This is a portion of the larger work, The Approximate Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager. This edition contains the book’s introduction, the entirety of Chapter 4, endnotes for the chapter, index, permissions, and the “about the author” sections. Chapter 4 (“Parenting in the Digital Please Slow Down”) illustrates the inexorable and mutually influencing links between adolescent development, identity, status, and digital media. This chapter represents a paraphrase of a John Culkin’s “Whomever discovered the ongoing, mutually reinforcing effects of digital media on teens, you can be certain it wasn’t a teen.” These days, it’s getting more difficult for the person who discovers these effects to be an adult, either. But many, many very smart people are trying to figure this out, and this chapter will tell you about their work and why I argue that media literacy is the most important kind of education you could possibly give your child if they live in the United States in the 21st century.
Michael Y. Simon, LMFT is the author of The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies That Work with Your Teenager. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Oakland, California. Michael is a sought-after local and national speaker on the subjects of teens and families and has worked with thousands of children, youth and families since 1990. He served for many years as a high school counselor, ran or developed programs that directly served children from birth to 18 and taught psychology, philosophy and religious studies at several American universities.
Michael is also the founder of Practical Help for Parents —a support organization for parents, educators and mental health professionals who work daily in support of adolescents. Most importantly, he’s the proud parent of a sweet, kind, 26 year-old man who, as a teenager, couldn’t be bribed to write a paragraph, and as an adult, would like nothing more than to write for a living. How’s that for neural plasticity?