rules for Happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for.” - Immanuel Kant
As this memoir of loss and love begins, Joe Biden and his family were planning their family Thanksgiving gathering, with children and grandchildren, five and a half years since he had become vice president. The family looking forward to together time, and for him, “the natural ease and rhythms of our previous life, and of the calm to come when my time in office was done.”
And that, an easy, steady, calm rhythm, is the overall feeling of this book.
This is, in part, a journey alongside him through political events that he was involved with during that year, overseeing much of the international issues in the Ukraine and Iraq, plus the “Northern Triangle” of Central America. Another aspect of this is his internal struggle with the idea of potentially running for president. And then there’s Beau, his son, whose health is questionable at first, and deteriorates as his treatments for glioblastoma, go on. It saps the strength out of you to read this, every parent’s worst nightmare to watch their child, no matter their child’s age. There are also numerous heartwarming family moments, and I could feel the importance of family, his faith, and even his belief in this political system that we have was strongly felt.
This was heartbreaking to read at times, but I also loved how committed this man was and is to doing the right thing, not only for himself and his family, but for the country, and for the world.
And then yesterday, when I sat down, taking a momentary break from reading to check the television, I saw the unfolding news on the shooting at the high school in Parkland, Florida. And today, when I sat down to do the same, it was the current President speaking on the shooting, and I have to wonder at the way things are today.
”’Remember, Mr. President,’ I would say when it was just the two of us, ‘The country can never be more hopeful than its president. Don’t make me ‘Hope.’ You gotta go out there and be ‘Hope.’”
There is so much love in this family, in this book. This is such an incredibly poignant read. Not only because of his losses, but also because of the kindness and solace he offers to others.
”There will come a time when you’ll go riding by a field that you both loved, or see a flower, or smell the fragrance of his suit when he took it off and hung it in the closet, or you’ll hear a song, or you’ll look at the way someone walks, and it will all come back. But someday down the line, God knows when, you’ll realize it doesn’t make you want to cry. It makes you smile. ‘The time will come when the memory will bring a smile to your lips,’ I would tell everyone in that situation, ‘before it brings a tear to your eyes.’ That will happen, I assured her. And that is when you know that you’ve turned a corner.”
I really loved this, I loved how devoted he is to his family, to the country, and to finding resolutions to world problems. I loved the relationship he had and has with the Obamas, who consider themselves part of the Biden clan. I loved how he never really seemed to lose sight of the growth he gained because of his past tragedies, and that he was able to see those blessings that came out of those events.
Politically, this is worth reading, although it is not particularly heavy on the politics. At its heart, this is really a memoir of a parent who has lost a child, and the wisdom he has gained through his life that helped him deal with this crushing episode. I would hope that this would be somewhat healing for him to write, and comforting for others to read, knowing that someone else has survived this awful fate.
Many thanks, once again, to the Public Library system, and the many Librarians that manage, organize and keep it running, for the loan of this book!