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Millenneagram: The Enneagram Guide for Discovering Your Truest, Baddest Self
Buckle up, folks. It’s time to jump in, embrace your inner self, and release the things that are holding you back from wholeness. Enter the Millenneagram.
The Enneagram is an ancient personality typing system that has a sneaky way of revealing who we are and why we do the things we do. Using nine types, it gets to the root of our fears and motivations, unveiling our inner-most selves.
Millenneagram reinvigorates the Enneagram by putting a modern spin on the classic nine types. Hannah Paasch, creator of the popular #millenneagream threads on Twitter, reveals how this system acts as a map toward our authentic selves. For Hannah, the Enneagram is not about changing who we are, but rather nurturing and loving our whole selves, even the pain in the ass qualities. “Only from this position of wholeness, rootedness in who we are, what we believe, and what kind of story we are writing, will we be able to act bravely for the sake of justice and humanity – to approach our f*cked-up world with the grounded courage it asks of us.”
With her trademark irreverent humor and empowering affirmations, Millenneagram reframes the classic Enneagram types with a fresh perspective and new names that cut right to the chase:
#1 The Machine
“I’m an Enneagram 1 and I Can Fix This!”
#2 The Parent
“I’m an Enneagram 2 and Can I Get You a Refill?”
#3 The Winner
“I’m an Enneagram 3 and All I Do Is Win.”
#4 The Tortured Artist
“I’m an Enneagram 4 and I’m Deeper Than You.”
#5 The Detective
“I’m an Enneagram 5 and I Read an Article About That.”
#6 The Oracle
“I’m an Enneagram 6 and I’m Loyal as Fuck.”
#7 The Party
“I’m an Enneagram 7 so This Might Be Vodka In My Mug.”
#8 The Dragon
“I’m an Enneagram 8 so Nice Try, Bitch.”
#9 The Wallflower
“I’m an Enneagram 9 so Let’s Just All Chill Out, Dude.”
A powerful tool for self-discovery (that doesn’t take itself too seriously), Millenneagram is an invitation for introspection and growth. Hannah’s revamped Enneagram goes beyond simply identifying with a type: it gives us permission to be our truest, enough-as-is, bad-ass selves.
The Enneagram is an ancient personality typing system that has a sneaky way of revealing who we are and why we do the things we do. Using nine types, it gets to the root of our fears and motivations, unveiling our inner-most selves.
Millenneagram reinvigorates the Enneagram by putting a modern spin on the classic nine types. Hannah Paasch, creator of the popular #millenneagream threads on Twitter, reveals how this system acts as a map toward our authentic selves. For Hannah, the Enneagram is not about changing who we are, but rather nurturing and loving our whole selves, even the pain in the ass qualities. “Only from this position of wholeness, rootedness in who we are, what we believe, and what kind of story we are writing, will we be able to act bravely for the sake of justice and humanity – to approach our f*cked-up world with the grounded courage it asks of us.”
With her trademark irreverent humor and empowering affirmations, Millenneagram reframes the classic Enneagram types with a fresh perspective and new names that cut right to the chase:
#1 The Machine
“I’m an Enneagram 1 and I Can Fix This!”
#2 The Parent
“I’m an Enneagram 2 and Can I Get You a Refill?”
#3 The Winner
“I’m an Enneagram 3 and All I Do Is Win.”
#4 The Tortured Artist
“I’m an Enneagram 4 and I’m Deeper Than You.”
#5 The Detective
“I’m an Enneagram 5 and I Read an Article About That.”
#6 The Oracle
“I’m an Enneagram 6 and I’m Loyal as Fuck.”
#7 The Party
“I’m an Enneagram 7 so This Might Be Vodka In My Mug.”
#8 The Dragon
“I’m an Enneagram 8 so Nice Try, Bitch.”
#9 The Wallflower
“I’m an Enneagram 9 so Let’s Just All Chill Out, Dude.”
A powerful tool for self-discovery (that doesn’t take itself too seriously), Millenneagram is an invitation for introspection and growth. Hannah’s revamped Enneagram goes beyond simply identifying with a type: it gives us permission to be our truest, enough-as-is, bad-ass selves.
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Hannah Paasch
1 book35 followersHANNAH PAASCH is the blogger and Twitter influencer behind #millenneagram. She also is credited with starting the #churchtoo movement, drawing attention to sexual misconduct within places of worship. She has been featured in Jezebel, Religion & Politics, ABC, Vox, America, Bustle, Teen Vogue, TIME, Mother Jones, HelloGiggles and more.
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May 30, 2019
The exploration of the enneagram numbers is solid, but the tone of this book just ruined it for me. The excessive cultural references and profanity made it seem like it was trying too hard, rather than making it accessible and relevant.
July 26, 2019
Oh noooo... I think the kindest thing I can say about this book is that it reads like a first draft that went completely unedited, directly to print. I actually stopped during my reading to double check that it had not been self-published. Nope, HarperCollins put this out! The author seems like a nice and genuine person whose publisher completely dropped the ball (although the book itself looks gorgeous and features beautiful graphic design). In the space of two pages, ALL CAPS, *asterisks*, and italics were all used for emphasis. If we're going to take an overly familiar tone with the reader, are we going to spell it "henny" or "honey"? I have addressed elsewhere the trend of randomly placed swears in self-help, which this book also suffers from. The unedited, conversational tone made the book physically difficult to read. It's like the brain dump of a highly caffeinated person. That may work great on a blog but not a 200+ page book.
I think this is also a great lesson in not every concept needing to get a book deal. I think in retrospect I can kind of see how this got pieced together. Paasch starts a hashtag about the enneagram, has a merch store.... I think it's all really charming. Then the book deal gets offered. But... where does it fit? It's almost like the book was written to justify the merchandise? But the book also has a completely different tone. It can be self-serious but it almost seems like the author felt the need to shoehorn in these merch phrases in certain places. It often comes out of nowhere and takes on an almost condescending, mocking tone as a result, which I don't think is intended.
And of course, when you get past all the surface issues and down to the meat... I just don't think the author has a very good understanding of the enneagram outside of her own number! I think she is really good at coming up with funny memes and jokes about the numbers. I think this could have been a very entertaining book if it didn't take itself so seriously. It could have been a nice little gift book. As it stands, you're probably better off just following the author on Twitter (which might just be the book's intended purpose anyway).
I think this is also a great lesson in not every concept needing to get a book deal. I think in retrospect I can kind of see how this got pieced together. Paasch starts a hashtag about the enneagram, has a merch store.... I think it's all really charming. Then the book deal gets offered. But... where does it fit? It's almost like the book was written to justify the merchandise? But the book also has a completely different tone. It can be self-serious but it almost seems like the author felt the need to shoehorn in these merch phrases in certain places. It often comes out of nowhere and takes on an almost condescending, mocking tone as a result, which I don't think is intended.
And of course, when you get past all the surface issues and down to the meat... I just don't think the author has a very good understanding of the enneagram outside of her own number! I think she is really good at coming up with funny memes and jokes about the numbers. I think this could have been a very entertaining book if it didn't take itself so seriously. It could have been a nice little gift book. As it stands, you're probably better off just following the author on Twitter (which might just be the book's intended purpose anyway).
May 20, 2019
I've been following Hannah on Twitter for years now, and I remember when the #Millenneagram hashtag first emerged. If I'm totally honest (Hannah, if you happen to read this, just know that I'm a 1 and much harsher with myself), I was put off by how "on-brand" and buzzword-y a lot of it was, but I also couldn't miss that underneath that was some really poignant articulations of the Enneagram. And not just poignant, but in some ways truly fresh and new, even to someone who's done a somewhat embarrassingly deep dive into it all. Soon enough, I was eagerly awaiting new posts under the hashtag, but shortly after that gave up Twitter for a while and was surprised to see when I returned that a book deal was in the works! I happened to check Amazon a week or two after it was published, found a surprisingly good deal, and ordered it on a whim –– and I'm really glad for that!
As I mentioned, I've spent a good bit of time reading about the Enneagram both online and in books, and what I really appreciate most about Paasch's book is that it genuinely feels like it adds something vibrantly unique and worthwhile to the conversation. While it's marketed as a sort of lay expression of the Enneagram so simple and straightforward that even a millennial can understand it, I don't think that's where the need is (the fact that it's exploded in popularity among millennials in the past 3 years speaks to its longstanding resonance) or the impact. But don't get me wrong, I think it's got a really powerful impact! Sure, the language is certainly less academic (and much more colorful) and she makes a point to include personal anecdotes and pop culture references, but I would say rather than that making it feel simpler or more accessible, it makes it feel more relatable and intimate and human. An interesting phenomenon when reading other Enneagram writers is that their level of formality makes for a weird contrast; you feel exposed but kept at a distance. I would argue that the power of Paasch's hyper-personal writing style (down to the frequent second-person narrative) is that it shifts the aforementioned reading experience to help you feel seen and understood (rather than just exposed) because someone is holding your hand/pep-talking/slapping you in the face. And I found some real power in that! In fact, because of it, I feel like this book on its own has the potential to be a bit more catalyzing than a lot of the other more reflective, impersonal material. And honestly, I also appreciated that the approach was so distinct in its irreverence; some Enneagram writing takes itself awfully serious...
Now that I've heralded the merits of the writing style, I will confess that it also inspired frequent eye rolls and there were points where her writer's voice felt grating and seemed to get in the way of the content. I just wanted to say, "We get it, you're edgy and hip, chill out.". But I guess you could say that's what makes it feel like a real person, which is hopefully high praise for a 4. And I suppose the book works best as a starting point (I'd argue a pretty good one for many) in that it follows a pretty standard format and structure, going type by type and breaking them up into triads. She does touch on the Instinctual Variants which is a bit more rare, and I definitely think this has some of the most nuanced, empathetic, and human descriptions of 5s that I've ever seen, and some really great details for 6s as well.
I think my biggest unmet hope or desire from the book was a lack of exploration around the Enneagram's potential power for justice work and social transformation, which only emerged because she placed a unique emphasis on that in the intro and conclusion. It offers a framing that bookends the endeavor, in some ways justifying what can feel like naval-gazing with the merit of cultivating deep self-understanding and compassion that bears growth and creates opportunities for collective connection. That's a great start and I suppose a justice-oriented outcome in its own right from that perspective, but I would have really loved if she'd included a section for each type that explicitly explored ways their strengths and weaknesses play into the pursuit of social justice; that would have felt both really fresh and exciting and cohesive to her stated intentions. As a whole, though, this is a wonderful addition to the canon of Enneagram material and adds something really valuable to the conversation. It's also genuinely fun to read, which is a plus!
As I mentioned, I've spent a good bit of time reading about the Enneagram both online and in books, and what I really appreciate most about Paasch's book is that it genuinely feels like it adds something vibrantly unique and worthwhile to the conversation. While it's marketed as a sort of lay expression of the Enneagram so simple and straightforward that even a millennial can understand it, I don't think that's where the need is (the fact that it's exploded in popularity among millennials in the past 3 years speaks to its longstanding resonance) or the impact. But don't get me wrong, I think it's got a really powerful impact! Sure, the language is certainly less academic (and much more colorful) and she makes a point to include personal anecdotes and pop culture references, but I would say rather than that making it feel simpler or more accessible, it makes it feel more relatable and intimate and human. An interesting phenomenon when reading other Enneagram writers is that their level of formality makes for a weird contrast; you feel exposed but kept at a distance. I would argue that the power of Paasch's hyper-personal writing style (down to the frequent second-person narrative) is that it shifts the aforementioned reading experience to help you feel seen and understood (rather than just exposed) because someone is holding your hand/pep-talking/slapping you in the face. And I found some real power in that! In fact, because of it, I feel like this book on its own has the potential to be a bit more catalyzing than a lot of the other more reflective, impersonal material. And honestly, I also appreciated that the approach was so distinct in its irreverence; some Enneagram writing takes itself awfully serious...
Now that I've heralded the merits of the writing style, I will confess that it also inspired frequent eye rolls and there were points where her writer's voice felt grating and seemed to get in the way of the content. I just wanted to say, "We get it, you're edgy and hip, chill out.". But I guess you could say that's what makes it feel like a real person, which is hopefully high praise for a 4. And I suppose the book works best as a starting point (I'd argue a pretty good one for many) in that it follows a pretty standard format and structure, going type by type and breaking them up into triads. She does touch on the Instinctual Variants which is a bit more rare, and I definitely think this has some of the most nuanced, empathetic, and human descriptions of 5s that I've ever seen, and some really great details for 6s as well.
I think my biggest unmet hope or desire from the book was a lack of exploration around the Enneagram's potential power for justice work and social transformation, which only emerged because she placed a unique emphasis on that in the intro and conclusion. It offers a framing that bookends the endeavor, in some ways justifying what can feel like naval-gazing with the merit of cultivating deep self-understanding and compassion that bears growth and creates opportunities for collective connection. That's a great start and I suppose a justice-oriented outcome in its own right from that perspective, but I would have really loved if she'd included a section for each type that explicitly explored ways their strengths and weaknesses play into the pursuit of social justice; that would have felt both really fresh and exciting and cohesive to her stated intentions. As a whole, though, this is a wonderful addition to the canon of Enneagram material and adds something really valuable to the conversation. It's also genuinely fun to read, which is a plus!
September 11, 2019
Wassup bitches, did you know enneagrams are fuckin' dope as shit? Imma pound this White Claw and lay down some truthbombs on yo ass.
Not kidding - the book is actually written in this voice. It's the single most annoying thing I've ever read.
Not kidding - the book is actually written in this voice. It's the single most annoying thing I've ever read.
July 29, 2019
This book feels like an unedited article on a click bait website. Surface level look at the enneagram. Tone was extremely off-putting, constant swearing, use of “honey” and “baby”, and over the top need to tie everything to her political/social views. For example, as a college economics professor, I can assure you her explanation of capitalism is a) fundamentally wrong and could have been corrected with a simple google search, but more importantly b) was completely unnecessary and outside the scope of a book about a personality test.
You can find better content on blogs, podcasts, or even all the enneagram instagrams that won’t leave you with a bad taste in your mouth or call you weird terms of endearment.
You can find better content on blogs, podcasts, or even all the enneagram instagrams that won’t leave you with a bad taste in your mouth or call you weird terms of endearment.
July 8, 2019
I didn't realize that Millenneagram is a big online thing; I just saw this on a new books list and took it on impulse because the title was kind of funny and I'm really soft for personality test nonsense. It's a very aesthetically appealing book and it definitely assumes you already have some familiarity with the Enneagram system. It has a quick and dirty quiz to sort you--which was WRONG for me, it pegged me as a Two when I'm obviously a Nine. How dare.
Anyway, I liked her humorous tone and there are some good insights in here, if you're into this kind of thing. Which I am. If you're not already, this won't convert you.
Anyway, I liked her humorous tone and there are some good insights in here, if you're into this kind of thing. Which I am. If you're not already, this won't convert you.
July 7, 2019
I loved this one. It’s unflinching and frank, it’s hilarious and honest, and it’s SO GOOD. It’s like the enneagram and Urban Dictionary got blended up together and this book came out, or like an old personality type got a new makeover, complete with tattoos and piercings and a sassy new outfit. I have loved following Hannah on Twitter for a while, and am just so, so, so glad she poured her heart and soul into these pages for us to have and learn from and love forever. I mean, anyone who calls enneagram Ones “The Machine” is someone who GETS IT. This one isn’t for your grandma or your preteens, but it’s definitely for anyone who wants to dive deeper into who they are and how to be the best version of that self (and who isn’t afraid to get hit hard with the truth in the process). It’s feisty and fiery and fun and fresh and I loved it, loved it, loved it.
January 10, 2019
Humorous in tone and written with an engaging dialogue that seems like it is a conversation with the author, Millenneagram is a self-help book that does not, as promised, take itself seriously. However, whilst the persona of the “author” and the self-deprecating humour made the book easy to engage with, the end chapters where she gives advice or a motivational prep speech often felt condescending. There were also a fair amount of pop culture references within the book, which often made me wonder how well the book would hold up against time. Overall, a book that was enjoyable but not one that made me feel like there were moments of revelation in regards to my inner-self.
*Thank you to Edelweiss for providing me with an Advanced Request Copy in exchange for an honest review.*
*Thank you to Edelweiss for providing me with an Advanced Request Copy in exchange for an honest review.*
June 14, 2019
Some of it I really, really loved - the content was solid and a few times I found myself scrambling to re-listen to a section to jot down great insights. I found the tone and especially the language wearying... I’m not opposed to a bit of salty language and have used a word or two in print and conversation. But it was excessive to the point of distracting.
December 24, 2019
Dumb profiteering courtesy of a try-hard, would-be hellraiser. Most annoying book of the year.
June 26, 2019
I picked this one up due to an interest in the enneagram and after following Hannah Paasch on Twitter for the last few years. I haven't listened to the associated podcast yet, but the writing here definitely reflects Hannah's style on social media! Don't pick this one up if swearing, casual language, and random asides are going to distract you - this is not written as a dry text. But don't let the style fool you into thinking it's light and insubstantial either. The author knows their stuff! Coming into reading this, I was pretty sure I was a "4" but confused about some aspects that seem to cross over into 5, 6 or 9 territory. This is the first text I've read that really confirmed and consolidated my understanding of my "4-ness," specifically as a 4w5. Moreso, it is written in a way that I felt heard and understood. I probably highlighted 3/4 of the chapter on my type! Hannah Paasch cares deeply about each type and each chapter is not just a clinical study but includes exhortations towards becoming true to yourself and really understanding and accepting why you are the way you are. Definitely worth a read if you're interested in the enneagram.
August 28, 2019
Waste of time and money. The author's poor attempt at doing self expression writing in this book just to be different and cater to a younger audience was not helpful, but infact very distracting. Look elsewhere to read about the enneagram. There are FAR better books about it than this with way more information and less fluff.
July 25, 2019
Despite apparently being written by Al Swearingen's daughter, this was a very helpful, fascinating, and practical approach to the enneagram. The chapter on 4s made me feel seen. Highly recommended.
August 28, 2019
Obviously five stars, because it’s me. But also— her central premise is so important. I may have cried a little reading the conclusion?
YAY
YAY
May 20, 2020
When I worked in tax resolution, the company I worked for had a Enneagram specialist on the payroll. She would come in from time to time to help new employees find their number and consulted with the main boss man about his number and how it effected his work/office relationships (I assume). I was so taken aback when I first learned about my number (5w4), and was encouraged to read up on it (which I did). But it kinda fell to the wayside after I left that company.
For some reason, I felt like looking into it again so I checked out this book from my library. I WAS BLOWN AWAY. Truth be told, I found the title a little corny at the beginning but this book reached me where others couldn't. The author wrote in a way that really made me understand my number, used lingo (for lack of a better word) that is super common with people my age, and was crazy positive. It was also pretty funny in places, and the book itself is gorgeous with all of the color coding in its layout. I couldn't help but walk away from this read wanting to dig myself out of my brain ruts, dig deep into integration, and in general work toward a better, truer self. I HIGHLY recommend, especially if you're 30 or younger and have never been exposed to the Enneagram before!
For some reason, I felt like looking into it again so I checked out this book from my library. I WAS BLOWN AWAY. Truth be told, I found the title a little corny at the beginning but this book reached me where others couldn't. The author wrote in a way that really made me understand my number, used lingo (for lack of a better word) that is super common with people my age, and was crazy positive. It was also pretty funny in places, and the book itself is gorgeous with all of the color coding in its layout. I couldn't help but walk away from this read wanting to dig myself out of my brain ruts, dig deep into integration, and in general work toward a better, truer self. I HIGHLY recommend, especially if you're 30 or younger and have never been exposed to the Enneagram before!
December 23, 2023
It’s rare that I don’t finish a book because I feel like I *can’t* finish a book—but here we are. This one had the makings of everything I love—the enneagram? Yes! Millennial? I am one! Written by a Four? HEY COOL, ME TOO! But this was a huge letdown and by a little over halfway through (ironically, in the Four chapter), I just couldn’t waste my time on this anymore. The author’s written voice was SO distractingly grating—chock full of gratuitous swearing (hey I love foul language, but basically EVERY SINGLE SENTENCE?! It’s a no from me), obscure pop culture references that we’re all supposed to get, the emotion-ridden explanations that assume every type thinks like a Four…I could go on. It may have been palatable if there were *any* new insights on the enneagram, but there weren’t. It seemed like the author picked her favorite tidbits from other established works and coughed them up in the style of a research paper first draft. It pained me to set it down without finishing it, but life is short. Read the books that add value to your life. This simply didn’t. Bye, Felicia 👋🏻
April 25, 2019
If you’re like me, maybe you’ve struggled to find out which enneagram number you truly are. LOOK NO FURTHER! My family and I OBSESSED over this book this weekend, pouring hours into meaningful conversation working to better understand how we work as a family unit and how we are personally wired. I gained so much more knowledge and appreciation for the enneagram after reading this book. It makes total sense now! Hannah, YOU ROCK! This is a hilarious and true look at the enneagram that is a MUST read! You're going to want to add this to your library as soon as possible! Thank you Harper One for my gifted copy in exchange for my honest review.
August 9, 2019
I wish I had just read a regular enneagram book because this one just felt condescending. I don’t want to read in all caps “BITCH SPEAK YOUR TRUTH” over and over again with slightly different wording. Yes it was positive, parts of it were interesting but I wish I could have the 2 months I spent reading this back.
I appreciate the positivity but the writing was too adolescent for me to vibe with it at all.
I appreciate the positivity but the writing was too adolescent for me to vibe with it at all.
May 17, 2019
A funny, insightful, irreverent, and warm-hearted guide to the Enneagram. Paasch brilliantly balances all the ways the Enneagram is a tool for revealing the worst AND best parts of ourselves (lots of books tend to tip too far to one side or the other). Contains maybe THE BEST explanation of intuitive triads I've ever read, and thankfully wastes very little time on the history of the Enneagram (I get why teachers go over this, but seriously every book names the same few figures and covers the same events and I always get bored and want to skip through to the meaty stuff). So much good information here, even for people who may consider themselves very well-versed in Enneagram theory already. What I most appreciate is how Paasch presents disintegration not as failure or a bad thing, but rather a stress response that can give us a lot of information (and sometimes even the tools to protect ourselves and pull us out of our ruts). She also brings loads of compassion to every type, especially the ones that tend to get cast in a negative light (Eights and Threes, I'm looking at you). Overall, I've never enjoyed being dragged and diagnosed more. :)
May 7, 2020
Reading this has given me the jumpstart to do some long overdue self-reflection and introspection. I highly recommend this book if you’re looking to do the same!
“Somewhere down there line the heart types received the message that who they were—their truest selves—was not entirely welcome. That they were not enough, of perhaps were just the wrong side of too much.”
“...the Four crawls up into their imagination to second-guess themselves and everyone else involved in that moment until reality is just a distant memory.”
“Stay outside the places that seek to diminish you, and wear that scarlet A with pride—then turn around and open the door you need opened. Don’t wait for an invitation or for permission. You won’t get either.”
“Somewhere down there line the heart types received the message that who they were—their truest selves—was not entirely welcome. That they were not enough, of perhaps were just the wrong side of too much.”
“...the Four crawls up into their imagination to second-guess themselves and everyone else involved in that moment until reality is just a distant memory.”
“Stay outside the places that seek to diminish you, and wear that scarlet A with pride—then turn around and open the door you need opened. Don’t wait for an invitation or for permission. You won’t get either.”
September 27, 2021
My god. This book.
Minus one star for the excruciating, try hard to be funny tone
Minus one star for her patronizing language.
Then she disclosed that she was a four, and everything made sense. Minus another star.
Plus one star for her spot on description of eights, specifically 8w9, “lightening up never occurred to them.” (Hence the fact that I write book reviews for fun)
Spoken with the confidence of an 8.
Minus one star for the excruciating, try hard to be funny tone
Minus one star for her patronizing language.
Then she disclosed that she was a four, and everything made sense. Minus another star.
Plus one star for her spot on description of eights, specifically 8w9, “lightening up never occurred to them.” (Hence the fact that I write book reviews for fun)
Spoken with the confidence of an 8.
March 5, 2021
I thought this book was good and interesting when it wasn’t trying so hard to be different from other enneagram books. I liked a lot of the information here but some of the excessive swearing was cringe and unreadable. I’m a millennial in my 20s and I’m perfectly capable of having a conversation with people without the excessive cursing and I can understand information without all that.
February 1, 2021
Funny, insightful. Very ... Millennial.
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June 19, 2019
Millenneagram was the perfect book for me to start a deeper dive in understanding the Enneagram as a whole. Before this, I had dabbled in reading up on my own number, but I was interested in learning more about all types. Not only do I feel like I have a better understanding of the Enneagram, but I've never felt as seen and understood after reading my own Enneagram number chapter. Wow. Paasch does such an amazing job at humanizing each of the types. From some of my own research online, I've seen some not-so-great descriptions of each of the types that made me cringe. While Paasch doesn't shy away from calling you out on your bullshit, she does it in such a way that invites you to recognize that that is not the only part of you, but rather, a place you go in while stressed. The Enneagram has been such a helpful tool for me to navigate the world as a Four. Paasch writes in a relatable, accessible way that I really appreciated as more of a casual connoisseur of the Enneagram. My only critique is that this book is full of pop culture references that appeal to millennials that I'm not sure if this book will stand the test of time or if it would be helpful to those in other generations. I guess only time will tell!
July 23, 2019
Well, shit.
Ya know, I think of myself as well-learned on the enneagram and then I open up Hannah's book and discover page after page of insight. Millenneagram is some sort of bedazzled, curse-factory of gem-studded wisdom. I started learning this in 2016 with Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne Stabile's The Road Back to You and then shortly after through a maze of websites and YouTube. Then Suzanne's The Path Between Us I love Suzanne's teaching. I've learned so much. I was sobered to read Hannah's hard-won reflections on self-discovery and understanding. Absolutely worth reading, as a primer for the enneagram or as ancillary to what you already know.
I want to put some quotes in the review below, but before I selectively pull out some of my favorite bits I want to say a little about Hannah's writing style. I've seen it critiqued in reviews, and that's precisely why I feel like I should say something. If you aren't familiar with Hannah, go look at her Twitter. If that's too much for you, you'll probably have complaints with the book. But, and I can't fucking stress this enough, you really shouldn't. The book is brilliant. The writing style is authentically the way she communicates and she doesn't tone it down. It's Hannah teaching as Hannah. As she writes towards the end: "Do you really think you exist only to reject your urges and dreams? Honestly, what would be the point of you being born so wildly unique, just to be tamed and homogenized and beaten down to size?"
I'm reminded of something from a Levi the Poet poem "Resentment" he wrote: "Someone will love it because it's honest, and someone will hate it because it's crude" and I think that fits here. But if that's a complaint, I hope you can get over it and see all the sparkle in this thing. It shines.
Some favorite quotes:
"We cannot be fully seen and fully known by anyone else if we cannot fully see and fully know ourselves."
"Coming home can be a rather long journey when you've never been there before."
"Maybe there's no one right way to be a good person, and maybe there's no advisory board signing off on who does and doesn't deserve badges."
"You cannot earn the love you need."
Ya know, I think of myself as well-learned on the enneagram and then I open up Hannah's book and discover page after page of insight. Millenneagram is some sort of bedazzled, curse-factory of gem-studded wisdom. I started learning this in 2016 with Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne Stabile's The Road Back to You and then shortly after through a maze of websites and YouTube. Then Suzanne's The Path Between Us I love Suzanne's teaching. I've learned so much. I was sobered to read Hannah's hard-won reflections on self-discovery and understanding. Absolutely worth reading, as a primer for the enneagram or as ancillary to what you already know.
I want to put some quotes in the review below, but before I selectively pull out some of my favorite bits I want to say a little about Hannah's writing style. I've seen it critiqued in reviews, and that's precisely why I feel like I should say something. If you aren't familiar with Hannah, go look at her Twitter. If that's too much for you, you'll probably have complaints with the book. But, and I can't fucking stress this enough, you really shouldn't. The book is brilliant. The writing style is authentically the way she communicates and she doesn't tone it down. It's Hannah teaching as Hannah. As she writes towards the end: "Do you really think you exist only to reject your urges and dreams? Honestly, what would be the point of you being born so wildly unique, just to be tamed and homogenized and beaten down to size?"
I'm reminded of something from a Levi the Poet poem "Resentment" he wrote: "Someone will love it because it's honest, and someone will hate it because it's crude" and I think that fits here. But if that's a complaint, I hope you can get over it and see all the sparkle in this thing. It shines.
Some favorite quotes:
"We cannot be fully seen and fully known by anyone else if we cannot fully see and fully know ourselves."
"Coming home can be a rather long journey when you've never been there before."
"Maybe there's no one right way to be a good person, and maybe there's no advisory board signing off on who does and doesn't deserve badges."
"You cannot earn the love you need."
September 11, 2019
There were some good insights, I did like the breakdown of the wings and the instinctual variants, but the overall tone was too off-putting. I got a bit tired of the author talking about herself. And I’m a 4, so I kind of get it. But it felt like she was leaning too hard into that stereotype.
Then towards the end the author ironically gets way too preachy about her own views on the divine and her issues with religion, and while her story is her story, it was an out-of-place diatribe.
Then towards the end the author ironically gets way too preachy about her own views on the divine and her issues with religion, and while her story is her story, it was an out-of-place diatribe.
December 28, 2019
I was looking for a lighter book on the enneagram—less academic, more real-life examples. This delivered on that front, but the tone ruined it. Instead of being relatable, it felt forced, trying too hard to be cool. It also swung a little too woo woo for me (thanking your past, inviting things into your life, etc.).
November 25, 2019
Average. I didn't care for the style of writing - it was very casual and filled with profanity and current "in" phrases. I don't think this book will stand the test of time like so many other Enneagram books. Did give an overall good description of each enneagram type.
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