A friend of mine lent me her copy of this 1980 collection of short essays on life, self-control, and self-understanding and insisted I read it. She reminded me that the "enlightenment" movement was big in the early 1980s, and this book was one of the cornerstones. Though many years have passed, I can testify that this no-nonsense advice about how to achieve a more perceptive and mature outlook on life never will be dated. Dr. Smothermon's philosophy reminds me somewhat of the more current pop culture phrase, "Get real!" His main themes are the imortance of taking responsibility for one's actions, developing integrity, getting rid of the "stuff" that in our life that clouds our perception--beliefs, opinion, positions, prejudices, etc.,--honoring commitments, and freeing ourselves form guilty, jealousy, polarization as well as the need to be right. "Let other people be right," the author says. "What do you care who is 'right'?" (34) "Your survival does not depend on being right a 'winning'" arguments," he adds later (117). Despite the fact that Smothermon's language tends to be a little pedantic and sometimes confusing (I'll admit I had to skip a few of the chapters just because they were so bogged down in some kind of psycho-speak), there are many valuable lessons to be learned from these essays. Also, there are so many quotable gems from this book that it is hard to pick just a few. On taking responsibility: "Responsibility is the willingness to be the author of all your experiences, even the ones you don't like" (47). 'Responsibility is not a feeling. It is not a position. It is no more or less than being at the source of your life instead of the victim of life" (50). On satisfaction in life: "Satisfaction is for a very select group of people: Those who are willing to be satisfied. There aren't many around" (99). "Nothing will make you satisfied. Satisfied is a way you choose to be or not to be" (123). I was particularly impressed with the essays on guilt, jealousy, parents, children, and relationships, and I certainly gained some new points of view. I highly recommend this book for its valuable reminders about how to live fully, graciously, and honestly.