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Trans Homo...GASP!: Gay FTM and Cis Men on Sex and Love
Trans Homo…Gasp! offers an honest, tender, sexy and rare look into the hearts and minds of gay and queer trans men and their trans/cis male lovers. Authors share hot, vulnerable and intimate moments from steamy explorations on gay male hook up apps to profound and transformative insights about identity, partnership and belongingness in gay male communities. This collection, much like its authors, is deliciously diverse, with a resoundingly inspiring Love transcends labels and happiness comes when we overcome our fears of the unknown and embrace diversity.
270 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 1, 2017
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November 24, 2017
I was initially turned off by the cover and title (felt a bit silly), but was itching for the subject matter and took the plunge. So glad I did, many topics were covered from various perspectives including both trans and cis gay and bisexual men. Also, what really surprised me was the quality of the writing. I’m used to reading highly academic essays that usually feel a bit too esoteric and ephemeral, or aggressive SJW rants. This book was different, it was more laid back, honest, and real. The experiences were written with specific details and the thoughts accompanying them were also very clear and specific. Many thanks to the editor and authors for putting this high quality book together.
February 11, 2023
5/5 stars for the cover and title alone - more serious books should have ridiculous campy titles and covers.
Overall I found this book really interesting - it’s a series of essays by and about gay & bi trans men and their experiences with the gay scene. It’s only the third ever non-fiction book that I know devoted to the gay trans experience so it’s great that it’s out there.
I was initially a bit sceptical about the fact that a big section of the book centers cis lovers of trans men, but in the end those experiences also turned out to be interesting to read (though one dude gave me slight chaser vibes).
Overall I found this book really interesting - it’s a series of essays by and about gay & bi trans men and their experiences with the gay scene. It’s only the third ever non-fiction book that I know devoted to the gay trans experience so it’s great that it’s out there.
I was initially a bit sceptical about the fact that a big section of the book centers cis lovers of trans men, but in the end those experiences also turned out to be interesting to read (though one dude gave me slight chaser vibes).
November 1, 2025
Trigger warning: rape (happens on page), dysphoria (discussed explicitly), homophobia and transphobia (discussed explicitly in personal narratives)
I was really excited for this book and there are a lot of good portions of it. However, my biggest complaint is that all of the stories seem to focus on one kind of trans guy. Almost every story from a trans guy starts with the guy saying he's not completely masculine and instead he identifies as more androgynous.
And then every trans man or almost every trans man has PIV sex. There is a single brief paragraph about a trans man who doesn't have PIV sex, told from the perspective of a cis man, and it's framed as "oh he just doesn't have experience with fucking cis men."
I read this book because as a queer trans man, I want to see more stories about myself on the page. But of the 13 stories written by trans men, none of them talked about feeling dysphoric before or after sex. None of them talked about not wanting someone to interact with their genitals and responses they got from partners. Any trans guy who hesitated to let their partner interact with their genitals was just afraid how their partner would respond, not that he had feelings about his genitals or genital dysphoria. No one had had bottom surgery.
I wish this collection had intentionally sought out a diversity of perspectives and experiences. Because I wanted this book to make me feel seen and like there were other people like me but instead I just feel more alone.
I was really excited for this book and there are a lot of good portions of it. However, my biggest complaint is that all of the stories seem to focus on one kind of trans guy. Almost every story from a trans guy starts with the guy saying he's not completely masculine and instead he identifies as more androgynous.
And then every trans man or almost every trans man has PIV sex. There is a single brief paragraph about a trans man who doesn't have PIV sex, told from the perspective of a cis man, and it's framed as "oh he just doesn't have experience with fucking cis men."
I read this book because as a queer trans man, I want to see more stories about myself on the page. But of the 13 stories written by trans men, none of them talked about feeling dysphoric before or after sex. None of them talked about not wanting someone to interact with their genitals and responses they got from partners. Any trans guy who hesitated to let their partner interact with their genitals was just afraid how their partner would respond, not that he had feelings about his genitals or genital dysphoria. No one had had bottom surgery.
I wish this collection had intentionally sought out a diversity of perspectives and experiences. Because I wanted this book to make me feel seen and like there were other people like me but instead I just feel more alone.
September 9, 2023
A collection of personal narratives from gay trans and cis men—largely those living in California—presenting a kaleidoscope of relationship types, coming out journeys, and desires. Showcasing stories that were often sexy and relatable, occasionally cringe-worthy, and even a few that were genuinely inspiring, "Trans Homo...Gasp!" is a rare book that helps to bridge the gap between the reader's personal journey and "the other half." My main criticism is that the title was misleading, as the book was WAY more about sex than it was about love, but is a book I’m glad exists nonetheless and would recommend to gay trans men feeling a little lost. I don’t feel like my path to the life I want is any clearer than it was before reading this, but was glad to be offered a glimpse into what it could be like.
May 11, 2018
Compiled stories and other writings. Very well done.
January 5, 2026
Wonderful collection of essays detailing the experiences of various trans and queer men/Transmasc individuals. As someone who is a bit wary of dating men as a Transmasc person, this book really helped show that there are plenty of queer/gay men who are totally fine with dating trans folks, which is uplifting. However, this book did make me extra aware of my singleness lmao. Overall, a very good piece of queer literature
July 14, 2022
Content warnings are listed at the end of my review!
Altogether, Trans Homo...GASP! brings what it promised to the table, even if it’s in a more subtle and nuanced way than expected. This wasn’t necessarily a raunchy read as much as it was insightful and thoughtful, focusing much more deeply on emotions rather than explicit sex. Don’t get me wrong, there is still plenty of sex, kink, cruising, and romance covered! It explores internal dialogues, understanding of oneself, health, communication, boundaries and body positivity, messages that trans men and their lovers benefit from. You will absolutely walk away with some new intimate and thoughtful perspectives about approaching sex and intimacy with transgender men, and deeper considerations into sexism and harmful assumptions that can spread in the gay community.
GASP! is broken up into multiple sections, providing some flexibility for the reader to find what they are looking for. There’s one of just trans men, just cis men, and couples all covering the topics of exploring their identities and sexualities. It’s mostly nonfiction and interviews, but sometimes there’s some tasteful fiction and poetry sprinkled in. Many of the stories start from the authors young years up to where they are now, showing how their self understanding developed, how they experimented, and the ups and downs of their experiences. These honest and thorough accounts really help you see the complex emotions each perspective has, coming together to paint a picture of empowering unity to promote confidence in readers. It doesn’t give a one size fits all answer, but various accounts, recommendations, and encouragement to never assume but instead communicate.
With all of this in mind, there were some slight criticisms I had with the book. While there was diversity in the stories presented, even with gender presentation, at least the majority involved trans men who medically transitioned in some way, usually including either testosterone or top surgery (often both). This alone wouldn’t be an issue, but with some of the cis men’s arguments for liking trans men being based off of traits they have from medically transitioning, some other perspectives would be nice to see. Many of the trans men’s stories started to feel redundant, heavily focusing on transitioning and apprehension rather than constructive information on relationships with cis men, so seasoned trans men, especially readers, won’t have much to gain from these. I was unfortunately caught off guard by Buck Angel’s inclusion since it wasn’t blatantly advertised anywhere, I don’t think a voice like his was a thoughtful addition for something meant to be uplifting for trans people, and educational to allies. He is a discussion that goes beyond the book, but this video provides some important context to why collaboration with him isn’t the best idea.
Summary:
Readability: ★★★☆☆, The short nature of most of the stories made it a fairly snappy read, and easy to put down and pick back up again. There was a decent variety of perspectives, but many of the trans ones became repetitive and sluggish for me. The latter half was the stronger half in my mind. It frequently was a tumultuous read from the distressing and graphic accounts of cis men disrespecting boundaries, forced sex, and regretting uncomfortable experiences, so being aware of the content warnings is critical.
Usefulness: ★★★★★, Most readers could learn at least one thing from this book. Though it doesn’t provide exact answers, merely suggestions and choices that worked for some in their specific scenarios, it’s a good icebreaker. It makes an alright point showing that there isn’t a catch all method, and one needs to be mindful and open.
Audience: Genuinely, any audience interested in sexuality pertaining to trans identity could enjoy this easily. I encourage cis readers especially, even more so for any cis men interested in transgender men, as it will lay a good foundation of knowledge. Trans readers can benefit from trans perspectives on navigating cis men, and also hear refreshing encouragement from cis men who are interested in trans men. I absolutely recommend this to anyone who’s interested!
Content warning: abortion, abuse, adultery, age gap, age play, bareback, BDSM, blood, body language (tits,boobs,breasts,bullying,chasers,cherry popping, clit, pussy, vagina), daddy kink, deadnaming, drinking, fatphobia, feminization, fisting, flogging, genital mentions, groping, group sex, HIV/AIDS, homophobia, incest roleplay, lesbiphobia, misgendering, non sober sex, outing, pedophillia, periods, piercing play, pregnancy, prison, rape, sex, sexism, sexual assault, slur usage, smoking, STDs, suicide, transphobia, voyerusim, wax, weight mentions
Altogether, Trans Homo...GASP! brings what it promised to the table, even if it’s in a more subtle and nuanced way than expected. This wasn’t necessarily a raunchy read as much as it was insightful and thoughtful, focusing much more deeply on emotions rather than explicit sex. Don’t get me wrong, there is still plenty of sex, kink, cruising, and romance covered! It explores internal dialogues, understanding of oneself, health, communication, boundaries and body positivity, messages that trans men and their lovers benefit from. You will absolutely walk away with some new intimate and thoughtful perspectives about approaching sex and intimacy with transgender men, and deeper considerations into sexism and harmful assumptions that can spread in the gay community.
GASP! is broken up into multiple sections, providing some flexibility for the reader to find what they are looking for. There’s one of just trans men, just cis men, and couples all covering the topics of exploring their identities and sexualities. It’s mostly nonfiction and interviews, but sometimes there’s some tasteful fiction and poetry sprinkled in. Many of the stories start from the authors young years up to where they are now, showing how their self understanding developed, how they experimented, and the ups and downs of their experiences. These honest and thorough accounts really help you see the complex emotions each perspective has, coming together to paint a picture of empowering unity to promote confidence in readers. It doesn’t give a one size fits all answer, but various accounts, recommendations, and encouragement to never assume but instead communicate.
With all of this in mind, there were some slight criticisms I had with the book. While there was diversity in the stories presented, even with gender presentation, at least the majority involved trans men who medically transitioned in some way, usually including either testosterone or top surgery (often both). This alone wouldn’t be an issue, but with some of the cis men’s arguments for liking trans men being based off of traits they have from medically transitioning, some other perspectives would be nice to see. Many of the trans men’s stories started to feel redundant, heavily focusing on transitioning and apprehension rather than constructive information on relationships with cis men, so seasoned trans men, especially readers, won’t have much to gain from these. I was unfortunately caught off guard by Buck Angel’s inclusion since it wasn’t blatantly advertised anywhere, I don’t think a voice like his was a thoughtful addition for something meant to be uplifting for trans people, and educational to allies. He is a discussion that goes beyond the book, but this video provides some important context to why collaboration with him isn’t the best idea.
Summary:
Readability: ★★★☆☆, The short nature of most of the stories made it a fairly snappy read, and easy to put down and pick back up again. There was a decent variety of perspectives, but many of the trans ones became repetitive and sluggish for me. The latter half was the stronger half in my mind. It frequently was a tumultuous read from the distressing and graphic accounts of cis men disrespecting boundaries, forced sex, and regretting uncomfortable experiences, so being aware of the content warnings is critical.
Usefulness: ★★★★★, Most readers could learn at least one thing from this book. Though it doesn’t provide exact answers, merely suggestions and choices that worked for some in their specific scenarios, it’s a good icebreaker. It makes an alright point showing that there isn’t a catch all method, and one needs to be mindful and open.
Audience: Genuinely, any audience interested in sexuality pertaining to trans identity could enjoy this easily. I encourage cis readers especially, even more so for any cis men interested in transgender men, as it will lay a good foundation of knowledge. Trans readers can benefit from trans perspectives on navigating cis men, and also hear refreshing encouragement from cis men who are interested in trans men. I absolutely recommend this to anyone who’s interested!
Content warning: abortion, abuse, adultery, age gap, age play, bareback, BDSM, blood, body language (tits,boobs,breasts,bullying,chasers,cherry popping, clit, pussy, vagina), daddy kink, deadnaming, drinking, fatphobia, feminization, fisting, flogging, genital mentions, groping, group sex, HIV/AIDS, homophobia, incest roleplay, lesbiphobia, misgendering, non sober sex, outing, pedophillia, periods, piercing play, pregnancy, prison, rape, sex, sexism, sexual assault, slur usage, smoking, STDs, suicide, transphobia, voyerusim, wax, weight mentions
January 8, 2022
A collection of stories of gb men finding love or experience with men of a different kind of way of becoming men, self-made men. Fins all sorts of relationships all with one pressing thing. The men encountered here are men no matter their start and so they just also happen to like me. Charged, informal, loving, and sweet it is a side of the world that many haven't crossed.
This book is filled with both sex and romance. All types of relationships and just feeling out the waters of being a man-loving man. The transmen have to come to terms with what it means to be gay/bi in a world where one set of organs sees you in a certain way. As for the cis men, they have to overcome what they perceive of someone with certain anatomy. It a delve into the how gender identity intersects with sexual orientation.
One thing about this book is that it features trans men who have transitioned in more than just a social way ie hormones and/or surgery. Granted the promise male hormone will definitely change the way the body is, coming from one trans guy yes yes it does, it also seems at least indirectly that without transition the maleness somehow lacks. It could just be that all the trans men who were featured in this book just happened to be already into transition when sharing their essay but I would have like to see more of a relationship with one trans-man-loving man as a woman and then going through a transition with either hookup and or relationships. But I think that is me just being too nitpicky.
Overall the book really helped my confidence to see that yes even as some AFAB if I just look right places I to can find the one if it happens to be a guy, it will be a guy who loves me just as I am, and same deal with a gal.
This book is filled with both sex and romance. All types of relationships and just feeling out the waters of being a man-loving man. The transmen have to come to terms with what it means to be gay/bi in a world where one set of organs sees you in a certain way. As for the cis men, they have to overcome what they perceive of someone with certain anatomy. It a delve into the how gender identity intersects with sexual orientation.
One thing about this book is that it features trans men who have transitioned in more than just a social way ie hormones and/or surgery. Granted the promise male hormone will definitely change the way the body is, coming from one trans guy yes yes it does, it also seems at least indirectly that without transition the maleness somehow lacks. It could just be that all the trans men who were featured in this book just happened to be already into transition when sharing their essay but I would have like to see more of a relationship with one trans-man-loving man as a woman and then going through a transition with either hookup and or relationships. But I think that is me just being too nitpicky.
Overall the book really helped my confidence to see that yes even as some AFAB if I just look right places I to can find the one if it happens to be a guy, it will be a guy who loves me just as I am, and same deal with a gal.
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June 14, 2019306.768 T7719 2017
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June 2, 2025Good! Especially the section written by trans men. Pretty radically candid, pretty hot, and nice to hear other people's stories
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