Make Up, Don't Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples

by Harville Hendrix (Foreword)

A couple's guide to preserving relationships reveals what men and women have in common regarding intimacy, why women should make the first move emotionally, and how it is possible to talk a relationship into the ground. Original.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships

448 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1997

About the author

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., is the author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, a New York Times bestseller that has sold more than two million copies. He has more than thirty years’ experience as an educator and therapist. He specializes in working with couples in private practice, teaching marital therapy to therapists, and conducting couples workshops across the country. Dr. Hendrix is the founder/director of the Imago Institute for Relationship Therapy. He lives in New Jersey and New Mexico.

http://us.macmillan.com/author/harvil...

Reviews

[Saba · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read this a very long time ago...looking for it on audio...review TBA.

It takes 2. ...

Reading another title which is probably closer to some of the issues, though not all are related to a couple's finances.

Interview of the author:

https://strongerfamilies.com/intervie...

More later, ...

These issues often come up in my profession (as an accountant, and I personally don't have much patience with bickering couples...), I thought I should find out what exactly is at the heart of their differences. Perhaps every couple should put themselves under a pre-marital audit of their financial concerns before investing time and emotional energy into a relationship they both want to last their entire lifetime.

So much could be learned from professionals that it behooves couples to put aside their egos and ask, if they do not know answers to complicated legal and financial questions, which inevitably are intertwined.

More later as I get through this book. Have high hopes for this title!

[Kelly · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read and re-read this book years ago when I was in a really bad relationship with a guy whom, regardless of our problems, I loved very much. I wanted desperately to stay with him and make it work, but at the same time, I knew the relationship was really bad for both of us. This caused much inner turmoil and confusion, lots of fights with him, and a ton of indecisiveness about whether to stay or go. This book was comforting to have around during those times, and it provided a lot of insight about him, myself, and our relationship. However, it also added to my confusion, because the author constantly tells you to "break up" in order to ultimately "make up", but that you have to follow certain "rules" in order for the "making up" to ever occur. Rules are great in theory, but extremely hard to follow in real life when it comes to matters of the heart. Me and this guy eventually did break up for good and go our seperate ways, so the book by no means saved *US*. But it might have saved *ME* just a little bit during times when I felt completely alone in this relationship. For that, I give it 4 stars.

[An · Rating 4 out of 5]

I bought this book out of desperation. I was desperate to save a bad relationship. Well, I couldn't save that relationship even if I have the ability to turn back time. Little did I know, this book pave way for a new long lasting relationship that I am now in. I am very happy. I have learned to communicate with my partner in a more effective way. I have become more patient and kind toward other people in my life not just my significant other. This book has really make good contribute to my life. I definitely recommend this book to anyone who want to save their relationship or start over anew.

[Kate · Rating 4 out of 5]

a useful and informative book. it feels a little dated now, but there's some useful information in there if you can get to it. I found the "lingo" a bit annoying and it wasn't set up in an easy-to-use way, but I'm glad that I picked it up. definitely worth a look if you're going through a rocky patch but want to make it work...

[Hans Scheil · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Lot to Think About and Act On

This book describes me and my wounds and then tells me exactly what to do about it with the love of my life. Hans Scheil, CFP, Author of The Complete Cardinal Guide

[Navaneswary · Rating 3 out of 5]

It helped me in my relationship during the dating period.