Oh my gosh, Malagash, I'm all a-gush!
What is this book with the weird title, pretty cover, and lots of 5-star reviews? It's a small novel with big power, and I just loved it.
Malagash is a small town in Nova Scotia where a teenage girl named Sunday has found a strange and brilliant way to cope with her dad's imminent death. She records everything he says—to her and to everyone else. (I’m not going to say what she does after she records him, in case you’ve managed to avoid the blurb, which tells too much.)
This is a weird one, because if I turn to any page, I don’t find much. There’s simple language, a simple plot, simple dialogue. And the subject of dying isn’t any great shakes either: it’s not exactly a new, or a jazzy, or an upbeat topic.
So why, exactly, did I feel excited to give this one 5 stars? Because there’s something about this story that grabs you and doesn’t let you go. It reminds me that it’s all in the telling, and that the grabbing can be subtle and tricky. The book is full of emotion that soaked into my skin. There’s loneliness, sadness, fear, frustration, camaraderie, stiff upper lips, fake happiness, jokes, denial, fake acceptance, acceptance. But in fact, it’s the undercurrent of emotion between Sunday and the rest of her family that is vivid and nuanced and that pulled me in.
The Complaint Board is back in the shed because there is plenty of Joy in this Jar:
-Creative way of coping with a parent dying.
-First-person narration gives it a conversational yet confidential tone, plus it’s honest and fresh.
-Finely crafted story. No wasted words, no side trips. Compact and powerful.
-Emotionally rich.
-Vivid—felt like I was there with Sunday.
-Introspective.
-Not maudlin, clichéd, sentimental, or melodramatic.
-A nice family, with good dynamics. A lovable and smart main character, a cool sib, and loving parents.
-Wise and uplifting.
While her father lay dying, Sunday is observing and pondering not only her relationship with her father, but also his relationship with her mother and her brother, Simon. I loved the introspection. One of the cool things is that she realizes that each person in the family has a different relationship with her father. Even the exact same conversations have different tones, depending on whether it’s her or Simon. She also realizes she wouldn’t have learned this had she not been recording their conversations.
Here are Sunday’s own words about this:
“The way he sounds, talking to my little brother, is different from how he sounds when talking just to me. I feel certain that it means something different too, even though the words are the exact same. This particular softness in my father’s voice is meant only for Simon.
There are parts of my father that he shows only to Simon. Parts he shows only to my mother. What if I had never heard this? What if I had never realized this?”
That was an epiphany for me many years ago—the realization that my relationship with my parents, the way we perceived each other and interacted, was totally different from how my siblings perceived them and interacted. That made it easier for me to understand why some of us liked a parent and some of us didn’t, and why a parent might prefer one kid over another.
But back to this story. Dad’s death isolates each of them (since, ultimately, everyone is alone in their grief), but it also brings the family together. It was touching how Sunday gets to really see and know her little brother, and how she becomes close to him. Before her dad was dying, she hadn’t paid much attention to him.
I seem to need to repeat some of the contents of the Joy Jar: this story is unusual and rich, and it’s well crafted, with a main character that I just adored. Although this is a sad story with a dark subject matter, it’s strangely uplifting. I loved loved loved it! Another little secret gem!
Thanks to NetGalley for the advance copy.
Non-review stuff (permission to skip)
Sunday’s recording business got me thinking about a strange thing that happened to me a month ago. Two facts: My mother died five years ago and I am a gigantic pack rat. For some reason, my phone all of the sudden had rearranged my saved voice mail, moving the oldest up to the front. Curious, I decided to listen. OMG, suddenly I hear my mom’s voice! “Debbie, are you there? When are you coming to visit?”
Yep, there was my mother’s quick and jazzed-up demented voice, all mixed up and plaintive, with a hidden giggle, and she went on and on, which I loved. I could have listened for hours. This message, and the others (there were about six of them, sort of long) must have been at least 8 years old, before they took away her phone because of bad behavior. (In her dementia she would inadvertently make prank calls to, say, Alaska).
Most times, she thought my message was me talking, and that encouraged her to continue on in Chatty Cathy mode. She figured I was hearing her in real-time. Believe me, I was at attention. It was surreal, and in a good but eerie way. I only liked my mother once she lost her mind, so I was happy to hear her innocent, sweet voice. Who knew she had been living in my phone all this time, lounging there silently on my Comcast server?
So I get why Sunday wanted to save her dad’s voice, I really do. Looking at pictures is one thing, but to hear the voice of someone close to you, who is no longer there to talk to you, that feels different—so personal, so familiar, so immediate and eerie and soothing in an odd way. And of course it immediately stirs up memories, good and bad. I will keep her voice as long as Comcast lets me.