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The Wendy Dilemma: When Women Stop Mothering Their Men
Explores the role of mothering and explains how women, who seek approval in marriage by acting as mother rather than as a wife, produce an unhealthy relationship that contributes to the problem of men who refuse to grow up.
233 pages, Hardcover
First published September 1, 1984
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Dan Kiley
14 books5 followersFor the author on architecture, see Dan Urban Kiley, 1912-2004.
Psychologist Dan Kiley popularized the Peter Pan syndrome in his 1983 book, The Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up. His next book, The Wendy Dilemma (1984), advised women romantically involved with "Peter Pans" how to improve their relationships.
After receiving a doctorate at the University of Illinois, Kiley began treating juvenile delinquents, an experience that led to a series of early books, including "Keeping Kids Out of Trouble."
Dr. Kiley got the idea for "The Peter Pan Syndrome" after noticing that, like the famous character in the James M. Barrie play, many of the troubled teen-age boys he treated had problems growing up and accepting adult responsibilities.
After he began work on the book, it dawned on him that the teen-age boys who refused to accept responsibility grew up to become men who refused to accept responsibility.
Psychologist Dan Kiley popularized the Peter Pan syndrome in his 1983 book, The Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up. His next book, The Wendy Dilemma (1984), advised women romantically involved with "Peter Pans" how to improve their relationships.
After receiving a doctorate at the University of Illinois, Kiley began treating juvenile delinquents, an experience that led to a series of early books, including "Keeping Kids Out of Trouble."
Dr. Kiley got the idea for "The Peter Pan Syndrome" after noticing that, like the famous character in the James M. Barrie play, many of the troubled teen-age boys he treated had problems growing up and accepting adult responsibilities.
After he began work on the book, it dawned on him that the teen-age boys who refused to accept responsibility grew up to become men who refused to accept responsibility.
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May 5, 2014
Bestselling author of "The Peter Pan Syndrome", Dan Kiley wrote a second self-help book in 1984 called "The Wendy Dilemma" addressed to women who want to stop mothering their men.
Thirty years later, Dan Kiley theory is still actual and compelling, as women's role in society changed but feelings of inferiority and low self-confidence persist.
I started reading "The Peter Pan Syndrome" and "The Wendy Dilemma" for a non-fiction book I meant to write before realizing someone else had already published my very same idea in 2011. Luckily I kept reading and found myself clearly depicted in the examples offered from the author.
The first part of the book explains who Wendy is, her characteristics and the reasons for them. There is a simple test to help the readers understand how much of a Wendy is hidden in each one of us.
The second half of the book helps Wendy to become a Tinker, by accepting themselves, overcoming through their behavior an old sense of inferiority and eventually set free from wrong relationships.
Dan Kiley has a simple, down-to-earth style with lots of examples taken from his daily practice with patients.
The book also offers a list of helpful readings for further support.
Thirty years later, Dan Kiley theory is still actual and compelling, as women's role in society changed but feelings of inferiority and low self-confidence persist.
I started reading "The Peter Pan Syndrome" and "The Wendy Dilemma" for a non-fiction book I meant to write before realizing someone else had already published my very same idea in 2011. Luckily I kept reading and found myself clearly depicted in the examples offered from the author.
The first part of the book explains who Wendy is, her characteristics and the reasons for them. There is a simple test to help the readers understand how much of a Wendy is hidden in each one of us.
The second half of the book helps Wendy to become a Tinker, by accepting themselves, overcoming through their behavior an old sense of inferiority and eventually set free from wrong relationships.
Dan Kiley has a simple, down-to-earth style with lots of examples taken from his daily practice with patients.
The book also offers a list of helpful readings for further support.
July 16, 2022
Have children don't get into relationships with them, they will never grow up. A partnership equal time raising children, house hold chores, equal contributions to household expenses...
If he's still living at 25 with his mother who cooks and cleans up after him like he is a child, run, don't waste your time he's emotionally Immature, emotionally stuntted. He's looking for a mother (Wendy surrogate mother) not a mate. The is Peter Pan syndrome. Failure to launch.
Age doesn't make a Man or a woman.
If he's still living at 25 with his mother who cooks and cleans up after him like he is a child, run, don't waste your time he's emotionally Immature, emotionally stuntted. He's looking for a mother (Wendy surrogate mother) not a mate. The is Peter Pan syndrome. Failure to launch.
Age doesn't make a Man or a woman.
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