Men Like Women Who Like Themselves:

by Steven Carter, Julia Sokol

Even the smartest women play dumb when it comes to relationships. They make the same mistakes over and over again; they fall for the same kind of guys; and they cry to the same friends when, inevitably, the relationship goes sour. Bestselling authors Steven Carter and Julia Sokol have written the book for every woman who would like to be smarter when it comes to affairs of the heart-- Men Like Women Who Like Themselves .



With the candor, compassion, and expert advice that marked their bestseller What Smart Women Know, Carter and Sokol provide the essential insights all women need to know in order to forge healthy, committed relationships. Based on the simple but powerful notion that a lasting relationship means putting yourself first, that true love can only spring from self-love, Men Like Women Who Like Themselves is a trove of relationship wisdom for today's woman.

Genres: Psychology, Relationships, Nonfiction, Self Help

272 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 1996

About the author

Steven A. Carter is an American author of non-fiction, self-help and humor.

A distinguished graduate of Cornell University, member of the Quill and Dagger society, and winner of the William K. Kennedy Dean's Prize for extraordinary academic achievement, Steven A. Carter also holds a Master's Degree in Education and a Master's Degree in Psychology.

Steven Carter was born in New York City and raised in New Hyde Park, New York. He is the author of twenty-seven books, including the New York Times bestseller "Men Who Can't Love" (with co-author Julia Sokol), "What Smart Women Know", and seven other National Bestsellers. Carter coined the phrase "Commitmentphobia" in 1987. He and Sokol are recognized as two of the foremost authorities on the subjects of commitment, fear of commitment, attachment disorders, and narcissistic personality disorder.

In the winter of 2007 "What Smart Women Know" was released in Brazil by Editora Sextante, the publishing company founded by brothers Marcos and Tomas Pereira. "What Smart Women Know" spent 110 weeks on Brazil's top-ten bestseller lists, at one point being the #2 selling book in all of Brazil. "Men Like Women Who Like Themselves" was released in mid-2008 and spent 45 weeks on Brazil's bestseller lists. The Brazilian edition of Men Who Can't Love" was released by Editora Sextante in late 2009, followed by "The Secrets of Self-Esteem" in May 2010 and "This Is How Love Works" in September 2011.

Editora Sextante has sold over two million copies of these Carter/Sokol titles in Brazil since the first release. Editora Sextante is most well known in Brazil for their books by the Dalai Lama, Augusto Cury, and, most recently, Paulo Coehlo.

Prior to beginning his career as an author, Steven Carter was the Director of Tennis at the world-renowned Little Dix Bay Hotel in the British Virgin Islands and Head Tennis Pro at the Dorado Beach Resort in Dorado Beach, Puerto Rico. It has been suggested that some of his Carter's early insights into relationships were formulated during those years. He has also written extensively about the stages of healing he experienced through almost twenty years of his own deeply personal work.

Reviews

[Tammy Walquist · Rating 4 out of 5]

A friend loaned this to me a few months ago, and I've been a little reluctant to read it. It is a book about dating, and maybe that's why I was put off by it. However, as I read the book (which is a fairly fast read, BTW), I discovered it has more to do with relationships as a whole as opposed to simply dating. The information in it can apply to anyone, single, in a relationship, dating or married.

What I like is that it gives examples of people in relationships and/or dating situations and helps explain what the problem is in the situation, for example, communication, control or past issues. It helps you see why relationships are so tricky when both of you bring in any issues developed from past relationships, your family and any insecurities you may have. I was quite inspired as I read it, and I definitely cringed at some parts, seeing myself or tendencies I know I have in them. It made me want to be a better communicator and avoid things like fighting dirty, not truly listening or manipulating.

I would highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about themself and how to increase your chances for having or building a successful relationship.

[Kim · Rating 4 out of 5]

As someone who doesn't have a lot of close male friends or long-term relationship experience, I liked this book a lot. It provided me with the male perspective on a lot of common dating situations. It was also an easy, fast read. This is something I wish I had read in college or even earlier. I enjoyed the "situation ---> lesson" format, and I felt like the authors were honest without being critical or condescending.

[Danielle · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lots of great nuggets of information for the pondering mind regarding relationships - with both men and women. Certainly take everything with a grain of salt, but overall I thought this was a great reflection book on how to build self confidence and well balanced social life.

[Cedahlia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have to say.. This is a must read. It's so true, and yet funny because we've all made crazy mistakes.

[Marzzi · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was written in men's favor. There are a lot of sentences that start with: "Men like women...", just like the title of the book. It basically teaches women to pay attention to what men want instead of encouraging them to be themselves. It made me feel as though relationships are tasks and hard to maintain, where in reality, that's not true. Very shallow and unnecessary, a waste of time. Go watch shows like "Sex and the city" cause even they give better advice then this book.

[Amilyn Strayer · Rating 3 out of 5]

Bryce got this for me when we were doing a book exchange on our last family vacation in TN. This second hand store had so much to offer and he did this one kinda as a joke but also because it was easy because he had already seen me pick it up and put it down after giggling at it. There are so valid relational points between men and women in there but it’s outdated.

[Karah · Rating 4 out of 5]

"The Smartest Woman knows that often the best sex is not spontaneous sex (253)."
Maybe I don't look smart because I want spontaneous sex.

"She wants to know everything about his finances, yet, on the advice of her mother, she maintains a hidden bank account (256)."
YESSSSSSS!!!! I encourage this!!!!

There were helpful points shown in this book. But these two caught my attention for the humorous aspect.

[Camile Souza (This Chamber of Books)]

I have exactly zero idea why I own this book. I don't remember buying it, I don't remember being given it, I don't read self-help books, and personally I don't like the title.

But it is on my shelf so I must keep it accounted for on GR until I get rid of it, cause that's simply how I roll.

[Katka · Rating 3 out of 5]

Pekná knižka, plná zaujímavých myšlienok, ktoré by sa mali aplikovať do každého vzťahu. Hlavná myšlienka je však podstatou. Pokiaľ nemáte dostatok sebavedomia a sebalásky, nebudete schopný udržiavať zdravý partnerský vzťah (a vlastne ani žiadny iný).

[Saba ebrhmzd · Rating 3 out of 5]

کاملا مطمئن شدم که انصافا هیچی راجب این مسائل و روابط نمیدونم
این کتاب که به من کمک کرد چون هم اطلاعاتم اندکه و هم تو این زمینه زیاد مطالعه نمیکردم با این حال خوندنش بیهوده و خالی از لطف نبود

[Jana C. & As Listas ☻ · Rating 2 out of 5]

Chatooooooooooooooooooooo

[Lilly · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book helped me understand my boyfriends point of view and I now understand why our relationship was going into a slump.After reading I feel like we get along so much better, I learned patience,independence, and how to read between the lines when we talk so Im no longer overly sensitive to everything he says,a relationship needs help from both sides to grow and Im happy :) to have found this book when I did.

[Naeemah Huggins · Rating 4 out of 5]

Insightful. Gets right to the heart of our relationships with men. We repeat certain actions over and over with the same types of men and are completely mistified when we have the same negative outcome. It gives the myth and the truth, e.g. Myth: It was love at first sight Truth: it was lust at first sight, and the meeting was convenient. a good read.

[Jessica · Rating 3 out of 5]

Dating Do's and Don'ts. It was kind of odd because it read like one of those peel away desk calendars where you get to read a new joke every day, except with dating advice. Some of it was interesting. In a nutshell, Don't be annoying and you might get a second date!

[Kay Rogal · Rating 5 out of 5]

Steven Carter's 'Men Like Women Who Like Themselves' is an excellent read from start to finish and has you asking, 'Have I done that?'. It is not just a book about relationships, but a book about finding yourself and enjoying who you are as a person, a woman.

[Darice Taipalus · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good for those times when you're unsure of your decisions. It reads like a checklist of sorts. I ended up highlighting the ones I tend to forget and will probably keep the book readily available.

[Ryviera Shayne · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great, forthright book on mistakes women make and what Smart Women really know and do for themselves. Its an easy read with great information!

[Mariann Davis]

yup.

[Fatma rifi]

بعد ما قطعت شوط في الكتاب..الكتاب مناسب\مفيد اكثر للمجتمعات المنفتحة اكثر من مجتمعنا المنفتح..ولكن فيه امور حلو الوحدة تعرفها و هناك امور تنطبق على كل المجتمعات..لهالسبب انا اكمل..تنشوف اخرتها!!

[Melanie Walker · Rating 4 out of 5]

Pretty solid advice about dating and relationships. Easy to read.

[Saeedeh Kamjoo · Rating 5 out of 5]

ئر این کتاب می آموزید که چطور افکار و احساسات مرد زندگی تان را درک کنید.