"The more kinds of people you see, and the more things you do, and the more things that happen to you, the richer you are. Even if they’re not pleasant things. That’s living. Remember, no matter what happens, good or bad, it’s just so much — just so much velvet."
Selina Peake’s father was a perceptive man indeed to impart these words of wisdom to his only daughter, words that would stay with her through life and ones that she would practice to the fullest extent possible. This extraordinary novel by Edna Ferber, winner of the 1925 Pulitzer Prize, is as relevant now as it would have been back in its day. It is a highly accessible classic and a pure joy to read. I began 2018 with this book, and with any luck it’s a sign of a glorious reading year to come!
Selina’s father introduced her to a way of life that likely not many young girls would have had the opportunity to experience. In 1885, at the age of sixteen, Selina moved with her father to the bustling city of Chicago, where she learned to appreciate art, literature, theater and a diversity of people. When tragedy strikes, Selina is forced to make an important choice on her own. "… the choice of earning her own living or of returning to the Vermont village and becoming a withered and sapless dried apple, with black fuzz and mould at her heart, like her aunts, the Misses Sarah and Abbie Peake. She did not hesitate." Life in High Prairie, a farming community to the south of Chicago, would be completely opposite to what she was accustomed, but she was determined to make the best of it.
A vegetable farm may not seem the setting for the grand adventure after which Selina yearned, but the unwavering spirit of this young woman was a rare quality. Selina ranks right up there in my book of literary heroines! Her capacity to recognize the beauty even in what others would consider the most mundane of objects and people made me stop and consider whether or not I take enough time to appreciate the everyday things in my own life. "But always, to her, red and green cabbages were to be jade and burgundy, chrysoprase and porphyry. Life has no weapons against a woman like that." I may never quite look at a cabbage the same again! Like her father before her, Selina also wishes to instill the appreciation for the beauty in all things to her own child. Dirk Dejong, fondly called Sobig by his mother, may be a farmer’s son, but he will be exposed to books and art just the same, despite what little use his own father rates these small luxuries. Selina has plans for Dirk, a wish for him to lead life to the fullest and experience all those things she feels she has missed out on herself. She will toil away at the land in order to provide a future away from the farm for Dirk. "All the worth-while things in life. All mixed up. Rooms in candle-light. Leisure. Colour. Travel. Books. Music. Pictures. People—all kinds of people. Work that you love. And growth—growth and watching people grow. Feeling very strongly about things and then developing that feeling to—to make something fine come of it."
But can we shape the life of another, even one of our own flesh and blood? What sacrifices should we make, what do we give up, in order to ensure the happiness of our children or another loved one? Can you really stop a person from making mistakes, mistakes that you recognize from your personal trials and errors? Or do these things need to be experienced first-hand for us to truly learn from them ourselves? I am at a point in my own life where I ask myself these exact questions that Edna Ferber so astutely challenges us to consider through her thoughtful writing. As a mother of two teens, one starting to make decisions about college and career, I ask myself everyday if I am doing my best for them. And what exactly is ‘my best’? How much autonomy should they be allowed, and how often should I yet take the reins and exert my own influence? It’s a balance I am certain, and one that needs to be constantly checked!
There is so much more I could say about this pearl of a novel. Better yet, you could just trust me, grab a copy, and learn for yourself that this truly was deserving of the esteemed literary award bestowed upon it. I haven’t delved much into the characters other than Selina, but there are several others that Ferber brilliantly imbues with life through her skillful pen. So Big is simply a lovely novel towards which my review cannot do justice. This book will adorn my favorites shelf for sure.
"About mistakes it’s funny. You got to make your own; and not only that, if you try to keep people from making theirs they get mad."