Anna Salter is one of the few clinicians who works with and assesses both victims and perpetrators of abuse. I would recommend skipping or skimming the two wordy forwards by other clinicians. The first section, on the behaviors of perpetrators, is marvelous. You will get accurate research and descriptions on what perps actually do – not what they say to minimize or excuse their violations. This section will be valuable for members of the criminal justice system as well as therapists of survivors who must understand perpetrators to understand victims. The second section, on the experience of victims is also excellent. I find the last chapter, on treatment of victims, to have much very valuable general information on therapy, but I have two rather significant disagreements.
1. I am very wary of any therapy model that uses the idea, much less encourages the victim to see themselves as speaking in various “voices” – the ‘guardian,’ the ‘sadistic abuser.’ All to often, this encourages the suggestible patient in self-hypnosis and can end up creating more pathology, particularly dissociative identity disorders (so-called multiple personality disorder).
2. I have found that therapy is most effective when one assists the patient in experiencing how different they are from who they believe they are. Rather than just an experience of ‘acceptance,’ or ‘safety within the therapy,’ I have found victims become survivors fastest when they learn how to survive. This accomplished, they are far more able and ready to reorganize themselves in relation to their traumatic experiences. In particular, patients who learn how to fight, including self-defense, and even the use of weapons, learned from a seasoned instructor who is familiar with kind of dilemmas that survivors of sexual abuse must live with, is invaluable. For many, one cannot consider oneself healed until one clearly knows that an attempt by another to violate them again will be dealt with differently from when they were helpless.
In short, I loved more than half the book, and I have reservations about the other half.