The book brought me indeed some new ways of thinking, especially about setting a mindset. Wanting, desiring and having goals are ok, but that makes us live in the future, which does not exist. Neither does the past. Both are just borrowed realities from the now. If we force ourselves to change, for example, “I have to/must lose 10lbs”, we will never be really engaged and probably won’t achieve or the change won’t be permanent. What we need to do is believe in what we want us to become, and then become. I will be thinner.
Half of the book is some pseudo-spiritual crap about how the universe is knowledge and power, and together with us makes a whole, the total. And we are so deeply interconnected that when we believe in something, it happens. This mystic part annoyed me.
Another interesting insight is about how we set limitations to ourselves. We rely too much on previous knowledge and experiences because we are raised since a child to need acceptance and approval of others, so we need to verify within our knowledge what will work or not, what will other people think or not, is it difficult or not, am I like this or that, am I capable of this or not. Our conscious is responsible for sending information of our PERCEPTION (whether it’s true or not) to our subconscious, which just accept because it cannot differentiate between what’s real and what’s not. After that, our subconscious guides our future actions. That’s why we limit ourselves so much: I can’t draw, I can’t sing, I wasn’t able to do this before, so I’ll fail again... changing our beliefs by positive statements and thinking is key to putting this new information into our subconscious so that we eventually start acting towards our new belief (which should be what or who we want to be). It’s all a Self-Reinforcing Cycle:
1. I notice my performance at a task
2. I choose to evaluate myself in a certain way and send that to my subconscious
3. This self-talk reinforces either a positive or negative self-image of how I feel about myself
4. How I feel about myself forms a self-image, which is the regulating mechanism that controls how I perform next time
Also, whenever we face a problem we can’t solve, that’s because we just resort to previous knowledge. However, it is this same knowledge that generated this problem, so we need to stop worrying about the details and just start working on a solution, thinking creatively and differently. Every decision we make and every action we take is based on our level of awareness at any given point. In order to be all we can be, we must constantly work to change and expand our level of awareness, or our perception of reality. One of the faulty perceptions in most people’s beliefs is that “seeing is believing”, but the truth is, not being able to see it doesn’t mean it’s not there. Rather than waiting to see before believing, we must first set a goal for our reality to change. The reasons we don’t see opportunities or solutions isn’t because they aren’t there.
DON’T BASE YOUR GOALS ON WHAT YOU HAVE OR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, BUT ON WHAT YOU WANT AND WHERE YOU ULTIMATELY WANT TO GO.
Also, the author warns us not to share too much of our plans, since our aliveness and enthusiasm makes other people’s deadness stand out and feel more real, that’s why they create a thousand problems and say it won’t work.
Take risks. Leave your comfort zone as most of what you want lies outside of it. What keeps you in your comfort zone are the constraints aforementioned. Start picturing yourself in different situations and feel well in them so you get used to it.
“We would rather be certain we are miserable than risk being happy and satisfied”