4.5 stars
The lives of the rich and famous, the titled and the privileged, are not necessarily so great and the Churchill’s did not go unscathed. Mary Lovell has produced a really great account of the lives of this famous family, not in a singular fashion either, but by providing us with accounts of all sorts of people who were in and out of their lives to add richness to this story.
Lovell has studied and researched her subject in great detail, obviously from a rich resource of personal diaries, letters, photos and quotes from latter day family members and those caught up in the whirl of their existence. Their lifestyle was one of the constant struggle to stay in the circles of the ‘upper crust’, with little store other than their wit and charisma to do so, as they were not as fabulously rich as most of those they mixed with.
As usual, we have the men wasting the money and then having to scout around for some rich heiress to marry. At least they did the sensible thing and injected some new genes (and wealth), back into their bloodline by sourcing the odd heiress or two from America. Obviously a win/win for both parties, the Churchill family desperately needing the cash and the American’s seeking the title!
I initially wanted to read this book because of my admiration for Winston Churchill. I was fascinated that from what I had read previously about him I hadn’t picked up on the full extent of his literary talents and how many books and articles he had published. Although self promoting, he was so articulate, intelligent and energetic one cannot help but be drawn to him
Being the son of a second son, he didn’t get a look in on the inheritance of the famous Blenheim estate – however these large estates could also be a millstone around the heir’s neck as Lovell demonstrates.
With the privilege of being born into the upper class also came, particularly for women, the burden of keeping up appearances. This meant marrying for money or position or both and not love, having to produce an heir and a spare (a phrase coined by one of the Churchill wives) and having to provide pleasant company no matter how boring and tedious. For the well educated woman such as Consuelo Churchill (married to Winston’s first cousin Sunny) as she points out while describing a four day hosting of a Royal visit:
"The number of changes of costume was in itself a waste of precious time. To begin with, even breakfast, which was served at 9:30 in the dining room, demanded an elegant costume of velvet or silk. Having seen the men off to their sport, the ladies spent the morning round the fire reading the papers and gossiping. We next changed into tweeds to join the guns for luncheon, which was served in the High Lodge or in a tent. Afterwards we usually accompanied the guns and watched a drive or two before returning home. An elaborate tea gown was donned for tea, after which we played cards or listened to a Viennese band or to the organ until time to dress for dinner when again we adorned ourselves in satin, or brocade, with a great display or jewells ... one was not supposed to wear the same gown twice. That meant sixteen dresses for four days." Pg 152
It is Lovell’s ability to be able to select the most appropriate quote or anecdote to neatly sum up the lifestyle of this family and how they lived under the pressure of keeping their footing within it.
My heart went out to Consuelo (of Vanderbilt pedigree) who was very well educated, did not want to marry Sunny but was manipulated to do so by her ambitious mother and obviously was seen by Sunny’s mother as an answer to their prayers for an injection of wealth into the family in order to sustain their lifestyle and class.
The other burden for this privileged class is that loveless marriages are supposed to be sustained at all costs and that even though one could have discreet affairs, one could still not fall in love! So with Jennie (Winston’s mother) and Consuelo, when they did succumb to their true desires scandal followed them.
This class also had duties to perform for the greater good and they did so on many occasions with great energy and charity, such as when Jennie set up a hospital ship for the wounded men of the Boer war. The thing is, if you have no domestic chores to do, plenty of cash at your disposal so you do not have to work, what else is there to do? There would be many who wouldn’t bother with charity but would be happy to indulge themselves.
With regard to Churchill, my admiration for him has grown for a number of reasons, which became clear through Lovell’s sympathetic approach to this great man.
Although he grew up in a privileged class he was essentially a self made man within those circumstances, earning his own money through talented writing and as an MP. I did not realise the scope of his writing ability in this regard before reading this book.
Secondly, he overcame a neglected (home) abusive childhood (school) without bitterness – he certainly did not appear to dwell on it. How he moved on from his early childhood experiences of emotional neglect from his mother to admire and love her dearly in his adulthood is a lesson to us all.
His energy and talents were, to say the least, amazing. Most importantly he put them to good use for the greater benefit of his country. He didn’t squander his heritage, his talents, his class position and money on women and booze as so many of those around him did.
Winston, being self financed, was also in the privileged position of being able to marry for love albeit he was able to choose from a very elite stable given the circles he mixed in. He is also portrayed by Lovell as a very loving husband and father.
He didn’t like to waste a minute of his day and battled bouts of depression and illness to achieve this through a passion and discipline to make his life count. A primary factor in all this of course, is the love and loyal support his wife provided him throughout their long marriage. She campaigned for him through 15 elections, she was by his side when he needed her and she gave him incredible latitude with regard to his absences due to work and holidays and, most of all, complete trust. He didn’t have to worry himself about domestic affairs whatsoever. He certainly would not have had the time to do so.
Most of all, he is remembered for saving us from Hitler, his greatest achievement.
For anyone wanting to find inspiration, motivation and be in awe of a truly great man, I thoroughly recommend this book. Of course, he is not without faults, but some of the greatest amongst us have the biggest flaws. It is a matter of whether we can overlook such faults to see the greater good and benefit achieved by such people.