Wow! Manuel's ability to feel into specificity without projecting unique blamelessness is heart-breaking and hopeful at the same time. Deep bow. Much gratitude.
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P3 […] finding refuge, or sanctuary, from acts of hatred must be offered along the path of finding our true home.
P6 Patience is more than waiting and hoping. Patience is taking the time to love what is difficult to love.
P7 […] the act of creating sanctuary as a response to the hunger for home.
P10 […] to shape religions to my own sense of home is to create sanctuary.
P11 We were each asked by the group leader, “What was your deepest loss?” The leader was concerned we might seek what we feel we are missing from our future students. [NOTE: Use for therapist training too]
When projection or transference becomes part of a teacher-student relationship, it needs to become conscious.
P19 In one sense, at the core of sanctuary is the failed quest to find home in the places we live.
P20 If the spiritual quest to find home within were enough, what do you do when your soul cannot live in peace on the land that is your birthright?
P23 Surviving meant assimilation. Not fitting in meant never feeling welcome, body and spirit never being at home.
These experiences of displacement followed me into adulthood and produced a perpetual fear of homelessness because of how I was embodied.
P28 When the journey of finding home takes ancestral homelessness into account, we begin to understand the need for sanctuary in a new way. The hunger for home is deeply layered. When seeking a vision of being healed, multigenerational displacement motivates within some of us a desire for our indigenous lands of origin or to create sanctuary or shared community with those of similar ancestral origin, places where we can enter life fully without fear. We need places to breathe and heal our disconnection from the earth. Our spiritual journey requires us, first of all, to understand the pain of the loss of our ancestral identity and to experience the extent to which we have wandered. This loss of homes is in our bones and begs to be acknowledged, not merely transcended.
P33 Because of chaos in our lives, we need sanctuary. […] Ruijin, an ancient Zen master, once said, “Carving a cave of emptiness from a mountain of form leads to serenity from the ocean of misery.”
P36 Artists, healers, activists, priests and priestesses, storytellers, drummers, musicians, and wisdom-keepers can help us fill the void of not belonging. We are manifesting a village in which everyone feels loved. Identity is used to empower and forge a sense of self, as a gateway to wellness in the larger world and ultimately to an experience of boundlessness and freedom.
As with everything, there is a shadow side to sanctuary. Those with intent to harm also form sanctuaries. […] Sanctuaries formed for defense or harming others arise from the same urge as sanctuaries established for healing.
P41 This is familiar throughout history, groups of people excluded because of fear, having to reconcile loss kinship, language, and belonging and the pain of all that was left behind, seeking a scapegoat in others who are even more excluded.
Morrison depicts how exclusion leads us to establish sanctuary to fill the void of being uprooted, to close the gap between home and homelessness. […]
Although Morrison uses finding paradise as a metaphor for finding home, she points to the violent acts against unwanted people and that creating sanctuary is not always a calm, sweet journey to wholeheartedness.
P42 Those who live on the margins of society will always need to find refuge that is inclusive of protest and wellness, resisting and embracing.
P43 The church was the holy ground for grieving, speaking openly, talking loud, loving hard, and disagreeing in the name of God. We could be fully ourselves.
P45 When suffering arises, there is a profound opportunity for transformation if there is willingness to stay a while. We see our differences most when there is suffering in a community, and therefore acknowledging the sanctuary’s shadow is a way to alleviate disappointment and clip the wings of flight during difficult times. Quaking within a sanctuary is a chance to observe, understand, heal, and be guided home to be fully who we are. Do not accept abuse, disregard, violence, or harm. But if conditions are favorable, resolving conflict is a good way to actuate connection and know yourself.
P46 While freedom from the distress of homelessness is your intention when entering sanctuary, this freedom is found in understanding that you are not meant to shoulder all of your pain alone. Suffering in community can help you see what needs mending. In the safe container of sanctuary, we can become more aware of ourselves.
P52 Homes today, whether our physical homes or our inner, personal lives, are fragile and susceptible to destruction. The demolition begins the moment we turn away from who we are and thereby from our primal connectedness, the ancestral knowing of ourselves as communal.
P63 The earth gives you time to breathe; the aloneness gives you the privacy to expose yourself to yourself and discover a true home within yourself and in nature. You can feel the earth holding you like a mother holding her child.
[…] When fear arises, it indicates a disconnection from home and the need for sanctuary.
P64 Facing and being intimate with the mystery is a path of engagement that includes all the world’s creatures. A quest deep in nature was necessary to see the distortions that had formed in me by systemic oppression and to recognize that acceptance of what I found in my own depths had to be the first step for re-engagement with others.
P65 We can be aware of the general human condition of suffering but not necessarily intimate with the suffering in and around our personal lives, our personal homelessness. When we come to know our lives with such intimacy, we embark upon awakening. Intimacy in the context of the earth as home means acknowledging all the suffering and living as close as possible to that which hurts.
[…] Our charity is empty if it is not intimate with the suffering of disconnection.
Zen Master Dogen uses the term shinzo, “ever intimate.” When we are ever intimate with the tensions between personal and collective suffering, we experience liberation, enlightened to who we are as human beings.
P66 Without intimate engagement with the earth, we cannot be present to the people around us.
P68 I was scared being in the world not knowing if I would feel at home before I died. Dehumanizing experiences in the context of life’s impermanence made finding home urgent.
P73 If you are living in a body that society deems unacceptable, it can be difficult to […] trust that sanctuary can appear within the fire of the hatred directed at us. Lost in the wilderness, we find it difficult to trust any spiritual practice that teaches finding home within. Ancestral displacement compounds the sense you’ll never arrive home. […]
First we must attend to the trauma and stress of having had to live dispirited, and ask for support.
P74 Only a home that comes into being, arises, and ceases to be is a true home.
P75 What we feel, think, observe, and respond to while living between the cracks of freedom, within the brutal honesty of impending death, creates the sanctuaries we need.
P78 Since we don’t grow in isolation, looking at the world and how we are conditioned by it is a prudent step in finding sanctuary.
P85 I had allowed silence to be a spiritual medicine rather than the coping skill I learned as a child who wanted to be invisible in her dark skin.
P101 This doesn’t mean we forget what happened or even stop speaking of it, but we remove the longing for what was lost because of slavery and embrace what is in front of us. Without the longing, slavery, although embodied and remembered, ceases to be an obstruction to finding home. It remains an element of my origin but not the center of my life.
What might happen if those in a sanctuary based on a shared history of atrocity begin to water a seed motivated by freedom and not pain and suffering? <>
P104 We’ve been waiting for this time to create a home that mirrors the compassion and freedom in our hearts.