Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz show, in a common-sense way, how ideas, prejudices, and fears developed when we were very young, can prevent us from achieving happiness today.
In this book, I was taught how to truly view the cause of problems. We as humans don't look for the root problems of most anything in our lives, we look for quick fast solutions. In this book, the reader is introduced as a psychologist and she goes on to write about an interaction with a patient. The first chapter talks about the effects of one's parents' relationships on them after growing up and having relationships of their own. The author tells us that what we see as a child is carried on with us as we grow up. The second chapter is about this patin whose dad left her and her mother just when she was five years old. The patient then goes on to tell us that she never wants what happened to her mother to happen to her, so ever since then, she has drawn a line. She has never let anyone truly get to her and understand her and is now in a situation where she has never had a real content relationship. The third chapter takes about how we humans are trapped in a fish bole which means that we revolve our lives around us and us only.
olha, eu entendo que não é pra todos. psicanálise em si não é pra todos, eu não recomendaria esse livro para ninguém que não seja da área. as vezes, alguns conceitos precisam ser mantidos pra nós, psicanalistas, e escondidos do público. porque ou eles vão ser esvaziados ou ridicularizados. não que aqui tenha alguma explicação elaborada de conceitos freudianos, é mais um bate papo sobre casos, mas eu consigo ver alguém lendo e pensando "essa é a maior baboseira que alguém ja disse"
alias, apesar de ter achado o livro absolutamente encantador e life changing, até eu discordo de algumas questões. mas o debate da psicanálise evoluiu muito de 1976 pra cá então vou deixar passar! enfim, devorei o livro, me fez refletir muito, e virou um dos meus favs!!
A quick read in a brief 120 pages. “How to Be Awake and Alive “is about how the past and your childhood can impede your present. Living your life making the past serve the present. “It’s like letting a child run your life.”
The book takes you on a simplistic psychobabble journey in the snippets of counseling sessions as examples. It’s near voyeuristic in nature...
Some gems in the mix, and you might express a couple of “a-ha’s” but don’t expect to be healed from your childhood.
Μικρό βιβλιαράκι με ιστορίες από την ψυχοθεραπευτική πρακτική των δύο συγγραφέων . Ο τίτλος πολλά υποσχόμενος δημιουργεί προσδοκίες, δεν ανταποκρίνεται όμως στην πραγματικότητα της ύλης του βιβλίου. Κάποιες ιστορίες "θεραπείας" είναι ενδιαφέρουσες, κάποιες όχι, ενώ το κεφάλαιο 8 με τίτλο "Ξυπνήστε τον ονειροπόλο" είναι δείγμα αυτής ακριβώς της ψυχοθεραπευτικής πρακτικής που απεχθάνομαι, της πολύ καθοδηγητικής που εξαναγκάζει τον πελάτη να συμφωνήσει στις "ανακαλύψεις" (πεποιθήσεις) του θεραπευτή.
Το βιβλίο που έπεσε στα χέρια μου είναι πολύ παλιά έκδοση και από όσο ξέρω υπάρχει μία αρκετά πιο πρόσφατη, πάλι από το Θυμάρι, όμως δεν γνωρίζω αν το κείμενο έχει αλλάξει στη νέα έκδοση. Θα έλεγα ότι το βιβλίο δεν προσφέρει κάτι ιδιαίτερο, ιδίως στην εποχή μας που υπάρχουν πάρα πολλά καλά βιβλία ψυχολογίας και αυτοβοήθειας.
This cute, slim book is better than it's predecessor, How to be your own Best friend. Although, it's a far cry from being a manual or text book on how to live your life, it does offer a few insightful anecdotes of the psychologist-authors' patients waking up from their childhood life scripts they had unconsciously created for themselves that impedes living their adult life to the fullest.