The Adult Chair: A Guide to Loving Yourself

by Michelle Chalfant

“Oh wait, I’m in the Adult Chair now!”, exclaimed one of my clients excitedly as she quickly jumped up from the medium-sized chair in my office to the larger chair. “I get it. Now I can see what the problem is and how I’ve been contributing to it.” The Adult Chair is more than a book or a tool or a process - it is an entirely new way to see your world, your relationships, your career and your life. In this straightforward and entertaining how-to guide, Michelle Chalfant shares the secrets of The Adult Chair to help After reading The Adult Chair, you will never see your world the same again. You will finally be equipped with understandings and tools that will help you uncover and live from your true and healthy self.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Grief, Psychology

72 pages, Paperback

Published April 9, 2018

Reviews

[Melissa]

I use this model in some of my work as a therapist, and primarily used the podcast as a resource. I think the book is a fine companion for the podcast, but the podcast really makes the model accessible with the role playing and real life examples. I’m glad she wrote a book for those who are visual learners, but I definitely find listening to the podcast to be richer of an experience than reading the book.

[Katie]

I was first introduced to this concept by my therapist a year and a half ago. I started by listening to the podcast, working not he concepts in our sessions, and trying to share it with others.

I saw that she had a book so I used some digital amazon credits that were expiring way back at the beginning of the pandemic and thought, “I’ll read this during quarantine.” Seven months later, here we are. It’s a short book – read in less than 40 minutes. Does that even count as a book? It does for me.

Michelle explains her model in simple details. It’s a book I’ll read again because it’s so easy to forget these concepts and just hang out in my Adolescent Chair. While I’m comfortable there it’s only because I know those masks so well: perfectionism, criticism, transforming myself so people will like or love me.

I’m comfortable there because that’s who people expect me to be, not who I really am. So here’s to striving to live a wholehearted life comfortably sitting in my Adult Chair.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[Lea]

The best type of self-help.
Quick.
Easy to take notes on.
Can go back and reference easily.
I’m no stranger to therapy and to the self-help genre in literature, lemme tell ya. I have to say, I haven’t seen the Chair approach before reading this book. The author really broke it down for my mind. Everyone absorbs differently, so this technique may not necessarily be new to you or even work for you, but for me, I had a lot of lightbulb moments! Loved it. Will reference it. Won’t ever leave my library.

[Γεώργιος Καράβης]

Shadow and inner child work in a very simple and effective way

Following Dr. Michelle on Insight Timer made me look at her work, and I decided to get the book.

In a very simple and explanatory way, shadow and inner child work was successfully approached.

A must-read for anyone who is starting to take care of themselves.

[Julie Quinio]

Petit livre très utile (en anglais) ! J'ai souligné beaucoup de paragraphes. Je connais le podcast depuis plusieurs années, j'ai déjà expérimenté et utilisé les "triggers". Ce livre est un bon complément au podcast.

[James A mills]

Good idea

Really nice and informative book. Worth a read. Nice and simple, to the point advice. And lovely little drawings and cover.

[Mel]

I enjoyed this book but wanted more! I'm looking forward to the more in-depth book Michelle mentioned on her podcast, due out in 2019.

[Eves21]

A very short, easy read but I like the podcasts better. It’s a great model, well worth exploring.

[Jessica Corwin]

Quick read. Fascinating ideas. Healing practice.

[Andy Kerckhoff]

Short, simple, useful therapeutic modality. It goes along nicely with the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, which is much more robust, and yet this is simple enough for any client to understand.

[Hillary]

Easy and informative read.

[Cameron Clark]

Good and practical info for personal use or use with clients as a therapist. However, it’s basically just a brief summary of her podcast