How to Be a 3% Man, Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams

by Corey Wayne

Dear Friend, This book teaches you the hidden secrets to completely understand women. It covers both the dating world and long term relationships. You will learn how to meet and date the type of women you've always dreamed of. The best part is you can do this while remaining who you truly are inside. The book teaches you how to create sexual attraction in women & get women to chase & pursue you! It takes you step by step with easy to follow instructions. You will be able to meet women anytime, anyplace, & anywhere...this will give you choice with women. Whether you are single & searching or already with your dream lady, my book has the secrets most men will never know about women. Learn more at www.UnderstandingRelationships.com

Genres: Relationships, Self Help, Psychology, Personal Development, Nonfiction, Audiobook, Love

270 pages, Hardcover

First published February 1, 2006

Reviews

[Rafael Echegaray · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book had some good advice but also a metric ton of bad advice, and contradictions. I read the book 4 times, and then in those readings I was able to learn more about the author and realize that his values and mine don't align, so a lot of the advice in the book was not going to be helpful for me. Models by Manson says everything this book does but better, more succintly, and without rambling on and on, and with less contradictions in thought. The funniest thing is the last few chapters of the book were he glosses over entire groups of people who are balanced in their energy types, and additionally he never recommends that men do the three things that will help them with women more than these little psychological ideas or mantras he has littered throughout the book, that being fitness, fashion and therapy.

Additionally if you read in Corey Wayne as a person he is deeply conservative/libertarian if thats your politcal slant, awesome but thats not going to help if your not in that camp. Wayne also says in his book that you should only take advice from men that have their shit together when it comes to women, good advice! That being said, is Wayne married? No, and his entire book really does give you advice but only if your looking for hookups or fun, yes some of it sounds good on the surface and there are a lot of quick and dirty rules that do help, but the metric fuckton of exceptions to his advice is staggering and I could think of tons of situations in my own friends groups where his advice would be bad, shunned or ridiculed.

Additionally the number 1 piece of advice he repeats ad naseum is that Women love Men whose feelings are unclear. Sure maybe on the first three dates, after that all your doing is being emotionally distant and you can't build a relationship on that, additionally if thats what you truly believe about women, then all you'll attract will be women who actually believe that, if You want a woman who actually is down with it, and wants you for you, then good luck finding one who loves it when your feelings are unclear.

Again not a great book, some of the advice was helpful but largely a lot of it was toxic, Wayne needs a Therapist and maybe a second revision.

[Behrad "Bob" · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is pure gold and %100 real.
I've red lots of relationship related books, this one it the best ever.
Author's YouTube channel provides tons of real life examples too.

[Joe · Rating 1 out of 5]

Do not understand the positive reviews.

I tried listening to the audio version. It was really painful. I'm not quite sure how bad things need to be for anyone to benefit from this book.

[Byron · Rating 4 out of 5]

So many things about this book make it seem like it wouldn't be any good. I'll list a few: (1) The title, which wouldn't seem like a good idea, regardless of what a 3% man is; (2) The cover, which looks like the graphics from the website of a Russian guy trying to sell you a timeshare or some shit; (3) The fact that he's pretty much giving it away on Amazon. I wouldn't have copped it, if it was any more than a dollar. Admittedly, I do kinda like the idea that a man can "understand" women. That's why I've read so many other books along those lines. (Check my shelves.) I think there's some truth to it!

3% Man takes a super analytical approach to explaining how to get your weenie wet. The key bit of advice - the take home point, if you will - is that you should always be gauging a woman's interest in you. He gives tips on how to tell if you're in the, say, 80% interest range, or the 90% interest range. He really does use numbers and percentages throughout, and he really is that specific. He expects you to be able to know the difference between like an 80 and and 85. (For all I know, I could be at 25.) I was reminded of some wacky scores Pitchfork gives out, down to the tenth of one percent. As is the case with most of the rest of these books, I think this would especially appeal to someone on the autism spectrum (but not to the point where they can't read, obvs).

I will say that I found this to be surprisingly well put together for what it is. It reads like something that's been designed and edited by a legit publisher, not some guy who's got a set of instructional DVDs maybe he could interest you in. You could slap Russell Simmons' ugly mug on the cover and easily charge $20 for it. (That's how Russell Simmons books are made, right?)

[Manuel A. Crespo-Rodríguez · Rating 5 out of 5]

Don't know what the fuck you've been doing wrong all these years? Are you tired of getting shitty advice from friends and women that doesn't know how to explain their stuff? Want to know how is it that some men understand, but can't explain it? Well, here it is folks, read this damn book and you'll understand why.

[martin · Rating 1 out of 5]

omg, this is some serious misogynistic stuff. full of stereotypes, porn fantasies and contempt for women. this was recommended by a friend - i really have got to talk him out of all this male domination nonsense.
two thumbs down

[Dave B. · Rating 3 out of 5]

I cannot justifiably give this book more than 3 stars. For the most part I give the book this rating because of entertainment value not based on the effectiveness or impact of the content. First and foremost, I picked this book up from Amazon electronically when it was on sale for less than a dollar. I will attempt to provide a fair review of this book. I noticed that books like this one receive ‘book ends’ ratings. Either the readers love it at 5 stars or despise it with 0-1 stars.
First, the positive aspects of this book are based on the content and not the format. Mr. Wayne repeats over and over the need to romance your current relationship. As a man take charge and show your significant other that you care about being romantic and pay attention to her needs. Notice her and pay attention to her emotional state, don’t take her love for granted. The best basic advice any man can have that loves a woman.
Next, I look at the negative aspects of this book. The author presents the material as an introduction to his website, blogs and Utube videos. Almost every section of this book feels like and introduction to a video from an infomercial. As I read the book I felt that I was missing out on actual information. I go to the videos and feel that Mr. Wayne is selling his book. I read the book and find myself stuck in the circular sales pitch. This is the worst part of the book. Reading this book as a single guy is also dangerous because it promotes playing the dating game. This may lead to exciting sexual affairs but not a healthy relationship with someone over a lifetime.
Common themes include:
1. Viewing women like ‘cats’ where guys need to master the ability to pay attention and then ignore her just enough so she remains interested. (Dangle that mental ball of string)

2. Play the role of the mysterious guy in charge. Focus on sharing only part of yourself so that you can stay in control (centered) and avoid boring the woman. (Be the ‘bad guy’ every woman desires)

3. Women have internal ‘level of attraction scales’ ranking guys from 1-10. Be sure to only date women that consider you 5 or higher. Consistently look for the cues outlined by Mr. Wayne to stay on the 5 or higher ranking. If you drop below 5, dump her first.

4. My ultimate goal is to get so close to her I ultimately end up inside her.

The rules of the game go on and on. Honestly we all play some level of ‘the dating game’ and everyone can gain from a book that makes the games explicit. The reality is we should approach this as adults. If you both agree to play the games then enjoy the fun! If there is only one player the other person will get hurt. It is in our best interest to recognize the game before it hurts our hearts or we hurt someone else. So, I admit that after reading a book like this you may feel like you need to take a bath in order to clean off the muck. Just remember that after you are clean it was worth the effort to avoid the pitfalls of those that play games just to get you in the bed (guy games) or take your money/manhood (women games).

[Jonathan H. MONTES · Rating 4 out of 5]

Eye opening. Recently I went out on a date with a beautiful girl: it failed. I wish I would have had this knowledge before entering the date. I did everything this book said not to do. I was way to serious and had negative subjects brought up. That's a no-no. But fortunately, I landed on this book and will set the knowledge gained on the next date (not with the same girl, obviously).
One thing that I do have mention is the repetitiveness of this book. You will see recycled sentences over and over again. Concepts stated over and over again. Yet he wants you to read the title 10 to 15 times. If that were the case, this should have been minimized to a quick-read book. Not the 200 pages of material. Originally, I left this book at 5 stars, but just remembering this has brought it down to 4.
Don't ask the reader to read your book over 10 times when you have-line by line-copy and pasted your sentences over and over again.
The book is not bad though. It worth the time!

Annotations from Kindle:
p.03) The 3% man is one of the 3 men out of 100 that a woman meets and is drawn to because he understands who she is and better yet, understands who he is. In life, usually the top 3% in any field or area make most of the money, enjoy most of the success, have the best toys, date the most beautiful people and generally live the kind of lives most people only dream of.
p.06) Ironically, the more you focus on and passionately pursue your purpose in life, the more attractive women will find you in general.
p.18) The guy whose work really helped open my eyes was Doc Love. His website is Doclove.com. I encourage you to buy his dating dictionary. You can download his kindle version or order a paperback.
p.20) Wants you to read the book 10 to 15 times.
p.21) I now get a lot of looks from women, whereas before they never seemed to notice. It’s all about carrying yourself with your chest out, your head back and a feeling of being proud of yourself.
p.24) Definite dates are the subtle difference that makes all the difference when it comes to setting dates women actually keep.
p.24) I let her do about 80% of the talking and I just kept asking her questions. That by the way, is how to remain mysterious and cause a woman to be even more curious about you and romantically interested.
p.32) It’s always better if a woman thinks that she wants you a little more than you want her.
p.37) Women will chase you if you give them the space to miss you by not chasing them.
p.37) Men who chase women get rejected because the very act of chasing a woman is a submissive feminine quality.
N) You still have to chase for that first interaction and make that first date. That’s your job.
p.40) The simple answer is that you basically have to treat the ones you do like just like the ones you don’t like. Of course, there’s a lot more to it than that, but it’s a start.
p.44) A man should learn to take the direction in the relationship. It is funny when you go to the malls, and you can tell who wears the pants in the relationship.
p.45) Women don’t want control! They want the man to make the decisions and make the plans. Woman just want to show up for a date looking hot, have fun and have the man lead things successfully into the bedroom.
p.46) A guy needs to make his mind up about what it is he wants to do. Women don’t want to have to make all the decisions.
p.46) The masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, direction, and mission in life. The masculine energy is also about breaking through barriers.
p.52) When you first meet a woman, your goal is to make her laugh and feel comfortable. You need to talk to her. Better yet, you need to engage her in talking to you. Ask her questions. Get to know who she is. Keep the conversation light and positive.
p.52) The goal is to find out if this woman is really someone you even want to go out with. If you joke around with her, or you tease her and she's nasty to you-who cares? You are probably never going to see this woman again anyway, so what does it matter?
p.53) You never know when you are going to turn around and meet the next great love of your life. If you are this way everywhere you go, chatting up Misses Right when she shows up in your life will just like breathing. Google “Corey Wayne Improving Your Social Skills” and “Corey Wayne The Process of Improving Your Social Skills.”
p.56) A woman has a higher level of attraction to a man she can have fun with and that can make her feel comfortable. If you are being too serious with her from the start, worrying about dating, relationships and labels, then you may be engaging your emotions too fast for her.
p.57) When a guy has found a woman he is prepared to talk to, the first thought in his mind should be: My goal here is to make her smile.
p.58) If you are single and looking to meet the next great love of your life, then one thing you should never ever do is get hung-up on just one woman until she has earned it.
p.59) Busy, successful men communicate abundance. They come from a place of abundance. If things don’t work out with one girl, it’s no big deal. There is another bus every 15 minutes.
p.61) Especially in the first stages of a relationship and dating, it is important to keep things light-hearted. Keep it funny. Joke around. Keep your conversations positive and steer it away from negativity. Hang out, have fun and hoop up! Keep it simple.
p.63) This is sales skills 101. People love to talk about themselves. The quickest way to get someone to like you is to ask them questions about themselves or their opinions and be a good listener.
p.64) Getting back to what I said earlier, when a guy meets a woman, he can instantly have a really high level of attraction to her. Women take a lot longer to fall in love. A woman needs to trust a guy before she will open herself up to even the possibility of committing her emotions.
p.70) In order to entice a cat to your side, you have to be patient and let it come to you. If your moves are too sudden, too quick, or too aggressive, you will send the cat fleeing from your side into hiding.
p.73) You have to show a woman that you are a mystery. You have to be a strong man who does what he wants and marches to the beat of his own drum.
p.87) If you are uncertain of yourself, how can you expect to keep the ideal woman of your dream?
p.92) For the purpose of this exercise, take the column and write down: Okay, if I don’t change all the things I have been doing in the past, here are all the consequences. List all the painful things that will happen:
p.100) You goal is to find out as much as you can about her and give her as little information about yourself as possible. Respond to her questions with light, joking answers and ask her another question. Google “Corey Wayne Pickup & Date Questions That Build Attraction”
The idea is not to interrogate her with questions like a robot, but to ask questions that elicit interesting and fun answers that can lead the conversation into fun and unexpected directions.
p.101) You are never there to talk about your past relationships or anything that will make her feel bad for you. That is never okay.
p.113) Masculine energy is about purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, breaking through barriers, achieving goals, et cetera.
p.117) Do not talk on the phone or text for hours. That is what dating is for. Make the date and talk there.
p.123) If you go out with a woman who has a high level of attraction in you, she will be asking you tons of questions, and is going to be totally into you. Those are the types of women you want to spend your time with. They make it easy.
p.133) Often make it a point when I am initially dating someone, to be the first to end the date. Again, I want to leave her wanting more. It is like the pro football player that retired at the top of his game. Here we have had this great date, and the anticipating has been building, building, building… and then I’ll ask the waiter for the check, and I’ll pay.
p.136) If a guy starts talking about all these accomplishments, what it says to a woman is that he is insecure about who he is as a man. It’s approval-seeking behavior.
p.138) Do not overly compliment a woman, except maybe to tell her she looks nice when you pick her up or meet up, or that you had a good time at the end of the date.
p.139) On a date you will be a gentleman. Open the doors and the car doors. Walk her across the street and everything else.
p.140) Do not touch hands unless she initiates the first move by brushing up against you or something obvious.
p.144) If you went out with her on a Thursday night, you won’t call her until Monday or Tuesday to ask her out for your next date.
p.160) How do you when it’s time to go steady? When she is emotionally ready, usually by week 7 of dating she will bring it up. Until then, hangout, have fun and hook up.
She’ll let you know when she wants to go steady. Keep dating other women until she tells you she wants to be exclusive.
p.162) Don’t talk about your future together. You let you bring up these types of conversations. Let her think it’s her idea.
p.176) You should read David Deida’s “The Way of The Superior Man.”
p.178) I’m the man and I set the tone...always. If I were to give into her attempt at drama and negativity, I’m letting her be the leader.
p.193) You do not buy a woman gifts. Why? They come off as a bribe for sex. You really don’t buy a woman anything until she is completely head over heels in love with you.
p.205) The simple concept is that what you do to get your lady to fall in love with you is what you have to do to keep her. If you don’t date your wife or girlfriend, some other guy eventually will.
p.214) Even the guys that really understand women can’t tell you specifically what you have to do. They just own their masculinity, they own their strength, and they own their core, their purpose and direction in life.
END.

[Janne · Rating 5 out of 5]

17.12.2018 It was so good book, I started reading it again right away once I finished it.

Content delivers what the topics promises.

I liked Corey Wayne's way of compassionate communicating the wisdom and understanding about women. One of the best books about understanding women what I've read: now I know I do not know anything and got reminded about 'excellence is a habit' - thought by Aristoteles.

19.12.2018 Wow, I finished this the second time and decided to start a third run. I still made bunch of notes and found many ways to apply the thoughts and lessons to practice.

Much of what I've learned and applied from this book are related to cultivate positive attitude, unconditional love and abundant mindset

22.12.2018 Third read, and I've gotta say wow! This book is probably the best books about love and growth that I've read.

3% man manages to combine similar framework that is presented in "The Road Less Traveled" by Scott M. Peck, and "The Seven Levels of Intimacy" by Matthew Kelly. Yet it's practical and not theoretical at all.

There is also spiritual aspect to this book, I happened to notice that what Corey Wayne Suggests is very close to what for example Bhagavad Gita teaches about non-attachment.

3% man would be a giver. "Give and take" by Adam Grant is one of my favorite books and that framework overlaps with this very well as well.

What I can say, I'll probably read this book about fifteen times as Corey Wayne suggests?

25.12.2018 Relationships are about giving.

On a fourth time I focused to thinking about what kind of relationship I really would like to have and on the other hand what not to have.

29.12.2018 Understanding better what creates attraction.

Above all masculine energy is about the fulfillment of purpose, where as feminine energy is about bonding, opening up to receive the love.

31.12.2018 Thinking about what kind of life I want to live, what kind of relationships that would mean. Most importantly what I am currently doing or not doing - why I do not already have it?

Corey Recommends the exercise by Tony Robbins, which I've been reflecting about.

I've come to understand that this book is literally about starting from yourself, becoming the person that you deserve to be and through that you can give so much more to the other people as well. This is the basis of relationships.

4.1.2019
Learned
- Evil is good gone wrong - think from other persons point of view first.
- What is quickest way to get attention? Remove yours.´
- Love yourself, so that you feel like you deserve an awesome human.

6.1.2019
- Women test to get your attention
- Level five attraction level = "like moths to the fire"
- Polarity of relationship

9.1.2019
- Attraction is not a choice
- It would be wise only to spend time with those level 5 or above attraction level
- What does relationship of my dreams look like?

15.1.2019
- What can we give to a relationships?`
- We are all looking to receive or give love
- Ending dysfunctional relationships

30.5.2019
- Attraction is not a choice
- What can I give & joy of giving

[Joseph · Rating 2 out of 5]

Overall, I thought this book was not particularly useful. It generalized male and female behavior, used cringey language such as "penetrate her," "love glove," and "flesh rocket," and while not explicitly advising lying it did encourage evasion.

It describes male-female romantic/sexual relationships as a game, in which the person who pursues less is the winner. From my personal experience this is sometimes true, mostly with people that I could consider less emotionally mature. If I had read this book in my late teens/early twenties I may have liked in more, and I may have been taken in more by the author's worldview. But as I am older I am not interested in playing games with relationships. I'm too old for that s**t. I want honestly and open communication in my relationships. If I am trying to set up a date and a women says she is too busy, then I'll just tell her "okay, feel free to reach out when you want to hang out" and if she never reaches out I'm fine with that; it just means that she isn't interested in me.

I listened to the audio book version, and the number of times I heard "for more information on X, you can Google Corey Wayne blog_post_title" was very irritating.

In the trend of the worst pop-science books, the phrase "It's a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear" was repeated multiple times.

There is some advice in this book which I would consider to be accurate and useful. Examples include the idea that a man shouldn't whine or beg if he wants to make himself attractive, the fact that people who have confidence and are clear on their own actions tend to be more attractive, the idea that the phone is just a tool for setting a date, and the idea that if someone isn't interested in you then you shouldn't waste your time with them.

Overall, I do not recommend this book. It described women as a passive recipients of male actions, as a system which if understood can be controlled/managed/manipulated.

[Temi Abimbola · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mr Corey Wayne !!!.. legend, life-coach, entrepreneur, he's on my top 10 of people i look up to today.
This book was everything and its the only book I would be ready to read again and again.
It's therapeutic, thought-provoking and challenges every man's social habits.
Courtship is one of the most important things in humanity, we all must court to be in a relationship, raise a family and pass on the circle of life. Courting effectively comes with reward of attracting the best candidates in your life and the best opportunities that life may throw at us.

[Neil Corpuz · Rating 5 out of 5]

A 3% Book

I highly recommend reading this book if you truly want to understand how human behavior works. This book teaches you how to be authentic when applyIng its content In the real world without silly pickup artist routines.

[Cory Prior · Rating 5 out of 5]

Book of my dreams. I'd recommend this to any and all men.

This book is the bible of dating, romance, and relationships. It will transform your mindset as you read it, to become who you really are in your masculine core, and in your heart of hearts. Not only will you develop a better understanding of yourself and what it is to be a man, but you will develop a better relationship with the entire world around you, including beautiful women, and you will know how to attract and court them, with confidence and ease, from meeting them to as far as your relationship goes - the way has been mapped out for you, clearly and in a way that is easily understood. You'll see results before you even finish reading, and even more so as you practice and apply your new superior mindset. Rereading is essential, and results become exponential, the more you reread it.

[Henrik Haapala · Rating 5 out of 5]

Major takeaway:
Part IV “it’s not all about you” page 84:
The first thing you need to do before you even meet a woman if you have to become clear on one major question: what am I looking for in a relationship in the first place? You have to understand what it is that you want in a relationship before you can get into a relationship. Let’s say you want to get a new car you go out and buy a brand new Ford Explorer everyone has had this experience. Where did you go out and buy a new Ford Explorer and now you’re driving it home for the dealership and you notice that those cars are everywhere.” Writing it down makes you notice things.

(This is the brains reticular activation system, which focuses on anything you have told yourself is important)

Are you looking for a steady girlfriend? are you looking for someone you can eventually spend your life with and marry? do you want to play the field for a while? Do you want to be like Hugh Hefner? Do you want to have 3, 4, 5 or 6 girlfriends, there is nothing wrong with that thats something you can have, if that’s what you really want.

2 columns
Left side qualities you want in a woman and the right hand column qualities you don’t want in a woman imagine the perfect lady. What are the qualities she would want in a woman what is her eyecolor? What is her hair like it is straight is it long is curly is the wavy

There is this scene in Cinderella man:

“His wife told him I’m not coming to the fight I don’t want you to fight. I’m not happy that you’re fighting. I’m not going to listen to it on the radio I’m not supporting you in this at all.
He told her this is what I do. I’m a fighter I’m fighting for you and I’m fighting for the kids. I’m going to do this in essence he was telling her I don’t care how much you protest, I have to do this. This is my purpose.
His wife bluffed, saying I don’t support this at all. He leaves calling her bluff right before the fight. She shows up at the locker room and gives him a hug and a kiss.”
215

”The purpose of all relationships- and this is not only for your intimate relationships, but also for your friendships, the people that you work with, your kids, or any other relationships you have - is to go into those relationships to give.”

• Polarity is the key to maintaining desire. “She can be playful, loving, and an absolute joy to be around. The guy is her rock, and she is his joy.”
• Weathering the storm. “Women are like the ocean, and guys have these little rowboats or canoes. A guy will be just cruising along and it’s a nice, sunny, beautiful day, and he’s thinking: wow this is really great.
The ocean is flat, then all the sudden, from out of nowhere it becomes like a hurricane. There are ten-foot waves everywhere. The guy, no matter what his lady is doing, has to remain centered. In other words, he can’t let her capsize his boat. He can’t let her sink him. He can’t let her get him off his path and his purpose in life. And he can’t - no matter what - let her get him out of his masculine.” 213

The ten disciplines of love when the magical 9-10 attraction level is reached:
1. Selflessness: you go to a relationship to give it’s not about you. it’s about what you give not what you get.
2. Loving no matter what. Withholding your gift is the only source of pain if you have something to say and it’s really bothering you get off your chest, but do it in a positive manner if you have something you want to share or tell your partner just do it.
3. Being yourself. Playing small Never serves anybody. Being yourself indifferent and unaffected by all the tests your woman throws at you.
4. Presence and playfulness. If you’re a guy be her mountain, nothing shakes you. The man is a rock woman is his joy is the playfulness of love.
5. Positive intent. Eliminate the threats and judgments remember the power of language never make your partner wrong.
6. Loving truth. Vulnerabilities power, give the gift of Hartfelt honesty, and commit to expressing it openly in this moment… don’t let things build up
7. Freedom. The power of forgiving for forgetting I’m flooding flooding yourself with positive emotions and feelings. Flood yourself now with the beauty and magic of your life.
8. Daily passion and intimacy. Open your heart and hold nothing back. fear and hurt in inprison the heart
9. Utilization (spirituality and personal growth)
10. Gratitude. Appreciation is the power. experience life’s greatest blessings now. be an appreciator of all good things you have in your life.
(From pages: 251-255)

Books and movies mentioned:
Cinderella man
The way of the superior man, David Deida

[Felipe · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read! Its a 180degree change in ur life. Literally it will completely change your life. Its not about seducing and hokking up with girls. Corey just uses that topic to explain something depper: That you need to master who you are and why you are already enough.
This kind of books should be asked as mandatory readings in schools and universities. Yeah its that good.
Read it!!!

[Trevor Oldham · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ever say to yourself that you don't understand women, you will understand step by step after reading this book. One of those books you have to read multiple times, I'm only on my second. This is book is going to save you years of pain. I highly recommend it.

[Ronald Clark · Rating 5 out of 5]

I don't want to spoil it but I'll say that everything that "coach" Corey Wayne puts to paper in this book is pure gold. The methods explained come from the authors first hand experience and the examples offered work in a real life setting. The author uses many past experiences from his own life to compare and contrast various points and speaks in such a way where data is easy to retain. My only rant is that there is not a audio book available to date (that I know of). The author also has a youtube channel with over a thousand videos where he does Q&A concerning many of the items discussed in this book which offers additional insight.

I cannot say enough about this book. It is the best self help book in regards to relationships that I have ever read.

[Suhaib · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is predicated on the idea of manipulation: getting what you want through manipulative behavior. Please do not listen to the advice promulgated here. Just be yourself. And focus on genuinely improving your character, which is a much healthier approach for your life and your relationships.

[abe · Rating 5 out of 5]

A book of Transformation

This book will change your perspectives and mindset. I will read this book 13 more times. Thank you coach Corey!

[Jessica Pin · Rating 1 out of 5]

I looked at this book because a date of mine told me he read it.

Frankly, a man reading this and taking it seriously is a huge red flag to me as far as any potential for a long term relationship.

The recommendations are basically the exact opposite of what I want a man to assume about me and how I want him to act.

Examples:

“When a woman says to you: I'm not looking for a relationship. She's really saying: Whoa...slow down. I just want to have fun. I need to trust you and feel comfortable with you before that option is even on the table.”

No. Every time I have said I didn’t want a relationship, I did not want one. Continuing to believe that is in the cards is disrespectful to me and my boundaries.

“Again, that's why you don't need to say things like: Oh, you are so beautiful. I had an incredible time the other night. Coming from a guy she barely knows, one that has not taken the time to get to know her, these things mean little or nothing. They do not work to raise her level of interest. All it does is to make you look like a guy who is needy, someone that is very insecure.”

No. Who would ever think that? That men are trying to teach each other to play ridiculous mind games is sad to me.

“You never want to argue with a woman, because it is only going to escalate. The bottom line is that you are never going to win an argument anyways. Women don't fight fair, and they don't argue rationally. It is mostly emotionally-based.“

This is extremely offensive. I often debate ideas with romantic interests in order to assess their intelligence, openness to new ideas, and any ego problems they might have in reaction to getting told they might be wrong. For example, a guy recently told me, “Distance is an illusion.” I said, “Actually distance is a very real emergent phenomenon determined by the speed of light.” This guy has a PhD in physics, and he did not get offended or dismiss me. He just explained his view of the science and was excited to have me engage. That’s a good man.

The authors ideas about masculinity and femininity are furthermore antiquated and degrading to women, if not outright dangerous. Example:

“Women are about opening up and receiving your love and your presence. That is the feminine energy. The masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, direction, and mission in life. The masculine energy is also about breaking through barriers.”

Read that again, slowly.

I posted screenshots of this book on my Instagram with over 30k mostly female followers asking what they thought.

“Misogynist garbage.”

“Complete nonsense.”

Lots of puking emojis.

“Are they trying to date children?”

I hope men struggling with dating rethink looking to this as a guide. It is important to remember women are all different. Many of us will actually just tell you what we want in a partner if you ask.

[Florencio Rustrián Monroy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Corey Wayne shares facts about attraction of men and women, how different we are and what us as men should do to improve our game with women and ourselves too, as you should know (not only from this book’s insight) that to attract the woman of your dreams you have to be the man of someone’s dream, be at your top level.

This book, full of personal experiences, can really be worth the time for men that really have no clue on why they never get further one or two dates or why the woman they like just doesn’t is into them, low experienced guys. But also, if you already have experience on some heartbreaks and have started to notice women patterns, this book can reaffirm some of your patterns in women attraction and still give you good tips and info.

I rate it with 4 stars overall as much of its content is based on visiting links from Corey’s website instead of providing the insights directly as you listen, his speed while reading is slow (I 1.5x’d it out since I was falling sleep and still could listen to it all perfectly) and his stories are full of the confirmation bias where he tells you something and immediately tries to prove it with sometimes extreme stories that even when they do exist are outliers and most men won’t handle them at all, even the least after listening to this audiobook. Knowing bad and extreme scenarios is good to be conscious about them, but sometimes Corey throw “facts” that without these confirmation stories would get you like “what?”.

[Christopher · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is so bad. Lots of repetition so skimming the book is pretty easy and at least not wasting much time reading it. (And it’s a free pdf on his page)

Very few good advice, like listen to your partner. But then instantly destroying it by suggesting to "never" talk about yourself if the information isn’t dragged out of you.

Or the good advise to try to reiterate what the other person said, to make sure you understood them correctly, just to mention in the next sentence if she asks to not be touched, to tickle her. Absolutely no respect for any boundaries.

He constantly talks about dating being a number game and letting go of uninterested people. Yes true. But if you don’t behave like a total duck like he suggests, maybe the people that were not interested before would have been. Constant talk about masculinity and manly energy and how it is important to not listen to her and instead show her how manly you are by doing things she asks you not to do (like going to war, doing a boxing fight etc.) because she will love you move that way.

Following his recommendations of how to treat someone else will get you into a relationship, a toxic one.

[Troy Nix · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book (really an teaser to try and get you to buy his other products and visit his sites), really can be condensed into 20 pages. You do not need to read it 10+ times as he suggests, and you really shouldn't take relationship advise from a man with over 40 years of failed relationships. It will give you the basics to be a fuck boy and how to get an equivalently shallow female, as well as to be a manipulative prick and that's pretty much it. If you take anything away, know that there are much better books out there, by much better qualified men (Try "No more Mr Nice Guy"). Just remember to listen to women and pick up on their cues, and be confident (I know easier said than done). It's your own insecurities that are an issue, so don't use hers against her.

[Khanh Cao · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great, great book!
What interesting about the book is that it also provides the mechanism, the nature of what happens behind a woman's mind when certain actions of men are occurred.
Would love to write more, but my *no spoiling* rule stops me from doing that.
Last word, I highly recommend this book for those who are having a confusion of why all the things they've done and are doing lead to very unwanted results with women.

[Jen Rudy · Rating 1 out of 5]

DNF, ridiculous

[Alejandro Sánchez · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jesus! every man should read this book at least twice in their lives.

[Manoj Kakran · Rating 4 out of 5]

It has the most dynamic guide about dating and relationships. Read, Apply, and get found Success. Many best advice it have and contains best "web-references" to Google.

[Juan Sanoja · Rating 4 out of 5]

Conocimiento valioso para seguir comprendiendo el arte de las relaciones de pareja.

Los conceptos son los mismos que enseña el maestro David Deida. La clave, como siempre, está en entender la polaridad de las energías masculino-femenino.

Algunas frases y fragmentos:

“Repetition is the mother of skill”.

“You have to get to the point where no matter what a woman does, it doesn’t move you off center”.

“The reason is that you get what you focus on in life”.

“In our desire to have that certainty about how someone else feels about us, we create the feeling that we are insufficient as a person. We are looking to fulfill our need for certainty with her approval and end up creating the appearance of neediness”.

“It is important to remember that the way you treat her when you are dating her and the way you treated her to get her to fall in love with you in the first place is the same way that you need to treat her even after being married for twenty years. Courtship is ongoing and it is never going to end. Always build anticipation. Avoid falling into routines. Don’t go out every Friday night and take your wife to dinner. Try going out one week on a Wednesday night to do something different. Skip a week and take her out twice the following week. Always keep her wondering. Add spontaneity. Leave her curious as to when the next surprise is going to come. Never tell women what you’re going to do. Let them discover it in real time”.

“Masculine energy is about purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, breaking through barriers, achieving goals, etc”.

“Women want to be noticed. Everything they do is about getting your attention. That is why it’s so important to understand what your attention means to them. So that’s why a woman is going to call you in the middle of the day and say: Hey, I just wanted to call and tell you that I love you. All she’s looking for is to feel you. She wants to feel your presence”.

“You have to dig deeper, because she is testing you to see if you really care enough to want to know what’s bothering her. If you really care enough to take away the pain she’s feeling inside, you need to draw this out of her by asking her questions: Honey, tell me what’s upsetting you, and not leaving until you get it out of her what is actually going on”.

“Most guys will just say: I’m sorry, and she’ll say: Okay, thank you. I’m glad you’re sorry. Or the guy says: I love you. Instead of you saying it, she wants you to show it. The way you show it is with your presence, and by showing her: You are not moving me off center, here. The words don’t really have that much meaning to her. It is your actions, and the fact that you are not going anywhere. It is you understanding her when she says: Well, you did this, this, this, and it really hurt me, and you repeat it back: Oh, so I did this, this, and this, and it made you feel this way. And it hurt you, and it made you feel like this. Is that right? Is that how I made you feel?”.

“You need to keep working with her, pulling the information out, until you hear those magic words: I feel so much better, I’m so glad we talked. I love you. Thank you honey”.

“Keep in mind that with a woman, you get no points for what you did in the past. You could have been the perfect husband for the past ten years, but if you’ve been screwing up all day today, she will say: You are a jerk, a bad husband, and you never treat me right. Most guys will respond: Well, I did this last week and this the week before. I’ve been married to you for ten years and I have always done this and... Guys go on this whole rationalizing thing. That is the wrong way to go about it. All it’s going to do is piss her off more”.

“You never want to argue with a woman, because it is only going to escalate. The bottom line is that you are never going to win an argument anyway. Women don’t fight fair, and they don’t argue rationally. Their arguments are mostly emotionally based. If you are trying to have a rational argument with her, she will only end up throwing around more of her emotions, because she is trying to say: Hey, you need to notice me. You need to acknowledge my heart. You need to acknowledge how I feel. You are not doing that by arguing. When I talk to clients who are arguing with their women I know they do not understand women. It is impossible for guys who don’t understand women to have effortless and drama-free relationships”.

“Women are like the ocean, and guys have these little rowboats or canoes. A guy will be just cruising along and it’s a nice, sunny, beautiful day, and he’s thinking: Wow. This is really great.

The ocean is flat, then all the sudden, from out of nowhere it becomes like a hurricane. There are ten-foot waves everywhere. The guy, no matter what his lady is doing, has to remain centered. In other words, he can’t let her capsize his boat. He can’t let her sink him. He can’t let her get him off his path and his purpose in life. And he can’t – no matter what – let her get him out of his masculine.

If she does capsize your boat and you sink? First, you have to bail it out and bring it back to the surface. Now she will make it twice as hard, the storm will get twice as bad, until she sees that no matter what she does, she can’t sway you from your path. It doesn’t matter if she’s yelling, cussing at you, or saying: I hate your guts. She’s just expressing emotion”.


“It is about understanding what all the cues mean. When a woman says: You never listen to me. Or: You never do this for me or that for me. In that moment, it is simply what she’s feeling. It doesn’t mean that you have never, ever done this or that for her. All it means is in that present moment, you are failing as a man to give her the presence that she is looking for from you”.

“That is why women tend to generalize a lot when they are saying things. They will say: I can’t stand you, or: You’re such a jerk, or she gets really mad and says she hates you. It doesn’t mean that she does not love you any more, but right then and there, in that moment, she is feeling that she hates your guts, because you failed, and she’s simply expressing that to you. Again, don’t take it personally.

She may be completely shut down to you. By your presence and communicating with her, you are going to work to open her back up. Once she is back open, she will usually apologize for what she said, with something like: I was just really emotional. Or she may be all over you and say: I love you! That is just her being a woman. It is part of the weathering of the storm.

Understanding the secret language is all about understanding what her responses mean. Guys think logically, and women think emotionally”.

“You can’t allow yourself to be affected by a woman”.

“Keeping the Magic Alive

The simple concept is that what you do to get your lady to fall in love with you is what you have to do to keep her. If you don’t date your wife or your girlfriend, some other guy eventually will.

What you do to get her is what you are going to have to do to keep her. As long as you stay in your center and do not become complacent, the testing will be minimal. If the testing starts, you know you are not doing something right, and you need to switch gears. Recognize it for what it is: An opportunity for growth and change from stagnation and complacency”.

“Polarity is the Key to Maintaining Desire”.

“So, even if everything is hitting the fan at work, and the bills are behind, it doesn’t move him off center. He is the rock. When he is the rock, she doesn’t have to worry about anything. Even if things aren’t going well, she knows he will somehow find a way to turn it around.

If he is confident, says he is going to get things turned around, tells her not to worry about it, and she knows he can do that, she feels comfortable in opening up and basking in her feminine energy. As I have said, there is nothing more beautiful to me than a woman that is completely in her feminine, completely open. It is so alluring and so sexy to be drawn in by a woman like that”.

[Jason]

Felt blue-pillish, but if you have a need it will speak to you. I like Corey and he seems legit, referencing his own life and mistakes. I've seen deeper, more thorough explanations, or crazier situations, than have made it to the mainstream, but that ultimately would not be as helpful (or healthy) for most of you as the advice here.

The frequent references to his website at the end of each and every segment are distracting in the audiobook, but the advice is worthwhile and straddles the marketing of pickup vs long term relationship advice.

I prefer the mating grounds podcast by Tucker Max, especially the Helping Joe segments.

I came this topic fascinated by evolutionary psych/bio and human sociology. Most people can just experience and love through their own intentions and do fine in the world.

[Esteban Ricaurte · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is for insecure men. I've read the book several times and liked it at first because the advice seemed to be working. You will attract the attention of a lot more women but it doesn't really feel legit. I don't believe this book offers good advice for long term relationships or just healthy relationships in general. A lot of it seems to be the author using women's weaknesses and insecurities (Rejection, Low self-esteem, etc.) to charm a women, an act that you will have to keep up for the rest of your life. Corey talks about his really bad relationship with his mother in his videos and I believe he views relationships through a dysfunctional lens. Having a Christian background I believe all this advice is troublesome, you should seek God first and work on yourself and everything else will fall into place.