Richard Carlson was an American author, psychotherapist, and motivational speaker. His book, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and it's all Small Stuff (1997), was USA Today's bestselling book for two consecutive years and spent over 101 weeks on the New York Times Best Seller list. It was published in 135 countries and translated into Latvian, Polish, Icelandic, Serbian and 26 other languages. Carlson went on to write 20 books.
1. Be the first one to act lovingly or to reach out. Let go of the resentment and forgive one another. You can choose to remain friends or not but at least you will have inner peace and know you tried.
2. Choose to be kind over being right. Does it really get you anywhere to have the chance to prove you were right and they were wrong? Pay attention to the way you feel after you put someone down.
3. Spend a moment, every day, thinking of someone to love. It will put you in a better mood.
4. Resist the urge to criticize. It only says something about our own need to be critical. Besides, the person who is on the receiving end will feel attacked and will rarely ever say, "thank you so much for criticizing and pointing out my flaws. I really appreciate it." Did it make you or the other person feel better? No, then don't do it.
5. Cut yourself some slack and stop blaming others.
All words to live by and try to just be present. Accept yourself and your shortcomings and that of others. If it's not monumental, "don't sweat it."
What I like about it is it reminds me of things I've heard before. Will I take the pearls of wisdom of things in this book? I can only try and incorporate it as much as possible.
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This is a book which has a deceptive title - or at least had always deceived me - till I read it from cover to cover. I had the impression that this book would be
1) Looking at the big picture and moving onward decisively 2) ignoring obstacles and staying the course 3) A self help book for the goal focussed enabling one to crush mental barriers and WIN 4) Sort of the Pareto Principle in life’s race
One realises that the worth of this book is much beyond choosing battles and smashing problems. This affectionate book is about compassion, empathy and realisations. It appeals to one’s innate sense of grace. Urging one to accept and adjust, it does speak about the longer run - spiritually. In a nutshell - a remarkable work about not “othering” and “bettering” one’s own self.
I can appreciate how the "chapters" are just little morsels of advice but this got very redundant, is a little outdated, and was definitely written (whether intentional or not) for more of a traditional-male-role audience. It essentially encourages readers to be more empathetic and less selfish, and while I don't think any of it was truly "bad" advice, I didn't see a lot of value in this book telling me anything of which I wasn't already aware.
This book also came out 25 years ago and I'm sure was a great resource for men who started reading these self-improvement/self-help books but in my opinion not worth the read now if you're under the age of 55.
A great book which has powerful techniques to apply in your work and life. Brilliant book. Learn these tips and apply them in your day to day life and see the miracles happens in your life and how your life will be more enjoyable and simpler.
full of practical tips that could be implemented or reflected on. I like the size of this book, it is small, easy to carry, and of course the contents are easy to understand. I can't wait to read the rest of the series.
An amazing book, that should be carried around to remind us of simple life lessons. A guide that we can look into, when we are stuck up at any point in life.
This is an amazing book if you want to escap the never ending loop of contempt, anger, any sort of negative emotion.. Pick it up and see the small strategies working like magic.