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Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology

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The Internet can be a scary, dangerous place especially for children. This book shows parents how to help digital kids navigate this environment.

Sexting, cyberbullying, revenge porn, online predators…all of these potential threats can tempt parents to snatch the smartphone or tablet out of their children’s hands. While avoidance might eliminate the dangers, that approach also means your child misses out on technology’s many benefits and opportunities.

In Raising Humans in a Digital World, digital literacy educator Diana Graber shows how children must learn to handle the digital space

developing social-emotional skillsbalancing virtual and real lifebuilding safe and healthy relationshipsavoiding cyberbullies and online predatorsprotecting personal informationidentifying and avoiding fake news and questionable contentbecoming positive role models and leadersRaising Humans in a Digital World is packed with at-home discussion topics and enjoyable activities that any busy family can slip into their daily routine.

Full of practical tips grounded in academic research and hands-on experience, today’s parents finally have what they’ve been waiting for—a guide to raising digital kids who will become the positive and successful leaders our world desperately needs.

247 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 15, 2019

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Diana Graber

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Digital literacy educator and advocate, Diana Graber, is the founder Cyber Civics, a popular and innovative middle school digital citizenship and literacy program currently being taught in schools in over 40 U.S. states and internationally. She is also the co-founder of Cyberwise (a.k.a., No Grownup Left Behind!), a leading online safety and digital literacy organization. In her first book—Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationships with Technology—she draws upon eight years of teaching at Journey School in Southern California where she guides middle school students through lessons that equip them to be thoughtful, ethical and smart digital citizens.

Also a media producer, Graber has produced numerous videos and television series through Graber Productions, founded by her husband Michael Graber, an eight-time Emmy award- winning adventure sports cinematographer.

Graber has a B.A. in Communications Studies from UCLA, an M.A. in Media Psychology and Social Change from Fielding Graduate University. She was honored with the “2017 Media Literacy Teacher” award from the National Association for Media Literacy in Education (NAMLE). She taught “Media Psychology for the 21st Century” to graduate students at the Massachusetts School of Professional Psychology (MSPP). She is a regular blogger for numerous media outlets, including HuffPost. She travels and presents regularly at conferences and schools across the U.S. Otherwise, she spends time with her husband and two daughters in Southern California or can be found on her mountain bike using her favorite digital app, Strava.

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Will reread in 5 years. Realistic advice and thoughtful approach to introducing children to tech.
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April 29, 2021
La crianza de los hijos es uno de los emprendimientos más complicados que una persona puede iniciar, es muy cierta la frase que afirma que no existe un manual que le enseñe a uno como ser padre o madre o aquella que reza que los niños no vienen con un instructivo bajo el brazo, esta situación se ve potencializada en esta época por la enorme brecha que existe entre padres e hijos causada por el boom tecnológico y digital en el que han nacido y crecido las generaciones más jóvenes, tecnología que quienes nacimos en la década de los 80's o antes hemos tenido que aprender o por lo menos intentarlo.

Por lo anteriormente dicho los desafíos son mayores para quienes estamos buscando formar seres humanos funcionales porque nos enfrentamos a los retos implícitos en la crianza de personas y además se suman factores que para muchos de nosotros pueden resultar ajenos y desconocidos por lo que por momentos podemos sentir que vamos navegando a ciegas. Estos factores pueden ser las redes sociales, el civismo digital, los teléfonos inteligentes, las aplicaciones de estos teléfonos inteligentes, el internet en general, el ciberbullying, el sexting y un montón de nuevos conceptos.

Es justo en esta situación en que como padres y madres conscientes y responsables buscamos documentarnos y educarnos, para enfrentarnos a esta nueva realidad de la mejor forma posible y así poder entender, ayudar y formar a nuestros hijos e hijas en el sentido que pretendemos hacerlo e incluso mantenerlos a salvo de todo un nuevo abanico de peligros a los que están expuestos, y es aquí donde este libro Criar humanos en un entorno digital de Diana Graber editado por HarperCollins México nos puede ayudar.

Este libro es una guía que pretende en primer lugar educarnos sobre todos estos nuevos conceptos digitales y tecnológicos y después a llevarnos de la mano para saber cómo abordarlos para ayudar a nuestros hijos e hijas a consumirlos, que seamos capaces de enseñarle a ellos cómo deben interactuar en un mundo digital, y no solo eso sino también cómo deben protegerse de los peligros que pueden encontrar en este mundo conectado.

Un aspecto que me gustó mucho del libro, y sobre el cual tuvimos oportunidad de platicar con su autora en una charlas en vivo a la que tuve oportunidad de unirme por invitación de HarperCollins México, es el hecho de que no debemos perder de vista que nuestros hijos e hijas son seres humanos, es el principio básico de la educación que aún y cuando vivimos en un mundo muy digital no debemos perder de vista, y que en ese sentido los valores, el respeto y la tolerancia deben prevalecer, viene en el título mismo del libro, Criar humanos, es básico que lo recordemos en todo momento, y a partir de ahí nos lleva a recorrer una serie estrategias para conseguir con éxito que nosotros y nuestros hijos podamos interactuar con el mundo digital, disfrutando de sus beneficios, que dicho sea de paso son muchísimos, pero manteniéndonos a salvo de sus peligros.

Otro aspecto que me gusto mucho del libro es que todo lo explica incluyendo muchas de sus propias vivencias muy personales de cuando ella misma se enfrentó a estas situaciones con sus hijas, por lo que además se trata de un libro práctico vivencial, no es solo teoría, también son experiencias y practicas, lo que hace que Diana sepa y tenga dominio total de lo que habla y recomienda en este libro, ya que lo aborda desde el punto de vista profesional y personal.

Se trata de un libro de consulta constante, ese que traeremos bajo el brazo por un largo tiempo y que vale la pena tener en un lugar de fácil acceso para revisarlo una y otra vez cada que lo necesitemos, no tengo duda que es una lectura útil y que debo recomendarles a papás y mamás que estamos criando hijos en esta época digital.
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July 31, 2019
This book is both helpful and hopeful. I have found much parental education around media use and children to be full of scare tactics. This books provides some real life ideas and examples on how to educate and prepare children to be good cyber citizens.
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March 2, 2019
It’s essentially required reading as a parent. And where the book leaves one with numerous nuggets of wisdom, chapters are long and in some cases quite sterile or medicinal. Fear can be strummed up in the pages, but at least the content diffuses ignorance. And there is always a thread of looking for the positive.
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September 10, 2021
Optimistic and practical digital parenting advice. It covers the topics of digital reputation, screen times, relationships, privacy, and critical thinking, and dives into specifics including sending nudes and cyberbullying. The book teaches parents to help their kids gain social and emotional skills, then encourage them to engage in online communities in positive, productive ways.

Graber runs Cyberwise and Cyber Civics. For several years she's taught middle-schoolers digital literacy, digital citizenship, and the safe and responsible use of digital tools. She's also a parent.

I read this to learn more about digital parenting.

Notes
Introduction: Left to Their Own Devices
Tech education for kids primarily focuses on warning of dangers, rather than preparing for positive experiences. Empower them to use tech well.

How to decide if your child is ready for a connected device
1. Has child developed social and emotional skills necessary to use device wisely?
2. Does child know how to manage their online reputation?
3. Does child know how to unplug?
4. Does child know how to make and maintain safe, healthy relationships?
5. Does child know how to protect their privacy and personal info?
6. Does child know how to think critically about online info?
7. Is child equipped to be a digital leader, using tech positively?

A Digital Journey Begins
There's no long-term data on impact of digital devices (phones, tablets, etc.) on kids.

The more TV a child watches between ages 1 and 3, the greater likelihood that child will develop attention problems by age 7. Every additional hour of TV watched per day increases risk of attention problems by 10%.

Preschoolers who first watch 9 minutes of a fast-paced cartoon perform significantly worse on tasks that require attention than kids who first spend 20 minutes drawing.

Screens have mostly negative effects on children 2 and under, particularly related to language development and executive function.

Interactive tech may be better for kids than TV/video, especially live video interaction with humans.

Huge increase in ADHD diagnoses may be due to use of screens.

Guidelines from Children and Screens
1. Set boundaries. Limit exposure to very young children. Make bedrooms media-free.
2. Monitor use, behavior, content. Block inappropriate content. Watch and play video games with kids. Keep electronic media in public places. Talk to parents of children's friends about what your children do in their homes.
3. Be clear about acceptable behavior. Establish and enforce house rules about screen time. Don't let media interfere in family relationships.
4. Engage and lead by example. Obey your house rules.

Learning to Be Human
There are no credible research studies that show that a child exposed to more tech early in life has better educational outcomes than a tech-free kid.

Kids whose parents actively guided their kids online end up having the healthiest and most balanced relationships with tech. Kids whose parents minimized their use of tech end up engaging in problematic behaviors (access porn, post rude or hostile comments, impersonate someone, etc.).

Reputation
68% of colleges say looking at applicants' social media profiles is fair game. Nearly 90% of colleges say they've revoked a student's offer based on something found online. Of admissions officers who check prospective students' social media, 47% say they found info that gave a positive impression.

Most kids can start thinking logically and ethically around ages 12-13, but some parts of brain aren't fully functional until age 25. One of last areas to mature is prefrontal cortex, largely responsible for rational thought and good judgment. Teens process info with their amygdala (emotions).

Design your digital billboard activity
1. Tell children to think of their digital reputation as a billboard that anyone can see. It shows everything they post, or that others post about them.
2. Let children think about what they want billboard to say.
3. Draw blank billboard and have kids fill it with images and info they want displayed about themselves in 10 years.

Screen Time
AAP screen time recommendations
• Under 18 mos: Avoid all screen media, other than video chat.
• 18-24 mos: If you want to introduce digital media, watch high-quality programs with children.
• 2-5 years: Watch up to 1 hr/day of high-quality programs with children.
• 6+ years: Put limits on time spent on media, and types of media. Ensure media doesn't replace sleep, physical activity, other healthy behaviors. Have media-free times together, and media-free places (such as bedrooms). Discuss online citizenship and safety.

Parental control software
• Mobicip
• Family Zone
• Surfie
• Net Nanny
• Bark
• Circle
• Qustodio

Many devices have parental controls pre-installed (iPhone, Android, Mac, Windows, etc.).

Relationships
Cyberbullying is online, intentional, repeated, and harmful. Not all unkind activity fits this definition.

Sending nudes and other sexually explicit messages (sexting) of minors, even between consenting kids, is illegal in most states. Nudes of minors are technically child pornography.

Kids can be charged for receiving nudes, as it's considered child porn.

Kids charged with creation, possession, or distribution of child porn could do jail time and need to register as sex offenders.

Most states don't have laws specifically about sending nudes, so it falls under existing child porn laws.

If a child receives a nude or semi-nude photo of a minor, they should immediately delete it and not tell anyone about it. If they're asked, they should say they received it, but immediately deleted it.

Cyberbullying Research Center has research and resources for cyberbullying prevention and response.

STOMP Out Bullying has cyberbullying resources and live chat.

How to talk about sending nudes (sexting)
1. Define sexting (sending, receiving, forwarding sexually explicit or suggestive images, messages, video). Explain that sending sexts of or between minors is a crime in most states. Look up laws in your state.
2. Tell them not to send or ask for nudes.
3. Tell them to delete any nudes they receive.
4. Tell them to speak up if they find out about nudes being circulated. Tell them to first tell the person whose image it is.
5. Explain that once a message is sent, it can't be taken back.
6. Share a cautionary tale and ask questions about what they'd do in that situation.

How to handle cyberbullying
1. Take screenshot of evidence.
2. Block and report bully.
3. Talk to trusted adult or STOMP Out Bullying HelpChat Line about anything that makes them uncomfortable. Inform service provider about bullying.

Privacy
Tell your kids they should never meet someone in real life that they first met online.

Thinking Critically
Teach kids to think critically online
• Search effectively and analyze search results.
• Understand how Wikipedia works.
• Understand copyright laws and plagiarism.
• Stay out of filter bubbles.
• Cite online sources.

Detecting CRAP online
• Currency: How recently was it posted? Has it been updated?
• Reliability: How reliable is the info? Are there references or sources?
• Author: Who's the creator of the info? What are their credentials? Who's the publisher or sponsor?
• Purpose, point of view: What's the purpose (inform, entertain, persuade)? Does it sound like fact or opinion? Is creator biased? Is creator trying to sell something?

Media Bias/Fact Check exposes media bias and deceptive news practices.

Encourage media participation (creation, curation, etc.) versus consumption.

Questions to ask about media use
• Did you spend more time producing or consuming?
• What did you produce?
• What skills did you use?
• In what ways can you produce more and consume less in the future?

Shift focus from amount of time spent online to positive use of time spent online.

Digital Leadership
Celebrate and empower good use of tech, rather than focusing on bad.

Don't think you can't help your kids with online issues because you're not tech-savvy. Most of the issues kids face with tech aren't tech issues, they're social issues, which you can help with.
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November 27, 2019
Took me a while to get through this one--it was assigned for my job and nonfiction, let alone "professional" books are never my first choice is reading material. That said, I highly recommend this book for parents, teachers, and pretty much anyone else.
We hear a lot these days about the evils of technology/the internet/social media, especially for kids. What we don't hear nearly enough of are the positives, the wonderful potential for good that humanity, assisted by technology, can accomplish. This book is a clear-eyed look at both, and how we as parents, teachers, and a society can educate and influence young people to avoid the evils and create the positives.
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42 reviews1 follower
February 1, 2021
Straightforward and smart, a must read for parents. Really appreciate that there is no fear mongering in this book, just wise and well thought out reasons for why we need to control our children’s tech usage. A good focus on the fact that our children need to build their social skills before we hand them access to anything and everyone in the world.
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March 11, 2019
I can't say enough about this book. Anyone who is around youth should read this in addition to expectant parents. Thank you Diana-your time spent developing this resource is much appreciated!
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Author 15 books26 followers
February 22, 2019
As an educator teaching middle-school students the basics of “Cyber Civics,” Diana Graber has heard her share of stories where kids get into trouble using technology. Yet she prefers to focus on the positive things that technology brings to young lives and how kids can become digitally literate. It’s a necessary skill she believes will help usher the next generation into using their devices in positive ways while staying safe online.

Graber’s book, Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology, provides guidance for parents who are not sure what to do about such things as setting limits on screen time, delaying social media activity, nurturing relationships both on and offline, and more. She suggests activities parents can do with their kids to help them learn some of the same concepts she teaches. She also suggests responses to clear problems like online bullying, fake news, privacy, and other concerns that come along with using many of the popular applications.

Graber’s suggestions provide a great primer for parents on how to guide their children on using technology in a positive way while avoiding some of the major pitfalls. I can also see it being used by educators who want to advocate for digital literacy training in their schools.

The publisher provided me with a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
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Author 14 books510 followers
January 14, 2019
As a mother of three (two are teenagers), I found the tips in this book invaluable. Smartphones and digital streaming and social media are here to stay. In fact, it is difficult to avoid the technology even if you want to. There is an app for everything--for students, community sports teams, fundraising, car insurance, travel, shopping--apps make everything easier but they require a plugged-in device, and that plugged-in device is Pandora's box.

What we need now is education about how to use this technology and how to set boundaries. It can be a wonderfully creative tool but also a mental health disaster and hunting ground for predators. There is no right way to approach it, rather many paths based upon age, personality, and needs.

This timely book understands the advantages and disadvantages of a digital world and works to help kids develop a healthy relationship with said world. It is incredibly informative, relevant, and compassionate. A must-read for families and educators!

Review based upon advance copy from the publisher.
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12 reviews4 followers
January 14, 2019
Armed with digital empowerment for anyone raising connected kids.

Raising Humans in a Digital World is challenging - however when CyberCivic's teacher Diana Graber shares her journey, it's not in high-tech fashion, this book is relatable to parents, teachers and adults that work with young people today that are digitally connected (which is the majority of them).

Full of first-hand stories, straight from the mouths of students (and backed-up with research) - we finally are able to understand why some parenting tips and tricks work - and some don't. Diana shares what tweens and teens are really thinking (and doing) - and talks about how we can work with them - not against them and learn from each other.

This is a timeless book that you will find yourself re-reading - highlighting and constantly going back to.

Refer it to friend, but keep it for yourself.
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7 reviews1 follower
February 3, 2024
TL;DR:
this book is useless, and you don't need it. Just take your kids to a pediatrician who is certified by The American Academy of Pediatrics. Try to follow their recommendations (some of those are mentioned in the book, to be fair, but you still don't need this book) as much as possible, and don't blame yourself if sometimes you can't.

Longer version:

What I expected: a modern, evidence-based, and well-balanced overview of the role of technology in children's lives, offering a rational counterpoint to the ubiquitous fear-mongering. That is, what was promised in the book’s summary and introduction).

What I got: just another compilation of anecdotes, personal biases, speculations, half-baked theories, and good ol' whining about good ol' days and "wonders of the physical world" (ughhhh), humbly sprinkled with reluctant acknowledgments of some tech and social media advantages.

Extraordinary claims are made based on nothing, e.g., "Empathy is in decline nationwide because of technology" (oh wow, ok boomer). Occasionally, while discussing studies, the author briefly recognizes the difference between correlation and causation, only to quickly dismiss this distinction and jump to major conclusions based on purely correlational data -- returning to the empathy example, "because you don't have to be a rocket scientist to see the link”. Fascinating.

There is a lot of name-dropping in the book ("this person is an expert in ..., and they say that..."), which in itself is not something that has a lot of weight in scientific arguments. But opinions of "Silicon Valley people" seem to be especially important to the author: those people are perceived as members of some secret cult possessing sacred knowledge about how technology affects everything and everyone. And the fact that some "Silicon Valley people" decide to raise their children without access to gadgets and social media is highlighted multiple times as if it means something. Spoiler alert: it doesn't. They're just people who are good at what they do professionally and have enough money to put their children in private schools with exotic/experimental/trendy educational approaches.

Some topics (video games, social media) are approached with zero first-hand experience ("my friend told me that people use it like this") and it shows. And it would make you look even more irrelevant if you decide to use this "knowledge" in conversations with children.

There's also advice on critical thinking from someone who, according to this book, completely deprived their children of any experience with video games because of a single deeply traumatic episode: in 1990, the author, while aboard a flight and admiring the scenic mountain view through the airplane window, noticed that several young people DARED to enjoy playing their Game Boy consoles instead of looking at the mountains. Terrifying, right? Because every living human being is obligated to love staring at large rocks more than anything else, right? Right? Because if you don't agree, the author would demand adding your personal preferences to the International Classification of Diseases.

I believe that the intentions behind this book were good (that's why it's 1 star for me and not 0), but the author got so carried away with all the scary tales to prove risks associated with technology (and hence the importance of the educational program that the author teaches in schools, how convenient) and convince you that children need to be saved (yet again), that entire book became just that: scary tales. And when in the last two chapters you suddenly read things like "I love technology" and "technology is just a tool," it's too little, too late: a reader who loves and accepts the modern world would probably drop the book long before that (was really hard for me not to), and a reader who wants to demonize and blame tech and social media for everything, by this point would get enough pseudo-scientific data to reinforce their biases.

To summarize, you don't need this book if you're a parent, and you definitely don't need it if you're not.
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September 7, 2023
This enthusiastic educator/parent writes a personable yet academic account of how she became a popular digital-citizenship teacher. Her students found digital citizenship lessons more practical than math or science. She's a charter school teacher and I teach public school, so there was a bit of beef. Highlight of the whole book was the reference to Notorious B.I.G. "Never get high on your own supply."

Diana Graber cherry-picks studies that support her ideas and then uses scare-tactics and gotcha-moments to create insecurity among her students. As a result, they gravitate toward the fine-print to understand and outwit technology that aims to exploit them just as their teacher has done to them.

I admit that this techno-education wizardry is fun with 5th to 7th graders since they are often so competative and open-minded. However, I tend to use the constructionist model for teaching which allows students to arrive at their own conclusions, though I do share her proclivity for project-based learning. Her learning targets seem fairly personally derived and so I assume are void of any intended outcomes meant to acheive proficiency in skills outlined in the Common Core State Standards. This itself doesn't make her lessons void, it just means they are non-standard.

For me, the main focus of the book is avoiding digital addiction with kids birth to 5. I'm aware that the author wants the focus to be "be kind", but to me that's a topic of ethics, philosophy, political science and criminal justice. I admit that stories have power, so SURE you can read first hand accounts of victims and heroes to try to encourage "upstanders" to exist. But when the system encourages toxic behavior.... it doesn't take a master's degree to know that mute, block and report are your moves.

I agree with the author that using digital devices WITH your kid resolves a lot of problems. She asserts that devices shouldn't be used birth to 18 months... and implies that adults on devices around kids sets the example and takes away from their upbringing. Like the parents she deals with, I'm going to admit that without a phone I can't cook, navigate to a destination, discuss with friends outside the room, read content, read the news, or find new information. The author seems to suggest I should print out every recipe I own, print every map to every desination, get a newspaper subscription and start writing letters to my friends.

Though she didn't convince me to be a technophobic hipster, she did embolden my already existing beliefs. It's not great to do "oversharenting", humblebragging, or mature videogames. More than an hour a day of screentime for a 2 year old is too much. Oh, she also suggests Googling yourself... which might work if you were a celebrity, social media influencer or had an original name.

I'm naivelly hoping, just like those experts in the early aughts, that the online world eventually connects us all and amplifies diverse perspectives. The author and I agree that digital tools amplify human connectivity. Maybe one day cyber civics will seem rigorous rather than quaint.
397 reviews5 followers
July 17, 2021
I hope to read this again before my kiddo gets a smartphone... at age 21. The author teaches a class to children about digital citizenship and while listening to the details of this course, I found myself tempted, multiple times, to move to wherever this class is taught. At the very least I hope to read this book with my son when he's older or to have him take a digital citizenship course online before joining the world of smartphones and social media.

I really appreciated her strategies and knowledge. I learned a great deal from this that I wouldn't have known. For example, I learned that if a teenager sends another teenager an illicit image of themselves, they could be charged with the creation of and possession of child pornography. The author suggests telling children to immediately delete any such images they may receive. Other practical exercises she has students complete are: 1) a 24 hour screen fast with a paragraph written to reflect on the exercise, 2) actually reading the agreements they sign to join social media platforms such as instagram and snapchat and 3) learning about their own filter bubble by searching the same term (ideally a controversial topic) on 5 different family member's computers/tablets/phones. I also liked her simple rule: People before technology.

Other advice: Put down your own phone, set up digital unplugged family time, teach kids to look into one another eyes - teach kids to learn the eye color of whoever they are talking to, read books that are emotionally charged, take advantage of car time to connect with kids, talk about emotions.

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475 reviews9 followers
April 22, 2021
I didn't find this revelatory or anything, but it is a helpful overview of Important Conversations To Have with kids about technology use, including both the dangers we need to be aware of and ways kids can learn about citizenship that apply to real life as well as online. Some of the author's suggestions and examples were really useful, such as the idea that you should name what you're doing with your screens when you use them in front of very small children - a good suggestion, in my opinion, because it provides some context and information about where your attention is for the sake of the child (who might otherwise just see it as sort of black hole into which our attention is drawn) and because it forces a certain amount of accountability for the adult about the usefulness (or lack thereof) of what we're doing. The author isn't anti-technology, which is important, though sometimes the rhetoric borders on feeling just a little bit hand-wring-y to me. Mostly though, the concerns are legitimate concerns we all have to contend with and have an approach for, and it's helpful for that.
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7 reviews
November 5, 2019
Finally a Relatable "Home Improvement" Guide for Families!

Diana Graber has created one of the most down-to-earth, relatable and necessary parenting books I’ve come across in a long time! Her user-friendly approach to raising kids in a digital world is like reading through a home-improvement guide for families. Instead of being bogged down with long, scientific jargon, Diana uses relatable, real life examples and solutions to connect families with the vital skills needed to a build a healthy foundation of responsible tech in their lives. Her education and wealth of experience as a parent and educator are fortified by expert commentary from some of the most notable thought leaders in the field. Timely and accessible, it’s a perfect read for anyone who cares about how to manage the costs and benefits of tech use by their kids in a positive and proactive manner.
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81 reviews1 follower
February 6, 2024
For most parents I talk to, screen time, in general, is a hot topic of conversation. What I found refreshing about this book was that it wasn't a doom and gloom approach. The author acknowledges that, yes, there are bad, scary, and dangerous things on the internet, but that there are also some pretty amazing things as well.

She advises that parents approach their children's screen time as digital mentors more than digital limiters, having conversations alongside them about digital citizenship, online safety, healthy boundaries and so on. She also encourages parents to show and celebrate with their children the many ways the technology can enrich their lives from creating art, to connecting with a community who shares their passion, to developing prosocial apps.

Ultimately, like all things, the best approach with technology and kids is balance, honesty, and guidance.
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138 reviews15 followers
April 10, 2019
Libro de lectura obligada para todos los papás que quieran ayudar a sus hijos a hacer un uso positivo de las tecnologías digitales. Un mensaje fundamental es que el comportamiento de nuestros hijos en sus interacciones en línea será un reflejo de cómo los educamos en general, especialmente en temas de autocontrol y respeto a los demás. Este es un libro práctico con muchos consejos y ejemplos concretos. Llama la atención que los expertos en tecnología sugieran que no se les de ningún tipo de pantalla a los menores de 2 años y que su uso sea limitado y supervisado de cerca por lo menos hasta la pre-adolescencia. Y, por supuesto, tener muy presente que lo primero que deben hacer los papás es dejar un momento sus propias pantallas y ponerle más atención a sus hijos!
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776 reviews6 followers
July 9, 2019
1) Necessary
2) Sensible
3) Encouraging
Enjoyment: 3

This book advocates for the need of robust digital literacy skills particularly for our younger generations. Graber shares invaluable insights, stories, and curriculum ideas to offer expert practical tools and advice. Her criticism of social media remains balanced and extremely fair - Graber's respect and enthusiasm for technology is apparent, as well as her compassionate concern for youth to be empowered and not victimized by their relationship with technology.

Contains a substantial Endnotes section, citing articles, websites, and other resources.
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4 reviews
April 12, 2021
The safest approach is for parents to deny access to devices, streaming, and social media. But isn’t that shortsighted? Diana Graber suggests that this only serves to deny your child the possibility to thrive in a connected world. Adults are equally, if not more, disengaged and complicit.

This book aims at helping kids nurture a healthy relationship with the saturated world of technology, instead of denying them that opportunity. It's a must read for anyone raising our wonderful digital natives!

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222 reviews4 followers
February 7, 2022
I have read more books than I care to mention in my quest to be a good parent for my children. After reading Diane Graber’s book, I confidently say that I would wholeheartedly include her book in a “must-read” list for parents (the only other book I would put on there at this point is Shefali Tsabary’s book “The Conscious Parent”). This book is optimistic, informative and it offers practical tips for raising your children to be good humans both digitally and IRL. If your stomach knots a bit at the thought of your children having an online presence, then do yourself a favor and read this book.
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56 reviews1 follower
February 25, 2022
I engaged Diana Graber as a featured speaker through work for my community and I truly appreciated how accessible she was. She doesn’t bash technology. She’s careful to acknowledge the benefits while diving into the impediments. I love that she focuses on digital citizenship. I also love her cyber civics lessons and I’m grateful that she calls it like it is…. “in defense of parents everywhere, myself included, we didn’t grow up with this stuff.” “…this century has been packed with digital innovations that have radically altered childhood.” This is a great guide for parenting through the Wild West of the digital world. Good luck out there!
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Author 5 books41 followers
March 23, 2021
Most parents (myself included) are worried about how to guide and keep their kids safe online. This book is the perfect answer. Filled with facts, insights, and tips, Raising Humans in a Digital World gives parents the knowledge to navigate the world of screens and screentime. As the founder of the school program CyberCivics, Graber users her teaching experience and understanding of devices to distill this complicated new world. After reading this book, I feel informed and inspired to help my kids learn to be good digital citizens and stay safe.
176 reviews1 follower
August 30, 2022
I have been reading a lot of books about parenting in a digital age and found this one rather good. Instead of saying all technology is bad for kids, the author explores a health relationship with technology and digital media. She has been teaching digitial literacy for a number of years and has developed a great sense of what kids need to know to successfully navigate life in the digital age. This was a well balanced read that discussed the negative aspects of parenting in this connected world, but also gave some positive examples of how kids can use technology and digital media for good.
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71 reviews1 follower
April 17, 2024
This is a great book with lots of great lessons that you can and should go over with your children before they use the internet. I liked that she didn't say, "don't let them use the internet ever" but instead, social media and the internet is an inevitability in our lives, so we must teach kids to use it responsibly and safely. The lessons I wish I could have learned as a young teen. Some of it may seem like common sense, though probably not for tweens or teens like it is to adults. And some of it was really good information to know.
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7 reviews5 followers
January 10, 2025
Here I am following your advice, posting ( MY FIRST ) reviews for products that I find helpful. I want to be part of creating a more positive society on the Internet!

Great read for parents looking for guidance in the digital age. This book provides practical tips on navigating the challenges of technology with children. It offers valuable insights into age appropriate media use, identifying red flags, and setting up healthy relationships with technology. The emphasis on open communication and family collaboration makes it a truly helpful resource for parents.

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499 reviews4 followers
October 25, 2019
This was required reading this year in my media specialist cohort. It's an easy and insightful read for someone in this field. Random parents would also enjoy it because it promotes family communication and basic human life skills as the basically two number one requisites for healthy usage of digital paraphernalia.

I've been teaching this stuff for eight years and still got a lot out of it.

Recommended for anyone with kids.
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