Counting On Kindness

by Wendy Lustbader

Seattle mental health counselor Lustbader here compells attention to and sympathy for those who must rely on caregivers for their needs. Stories are related by patients themselves. From incapacitated men and women we learn of the humiliations caused by the loss of autonomy, of the frustrations at not being able to manage on one's own. Accounts from widely different sorts of patients and those who begrudgingly or willingly see to their care provide graphic lessons in sensitivity.

Genres: Disability, Nonfiction

208 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1991

Reviews

[Bethany · Rating 4 out of 5]

Full of gems and stories and practical, invaluable information about visiting and caring for those who are ill and struggling with aging or dependency. We all want to be independent, but does our worth change as we age or face struggles in life? Not at all! Wendy Lustbader carefully lays out some of the concerns faced in today's increasingly independent and aloof society, so that those who wish to see others through eyes of compassion may be better equipped with the tools and perspective to truly care for each other and also gracefully face these challenges themselves.

[Jane · Rating 2 out of 5]

Looking at the end of ones life is not necessarily fun. Death, frailty, illness and general dependence are not topics that I am drawn to. On the contrary, I'm just the person for whom this book is written. The author uses quotes from people on the end of their life cycle to help younger (healthier) readers to understand and thereby become better prepared to make the most of even those last "new" experiences. I learned that only by walking with people who are suffering, can we prepare and make the most of our own last days. Hmmmm.

[Jill · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you have ever had a limiting life situation where someone had to help you, you will value this book. If you have ever had to care for someone else, this book will comfort you. If you are caring for someone else right now and you don't have time to read, ask a friend to read this book and tell you about it. Wendy uses vignettes from people she's served, philosophy she's read and an innate sense of how we can all be better at caring without overwhelming or being overwhelmed. This book will give you another step toward hope and peace in your own skin.

[Kathy]

This was recommended to me by a local social worker.