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Parenting with Values: 12 Essential Qualities Your Children Need and How to Teach Them
What do we, as parents, need to give our children to ensure they grow up to be happy, well-balanced and resilient people?
Parenting tutor and mother of two Christiane Kutik tells us that, above all, children need their parents to give them strong values to help them find their way in life.
Many of us consider values to be an old-fashioned concept but Kutik suggests that by fostering twelve vital values, parents can provide their children with all the tools they need to flourish, to discover the worth of non-material rewards and to have an emotionally enriching life.
Parenting with Values encourages parents to reflect on which values they want to pass on to their children. In twelve short, easy-to-digest chapters, Kutik discusses the essential qualities that children need, and explains how each one is learned and passed on from parent to child.
The twelve essential values Kutik identifies
-- Self-esteem
-- Compassion
-- Honesty
-- Respect
-- Sensibility
-- Humour
-- Security
-- Capacity to manage conflict
-- Independence
-- Interest in e world
-- Soulfulness
-- Connection the natural world
This engaging and readable book is filled with practical everyday examples of values in action. It will provide inspiration for parents who wish to proactively encourage positive development in their children.
Parenting tutor and mother of two Christiane Kutik tells us that, above all, children need their parents to give them strong values to help them find their way in life.
Many of us consider values to be an old-fashioned concept but Kutik suggests that by fostering twelve vital values, parents can provide their children with all the tools they need to flourish, to discover the worth of non-material rewards and to have an emotionally enriching life.
Parenting with Values encourages parents to reflect on which values they want to pass on to their children. In twelve short, easy-to-digest chapters, Kutik discusses the essential qualities that children need, and explains how each one is learned and passed on from parent to child.
The twelve essential values Kutik identifies
-- Self-esteem
-- Compassion
-- Honesty
-- Respect
-- Sensibility
-- Humour
-- Security
-- Capacity to manage conflict
-- Independence
-- Interest in e world
-- Soulfulness
-- Connection the natural world
This engaging and readable book is filled with practical everyday examples of values in action. It will provide inspiration for parents who wish to proactively encourage positive development in their children.
122 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 29, 2018
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June 12, 2024
The main thing I really appreciated in this book is the fact that it is concise and brief. It goes through the 12 categories/core values avoiding lengthy paragraphs or saying the same thing several times. As parents, we do not always have time and a book like this means we can read it swiftly and digest it easily.
I did not agree with all the solutions/methods that the author presented in their book. One example was about being unwavering with your child by standing tall, like a tree, so the child understands that you will not change your stance on X. I think you can deliver the same energy/message through your words, tone and expression while still keeping eye level to them. Standing like that creates this dynamic of “I’m big and right, you are small and know nothing”.
Some things I have read in other books or articles (even listened in podcasts/short format videos) that really resonated with me and I was pleased to see the author mentioning these things. Like children’s innate wish to help, or to share and how many times we hinder this wonderful quality by how we treat and guide them, sometimes thinking we are doing well. Something as simple as them giving us food, we most likely say “No thank you, it’s for you!” the thought behind it is kind, you want your child to eat the best things or make sure they eat, but to them the message is “it’s meant only for you/its not for sharing”. Repeat it enough times and children stop sharing with time.
The part on humour (which I’ve seen more commonly referred as “play”) was also another topic I came across before and I have experienced myself with my children. Play is imperative and helps tremendously with day to day activities, for family life to run smoother.
All in all I appreciated this book and found several things helpful. It was interesting to also read things I did not agree with, made me think why and what I prefer to do instead. I even started to write my own guideline on how to best support my children.
I did not agree with all the solutions/methods that the author presented in their book. One example was about being unwavering with your child by standing tall, like a tree, so the child understands that you will not change your stance on X. I think you can deliver the same energy/message through your words, tone and expression while still keeping eye level to them. Standing like that creates this dynamic of “I’m big and right, you are small and know nothing”.
Some things I have read in other books or articles (even listened in podcasts/short format videos) that really resonated with me and I was pleased to see the author mentioning these things. Like children’s innate wish to help, or to share and how many times we hinder this wonderful quality by how we treat and guide them, sometimes thinking we are doing well. Something as simple as them giving us food, we most likely say “No thank you, it’s for you!” the thought behind it is kind, you want your child to eat the best things or make sure they eat, but to them the message is “it’s meant only for you/its not for sharing”. Repeat it enough times and children stop sharing with time.
The part on humour (which I’ve seen more commonly referred as “play”) was also another topic I came across before and I have experienced myself with my children. Play is imperative and helps tremendously with day to day activities, for family life to run smoother.
All in all I appreciated this book and found several things helpful. It was interesting to also read things I did not agree with, made me think why and what I prefer to do instead. I even started to write my own guideline on how to best support my children.
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