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The Life of The Bare Bones of Undertaking  by Ralph Rossell

Growing up, living in, and working in a small-town funeral home may not be for everyone, but it certainly means life is never dull. Ralph was born the month his father and mother moved to Flushing, Michigan, to work in his uncle's funeral home. Dinners and sleep interrupted by calls from families were a common occurrence, but so were the heart-warming moments helping grieving families.

The Life of Death  is a collection of stories about Ralph's memories of the funeral home, both growing up and then working there as a licensed funeral director for more than 45 years. Just about every aspect of the funeral business is in the early burial practices, mortuary school, death calls, ambulance calls, caskets, burial vaults, monuments, clergy, doctors, pathologists, hospitals and cemetery (the good the bad and the ugly). 

There are stories of thievery, premonitions, paranormal as well as lessons learned. There are happy stories, sad stories and humorous ones.  The Life of Death  is crafted to be an interesting and enjoyable read and will give an otherwise unknown look at life and death in the eyes of an undertaker. 

It may very well change your own perspective of life.

269 pages, Kindle Edition

Published November 29, 2017

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Author 54 books336 followers
December 13, 2018
Ralph Rossell owns the only funeral home in the little town where I grew up. He's handled the funerals for my grandparents. I went with my mom to Rossell's to pick out a casket for my great aunt. I'm sure my parents have an arrangement with him.

When my brother died suddenly at the age of 36, Rossell's funeral home asked for a photo of him so the cosmetologist could make him look good for the viewing. Somewhere along the line, someone slicked his curly red hair down. My mom threw a fit, the funeral home went into gear, and somebody curled all his thinning hair into ringlets. I thought it looked awful, but then my brother was dead and nothing was going to make me feel better about that. My mom was satisfied. That was enough.

I read Ralph's book half in dread that the story would come up amidst all his other reminiscences of growing up with and burying the people in my hometown. It didn't, but I recognized other people I've known here. I marvel at the boldness of writing this book -- telling these stories -- but I will treasure it. It documents the town remarkably well.

I'm vastly disappointed that I wasn't in high school when the Home Ec teacher was taking the kids to tour the funeral home. My life might have run on a different path. Oh, well.

If you didn't grow up in small-town Michigan but are interested in what it's like to run a family-owned funeral home, the book paints a clear picture. There's some fairly gruesome stuff amongst the folksy memories. The book has no literary pretensions, like Thomas Lynch's The Undertaking. Because of that, I enjoyed it more.
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2,153 reviews42 followers
March 15, 2018
If you've ever wondered about the life of those who deal with death on a regular basis, then this is the book for you! As someone who has always had an interest in forensics and considered becoming a pathologist, this was an interesting read. It was nice to read about a family business, and their close relationship to the community. I feel like I've learned quite a bit about the funeral business, I found it fascinating that families can spend all day at the funeral home in the US, so different to how we do things in the UK.

Some of the anecdotes were amusing, whilst others just made me go "Wow", at the sheer audacity of some people. They show that there really isn't anything as strange as folk. If you like quirky memoirs, this may be for you.

Thanks to Netgalley and publishers, Dog Ear Publishing, for the opportunity to read an ARC.
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13 reviews
February 21, 2018
As a recently bereaved daughter in law , this book was moridly marvellous. I really really enjoyed this book and developed a insight into the life and work of a funeral director in a small town in Michigan.
The author takes great steps to describe procedures and events, to the reader, that as a reader I felt like I was experiencing the highs and lows of his job with him. I developed a understanding of what happens to a person once deceased and what regulations have to be ahered too by professionals and the funeral directors, as well as gleaning an insight as to the difference in the roles of coroner and medical examiner.
This is a fabulous book which I would recommend to absolutely everyone. It definately takes the sting out of death and funerals.
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September 25, 2019
I never would have expected this book to make me laugh out loud, but it did many times. Fascinating stories, that made it hard to put the book down. Having lived in Flushing, I recognized some stories and people.
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422 reviews46 followers
March 23, 2018
Ralph Rossell grew up in his family’s Funeral home, helping his father and uncle in the day-to-day of the business. After most of a lifetime in the business, Rossell inadvertently started on the path to this book by joining a facebook group where residents of Flushing, Michigan could share reminisces of their town. Unsurprisingly, Rossell’s stories found a ready audience and The Life of Death was born.

Rossell makes this clear from the beginning that these stories are his recollections and not to be taken as a scholarly endeavor. But many academic books have been written on the subject, and the more personal touch lends a bit of fun to the subject. The stories do have a mid-20th century gloss over them , with the positive and negative connotations of that viewpoint. The stories are by turns poignant, humorous, educational, sad, and joyous. Rossell gives us a good, solid, inside look at at profession many don’t (or don’t want to) know much about. The stories are separated more-or-less by type, and each takes the form of a self-contained vignette. As a result, the book is highly readable and quite entertaining.

Anyone looking for a book about the business of death, told in the reader-friendly format of a personal blog, should check out this book.

A copy of this book was provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
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112 reviews216 followers
June 21, 2018
This was a surprisingly delightful read! Ralph Rossell takes the reader into his day-to-day life as a funeral director in a small town in Michigan. After reading this book, it is clear that working in the death industry is just like any other job (except maybe a bit messier!). There are so many anecdotal stories about the people in this town woven into the book which I found entertaining and sometimes humorous. Using the funeral home as a backdrop, Rossell fully immerses the reader in the idiosyncrasies of the town, which I thoroughly enjoyed. However, I do wish that there was more emphasis on the author as an undertaker rather than the people in the town.

I’d highly recommend this to anyone who is interested in the macabre but is looking for an easy, fun read without too many of the gory details!

Thanks to NetGalley, Dog Ear Publishing and the author for a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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422 reviews46 followers
April 29, 2018
Ralph Rossell grew up in his family’s Funeral home, helping his father and uncle in the day-to-day of the business. After most of a lifetime in the business, Rossell inadvertently started on the path to this book by joining a facebook group where residents of Flushing, Michigan could share reminisces of their town. Unsurprisingly, Rossell’s stories found a ready audience and The Life of Death was born.

Rossell makes this clear from the beginning that these stories are his recollections and not to be taken as a scholarly endeavor. But many academic books have been written on the subject, and the more personal touch lends a bit of fun to the subject. The stories do have a mid-20th century gloss over them , with the positive and negative connotations of that viewpoint. The stories are by turns poignant, humorous, educational, sad, and joyous. Rossell gives us a good, solid, inside look at at profession many don’t (or don’t want to) know much about. The stories are separated more-or-less by type, and each takes the form of a self-contained vignette. As a result, the book is highly readable and quite entertaining.

Anyone looking for a book about the business of death, told in the reader-friendly format of a personal blog, should check out this book.

A copy of this book was provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Profile Image for Ellesse.
110 reviews
April 7, 2018
Ralph Rossell grew up in a busy small town American funeral home, leaving only briefly to become a fully qualified funeral director and hasn’t left since. We get a taste of what happens inside the funeral home and the industry as a whole, including the change of technology and the improvement of knowledge in some aspects.

Personally I often read books like this, around the subject of death and forensics but I’ve never read something quite like this, Ralph brings a new take on the funeral industry, one from a small town independent view.

Now one thing to note is the book doesn’t follow a ‘story’ as such but instead a collection of small anecdotes, almost blog posts, categorised together in different sections. I found it a little off-putting in all honesty, we jump from place to place and time to time, I’d enjoyed it much more if it was a flowing tale. Some of the anecdotes felt like they’d be told before though, and others felt pointless, they weren’t adding to my enjoyment or understanding of the funeral business.

The tales told clearly show how Ralph knows the community and adapts to each family making sure they get the best care possible even if it was not in his financial interest. The knowledge he has gained over 45 years of work really shines through in as does he honesty and integrity he operates with. It was interesting to read some of his interactions with other industry professionals from unprofessional hospital staff, other money grabbing funeral directors and a range of ministers with very different styles.

If you are looking for an honest take on small-town American funeral directing this is a good place to start!

Thanks to Ralph Rossell, Dog Ear Publishing and Netgallery for the ARC, but as always the thoughts in the review are all mine!
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245 reviews3 followers
April 11, 2018
Thanks to Netgalley, the publisher. and the author for allowing me to read and review a digital copy of this book. The Life of Death by Ralph R Rossell is a look at his time in the funeral business. The book is a collection of stories that range from funny to sad to shocking. It was not at all morbid. I expected to enjoy the book, but I loved it more than I imagined. I found myself stopping over and over to tell my husband "listen to this". I then noticed he was repeating the stories to others later on. This is easily one of the best books I have read this year!
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790 reviews
May 7, 2018
I received a copy to read for review from Net Galley. This is my honest opinion.

I have always been fascinated with death and all that goes with it. As a memoir this is quite good although it feels like random diary entries rather than one cohesive tale.
Profile Image for Patricia.
733 reviews15 followers
March 29, 2018
I really really enjoyed this book I'm always been kind of interested in funeral homes and all the preparation.

Funerals don't scare me. In fact I find them interesting.  On my husband's side of the family they were always rather colorful. Like the time my husband told me that his cousin died and when we got to the funeral home it turned out it was actually his cousin and his uncle. Loud salsa music was playing. Then the cousin's mistress showed up and decided she was going to be in charge instead of the wife. I found it quite entertaining though I don't think the funeral home staff thought the same.

Or the time we went to the funeral home and viewed the wrong body. I mean who hasn't done that.

This lovely book has stories like that. But he also goes into the business side and shows the good and the bad.

Its also about living in a small town and he has the most hilarious stories to tell. Its just the funniest and sweetest book.
I loved the small-town stories with all the different characters that small towns have. I laughed a lot reading this.

You can see he really likes his job and he really cares about people and sending their loved ones off with dignity. We all would be very lucky to have such a caring person look after us in our final moments above ground.

Thank you NetGalley for this book.
Profile Image for Katie Warburton.
178 reviews
April 4, 2018
This book was such an interesting read, I enjoyed it thoroughly. I would (and have done already) recommend this book. I would love to read more from this author as it is such an interesting subject, without being morbid.
Profile Image for Katie Warburton.
178 reviews
April 4, 2018
This book was such an interesting read, I enjoyed it thoroughly. I would (and have done already) recommend this book. I would love to read more from this author as it is such an interesting subject, without being morbid.
Profile Image for Amanda.
266 reviews
March 28, 2018
I have a lot of respect for this book by Mr. Ralph Rossell. It is an insightful peak into the interesting life of a funeral director. With over 45 years of experience, Rossell's stories are often amusing and full of heart. I appreciate the way he tastefully describes the funeral process and debunks many of the myths one hears about death. People often do not truly appreciate funeral directors until someone close to them passes away.

Thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for a copy of this book, which I voluntarily chose to review.
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161 reviews6 followers
March 28, 2018
I received a copy to read for review from Net Galley. This is my honest opinion.

I have read many books about undertaking, death, death culture, etcetera. This is the first I have read that was all one person's experiences. That made it stand out to me and I'm glad I had a chance to read it. I enjoyed it very much.

It's collection of different stories ordered by theme. I found it easy to read a sections worth here and there. All are interesting and well written stories. I don't think the pages contained any content that would be hard to handle for most people.
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March 27, 2018
This is an outstanding look into small town American life. Although the setting is Flushing Michigan, the stories could originate in any small town. By relating the incidents through the eyes of an undertaker, Mr. Rossell brings a unique and enjoyable perspective into play. The stories unfold as a series of vignettes which makes for an extremely interesting read. Hats off to Ralph Rossell.
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75 reviews13 followers
March 26, 2018
I was interested in Mortuary Science as a major for college when I was younger, &.am so glad I got a chance to read this book. Some of his memories were lighthearted, sad, funny, embarrassing, & he told them all from the heart. The writing never trailed off & got dull, it always kept me interested for more. I highly recommend this book!
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30 reviews1 follower
March 27, 2018
The Life of Death - The Bare Bones of Undertaking was fascinating and funny. What a great read!
34 reviews1 follower
March 18, 2018
I really enjoyed this book. Human nature is a marvellous thing and I expect the author has seen all different kinds in his time in the funeral business. The stories he tells are fascinating. sometime very sad and others quite eye opening! I enjoyed it more than I thought I would and I think the way he has written it helps to demystify the processes that ones goes through at what could be a very sad time. This was a great book.
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889 reviews18 followers
March 5, 2018
More a collection of anecdotes than an actual story, but this worked. It felt as if I were listening to a friend tell (slightly creepy) stories. I loved the behind the scenes stories, slightly morbid tales and even the adventures of some of the people he knew.

This is the 3rd book I've read recently about the funeral industry, and each has been different in its own way. What Rossell brought to this book was someone who is an integral part of the community. He, along with his father, brother and their families are more than service providers, they're friends, family and counselors to the community.

In addition to memoirs of life & work in a funeral home, this is somewhat of a memoir of life in small town America. I'm reminded of Stephen King's comment re: the Dark Tower that the world had moved on. I'd never heard of Flushing prior to this book and only know of Flint for pollution reasons, but Rossell made me want to know more. While he acknowledged the changes in Flushing from his move there as an infant to now, I wonder what contemporary FLushing would look like to an outsider.

A good read.
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457 reviews
February 26, 2018
Overall I found this book fairly fascinating. It's not a subject that is commonly spoken of, so we are kind of left to our own wondering... Chock full of interesting stories. Go for it!
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899 reviews27 followers
February 14, 2018
This was a very good book. I at one time thought about going into Morturary Science but I did not. So, books of this nature are very interesting to me. I am so glad I was given the opportunity to read this book. Very well written, and written with honesty. We learn about the author growing up in the funeral home enviroment as a young boy. He provides us stories of encounters he has had with various people some good some bad, He also gives a few tips that the lay person may not know that may help when they have to deal with planning a funeral. I thought his including about sending flowers and the power that that has for the family. Very good read,. I highly recommend this book. Thanks to NetGalley, the author and the publisher for the ARC of this book in return for my honest review.
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799 reviews16 followers
February 12, 2018
Thank you to NetGalley, Dog Ear Publishing (Cute name!) and the author for an e-ARC of this title. I would give this a 3.5, but that's not an option. I enjoyed this book. It wasn't grotesque, there were little facts about mortuaries scattered throughout the anecdotes and it was a nice, quick read. I have always been interested in the funeral business, just because it's such an inherent part of our culture. If you worry this book will have gory details...it doesn't. It's a nice little biography about the author's family mortuary business. The writing is very conversational, so it's not heavy or downcast. I'd recommend this.
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9 reviews1 follower
December 24, 2017
Great read

I chose this book because I grew up in Flushing. My grandfather worked for Rossell's as both the ambulance driver and remains remover.
Ralph did an excellent job describing life and death in a small town. He also did a great service by suggesting people talk to their family members about their final wishes. Thank you Ralph and I look forward to your next book!
Profile Image for Doreena.
457 reviews
February 20, 2018
I was a bit apprehensive about this book. I thought, after all, how entertaining can't honestly be?

The answer is pretty darn entertaining! It was full of information and interesting stories.
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5 reviews1 follower
January 19, 2018
A collection of stories from the funeral director of my small hometown. I learned a few things about the community and many things about life in the funeral home business.
566 reviews
July 1, 2018
Growing up, living in, and working in a small-town funeral home may not be for everyone, but it certainly means life is never dull. Ralph was born the month his father and mother moved to Flushing, Michigan, to work in his uncle’s funeral home. Dinners and sleep interrupted by calls from families were a common occurrence, but so were the heart-warming moments helping grieving families.
The Life of Death is a collection of stories about Ralph’s memories of the funeral home, both growing up and then working there as a licensed funeral director for more than 45 years. His tales range from the ironic, such as a widow learns of a secret windfall only after selling the item at a garage sale, to the inspired, when a hard-hearted minister gets an earful about preaching to those who need it and reaches out to the family.
Ralph includes humorous stories: a power outage that causes a minister to be late to the funeral of a man who was never on time, a family concerned about the smell of smoke that later requests an area to smoke cigarettes, and a funeral service that is over almost before it begins. And the book would not be complete without a few paranormal experiences. Step through the doors of the funeral home via Ralph’s memory for an unforgettable glimpse into small-town life, the business of funerals, and the very human responses to the mysteries of death.
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165 reviews
March 7, 2018
I would have rather had more stories about undertaking and less about the author’s personal life, but that is just my personal opinion. I also struggled with the way the actual book was written. It seemed scattered versus chronological or cohesive. It is also written as little blurbs here and there versus an actual story. It just wasn’t my personal favorite thing to read, but I cannot fault the author as it is his memoir.
3,334 reviews37 followers
August 3, 2018
I've heard stories about funeral homes from folks I knew who worked in them and an interview I once needed to do for a paper in college with a director of one. Yeah, there are some really wild tales collected in them I am sure! I enjoyed this book. It was a enjoyable and entertaining read. Death isn't avoidable, may as well read about it! great collection of tales from the family's vault!
I received a Kindle ARC from Netgalley in exchange for a fair review.
22 reviews
January 17, 2020
A good , fast read.

An easy read. I worked in a funeral home as a wake attendant for 4 years. I learned alot, and was allowed to do more than others as I was the oldest person working there, including the owner. Best job I ever had.I
I thought the author got off track a bit. Thank you. T.N.
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