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Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing
“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” — Romans 8:1
Shame is an assault on the core of who we are. It assassinates our character, minimizes our worth, and dashes our hope. Like Adam and Eve, we often hide shame, but hiding never heals it. Left unattended, shame can develop into a crippling reality that paralyzes us. Like an infectious disease, shame impacts everyone . . . but not all shame is bad.
Shame can either be an oppressive and powerful tool of worldly condemnation or a source of conviction that God uses to bring his people back to himself. Having the discernment to know the difference and recognize shame in its many forms can change the course of one’s life.
In a transparently honest style, Pass shares of her experience dealing with shame after learning that her former husband was a sexual offender. Having lived through the aftermath, she leads you into God’s Word where you will see for yourself that God is bigger than your pain, shame, mistakes, and limitations.
Shame Off You shares how freedom can be found in choosing to break the cycle of shame by learning from the past, developing healthy thinking patterns, silencing lies, and overcoming the traps of vanity and other people's opinions.
Shame is an assault on the core of who we are. It assassinates our character, minimizes our worth, and dashes our hope. Like Adam and Eve, we often hide shame, but hiding never heals it. Left unattended, shame can develop into a crippling reality that paralyzes us. Like an infectious disease, shame impacts everyone . . . but not all shame is bad.
Shame can either be an oppressive and powerful tool of worldly condemnation or a source of conviction that God uses to bring his people back to himself. Having the discernment to know the difference and recognize shame in its many forms can change the course of one’s life.
In a transparently honest style, Pass shares of her experience dealing with shame after learning that her former husband was a sexual offender. Having lived through the aftermath, she leads you into God’s Word where you will see for yourself that God is bigger than your pain, shame, mistakes, and limitations.
Shame Off You shares how freedom can be found in choosing to break the cycle of shame by learning from the past, developing healthy thinking patterns, silencing lies, and overcoming the traps of vanity and other people's opinions.
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240 pages, Paperback
Published August 21, 2018
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September 30, 2018
Denise’s book is a powerful tool to move beyond the shame of the past and into a new-found confidence and hope-filled future. The information and Biblical guidance shared in this book helped me to achieve new levels of freedom in my spiritual walk with God.
August 4, 2019
I am impressed with the insights shared in this book. Pass helps us see how shame is related to our self-worth and reminds us where our worth is really found. She shows how we must find the core root of our shame and then find a cure in Christ. She also shares the process of shame and how we can break the cycle of shame.
My favorite chapter in the book was the one on shame from the past. I learned a great deal about acceptance, forgiving myself, anger, failure to accept the reality of who I am in Christ, and much more.
The insight that impacted me the most was, “When man rejects us, it might just be an assignment from God.” (53) God might be shocking us into looking again where we are seeking acceptance – not from Him!
This is a great book. If you feel plagued by shame, you will find the principles of healing here. It would be a good book for personal study as there are questions for reflection at the end of each chapter. She also has a section at the end of the book with Scriptures to help defeat shame.
I received a complimentary copy of this book through Read With Audra. My comments are an independent and honest review.
My favorite chapter in the book was the one on shame from the past. I learned a great deal about acceptance, forgiving myself, anger, failure to accept the reality of who I am in Christ, and much more.
The insight that impacted me the most was, “When man rejects us, it might just be an assignment from God.” (53) God might be shocking us into looking again where we are seeking acceptance – not from Him!
This is a great book. If you feel plagued by shame, you will find the principles of healing here. It would be a good book for personal study as there are questions for reflection at the end of each chapter. She also has a section at the end of the book with Scriptures to help defeat shame.
I received a complimentary copy of this book through Read With Audra. My comments are an independent and honest review.
August 21, 2018
This book speaks of the heartbreaking life Denise Pass has had to endure. She reveals truths to why we react with shame to not being accepted for example. She challenges readers to believe what God says about you instead of seeking approval from others. She explains why shame is rooted in fear of man, pride and insecurity which cause us to believe we're not good enough and to feel rejected. She says how you need to read the bible about what God says about you since His opinion is what matters most. She uses biblical truth to show us how to change our beliefs about ourselves. A must read.
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September 25, 2018I decided to read this book because I received a Kindle copy for free in exchange for my review. I didn't expect it to resonate with me as much as I did. Shame is so insidious; it nestles into the corners of my life and makes me feel like this is the new normal. I have to hide who I am because it is shameful. But what a lie this is! When God forgave me, He didn't do so grudgingly, with the intent to hold my wrongs over my head. So when I feel my past being held over my head, I can quickly recognize that it isn't God.
Shame comes from any sources, not just from within. Churches and family members are notorious for expecting perfection, while also knowing our deepest flaws. Unfortunately because so many people wrestle with shame, they don't know how to deal properly with it, so try to sweep things under a rug.
The author shares her story here, and while my story looks nothing like hers, I do know people with broken families or who are abuse victims. After reading this book, I feel equipped to both deal with my own shame and also to help my friends recognize and eradicate the shame form their own lives. God does not intend his people to live bowed down in shame.
Shame comes from any sources, not just from within. Churches and family members are notorious for expecting perfection, while also knowing our deepest flaws. Unfortunately because so many people wrestle with shame, they don't know how to deal properly with it, so try to sweep things under a rug.
The author shares her story here, and while my story looks nothing like hers, I do know people with broken families or who are abuse victims. After reading this book, I feel equipped to both deal with my own shame and also to help my friends recognize and eradicate the shame form their own lives. God does not intend his people to live bowed down in shame.
August 21, 2018
Denise Pass faced an avalanche of shame when her former husband sexually abused one of her children. She faced a difficult divorce, many court appearances, and a lack of support from her church. Through this harrowing situation, Denise turned to her faith in God to sustain her and help her find freedom from the stigma of shame.
Shame can be a heavy subject for a writer to address. But Denise handles it well, balancing the truth with self-effacing stories. She has a goofy sense of humor and often casts her own shame stories in a funny light. Yet she still addresses tough topics with sensitivity.
While reading Denise’s stories, God helped me uncover some hidden areas of shame in my heart. Even though they aren’t the same struggles Denise described, her stories helped me turn to God for comfort and insight. I’m grateful that this book helped me deal with areas that I didn’t realize were affecting me.
She grounds her book in biblical truth, helping you learn how to overcome shame through the power of God’s Word. She also shows you how Jesus endured the worst shame possible on your behalf. He identifies with you and will lift you up out of your shame. He will give you a new identity that has no room for shameful labels anymore.
While you read this book, your spirit will be lifted as you realize God is your comforter and strength in your own shame stories.
Favorite Quotes from Shame Off You
“When our work and lives are truly focused on serving the Audience of One, we don’t fear shame or seek accolades, we want just His glory alone.”
“The root of our shame is formed by a fear of rejection and cultivated by comparison.”
“Rather than letting shame turn into resentment, hurt, or bitter feelings, we can powerfully choose to forgive those who shamed us and pray for them. Their shaming does not apply to us unless we let it.”
“The need to be able to process shame biblically is crucial in a social media-rich society.”
“There is no shame on us for who we uniquely are. God gave us all the worth we will ever need.”
Shame Off You includes a Scripture Reference Guide full of meditation verses for many different aspects of shame, such as anger, comparison, finances and parenting. This helpful guide will enable you to eradicate shame from your thought life.
Abingdon Press and Netgalley graciously provided a review copy of this excellent book for me.
Shame can be a heavy subject for a writer to address. But Denise handles it well, balancing the truth with self-effacing stories. She has a goofy sense of humor and often casts her own shame stories in a funny light. Yet she still addresses tough topics with sensitivity.
While reading Denise’s stories, God helped me uncover some hidden areas of shame in my heart. Even though they aren’t the same struggles Denise described, her stories helped me turn to God for comfort and insight. I’m grateful that this book helped me deal with areas that I didn’t realize were affecting me.
She grounds her book in biblical truth, helping you learn how to overcome shame through the power of God’s Word. She also shows you how Jesus endured the worst shame possible on your behalf. He identifies with you and will lift you up out of your shame. He will give you a new identity that has no room for shameful labels anymore.
While you read this book, your spirit will be lifted as you realize God is your comforter and strength in your own shame stories.
Favorite Quotes from Shame Off You
“When our work and lives are truly focused on serving the Audience of One, we don’t fear shame or seek accolades, we want just His glory alone.”
“The root of our shame is formed by a fear of rejection and cultivated by comparison.”
“Rather than letting shame turn into resentment, hurt, or bitter feelings, we can powerfully choose to forgive those who shamed us and pray for them. Their shaming does not apply to us unless we let it.”
“The need to be able to process shame biblically is crucial in a social media-rich society.”
“There is no shame on us for who we uniquely are. God gave us all the worth we will ever need.”
Shame Off You includes a Scripture Reference Guide full of meditation verses for many different aspects of shame, such as anger, comparison, finances and parenting. This helpful guide will enable you to eradicate shame from your thought life.
Abingdon Press and Netgalley graciously provided a review copy of this excellent book for me.
August 20, 2019
I will begin by stating that the idea of not living in shame is great. However, this book is a far cry from what the title promises. I have three main issues with the book and I am just going to list them out and then explain each one.
1.) Ashamed vs. Shame
I found this book to be an egregious misuse of the English language as an effort to build a platform. Pass states that "Shame is an assault on the core of who we are. It assassinates our character, minimizes our worth, and dashes our hope."
None of that is accurate.
There is a difference between shame and ashamed... but Ashamed off You doesn't look as good on a cover. Shame by dictionary definition is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. Shame is feeling, it is not some mythical monster lurking in the corner waiting to beat you up. For a full understanding of shamed versus ashamed check out this link. Pass says that she was shamed for her husband's behavior and that his why she had to learn to get shame off of her. The reality was, she isn't shamed. She is ashamed of his behavior, but she herself was not shamed.
2.) Trigger Warning
There is absolutely nothing in the introduction or on the cover that let the reader know that this book deals with sexual sin. While the cover tells us that Pass finds out that her husband is a sexual offender, it doesn't warn that she walks the reader through the discovery and many details of the situation. If you are someone that has experienced trauma and is dealing with the emotional triggers of it, I would stay far away from this book.
3.) Daughter's Permission
I take a real issue with a mother writing what is essentially a tell-all about the abuse her daughter suffered. I could not find a note from her daughter granting permission for Denise to tell this story in the book or on the website. This is especially concerning to me, the idea that this woman is making money off of a story that is only partly hers and in which she is supposed to be protecting her child.
Overall, I give Shame Off You by Denise Pass a very low C and if I had a lower rating I would use it. I do not recommend this book by any means.
I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest and unbiased review. All opinions are my own.
1.) Ashamed vs. Shame
I found this book to be an egregious misuse of the English language as an effort to build a platform. Pass states that "Shame is an assault on the core of who we are. It assassinates our character, minimizes our worth, and dashes our hope."
None of that is accurate.
There is a difference between shame and ashamed... but Ashamed off You doesn't look as good on a cover. Shame by dictionary definition is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. Shame is feeling, it is not some mythical monster lurking in the corner waiting to beat you up. For a full understanding of shamed versus ashamed check out this link. Pass says that she was shamed for her husband's behavior and that his why she had to learn to get shame off of her. The reality was, she isn't shamed. She is ashamed of his behavior, but she herself was not shamed.
2.) Trigger Warning
There is absolutely nothing in the introduction or on the cover that let the reader know that this book deals with sexual sin. While the cover tells us that Pass finds out that her husband is a sexual offender, it doesn't warn that she walks the reader through the discovery and many details of the situation. If you are someone that has experienced trauma and is dealing with the emotional triggers of it, I would stay far away from this book.
3.) Daughter's Permission
I take a real issue with a mother writing what is essentially a tell-all about the abuse her daughter suffered. I could not find a note from her daughter granting permission for Denise to tell this story in the book or on the website. This is especially concerning to me, the idea that this woman is making money off of a story that is only partly hers and in which she is supposed to be protecting her child.
Overall, I give Shame Off You by Denise Pass a very low C and if I had a lower rating I would use it. I do not recommend this book by any means.
I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest and unbiased review. All opinions are my own.
August 21, 2018
Denise Pass has such a wonderful way of sharing her life’s stories and incorporating godly wisdom in her book, “Shame off you”. As a child that has faced similar trials and tribulations, we tend to carry shame long into our adult life. It is almost as if it becomes “normal” and that’s the lens we view ourselves and others through. I love the various scriptural references and stories that walks alongside her message of shame to show that this is something that many people in humanity have battled with from the beginning of time.
She offers practical tips and wisdom on how to recognize shame in its tracks and the steps we can take through God’s Word to renew our minds. Most importantly, the humbleness it requires to stop and examine your heart in why it may be there. There is a difference with conviction and condemnation and she voices that in the Christians life we are free from condemnation and other people’s perceptions of us. We can replace shame filled identity with our identity in Christ.
We are also taught about the many faces of shame and areas it shows up in that we may not be aware. It was very helpful and applicable to my life as I’ve dealt with the hidden effects of shame for majority of my life. Some areas I wasn’t even aware of until I read this book. We can carry shame from traumatic events, failures and mistakes, or in our parenting of our own children. Sometimes we are just down right mean to ourselves as far as not being “good enough”. She explains that we live in a shame filled culture that’s full of comparison and judgement, so its easy to find yourself in the bondage of past failures and mistakes, or not doing what others feel you should do. Thank you Jesus for the freedom that we can experience in casting our cares upon You! I can now take the appropriate steps to bring certain areas of my life to God and pray for healing. This was a great and timely read in my life.
She offers practical tips and wisdom on how to recognize shame in its tracks and the steps we can take through God’s Word to renew our minds. Most importantly, the humbleness it requires to stop and examine your heart in why it may be there. There is a difference with conviction and condemnation and she voices that in the Christians life we are free from condemnation and other people’s perceptions of us. We can replace shame filled identity with our identity in Christ.
We are also taught about the many faces of shame and areas it shows up in that we may not be aware. It was very helpful and applicable to my life as I’ve dealt with the hidden effects of shame for majority of my life. Some areas I wasn’t even aware of until I read this book. We can carry shame from traumatic events, failures and mistakes, or in our parenting of our own children. Sometimes we are just down right mean to ourselves as far as not being “good enough”. She explains that we live in a shame filled culture that’s full of comparison and judgement, so its easy to find yourself in the bondage of past failures and mistakes, or not doing what others feel you should do. Thank you Jesus for the freedom that we can experience in casting our cares upon You! I can now take the appropriate steps to bring certain areas of my life to God and pray for healing. This was a great and timely read in my life.
September 5, 2018
“Hidden things have a way of becoming found. Ready or not.” This quote has struck me like a bolt of lightening and continued to stay with me day in and day out through the pre-launch to the present. I met Denise late December early January of this year. She became our new worship leader at my church. She shared with us that she was writing a book titled “Shame Off You”. I saw an ad where I could preorder so, I thought I would be nice and supportive I and preordered two books. From then to now I have been able to get to know her and some of her family. As I learned more about the Shame of You book; the more I could not wait to get my hands on it, I really was struggling with spiritual warfare and I needed to work through some other hurts from years past. I was asked to be on the prelaunch team and I said, “I don’t have a huge social media presence to assist you in this launch. I have nothing to offer.” Others always see what you have to offer even you don’t especially when God is in the driver’s seat. Needless, to say I said yes to the prelaunch team and can I say WOW. This was the biggest game of Hide and Seek I have ever played in my life. Shame lurks in the shadows, around the corner, behind a tree, deep within your memory bank. Shame jumps out and startles you. Shame comes in all shapes, forms, and emotions. Once, that Shame tags you… RUN (not away) … RUN (to and through it) … RUN (head on) … to GOD. HE is always at HOME BASE. God will counsel you. In turn you should be still, listen, breathe and move forward.
2 Corinthians 4:3 (Berean Literal Bible) “But we have renounced the hidden things of shame, not walking in craftiness nor falsifying the word of God, but by manifestation of the truth, commending ourselves to every man’s conscience before God.”
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2 Corinthians 4:3 (Berean Literal Bible) “But we have renounced the hidden things of shame, not walking in craftiness nor falsifying the word of God, but by manifestation of the truth, commending ourselves to every man’s conscience before God.”
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August 8, 2019
In Shame Off You, author Denise Pass seeks to empower readers to live a shame-free life. Since reading Shame Off You, I’ve had moments in which I catch myself entertaining certain thoughts (usually something said by someone else) and realize that I don’t have to indulge the shame. Shame off me. I repeat it out loud and give myself permission to let it go. Shame Off You has helped me become more conscious of the shame and negativity floating in my mind.
In Shame Off You, Denise Pass shares glimpses of her personal story as she addresses her topic. Due to my life circumstances, I expected to be strongly connected with the things she wrote. Chapter one grabbed my attention in a strong start, but I found chapter two confusing. I think this chapter would have benefited by clearly defining certain terms (shame, condemnation, conviction, etc). As it was, I restarted at the beginning of the book in case I had missed something, but didn’t find further clarification. For a few chapters, I felt disconnected from the book. Then, somewhere in the middle, things clicked and I began to absorb the powerful truths presented.
As I mentioned before, I benefited from reading Shame Off You by Denise Pass. So much truth about human experience lies within the pages and I soaked it in. Denise Pass writes with honesty about many issues that are related to shame (rejection, comparison, sin, failure, etc). I recommend Shame Off You to anyone dealing with shame and its far-reaching effects.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I was provided a copy of this book by the publisher. All opinions in this review are my own.
In Shame Off You, Denise Pass shares glimpses of her personal story as she addresses her topic. Due to my life circumstances, I expected to be strongly connected with the things she wrote. Chapter one grabbed my attention in a strong start, but I found chapter two confusing. I think this chapter would have benefited by clearly defining certain terms (shame, condemnation, conviction, etc). As it was, I restarted at the beginning of the book in case I had missed something, but didn’t find further clarification. For a few chapters, I felt disconnected from the book. Then, somewhere in the middle, things clicked and I began to absorb the powerful truths presented.
As I mentioned before, I benefited from reading Shame Off You by Denise Pass. So much truth about human experience lies within the pages and I soaked it in. Denise Pass writes with honesty about many issues that are related to shame (rejection, comparison, sin, failure, etc). I recommend Shame Off You to anyone dealing with shame and its far-reaching effects.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I was provided a copy of this book by the publisher. All opinions in this review are my own.
August 19, 2019
This book was born out of an exremely painful period in Denise Pass's life and she has chosen to share her experiences and her journey so that others can benefit. As I read about the traumatic circumstances that touched her family I was sickened that she and her children suffered so much and felt so ashamed. This is a book about shame but it's not with a 'shame on you' mentality; instead, this author is instructing readers how to get rid of those feelings and get the 'shame off you'.
I am very impressed with Pass's transparency as she shares her hurts, her feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, and finally her realization that God is bigger than all of this! In reading her book I recognized that all of us have experienced feelings of shame and the only difference is in the type of shame and the depth of our feelings about that shame.
There are so many reasons why I liked this book. The accounts of personal experiences, the devotions and the prayers at the end of each chapter, and the Reference Guide at the end of the book with its abundant supply of God's Word that is applicable to the different types of shame we experience.
Some of the subject matter in this book certainly isn't easy to read but Pass has made it easy to understand and she has been very honest about her feelings of failure and rejection. I believe Shame Off You will be a valuable resource for both personal use and church study groups. It offers support, encouragement, and confirmation that God and His Grace are truly the key to escape 'from hiding to healing'.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher. I am voluntarily sharing my honest thoughts in this review.
I am very impressed with Pass's transparency as she shares her hurts, her feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, and finally her realization that God is bigger than all of this! In reading her book I recognized that all of us have experienced feelings of shame and the only difference is in the type of shame and the depth of our feelings about that shame.
There are so many reasons why I liked this book. The accounts of personal experiences, the devotions and the prayers at the end of each chapter, and the Reference Guide at the end of the book with its abundant supply of God's Word that is applicable to the different types of shame we experience.
Some of the subject matter in this book certainly isn't easy to read but Pass has made it easy to understand and she has been very honest about her feelings of failure and rejection. I believe Shame Off You will be a valuable resource for both personal use and church study groups. It offers support, encouragement, and confirmation that God and His Grace are truly the key to escape 'from hiding to healing'.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher. I am voluntarily sharing my honest thoughts in this review.
August 18, 2019
I am in awe of the author’s ability to be vulnerable and share her story in order to help and encourage others when dealing with their own version of shame. Her emotions are real and raw. Denise Pass openly shares her experience of shame when her ex-husband sexually abused their thirteen year old daughter. What made matters worse, was that she did not receive the support that she needed from her church during a time of turmoil and trauma.
Her story is guided deeply in Scripture. She writes about shame that is relatable as we all experience shame in our own individualized ways. Each chapter ends with a review and reflection, reflection questions, an opportunity to “name your shame—and let it go”, a devotional and a prayer. Her book is thoughtfully structured and organized. I think the most important part in her book is where she discerns condemnation from conviction. When we can distinguish and identify the differences between the two, only then are we “able to hear the voice of God when shame calls our name” (Pass, 2018, p. 24). What is unique about this book is that the author includes a reference guide at the end of her book which lists various topics of shame, its roots (where our feeling of shame stems from) and its cure (what we can do to overcome shame).
I rate this book 5 starts out of 5. If you are looking for healing and validation, this book would be a great start to read. I believe that the Bible is our main guide and it was helpful for me to have it with me as I read the book.
*Note: I was given a free copy and all views are my own.
Her story is guided deeply in Scripture. She writes about shame that is relatable as we all experience shame in our own individualized ways. Each chapter ends with a review and reflection, reflection questions, an opportunity to “name your shame—and let it go”, a devotional and a prayer. Her book is thoughtfully structured and organized. I think the most important part in her book is where she discerns condemnation from conviction. When we can distinguish and identify the differences between the two, only then are we “able to hear the voice of God when shame calls our name” (Pass, 2018, p. 24). What is unique about this book is that the author includes a reference guide at the end of her book which lists various topics of shame, its roots (where our feeling of shame stems from) and its cure (what we can do to overcome shame).
I rate this book 5 starts out of 5. If you are looking for healing and validation, this book would be a great start to read. I believe that the Bible is our main guide and it was helpful for me to have it with me as I read the book.
*Note: I was given a free copy and all views are my own.
August 26, 2019
How often do you think about shame and how it has affected you? If I had to guess, I’d say it’s not very often.
Why is that?
Because, as humans, we don’t like to think about shame. We sweep it under the rug or, worse, we deflect it on to someone else.
Shame Off You takes a critical look at shame and how to overcome it.
The word itself evokes emotions that often cause us to shy away. Shame can cause us to hide from others and ourselves. To what purpose? The devil is out to destroy us as Christians. What better way than to make us feel unloved and unlovable.
If you’ve ever wanted to overcome your feelings of shame, I recommend this book for you.
The gentle guidance and walkthrough of the journey from shame to belonging is quite remarkable.
Denise writes about shame stealing our identity, and it really hit me how true this is for my life. I’m often ashamed. Of how I look. Of the things happening in my life. I’ve held them tightly to my chest, hoping no one else would see what I’ve been trying to hide. No more.
The hardest truth: shame is a hamster wheel. We will constantly work our way around the wheel. Even when we successfully release shame, it will try to come back. Like sin, we must always be on guard for shame to return.
Shame Off You, Friends!
I requested a copy of this book from Read With Audra. I was not required to leave a positive review. All thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.
Why is that?
Because, as humans, we don’t like to think about shame. We sweep it under the rug or, worse, we deflect it on to someone else.
Shame Off You takes a critical look at shame and how to overcome it.
The word itself evokes emotions that often cause us to shy away. Shame can cause us to hide from others and ourselves. To what purpose? The devil is out to destroy us as Christians. What better way than to make us feel unloved and unlovable.
If you’ve ever wanted to overcome your feelings of shame, I recommend this book for you.
The gentle guidance and walkthrough of the journey from shame to belonging is quite remarkable.
Denise writes about shame stealing our identity, and it really hit me how true this is for my life. I’m often ashamed. Of how I look. Of the things happening in my life. I’ve held them tightly to my chest, hoping no one else would see what I’ve been trying to hide. No more.
The hardest truth: shame is a hamster wheel. We will constantly work our way around the wheel. Even when we successfully release shame, it will try to come back. Like sin, we must always be on guard for shame to return.
Shame Off You, Friends!
I requested a copy of this book from Read With Audra. I was not required to leave a positive review. All thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.
August 19, 2019
Oh boy.
I had no idea who Denise Pass was before picking up this book. And, frankly, I wondered what story she had that prompted her writing it.
The answer came almost immediately. And it wasn’t what I expected…it was worse.
She knows, folks. Pass knows about shame. She lived it. She saw it. And she came to know the all-powerful, all-redeeming love of Jesus Christ amidst and in spite of it.
If you think your shame is too much, too big, for God to forgive, redeem, work through, or something else, read this book. (With a Bible next to you too. And maybe some Kleenex and a journal.)
Beautifully written and heartbreakingly real and raw, Shame Off You challenges readers to take a deep dive into God’s love and go “further up, and further in” (to quote C.S. Lewis). Each chapter includes a devotional and questions to prompt further reflection. A 25-page reference guide at the end provides helpful topical resources and corresponding Bible verses.
I’ll definitely revisit this book in years to come. I so appreciate having the hard copy (over an ebook — much as I love mah ebooks!) — so I can either reread straight through, or flip through the resources at the end.
I received a copy of the book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
I had no idea who Denise Pass was before picking up this book. And, frankly, I wondered what story she had that prompted her writing it.
The answer came almost immediately. And it wasn’t what I expected…it was worse.
She knows, folks. Pass knows about shame. She lived it. She saw it. And she came to know the all-powerful, all-redeeming love of Jesus Christ amidst and in spite of it.
If you think your shame is too much, too big, for God to forgive, redeem, work through, or something else, read this book. (With a Bible next to you too. And maybe some Kleenex and a journal.)
Beautifully written and heartbreakingly real and raw, Shame Off You challenges readers to take a deep dive into God’s love and go “further up, and further in” (to quote C.S. Lewis). Each chapter includes a devotional and questions to prompt further reflection. A 25-page reference guide at the end provides helpful topical resources and corresponding Bible verses.
I’ll definitely revisit this book in years to come. I so appreciate having the hard copy (over an ebook — much as I love mah ebooks!) — so I can either reread straight through, or flip through the resources at the end.
I received a copy of the book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
August 21, 2018
Be prepared to have your heart and mind opened and filled! The result will be a freshness and freedom you may be dying for.
Denise Pass writes with wisdom from her own experience and you are drawn in to hear (read) every word. As though she were with you at your kitchen table sharing coffee, her writing style is so personal and intimate that the reader quickly makes friends with their book. But Denise also writes with such Biblical wisdom that your soul is likewise edified. She shares scriptures that you may have read a million times but now they illuminate truth that opens cages and breaks shackles.
Besides just being a great read Denise recaps (for you) important take-a-ways as she closes each chapter. She then gets you to reflect by posing questions worth answering for yourself. The added devotional and guided prayer that follows the chapters make this more than a book and worth more than its weight in paper and ink. There is insight in her writing and healing to be found chapter after chapter and page after page. You won’t want to put it down and you will likely want to pass it on.
Get this amazing book as a gift for yourself or someone you love.
Denise Pass writes with wisdom from her own experience and you are drawn in to hear (read) every word. As though she were with you at your kitchen table sharing coffee, her writing style is so personal and intimate that the reader quickly makes friends with their book. But Denise also writes with such Biblical wisdom that your soul is likewise edified. She shares scriptures that you may have read a million times but now they illuminate truth that opens cages and breaks shackles.
Besides just being a great read Denise recaps (for you) important take-a-ways as she closes each chapter. She then gets you to reflect by posing questions worth answering for yourself. The added devotional and guided prayer that follows the chapters make this more than a book and worth more than its weight in paper and ink. There is insight in her writing and healing to be found chapter after chapter and page after page. You won’t want to put it down and you will likely want to pass it on.
Get this amazing book as a gift for yourself or someone you love.
August 24, 2018
A Valuable Guide For Conquering Shame
Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing, by Denise Pass, is an indispensable book for dealing with and conquering shame. Shame Off You gives me the hope and tools I need to overcome the stronghold of shame. I learned that shame is a much larger problem than most would like to admit. While its effects can seem debilitating, there is a way out. The way out is through Christ alone. Through Him, we have all we need to get past shame and move forward into hope and healing. Denise Pass has written a valuable book that guides readers to freedom, health, clear thinking and true peace.
I learned that although I have felt shame, it is not who I am; shame does not define me, nor is it my life sentence. Denise Pass shares her own personal struggles shame, and guides readers to a better way: a way of strength, courage, and truth.
I very highly recommend Shame Off You. Everyone needs to read this book and find the hope that changes lives.
*I received an Advanced Reader's Copy of Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing, from the publisher. The opinion stated is my own. I have not been compensated in any way.*
Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing, by Denise Pass, is an indispensable book for dealing with and conquering shame. Shame Off You gives me the hope and tools I need to overcome the stronghold of shame. I learned that shame is a much larger problem than most would like to admit. While its effects can seem debilitating, there is a way out. The way out is through Christ alone. Through Him, we have all we need to get past shame and move forward into hope and healing. Denise Pass has written a valuable book that guides readers to freedom, health, clear thinking and true peace.
I learned that although I have felt shame, it is not who I am; shame does not define me, nor is it my life sentence. Denise Pass shares her own personal struggles shame, and guides readers to a better way: a way of strength, courage, and truth.
I very highly recommend Shame Off You. Everyone needs to read this book and find the hope that changes lives.
*I received an Advanced Reader's Copy of Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing, from the publisher. The opinion stated is my own. I have not been compensated in any way.*
October 28, 2018
Shame has been a part of my story for the majority of my adult life, but I didn't really know why or what the Bible had to say about it. I am so glad I picked up this book! Denise has helped me to see that I was trying to deal with my shame by filling my life with coping mechanisms instead of allowing the Holy Spirit to fill and heal me. Utilizing what Denise calls a "three-pronged biblical approach" consisting of truth, humility, and grace, I have now been able to identify the sources of my shame and am finally able to face them and find freedom from them. Denise's own story is inspiring and I appreciate the additional reflection questions and the beautiful devotionals she includes at the end of each chapter, for they helped me to wrestle with/apply the biblical truths she presents and "to name my shame and let it go." Shame has lied to me, but now I see myself as God sees me and am experiencing the healing and confidence that He desires for me to have. This is a must read!
*I received an Advanced Reader's Copy of Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing, from the publisher. I received no compensation for this review. The opinions stated here are my own.
*I received an Advanced Reader's Copy of Shame Off You: From Hiding to Healing, from the publisher. I received no compensation for this review. The opinions stated here are my own.
August 21, 2018
I hadn't read this author before but I'm glad I was able to read this book. She helps us recognize the many voices of shame that are all around us. She shares about shame in her own life. She shares how we don't often see the shame we are receiving or giving out. There are scriptures in the book to help one balance shame in light of the Truth and use the healing process from the darkness of shame, to help shed light into our own lives as well as others. We've all been exposed to shame at one time or another, if you're ready to shake the Shame Off You I'd recommend starting with this book.
A few of my favorite quotes in the book are:
It's the unspoken pains that are often the biggest source of shame.
Rejection is a part of life. Acceptance is a part of faith. So let go of other's definition of you and pick up God's instead.
God's definition of us overrides man's.
When we live for an Audience of One, the voices of shame all around us get quieter.
I received an advance readers copy of this book. Thankful to share my thoughts on this book
A few of my favorite quotes in the book are:
It's the unspoken pains that are often the biggest source of shame.
Rejection is a part of life. Acceptance is a part of faith. So let go of other's definition of you and pick up God's instead.
God's definition of us overrides man's.
When we live for an Audience of One, the voices of shame all around us get quieter.
I received an advance readers copy of this book. Thankful to share my thoughts on this book
September 29, 2019
I received a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
I really appreciated the author's vulnerability and willingness to discuss the difficult situation of being married to someone who was then found to be sexually abusing their child. I am always thankful for Christians who are willing to take up the topics that are more "taboo" in society and the church. As much as I loved the way she counters lies with scriptural truth, I found the book to be a little repetitive. Overall, I would recommend this book to people who have been in a similar circumstance as the author - when someone else's behavior or choice has made you feel ashamed. This is not necessarily the best book for someone whose OWN behavior or choices have made them feel guilty or ashamed. In her book, the author is clear that her shame was largely caused by her husband's behavior, not anything that she herself did.
I really appreciated the author's vulnerability and willingness to discuss the difficult situation of being married to someone who was then found to be sexually abusing their child. I am always thankful for Christians who are willing to take up the topics that are more "taboo" in society and the church. As much as I loved the way she counters lies with scriptural truth, I found the book to be a little repetitive. Overall, I would recommend this book to people who have been in a similar circumstance as the author - when someone else's behavior or choice has made you feel ashamed. This is not necessarily the best book for someone whose OWN behavior or choices have made them feel guilty or ashamed. In her book, the author is clear that her shame was largely caused by her husband's behavior, not anything that she herself did.
October 21, 2018
Shame Off You
From Hiding to Healing
by Denise Pass
Abingdon Press
Christian , Religion & Spirituality
Pub Date 21 Aug 2018
I am reviewing a copy of Shame Off You through Abongdon Press and Netgalley:
In this book we are reminded that shame is an assault of who we are at the very core. Shame is not something we are born with but in fact it is something we learn, and shame can stiffle our very existence.
We often experience shame due to trauma, something we can not help but yet sometimes we are made to feel shame.
The author address the importance of addressing shame in order to move past it and to experience redemption, because hiding it just allows the shame to grow.
We are also reminded that if we shut down shame without examining what we are feeling we aren't going to be healed.
I give Shame Off You five out of five stars!
Happy Reading!
August 15, 2019
I have read several books on this and similar topics this year as part of my focus on my word of the year, which is CONTENT--learning to be content with who I am, what I have, and all the circumstances of my life. However, this one has been the best read by far, resonating with me time and again, as well as giving me a lot of food for thought.
The author shares honestly about things in her own life that brought shame to her, as well as how God has taken that shame off her. She also shares Scripture which helped her to see that she was not meant to carry that shame.
Anyone who has ever carried shame about their past and wants to know how to overcome it should definitely pick up a copy of this book.
The author shares honestly about things in her own life that brought shame to her, as well as how God has taken that shame off her. She also shares Scripture which helped her to see that she was not meant to carry that shame.
Anyone who has ever carried shame about their past and wants to know how to overcome it should definitely pick up a copy of this book.
August 23, 2018
Shame Off You is an honest, brave and heartfelt look into a difficult subject matter. Everyone carries shame, whether they’re willing to admit it or not. Dealing with that shame, in a Biblical manner, can set you free. Denise Pass shares the hard circumstances in her life that brought shame, regret, embarrassment, and heartbreak. Turning to the ONLY source of healing, Jesus Christ, she discovered that with His guidance, and His Word, she could not only break the chains that were binding her, but help others to be free from shame…..for good! This book is a MUST READ for anyone who wants to be free from the paralyzing effects of shame! Perfect for a women’s Bible study too!
August 30, 2018
I am a Pastor and worked personally with Denise. She is the real deal. This book is honest and raw and it opens the door for women (and men) to have conversations about the shame we carry in our lives. She outlines all the different types of shame, shares her humorous and difficult life experiences, and undergirds the whole book with Scripture. This book will be a means of healing to so many people. This would be a good book to use in a book club as well as for a church small group. It would also be a wonderful gift to give to a friend you know was or is experiencing intense shame in their lives. I wholeheartedly recommended it!
August 31, 2018
Do you deal with Shame?? Isn’t it time to be free??
That someone would be willing to open up and share this story show that healing can come to those who are hurt. We don’t have to stay in this place because God breaks shame off of us. When we begin to understand the enemy is the one who tries to keep us in the bondage of shame then we can begin to walk out of it and into freedom.
Don’t stay where you are! Allow God to heal your heart and take the Shame off. Maybe this is the book that will help you walk free.
What a necessary book!!
I received an advanced copy from publisher. This is my honest opinion!
That someone would be willing to open up and share this story show that healing can come to those who are hurt. We don’t have to stay in this place because God breaks shame off of us. When we begin to understand the enemy is the one who tries to keep us in the bondage of shame then we can begin to walk out of it and into freedom.
Don’t stay where you are! Allow God to heal your heart and take the Shame off. Maybe this is the book that will help you walk free.
What a necessary book!!
I received an advanced copy from publisher. This is my honest opinion!
September 24, 2018
When I read the title of this book, I knew right away that this book would change my life and many others. Shame is a topic that can be difficult to address but Denise handles the topic so well and shares some powerful truths in this book. She says in the book that "We will never be set free from shame unless we are willing to face it head on." This is exactly what she did and is inspiring her readers to do the same.
I really enjoy the Devotion and prayer section at the end of each Chapter. It allows the reader to slow down and process. A truly remarkable book that I encourage anyone dealing with the issue of shame to pick up!
I really enjoy the Devotion and prayer section at the end of each Chapter. It allows the reader to slow down and process. A truly remarkable book that I encourage anyone dealing with the issue of shame to pick up!
August 11, 2019
This book was enlightening and refreshing. It addresses what most people, Christian or non-Christian at some point in their lives have to battle with, shame. It's a hard and lonely process and sometimes we just don't know how to handle or cope with it.
I truly believe this book will help guide many people on how to recognize the signs of shame, and how to cope with it, how to understand it and most importantly how to heal and recover from it. Shame can be traumatic, it can trigger intense anxiety, it can bring back horrible memories, and sometimes, and most times all we can do is break down and cry. We feel so helpless on how to make it stop.
I truly believe this book will help guide many people on how to recognize the signs of shame, and how to cope with it, how to understand it and most importantly how to heal and recover from it. Shame can be traumatic, it can trigger intense anxiety, it can bring back horrible memories, and sometimes, and most times all we can do is break down and cry. We feel so helpless on how to make it stop.
August 21, 2018
Do you have shame in your life? Must of us do. Shame caused from what others have done to us or from what we have done to others or even to ourselves. But God doesn't want us to live in shame. It's not of Him.
In this book Denise Pass shares openly and honestly the things that have brought shame to her and how God delivered her from that shame. Along the way she shares scripture that God has given her that helped her to get shame off her.
Have shame? Shame off you is possible!
I highly recommend this book.
I received an advanced reader copy for my honest review of this book
In this book Denise Pass shares openly and honestly the things that have brought shame to her and how God delivered her from that shame. Along the way she shares scripture that God has given her that helped her to get shame off her.
Have shame? Shame off you is possible!
I highly recommend this book.
I received an advanced reader copy for my honest review of this book
August 21, 2018
“It has been said that what we think on, we are.” This is one of the many sentences that pierced my mind and heart while reading this book. Denise did an amazing job in balancing her own personal stories of shame and helping the reader to understand how to fight shame. This is a great book for anyone who has endured shame and needs to learn how to overcome it. Denise’s story is not a pretty one but her story and the scriptures she uses will inspire you to kick shame to the curb in your own life.
August 22, 2018
I love how Denise is not afraid to say everyone has shame; often we don't recognize it. I also love how she is not afraid to say hard things like how leaders in a church can produce shame in others. No one wants to admit the church can be a place of hurt! Thank you, Denise, for not being afraid to say hard things. Denise shares bits and pieces of her story in her book. My favorite part of her book is at the end of the chapter where she keeps a summary of your key takeaways! I love love love this addition.
September 18, 2018
Shame Off You, from hiding to healing by Denise Pass
Have you ever heard the words “Shame on you?” The shame we carry often comes from our childhood and manifests in our adult lives in various ways. Denise shares from her heart the shame she bore for her ex-husband having abused one of her children, and the lack of support from her church was unreal. She will lead you through simple and strong steps to get this shame off of you! Scripturally sound. Easy to read. God can and will redeem your story too.
Have you ever heard the words “Shame on you?” The shame we carry often comes from our childhood and manifests in our adult lives in various ways. Denise shares from her heart the shame she bore for her ex-husband having abused one of her children, and the lack of support from her church was unreal. She will lead you through simple and strong steps to get this shame off of you! Scripturally sound. Easy to read. God can and will redeem your story too.
September 2, 2018
Name Your Shame And Let It Go!
Shame Off You is real and filled with encouragement. Denise takes us along on her God journey from shame to freedom with truth talk and transparency. Each chapter concludes with reflection questions, a devotional, and a prayer. She also invites the reader "into a family that accepts you--shame and all" with access for community through her website and Shame Off You Facebook page. Wanna kick shame to the curb? Get this awesome inspirational book!
Shame Off You is real and filled with encouragement. Denise takes us along on her God journey from shame to freedom with truth talk and transparency. Each chapter concludes with reflection questions, a devotional, and a prayer. She also invites the reader "into a family that accepts you--shame and all" with access for community through her website and Shame Off You Facebook page. Wanna kick shame to the curb? Get this awesome inspirational book!
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