Ama Como si Nunca te Hubieran Herido: Esperanza, sanidad y el poder de un corazón sincero

by Jentezen Franklin, Cherise Franklin (Contributor), A.J. Gregory (Contributor)

El corazón humano fue creado con una gran capacidad para amar. Pero con eso viene una gran capacidad para sentir dolor. No hay que negar que aquellos que nos aman, los que están más cerca de nosotros,  son quienes pueden herirnos más profundamente. Esa clase de dolor puede ser difícil, si no imposible de superar. Y puede sentirse aún más imposible seguir amando frente a él. Y eso es exactamente lo que estamos llamados a hacer.   Compartiendo su propia historia de dolor personal, el Pastor Jentezen Franklin nos muestra cómo encontrar la fuerza, el valor y la motivación para poner a un lado la herida, ver a otros como Dios los ve, y acercarnos en amor. A través de historias bíblicas y actuales, él discute diferentes tipos de decepciones y angustias en las relaciones, y responde a preguntas ¿Por qué debo confiar otra vez? ¿Cómo podré alguna vez perdonar realmente? Las paredes que edificamos alrededor de nuestros corazones para cerrarnos al dolor son las mismas paredes que nos impiden ver la esperanza, recibir sanidad, y sentir amor. Aquí están las herramientas que necesitas para derribar esas paredes, trabajar en tus heridas, reparar relaciones maltrechas, y aprender a amar como si nunca te hubieran herido.The human heart was created with a great capacity to love. But along with that comes a great capacity to feel pain. There is no denying that those who love us, who are closest to us, can wound us the most profoundly. That kind of pain can be difficult, if not impossible, to overcome. And it can feel even more impossible to continue loving in the face of it. Yet that is exactly what we are called to do.  Sharing his own story of personal pain, pastor and New York Times bestselling author Jentezen Franklin shows us how to find the strength, courage, and motivation to set aside the hurt, see others as God sees them, and reach out in love. Through biblical and modern-day stories, he discusses different types of relational disappointment and heartache, and answers questions such as Why should I trust again? and How can I ever really forgive?The walls we build around our hearts to cut us off from pain are the very walls that block us from seeing hope, receiving healing, and feeling love. Here are the tools and inspiration you need to tear down those walls, work through your wounds, repair damaged relationships, and learn to love like you've never been hurt.  

Genres: Christian, Nonfiction, Christian Non Fiction, Christian Living, Self Help, Religion, Faith

230 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 6, 2018

About the author

Jentezen Franklin (born July 21, 1962) is the senior pastor of Free Chapel in Gainesville, Georgia and Free Chapel OC (Orange County) in Irvine, California. Franklin is the author of New York Times best sellers, Right People, Right Place, Right Plan and Fasting. His ministry extends internationally through the televised broadcast, Kingdom Connection, which is seen on television networks such as TBN and The Church Channel

Reviews

[Luis Melendez · Rating 5 out of 5]

By the time you finished reading this book, you will have a new understanding of the power of God's love. And you will learn how important it is to "Love Like You Never Been Hurt."

[Robyn Prem · Rating 4 out of 5]

My mother in law gave me this book to read because times are tough and she said she was told this book would help me. I was addicted to Jentezen's writing and not being a really religious person, it made me want to change some things in my life. Never being religious and not knowing the bible he made it easy to understand for people of any religion which I liked. I loved how he used stories from his own life and people he knew to help you understand things better also.

[Jerry Meek · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good leaders are brokers of hope and reconciliation – Great leaders give you a plan too!

After reading the book I started applying what is written to relationships where hurt exists – having conversations with the book’s insight is making a positive difference. The tools and practical application is what made this book valuable to me. Jentezen’s 10 rules for marriage and parenting are outstanding.

The priority and focus on being reconciled is far more important than being right is impactful. We should fight for our families and focus on what is remaining and not what is lost. By breaking old patterns and habits we can create a lasting legacy. Regardless of the storm we are in, God will bring us through!

This book offers us a strategy and hope that we do not have to settle for “Plan B”.

Love Like You Have Never Been Hurt will help people understand what it is like to have faith in Christ – that it is a relationship – it is not about religion. God did not put us on this earth to fight and be judgmental of each other. We are here to love – God can do the rest. This book was so impactful I purchased 10 copies as gifts for others.

[Lesley Hernandez · Rating 5 out of 5]

i loved every moment in this book. i have always wanted to read a Jentezen Franklin book and i love how he expressed himself and how he loves God and wants us to love like we have never been hurt. He also talks how he is not perfect by any means but has always trusted in God and in his Word. Jesus had loved like he never was hurt and we should want to follow his examples. This book really is beyond epic and amazing and you will not regret reading this at all

[Honesty · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book would be great for parents and married couples. However, there are many other circumstances which were never mentioned. For example, what about loving a friend, coworker, or sibling who has hurt you? The principles still apply to these scenarios, for the most part, but it would have been nice to see some illustrations along these lines. There are plenty of hurt-filled situations that have nothing to do with child-rearing or marriage.
I wish more Christian-living books were written with the single person in mind, even if it's just a couple of examples. Most of the ones you find are about how to stay pure until marriage. It's like being single is a one-track-minded holding pattern until matrimony. But the fact is, we have lives outside of waiting for Mr./Mrs. Right, just like mothers have lives outside of their children.
Still, there were a lot of good pointers in here, and I appreciated Franklin's honesty about his own family's dark seasons. I just wish it had been written with a broader audience in mind.

[Martijn Marinus · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book speaks strongly into loving, relational spheres with your partner, children, family and friends. Pastor Franklin is very transparent that marriage isn't a perfect walk, and that love is a verb. While at times he crushes the 'perfect dreams' we tend to have about relationships, he inspires and excites with biblical verses and practical actions to grow in a pure heart which is the right foundation for every relationship you're in.

[Samantha Fernandes · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is such an important book for every Christian. Everyone has been through hurt to some degree or the other and it definitely affects the way we love others. This book helped me see areas where I was holding back love for people because of past hurt or because of fear of being hurt again. It helped me see what God's unconditional love means and how we ought to show the same to those around us. It also made me understand what loving someone from a distance can mean and that setting boundaries with people is good if that relationship is toxic.

[Brittany · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really benefited from this book!

[Lisa Mattingly · Rating 5 out of 5]

No matter what you have been through, love others as God loves us. Sometimes that is hard to do bc some people just don't seem lovable. Ask God to help you and He will.

[Sara Jonsson · Rating 2 out of 5]

Läs gärna någon av Jentezens andra böcker.

[Elaine Lucky · Rating 4 out of 5]

An in depth look at forgiving and loving in times of trouble, hate, and when everything is falling apart. Backed up by biblical scripture and personal stories

[Júlia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Одна з кращих книг, які я читала.
"Miesto, kde sa teraz nachádzaš, nie je tvojou konečnou zastávkou".
"Boh vás volá na miesto, ktoré prevyšuje vašu súčasnú polohu".

"Vládnuť v Hebrone, to je v tvojich silách, ale Jeruzalema dokážem dobyť iba ja. Chcem, aby si doňho vnikol. Nepôjde to však ľahko. Búde to špinavé a odporné".

"Nepriateľ ochotné ponúka plán B. Chce, aby sme sa usadili na mieste, kde práve sme, a prestali snívať veľké sny".
"... počúvajte, čo Boh hovorí; a verte, že to, čo hovorí, je pravda".
"Písmo učí, že viera nesúvisí so zrakom. Žijeme vierou, nie videním (2Kor 5:7)"
"Napnite sluch a začujete Boží hlás, ktorý jasne hovorí, že Pán stojí na vašej strane, bojuje za vás, takže s Ním zvíťazíte".
"...nezahrávajte sa s možnosťou kapitulovať, pretože vo chvíli, keď si zaumienite, že sa nikdy nevzdáte, už ste zvíťazili".
"Boh nikdy nevyčerpá svoje možnosti. On má vždy k dispozícii ešte jeden ťah!"

[Victoria Mabry · Rating 2 out of 5]

Chapter 8 is not good for a reader who has acceptance for a non traditional marriage.
Chapter 9 is an ultimate waste of paper! I chapter 9 you can really see the conservativeness of his value system, if you are a equal rights activist or feminist that chapter is extremely offensive. The era of his upbringing is vibrant in his writing. The Franklin's are known for their conservative beliefs and it shows in this book, if you are a conservative this will probably be a good read for you.

[Kelly · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not for me

I think you should look at the chapter titles before buying The chapters have a lot to do with loving yourself, forgiving family, and making your marriage last. I (knock on wood) realized after buying it that I am not really struggling in these areas. It just didn't speak to me.

[David · Rating 2 out of 5]

It is a book about his life

Basically this is a book about his life and how he has been managing it. It has good insights, but on every page you will find 'like what I did when...', 'I solved it', 'I did it', I, I, I ...

Again it is worth it to read it but be prepared to hear many self-centered histories.

[Leiza · Rating 1 out of 5]

He lost me when he made a comment about "when children of God marry children of the devil..." Wow that's a massive statement declaring a non-christian a child of the devil. I don't need to hear anymore thank you very much....

[Sarah Grace Houy · Rating 2 out of 5]

I want to feel guilty giving this book 2 stars because there are some great scriptural references but I don’t. It was so incredibly redundant that I felt like the topics in this book were mansplained.

[Kaytie | readbykaytie · Rating 3 out of 5]

this was very meh. he threaded his own experiences into the story, but not really in a beneficial way if that makes any sense. it didn't really explain how to love like you've never been hurt, but random excerpts with scripture.

[Carrie Davidson · Rating 2 out of 5]

The repetitive nature of his writing style made me grateful to finally finish the book.

[Lara · Rating 1 out of 5]

Very cliche. There were a lot of good motivational sayings but not a lot of depth

[Rebecca · Rating 2 out of 5]

Dangerous advice - this book gives no warnings of toxic or abusive relationships. I’d recommend reading When to Walk Away by Gary Thomas to balance this book.

[Jarrett Lane · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Love Like You've Never Been Hurt: Hope, Healing, and the Power of an Open Heart" is a compelling and insightful book by Jentezen Franklin, a prominent pastor, and his wife, Cherise Franklin. The authors explore the complexities of love, past hurts' pain, and forgiveness's transformative power. With their combined personal experiences and spiritual wisdom, they offer a profound guide for anyone seeking to overcome heartbreak and cultivate a resilient, authentic, and inspiring love.

One of the standout features of this book is the authors' raw honesty and vulnerability in sharing their own stories of pain and restoration. Their willingness to openly discuss their struggles makes them relatable and credible, providing a safe space for readers to process their hurts and wounds. It is evident that the authors understand the pain caused by betrayal, rejection, and disappointment and possess the empathy required to help readers navigate these emotions.

The book not only delves into personal experiences but also offers valuable insights into the power of forgiveness. The authors emphasize the importance of letting go of bitterness and resentment, stressing how holding onto these negative emotions can hinder growth and prevent proper healing. They provide practical strategies to release forgiveness, including prayer, journaling, and seeking support from spiritual communities. The authors illustrate how forgiveness is crucial for the healing process and liberates individuals from the bondage of past hurts, allowing them to embark on a journey toward flourishing relationships.

Furthermore, "Love Like You've Never Been Hurt" encourages readers to embrace vulnerability and openness in their relationships. The authors highlight that love inherently involves taking risks and being willing to be hurt. However, they challenge readers not to allow fear to dictate their actions, noting that the rewards of love far outweigh the potential risks. Through shared anecdotes and biblical teachings, they inspire readers to create a bold, resilient love founded on trust.

Regarding writing style, Jentezen and Cherise Franklin balance being relatable and incorporating deeply theological concepts. The book contains biblical references and scriptural insights that provide a solid foundation for the principles discussed. However, they also interweave personal stories and practical advice, making the book accessible to readers from various backgrounds and belief systems.

While the book primarily focuses on romantic relationships, the lessons conveyed in "Love Like You've Never Been Hurt" can be applied to all areas of life. The principles of forgiveness, vulnerability, and resilience can be adapted to friendships, family dynamics, and even work environments. The authors provide a comprehensive approach to love, encompassing all aspects of human connections.

It is worth noting that some readers may find the religious undertones of this book to be overwhelming if they do not align with the author's belief system. However, even for those who may not necessarily share the same faith perspective, the practical advice, personal anecdotes, and emphasis on emotional healing can still hold value.

In conclusion, "Love Like You've Never Been Hurt: Hope, Healing, and the Power of an Open Heart" is an exceptional book that offers guidance and inspiration for anyone seeking to heal from past hurts and cultivate a love that is enduring and transformative. Jentezen and Cherise Franklin's authentic storytelling, alongside their spiritual insights, make for a compelling read that has the potential to impact readers' lives and relationships positively.

[Lauren Pittman]

“Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt”
By Jentezen Franklin

My Grandmom gave me this book to read, I was feeling with all that was going on in the world, that I wanted to get closer to God.
This book is about a Pastor and his family and the trouble that he and his wife had as their children became teenagers. The arguments and the fighting that was going on in this Christian home almost on a daily basis was heartbreaking.
Many families these days have broken communication. Children do not speak to their parents, sisters and brothers that are not in touch, and many grandparents are not allowed to visit the grandchildren. Something is wrong.
Pastor Jentezen had to learn that forgiving and loving despite the pain you are going through, is the only way. It’s our responsibility to reconcile. Where would we be if God had written us off when we messed up? God loves us even in our mess-ups and all our mistakes and our sinful ways. God keeps pursuing us offering love and forgiveness.
It’s easy to love when we agree and we share the same viewpoints. Love can rebuild what has been broken. Love never fails, that is what the Bible says.
This book was knowledgeable and instructive. It encouraged me that I could do better in so many ways. It reminded me of the hope we have in Jesus. I pray that I will remember to Love like I’ve never been hurt.

[Emma Jane · Rating 4 out of 5]

Rating: 4 stars.

Review: I picked up this book after realising that although I had healed from a lot of past hurt, there were still deeper hurts that I hadn't healed from. Forgiveness of the past (both others and myself), being able to put myself out there without fear of being hurt, not projecting past hurts onto people in my present when things started to trigger those past memories/ situations. Not holding present people to the standards of people from my past, or assuming that the motivation behind their actions was the same.

This book was a great book to help realise how to let go of that in order to keep pushing through in my current relationships in order to continue praying, growing and loving them, even when the times get tough. He gives realistic life examples from both his own life and others to demonstrate the importance of not giving up hope or love in relationships.

A great book, definitely a starting point for everyone who wants to continue to grow deeper into loving like Jesus.

[Angie Dent · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you’re looking for a fresh start right now or for the New Year, read this book!

Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt is a powerful, multidimensional book that’s very well balanced. It is Real Talk! It is serious, funny, sensitive, and raw! It teaches how to heal old wounds, start over and make stronger relationships through unconditional love and forgiveness.

This book will help you to:
• Have a stronger marriage
• Get ready for marriage
• Have better friendships
• Repair family relationships
• Keep your family together

Pastor Franklin provides practical and biblical instructions and applications to help through every phase of improvement. He makes a great connection to readers by sharing his own serious and hilarious challenges, mistakes, and family issues.

Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt is a very helpful, teaching book. I should have read it sooner! This book will guide you to a stronger, deeper relationship with God and those you love. It’s great for family and friend discussions, book clubs and small groups.

I highly recommend it!

[Myra Flowers · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good book. It picked up speed and interest as I read further along. The title says it all and Mr Franklin elaborates as the book goes on. It is a worthy read and has gems of wisdom in it. God wants to heal but we are not doormats. He quotes Corrie Ten Boom, saying forgiveness is the power that breaks the chains of bitterness. He writes about creating a family legacy of forgiveness. He uses many examples of how God does not throw away mankind but will transform us completely after his image. Perfection does not come from us but is by faith in the blood sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Many people are stumbled thinking forgiveness whitewashes the offence saying it wasn't that bad. The offense may be horrendous, criminal, deadly but forgiveness simply means us letting go and giving it to God to handle the offender. God offers us freedom. We do not have to be the offender's best friend and many times we must stay away from toxic people. We simply need to give it to God (we need to work at that) and be set free. Mr. Franklin uses many examples in life to show his points

[Beverly Jones · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jentezen Franklin takes us to church in this motivating and inspirational read. He uses scripture and stories from his own life to show his readers that we are going to go through major roadblocks in life, but there is always hope. He offers biblical advice to help us fight for what's important in life, and triumph over seemingly impossible situations. It is so hard to persevere when someone hurts you, but Franklin shows us how to forgive and how to love anyway.

This book is a hope-filled sermon that soothingly speaks to the heart. Franklin has a direct delivery that makes you feel like he is speaking specifically to you as you read. You will feel as if you have just attended one of the best church services of your life as you reach the last page of this motivational masterpiece. If you need a pick-me-up, be sure to read this book! Thank you so much to Jentezen Franklin and Chosen Books for the chance to read and review this book!

[Oak · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jentezen Franklin’s Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt: Hope, Healing, and the Power of an Open Heart inspires people to thrive in the face of adversity. Franklin offers a lot of practical advice, encouraging us to love others and live like Christ. I like how Franklin helps further explain his points using Biblical passages and real-life illustrations. One of my favorite chapters was “It Is Never Wrong to Love” – especially the part about learning to see others through the eyes of Jesus, and loving people the way God loves us. Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt is an enjoyable book, filled with interesting personal stories and a warm, lighthearted feel. It would be a good book to use in a Bible study.

I received this book for review.

[Onyx · Rating 4 out of 5]

Finished reading this book last night! Jentezen is a gift and he’s so humble and honest in his writings. I truly enjoyed hearing parts of his story and some of the sports and military examples he used to illustrate his points. They ran along beautifully with scripture. This book is intentional, informative, and easy to follow. What really is a blessing is that he covers pain from every angle. You are left with answers. The most powerful moments come in the last two chapters and the GREATEST thing he did as an author, he made a list of points at the end that covered each point in one sentence! More authors should do this!! Thank you JF for sharing the Lord’s heart through this feast of knowledge! If anyone wants to borrow it, let me know!

[W · Rating 4 out of 5]

Could not put this down! While I am not glad for Pastor Franklin's trials, I appreciated his transparency into some of his own family's struggles to help others who are seeking to live the Christian life and balance love with boundaries. It helped me to know that no one is exempt from the struggles, as I deal with attacks on my own family. More examples and specifics on how to handle various scenarios would have been helpful. I appreciated the encouragement offered throughout the book to not give up and love as Jesus did and what that looks like. I recommend this book for those who are dealing with various relational hurts.