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Goodbye Jesus: An Evangelical Preacher’s Journey Beyond Faith

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Goodbye Jesus is the step-by-step account of a former minister’s journey into and out of faith—the story of a long pendulum swing from the deep commitment of a devout believer to the firm conviction that no personal God exists and that all religions are man-made.

Tim Sledge was a Southern Baptist preacher and writer for 35 years. His pioneering work in faith-based recovery ministries in the 80s and 90s ultimately guided participants in 20,000 Christian support groups across the U.S.

The driving force behind Sledge’s ultimate rejection of Christianity was his long-term, up-close observations of church life. “After living and leading in the church for decades, I saw no consistent evidence of an ongoing supernatural presence—and I wanted to see that evidence with all that was in me.”

Part memoir, part exposé, part polemic, Goodbye Jesus is an honest, highly personal, and frequently provocative spiritual autobiography that concludes with an insider’s takedown of religious faith.

This is a relatable and thoughtful read for those seeking to better understand the evangelical mindset, for Christians who are questioning their faith, for ministers trying to decide whether to stay or go, and for those who have left their faith and are dealing with its loss.

475 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 26, 2018

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May 19, 2018
I am rating the book with five stars. It is well written and edited; that accounts for the first four stars. I award a fifth because Dr. Sledge has given us something original and important. I have not run across anything that gives a non-fundamentalist a better look into the dynamics of the evangelical communities of faith. I came away with a much better understanding of how good people come to embrace such disturbing and destructive ideas about Christianity.

I grew up in a small, industrial suburb of Houston that was populated mostly by Southern Baptists and Methodists. There were a few other odd denominations of the Christian variety, but no Jews, Muslims, or Others.

My family belonged to the Methodist Church and we only saw inside the Baptist Church when there was a wedding or funeral of a friend who belonged to the “dunkin’ church” across the street. Whenever we did go inside the Baptist Church, we kids were mostly interested in the transparent tank behind the altar with its painted desert scene complete with palm trees on the wall behind. My Methodist parents told us that Baptists believed dunking was required to effect a good baptism. They explained that Methodists felt that a sprinkle of water, done in the right spirit, would have the same result.

This was one of my first encounters with a basic difference in the way members of our demographically similar congregations thought about the symbols of faith. Over time, I would come to see that it also extended to the way they thought about the Bible, their morals, the world at large, and how they dealt with inconsistencies and contradictions in the teachings of their faith and real life.
Even though the Baptist kids seemed like the popular ones compared to the Methodist, I felt like we had something so much better, although we didn’t know it then: the freedom to use our minds and to follow those little rabbit trails that truth and inquiry would lead us down – not to hell, but to a better understanding of the beauty of a universe so filled with wonder that it stood as its own miracle far surpassing the stories of creation, healing, the parting of the waters, and all those things we read about in the New and Old Testaments.

It isn’t that we didn’t have a good measure of that kind of thinking at the Methodist Church, but after reading Goodbye Jesus by Tim Sledge, now I know it was nothing like the kind of hell-reinforced pounding the Baptist kids received.
I found Sledge’s book fascinating. I hadn’t expected much when I started reading. Things written by evangelicals are generally of no interest to me and, in fact, I find them insulting, not from any guilt or meaninglessness they imply, but because of their glib treatment of things supernatural and contradictory to experience. You can’t help but feel terribly sorry for the writer who praises God every sentence or two then rejects some of the greatest gifts that have landed in our laps in this creation: science and logic.

This book is nothing like that.

Dr. Sledge’s story is an honest account of his own experiences growing up Baptist and in his work as an evangelical preacher (extremely successful, by the way). He gave me a look inside the mind of the Southern Baptist that I could not have had any other way. In fact, I could identify with the serious and inquiring young Tim Sledge and even see myself as perhaps following a similar path if I had grown up in a Southern Baptist church, and where the adults whose approval we so desired smiled upon openly devout teenagers. I could see how, in the Southern Baptist world, a seminary degree and a lifetime of preaching and studying the scripture could appeal to an earnest and cerebral sixteen year old as the height of intellectual and spiritual endeavor.

Sledge gives detailed accounts of his work as a pastor over the course of four decades. It is an interesting ride. He describes confronting “exceptions to the rule of faith” - those inconsistencies and contradictions - in church and university leadership as well as among the faithful. There are many of these exceptions, some of which seem to be about the Christian basics that ought to be easily managed, and others that are the very behaviors the church most strongly condemns.

There are no plot spoilers in this review. The book’s title tells us where this story is headed. Ultimately, Sledge said goodbye to Jesus, the Christ, and became a non-theistic humanist.

The reason for reading is surely not for entertainment; it is to get a candid and detailed look inside the mind of a good, decent evangelical fundamentalist Christian, and see what can happen once he begins to think outside the tight box formed by biblical literalism and inerrancy, tradition, congregational social controls, and Hell with a capital H.

Reading Sledge’s account of his life gave me something I thought I would never have: an ability to understand Christian fundamentalists with sympathy and to be able to see their destructive intellectual and social behaviors as problems that can be changed with outreach and understanding.

Thank you, Dr. Tim Sledge, for helping me understand the people I knew in high school who wore their Christianity like a homecoming corsage, and yet grew up to support people in public office whose lives were, surely, exceptions to the rule of faith
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April 10, 2018
Up front, I would like to say that I know Tim Sledge. In fact I've known Tim for well over fifty years. When he told me he was writing a book about his years in the religion business, my curiosity was piqued. When I finally held the book in my hands and had time to read it, I was stunned. This book is more than a biography of a man of religion, it's an insider's view of the business of religion, the hypocrisy of religion, and the undeniable truth that humans, no matter who they are or what they believe, are fallible and gullible and always, in the end, driven by their hard-wiring. Tim does not hold back. In what I have often referred to as the greatest example of a paradigm shift in a human being that I ever have personally witnessed, Tim has "come out" and faced his demons head-on. And believe me when I say it took one hell of a human being to go through such an astounding change so late in life. In a nutshell, it's a great and very readable bio - and a must read for anyone who is open-minded enough to understand that religion, in the end, is little more than a house of cards.
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June 28, 2019
Can you give a book 6 stars? Because I would.

Fascinating story. Absolutely loved every minute of this.
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June 2, 2024
A FORMER MINISTER RECOUNTS HIS JOURNEY FROM CHRISTIANITY TO “META-SPIRITUAL HUMANIST”

Author Tim Sledge wrote in the Preface of this 2018 book, “Over a period of 50 years, I was significantly shaped by my Christian faith. I read the Bible from cover to cover at age nine, was called to be a minister at 16, and eventually became a leader within my denomination. I led churches, wrote books, and influenced thousands of people only to discover late in life that faith no longer worked for me. This is my spiritual autobiography: the story of my journey into and out of faith, and the story of how I came to see the world and myself in an entirely new way.”

He begins the book by recounting how, as the officiating pastor at the funeral of a “beloved middle school teacher,” he was struck by the presence of an adolescent girl the teacher had violated, before committing suicide (which was being kept a secret). “And this was only the latest addition to a collection of observations I had been accumulating since I began preaching … my collection of ‘exceptions to the rule of faith.’” (Pg. 3)

After his church (during the summer after his 1st year of seminary) was “accused of refusing to admit black children to its Child Enrichment Center.’ He recalls that at a meeting of deacons and pastoral staff, “not one [deacon] mentioned what the Bible taught about race… All that seemed to matter were the optics and logistics of how to respond if the NAACP protested at our church… When the meeting ended, I was utterly deflated. I had been convinced that my pastor would fly in, use the opportunity to challenge the deacons, and move them beyond the prevailing Southern mentality ... Then, I thought, they would open the doors of the church all its programs to all races… No such heroic intervention took place. No changes were made in the preschool’s admission policy.” (Pg. 76)

After the funeral of a 16-year old boy in his church who committed suicide, he mused, “This was one more example of why the church needed to be aware of psychological needs and to provide psychological tools---in addition to spiritual tools---for health and wholeness… Yes, group members prayed for each other. Yes, the principals we taught were biblical. But so many of the participants came to the group experience after a lifetime of studying the Bible, praying, and attempting to obey God, while never finding a way out of their emotional pain. At times, I wondered if psychological help was more powerful than prayer and spiritual commitment, at least in some circumstances… But I had to be careful. In my world, too much emphasis on anything but the Bible could result in a damaging label---liberal.” (Pg. 175)

Ultimately, he resigned (under pressure) from his ministerial position. “In those early days, it seemed too soon to consider forgiveness. And I was certain of one thing---trusting myself to a congregation of Christians as the primary source for my spiritual sustenance and the sole source of my family’s income---was something I would never do again.” (Pg. 287)

Later, he reflected, “At this point in my life, simply switching to a more liberal version of Christianity was a logical possibility. A liberal Christian denomination would give me permission to view homosexuality as inborn and acceptable, allow me to see hell as a metaphor, and would encourage me to accept the Bible---though flawed---as a meaningful spiritual guide containing essential truths about Jesus.” (Pg. 383) But he adds, “Becoming a liberal Christian was a logical option, but not a viable one for me… how was that so different from non-belief? Why get on board for what is bound to be a disappointing journey? And… who decides that Jesus’s statements about hell are out of date, but his challenge to love your enemies is untouchable?... If humans are making these decisions, the claim for a divine book is diminished… I would have no need for liberal Christianity’s halfway house on the road to nonbelief.” (Pg. 385)

Ultimately, “The disintegration of my faith often felt more like something that was happening to me than something I was doing, and frequently I was startled to hear myself expressing some new belief that I could not remember consciously thinking about… My brain was realigning what I viewed as true that what I viewed as false, occasionally informing me of its progress … I found myself dangling from a precarious cliff as my grip began to loosen, and eventually I fell---or perhaps it would be better to day---started to fly… Though I cannot remember the exact day I stopped believing, one memorable event remains with me… I invited my high school friend, Jay Miller, to have lunch with me… I told Jay … that I had stopped believing in Christianity… I had renounced my Christian faith, first privately, silently, sorrowfully, but now, aloud, with hopefulness, to an understanding friend.” (Pg. 393-394)

He acknowledges, “It has been said that when the student is ready, the teacher appears, and that turned out to be true for me when I discovered the work of Bart Ehrman… Ultimately, Ehrman influenced my new view of Jesus more than anyone else.” (Pg. 404) Later, he adds, “I’m sure that religions are not revelations from God. None of them. Religions are created by people. Faith is belief in things that don’t exist.” (Pg. 443)

He concludes, “Who knows what we will eventually find as scientists look inward and outward. An invisible God may exist, just not the personalized God described in the Bible nor the God described by any other existing religion---for that would contradict the silence under which we live. I am certain that to date there has been no clear, unmistakable, universally comprehensible revelation to humanity from a creator of the universe. I concede that the universe may have been jump-started by someone of something---but not a personal, caring deity, nor anything we can currently comprehend or grasp.” (Pg. 444) He adds, “I used to condemn secular humanists. Now I am one.” (Pg. 455)

He also notes, “if I could find a new way to be spiritual, I wanted to do so. I decided… Yes, I could still be a spiritual person by forging my own concept of spirituality. And that’s what I did…’ Meta-spirituality’… is spirituality without God or magic, spirituality that requires no religion or faith, spirituality based on a willingness to follow the truth wherever it leads… And so, the current and complete label for the new version of me is: meta-spiritual humanist.” (Pg. 459)

This book will be of great interest to Atheists, Skeptics and other Freethinkers, as well as those interested in “deconversion” stories.

3 reviews
May 11, 2018
Honest and humbling read

Tim shows in his story how heart wrenching the life of minister can be . His story shows how religion is man made . I felt a deep pain for those in the ministry . They are lifted up beyond reasonable expectations and dropped hard . As a person raised in religion, a deep fundamentalist religion that has walked away , I get it . Thank you for your story
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May 3, 2020
This book was not on my 2020 reading list but when I stumbled upon Tim Sledge on Twitter I also found this book. I am already well down the road of deconstruction, but one hook that grabbed me was his West Texas background. Then he ended up in the Chicago/Wheaton sector of evangelicalism, which was close enough to my own experience. He even had a stint in my home state of AZ. So I kept going.

As he describes at length with the detail of one who must have chronicled his life along the way somehow, I was actually excited by his progress in teaching, church growth, and development of personal recovery programs. I was cheering for him even as I was waiting for the “other shoe to drop”. It did. Essentially, in my words, some were convinced he was a wolf in sheep’s clothing, i. e. a liberal.

Where he ends up is a good place. How he gets there is painful. Very painful.

It is extremely difficult and therefore highly unlikely for most people, who are in every way possible, heavily invested in whatever position they have attained, to leave that position. This is a story in part about what it takes to crack the resolve of such commitment. We see Sledge come to the realization the evangelical cruise ship is not the real world and it is going nowhere and it’s time to get off. It cost him dearly. He had to wake up and take his bearings on an unfamiliar shore as a castaway.

What I see now, is a man who got off the “island” where he washed up. He dealt honestly with his experience and ended up on solid ground. His journey was not a slippery slope. It was a challenging climb.
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July 17, 2019
Good read.
Love how he shows his progression of doubts and questions as they occur to him. One by one, starting at an early age, he decides to set each doubt or question on a side shelf. He reasons that he will learn more and later he will be able to answer those things. But the shelf keeps filling up with items until he can not ignore any longer that he honestly does not believe in the God he has served and given his life to. It was helpful to see how another person (besides myself) has lived through the slow fade from all-in evangelical churchgoing believer to deciding honestly is more important and owning up to honestly not believing in an invisible god you do not see proof for.
I immediately purchased and read Tim's followup book to this one, Meta Spirituality. It also has been helpful to me as I leave behind the christian part of my past life and move forward more authentically.
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January 15, 2019
One of the best books on losing your Christian faith I have ever read, although probably I think this because the book resonates with me so deeply in my spiritual struggles.
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