I love TNH, but sometimes he's a little tone-deaf toward cultures different than his own or his own life experiences. Some of the suggestions are great, but others, while well-meaning, just will not work in many work places, no way. If I told some arrogant jackass at work that I'm suffering because of him and I'd like us to work on it, he'd laugh in my face and probably gang up on me with his similar-minded bully friends. If countries didn't have weapons, they'd be bullied and taken over, and the people probably suppressed and/or otherwise treated horrifically simply because the other country could get away with it. It's a sad world where things like this can and do happen, but that's the reality. We do need to be as peaceful, honest and forthright as possible but it's imprudent to believe and live as if others will conduct themselves by our standards of peace at all cost. We must protect ourselves when necessary, and, unfortunately, that could mean practicing un-Buddhist-like actions and processes. But isn't protecting yourself a practice of honoring the self? Honoring a more peaceful, loving, compassionate existence? It seems to me a balance must be struck after considerable contemplation.