The Simple Guide to Understanding Shame in Children: What It Is and How to Help

by Betsy De Thierry

· What is shame?

1000A simple guide to the essential knowledge adults need to support children affected by shame.0200Full of helpful information and advice, this is the perfect introduction for any adult caring for or working with a child who has experienced shame. It explains what shame is, how it affects children and what adults can do to help them overcome it.04001. Shame the crippling emotion and silent killer. 2. Shame is prevalent in our society. 3. What causes shame? 4. Shame causes us to withdraw emotionally, become silent, say sorry, hide and wear masks. 5. Shame causes deceit, lying, being critical of others and projection. 6. Shame causes self hatred, self rejection and anger. 7. Shame causes depression, anxiety and addiction. 8. Shame causes emotional shut down and internal confusion. 9. Shame needs empathy, emotional connection, understanding and kindness.01000301http://www.biblioimages.com/jkp/getim...

Genres: Nonfiction, Adoption, Psychology, Parenting

Kindle Edition

About the author

Betsy de Thierry is a trained psychotherapist and a qualified primary school teacher who has founded several charities that work directly with troubled families.

Reviews

[Helena Bartlett · Rating 5 out of 5]

Possibly the most helpful book for my work in teaching.

[Tracey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such an accessible book for all in understanding shame, all of Betsy's books are inspirational and vital to anyone supporting anyone recovering from trauma.

[TinaGav · Rating 4 out of 5]

This straightforward guide on shame and its effects is excellent, whether you have kids or not.

[Nathan Sell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Simple enough that anyone can understand but not simplistic. The author clearly has an excellent command on the subject matter and provides sufficient references to allow the reader to dig deeper without requiring them to have a background in the topic.

Very informative and practically applicable not just to working with children but also with understanding adults and myself.

[Aylssa Cowell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really liked this. Easy to read & understand. Good for professionals & parents.

[Kian.ting · Rating 5 out of 5]

I finished reading this book in one seating cause I find that I have done so many things wrongly and often let impatient get the better of me. I learned to dissociate the problematic behaviour away from the identity of the child, the behaviour is problematic but the child is still good and it’s my child. With that in mind I will get the head space to address the behaviour and not associate it as the child’s identity therefore not shaming the child but coaching him or her through the misbehaviour a short and concise book about the effects of shaming, the remedy for it and also how we can further prevent it.

[Abby Brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

I can't recommend Betsy's Simple Guide series enough! As a social worker I recommend them to foster carers all the time. They break down abstract concepts and theories into every day language with practical takeaways.

[Lucy Metcalfe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Brilliant, easy to read guide.