This is a FABULOUS book!
We learn how one man quietly endured YEARS of confinement, brutality and torture in Vietnam, having earlier learned that one Brave Roman - disgusted with Emperor Nero - had written a Book on this same QUIET ENDURANCE that has become a household word for INTEGRITY.
Its theme? Simple (and very Christian) Stoicism.
Stockdale, suitably impressed, ENGRAVED the wisdom of this Roman - named Epictetus, by his former noble slavemasters - on his own memory FOREVER.
Even when he was captured by the North Vietnamese, he REMEMBERED the Roman’s words: for the Now-foreseeable Future, he would now have NO MORE CONTROL over his pain, personal humiliation, body, or reputation.
What he DID have control over now, Epictetus would say, were ONLY his EMOTIONAL REACTIONS to these things.
Now as many of you know, in 1970 I was hospitalized for apparent emotional trauma. But you may NOT know that the hospital methods of Triage for psychological cases involves as-it-happens assessment.
So all’s fair in places like that - “Head” games are no more foreign to them than than in POW Prisons. If that kind of triage forces you into craziness, so be it! It’s also a jittery, hair-trigger place, this controlled, watchful environment.
Your every move is under surveillance. You can’t afford to lose it. But lose it I did.
Thankfully, though I didn’t have Epictetus, I had my Christian roots. I knew I was a trumped-up case. A double-jeopardy hostage.
To that extent I could hold my tongue and my emotions. I chilled, staving off possibly stronger and more Draconian retaliations.
The fall-out of it all for me, unfortunately, was a case of “burning in bale & smother’d in smoke” Fifty-Year Rage - now, and more fortunately, ratcheted back down to a weak simmer.
I’m healing...
Just as Admiral Stockdale healed, albeit MUCH more swiftly.
He had a lot more guts than I had.
To the Victor go the Spoils.
And so, my thanks to you both, beloved ex-Admiral, and you - esteemed ex-Roman Slave...
For you showed me ANYTHING can happen to ANY of us at ANY time.
But how we react to that ‘ANYTHING’ will also DETERMINE ITS HIDDEN, PERSONAL MEANING:
For US...
And for THOSE WE LOVE.