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Ask, Tell #2
Ask Me Again
What do you do when the source of all your problems is the one thing you don’t know how to fix?
With Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell nothing more than an unpleasant memory, US Army surgeon Sabine Fleischer is ready to move on with her life―if she can just figure out how to move past her PTSD. Fresh from her first deployment since surviving a vehicle attack in Afghanistan, Sabine is finding the things she’s tried so hard to push aside aren’t as easy to ignore as she’d hoped.
Sabine’s girlfriend and ex-commanding officer Rebecca Keane is happily settled into her new job running a trauma department in a civilian hospital. Life with Sabine is everything Rebecca ever wanted. But when Sabine’s PTSD reappears worse than before, she’s left struggling with her own guilt.
There’s no doubt that both Sabine and Rebecca want the same thing. But how do you help the most important person in your life when they don’t want to need your help?
Genre: Lesbian General Fiction
Editor: Cath Walker
Cover Designer: Sandy Knowles
With Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell nothing more than an unpleasant memory, US Army surgeon Sabine Fleischer is ready to move on with her life―if she can just figure out how to move past her PTSD. Fresh from her first deployment since surviving a vehicle attack in Afghanistan, Sabine is finding the things she’s tried so hard to push aside aren’t as easy to ignore as she’d hoped.
Sabine’s girlfriend and ex-commanding officer Rebecca Keane is happily settled into her new job running a trauma department in a civilian hospital. Life with Sabine is everything Rebecca ever wanted. But when Sabine’s PTSD reappears worse than before, she’s left struggling with her own guilt.
There’s no doubt that both Sabine and Rebecca want the same thing. But how do you help the most important person in your life when they don’t want to need your help?
Genre: Lesbian General Fiction
Editor: Cath Walker
Cover Designer: Sandy Knowles
288 pages, Paperback
First published November 20, 2018
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E.J. Noyes
19 books1,977 followersE. J. Noyes is an Australian transplanted to New Zealand, which may be the awesomest thing to happen to her. She lives in the South Island with her wife and the world’s best and neediest cat, and is enjoying the change of temperature from her hot, humid homeland.
An avid but mediocre gamer, E. J. lives for skiing (which she is also mediocre at), enjoys arguing with her hair, pretending to be good at things, and working the fact she’s a best-selling and award-winning author into casual conversation.
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An avid but mediocre gamer, E. J. lives for skiing (which she is also mediocre at), enjoys arguing with her hair, pretending to be good at things, and working the fact she’s a best-selling and award-winning author into casual conversation.
If you want (very) sporadic emails about what E. J. is doing, you can sign up for the E. J. Noyesletter at: https://ejnoyesauthor.com/
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November 15, 2018
Ask Me Again is another excellent book by Noyes. This is the sequel to the book Ask, Tell. I highly, highly recommend reading Ask, Tell first. This book is powerful and I just don’t think it would have the same effect on a reader who doesn’t know the backstory. Ask, Tell is one of my all-time favorite romance books so it’s no hardship to have to read it first.
This book takes place less than a year after Ask, Tell ended. Sabine has finished another tour in Afghanistan and is coming home for her next deployment. Sabine can’t wait to be home with Rebecca again, especially now that DADT was finally repealed. But the closer Sabine gets towards home, the worse her PTSD and anxiety seems to get. Can two people in love help each other to battle such a tough opponent?
This book is really different than any other book Noyes has written. I would almost put this under drama-romance. This book is raw and heartbreaking at times, but it’s also about true love. I thought it was wonderfully written. I have read a few books that I thought tackled the subject of PTSD well, but I think this book seemed the most honest and realistic I have read. It also deals with Sabine’s anxiety. Anxiety is something I’ve dealt with on and off most of my life and I tell you some of this was so realistic it almost hit a little too close to home. I don’t know how much is research or real life experiences but Noyes really knows how to write about some tough subjects.
A new change in this book that I really liked was the added POV of Rebecca. This book is still in first person, but the chapters alternate between Rebecca’s and Sabine’s POV. I loved getting to know Rebecca so much more and really understanding her emotions. Than being in the head of Sabine and what she was going through was just powerful. I don’t think this book would have worked as well not being in first person. This way you are completely connected to the characters as a reader.
Even more than a romance this is a story about love. You believe this is real love you are reading about. And it’s not always an easy read. This book is a little tough at times and if you are like me, you might want to keep the tissues ready. But the love is there and it gives you hope. There is no stupid manufactured angst, this about two women trying to heal.
This was a really well written book. I’m attached to these characters and am really going to miss them. This book is very different and not always easy to read, but it’s absolutely worth it. Noyes just impresses me more and more with every book she writes.
An ARC was given to me by Bella, for a honest review.
This book takes place less than a year after Ask, Tell ended. Sabine has finished another tour in Afghanistan and is coming home for her next deployment. Sabine can’t wait to be home with Rebecca again, especially now that DADT was finally repealed. But the closer Sabine gets towards home, the worse her PTSD and anxiety seems to get. Can two people in love help each other to battle such a tough opponent?
This book is really different than any other book Noyes has written. I would almost put this under drama-romance. This book is raw and heartbreaking at times, but it’s also about true love. I thought it was wonderfully written. I have read a few books that I thought tackled the subject of PTSD well, but I think this book seemed the most honest and realistic I have read. It also deals with Sabine’s anxiety. Anxiety is something I’ve dealt with on and off most of my life and I tell you some of this was so realistic it almost hit a little too close to home. I don’t know how much is research or real life experiences but Noyes really knows how to write about some tough subjects.
A new change in this book that I really liked was the added POV of Rebecca. This book is still in first person, but the chapters alternate between Rebecca’s and Sabine’s POV. I loved getting to know Rebecca so much more and really understanding her emotions. Than being in the head of Sabine and what she was going through was just powerful. I don’t think this book would have worked as well not being in first person. This way you are completely connected to the characters as a reader.
Even more than a romance this is a story about love. You believe this is real love you are reading about. And it’s not always an easy read. This book is a little tough at times and if you are like me, you might want to keep the tissues ready. But the love is there and it gives you hope. There is no stupid manufactured angst, this about two women trying to heal.
This was a really well written book. I’m attached to these characters and am really going to miss them. This book is very different and not always easy to read, but it’s absolutely worth it. Noyes just impresses me more and more with every book she writes.
An ARC was given to me by Bella, for a honest review.
November 9, 2019
Incredible read!
...no let down -- just a riveting series with some intricate storytelling.
A highly recommended series to everyone!
...no let down -- just a riveting series with some intricate storytelling.
A highly recommended series to everyone!
December 27, 2018
I liked Ask Me Again even more than its really good predecessor Ask, Tell. I am not much for military romances in war zones so it is not surprising. Ask Me Again is a greatly done romantic drama showing us two strong women sharing the one true love along with struggling with PTSD, guilt and self-recrimination. Noyes makes them struggle hard but never breaks them, not for a moment, and I really appreciate that.
The story is written in first person past tense from the point of view of both protagonists -- Sabine (37) and Rebecca (45). The POV switches for each chapter from one narrator to another with indication who is telling the story for the moment. It is done really well, and unlike Ask, Tell (first person present tense, only Sabine's POV), it allowed us to get to know the main characters from both perspectives. I really appreciate that too.
Ask Me Again is an excellent book, but not a light read. It deals with unpleasant events, with a protagonist fighting intrusive thoughts, severe anxiety, pain and hurt that is inside and tries to controls her -- but it is essentially positive and motivating, and that is another thing for me to appreciate.
I strongly suggest reading Ask, Tell prior to this sequel because some important nuances may be lost on you otherwise.
E.J. Noyes has become one of my trusted authors, and I cannot wait to read her next book Alone, which is slated for May next year.
4,75 stars
November 17, 2018
*A review copy of this book was provided by the publisher.*
The story is written in first person past tense from the point of view of both protagonists -- Sabine (37) and Rebecca (45). The POV switches for each chapter from one narrator to another with indication who is telling the story for the moment. It is done really well, and unlike Ask, Tell (first person present tense, only Sabine's POV), it allowed us to get to know the main characters from both perspectives. I really appreciate that too.
Ask Me Again is an excellent book, but not a light read. It deals with unpleasant events, with a protagonist fighting intrusive thoughts, severe anxiety, pain and hurt that is inside and tries to controls her -- but it is essentially positive and motivating, and that is another thing for me to appreciate.
I strongly suggest reading Ask, Tell prior to this sequel because some important nuances may be lost on you otherwise.
E.J. Noyes has become one of my trusted authors, and I cannot wait to read her next book Alone, which is slated for May next year.
4,75 stars
November 17, 2018
*A review copy of this book was provided by the publisher.*
January 6, 2019
Oh Miss Noyes I salute you!
Since there are so many reviews on this one, I’m not going to write what the story is about..
Sabine you beautiful sexy broken creature, I feel the need to call and check on you! And Bec you loving caring human being, I want to come have a glass of wine with you and give you a hug!
M&Ms, I need to go clubbing with you :)
A very solid 5 stars for a rough and real read ..
Since there are so many reviews on this one, I’m not going to write what the story is about..
Sabine you beautiful sexy broken creature, I feel the need to call and check on you! And Bec you loving caring human being, I want to come have a glass of wine with you and give you a hug!
M&Ms, I need to go clubbing with you :)
A very solid 5 stars for a rough and real read ..
May 1, 2022
Well done. This second book is much darker than Ask, Tell and it needs to be. I know, I know, the first book in the series had lots of angst built into it and you don't want to cry again. If you have not read Ask,Tell stop reading this review. If you have, then you need to pick up this book to see what happens to Sabine and Rebecca. You will be rewarded with an awesome read.
I loved reading this book from the perspective of both women. It cemented my understanding of the love each had for the other and fears each had that they would screw things up and ruin their relationship. I don't know when I have read a better study of PTSD than what we see Sabine dealing with when she returns Stateside. I found this the most powerful aspect of the whole novel and I was impressed with the author's ability to show us her mental state and inner turmoil. Watching her unravel and shun assistance from loved ones and professionals felt all too real. The reader feels as helpless as Rebecca and Sabine's sister in trying to support her recovery.
Terrific read.
I loved reading this book from the perspective of both women. It cemented my understanding of the love each had for the other and fears each had that they would screw things up and ruin their relationship. I don't know when I have read a better study of PTSD than what we see Sabine dealing with when she returns Stateside. I found this the most powerful aspect of the whole novel and I was impressed with the author's ability to show us her mental state and inner turmoil. Watching her unravel and shun assistance from loved ones and professionals felt all too real. The reader feels as helpless as Rebecca and Sabine's sister in trying to support her recovery.
Terrific read.
July 31, 2022
5⭐
Another amazing audioversion of a E.J. Noyes novel. Narrated by the wonderful Abby Craden. I read the book some time ago and now it was a feast for the ears. This whole series is amazing.
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This is my third novel from E.J. Noyes, and it's the third I rated with five stars. She's definitely one of my favorites authors now.
«Ask Me Again» is the sequel to «Ask, Tell» and I would say it's entirely necessary to read them in order. This book starts about one year after «Ask, Tell» ended. Sabine is coming home again from another tour in Afghanistan, for her break before the next deployment. She is still suffering from The Incident the last time she was over there. She has everything planned for the day when she sees her girlfriend Bec again, but the nearer she comes home, the more she freezes inside. Rebecca on the other side has to fight her own demons since The Incident. Will the two be able to overcome their fears and help each other to heal?
What was extremly important for me, was, that it was written form the POV of both MCs. It was essential to know each of them feels and what they were thinking. What kind of struggles they have to overcome. Sometimes it was heartbreaking to witness what kind of fears, anxiety, hurt and helplessness they had to endure. But it was beautiful too, to feel how strong their love is and what love can achieve.
It's not an easy read, I had more than once trouble to see the letters through my tears. I'm lucky that I never had to fight with PTSD, and I think nobody can really understand what is going on in a person who suffers from this illness until you experience it yourself. But after this book, I have an idea of it. The author did a fantastic job, to bring all the emotions like anxiety, fear, hurt, pain and undying love onto the pages. I could feel with Sabine and Rebecca.
It's a powerful message about Love. My rating 5⭐
Another amazing audioversion of a E.J. Noyes novel. Narrated by the wonderful Abby Craden. I read the book some time ago and now it was a feast for the ears. This whole series is amazing.
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This is my third novel from E.J. Noyes, and it's the third I rated with five stars. She's definitely one of my favorites authors now.
«Ask Me Again» is the sequel to «Ask, Tell» and I would say it's entirely necessary to read them in order. This book starts about one year after «Ask, Tell» ended. Sabine is coming home again from another tour in Afghanistan, for her break before the next deployment. She is still suffering from The Incident the last time she was over there. She has everything planned for the day when she sees her girlfriend Bec again, but the nearer she comes home, the more she freezes inside. Rebecca on the other side has to fight her own demons since The Incident. Will the two be able to overcome their fears and help each other to heal?
What was extremly important for me, was, that it was written form the POV of both MCs. It was essential to know each of them feels and what they were thinking. What kind of struggles they have to overcome. Sometimes it was heartbreaking to witness what kind of fears, anxiety, hurt and helplessness they had to endure. But it was beautiful too, to feel how strong their love is and what love can achieve.
It's not an easy read, I had more than once trouble to see the letters through my tears. I'm lucky that I never had to fight with PTSD, and I think nobody can really understand what is going on in a person who suffers from this illness until you experience it yourself. But after this book, I have an idea of it. The author did a fantastic job, to bring all the emotions like anxiety, fear, hurt, pain and undying love onto the pages. I could feel with Sabine and Rebecca.
It's a powerful message about Love. My rating 5⭐
February 17, 2020
I have never been in the military, let alone in a war zone, and I won’t pretend I understand what Sabine is going through with PTSD following “the incident” from Ask, Tell. I have however been trying to convince myself for years that I do not suffer from my own PTSD (my wife will be very proud of me for acknowledging this) since a car bomb exploded outside my high school when I was eleven (or was I twelve?). Add burnout and anxiety with sometimes similar symptoms… So while the experience is different, I can relate to parts of it. I knew listening to this book would be hard but hey, I survived reading and listening to Lise Gold’s Living. Right.
Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell has just been repealed, Sabine and Rebecca can live their relationship openly. They’re still very much in love and everything should be peachy, except Sabine is struggling with PTSD and trying to fight it on her own. Both because she’s having trouble seeing it as anything other than weakness and because she’s forever trying to protect Bec. Who, in turn, is so focused on taking care of Sabine that she’s oblivious to her own pain. She too is, to some extent, suffering from PTSD, while at the same time dealing with the toll mental illness also takes on loved ones.
E. J. Noyes is one of the most talented authors right now. While it is definitely a love story, Ask Me Again is certainly not a romance. It is not light and witty and heartwarming. It is intelligent and intense and heartbreaking. It is so good and true and terrifying and beautiful at the same time. It is also wonderfully written, as are all E. J. Noyes’ books, and so well narrated by Abby Craden that I am in total denial that Sabine and Rebecca are not real people. If you’re like me, this book will break you. Right now, I’m choosing to believe it is for the better. Ask me again in a couple of months.
Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell has just been repealed, Sabine and Rebecca can live their relationship openly. They’re still very much in love and everything should be peachy, except Sabine is struggling with PTSD and trying to fight it on her own. Both because she’s having trouble seeing it as anything other than weakness and because she’s forever trying to protect Bec. Who, in turn, is so focused on taking care of Sabine that she’s oblivious to her own pain. She too is, to some extent, suffering from PTSD, while at the same time dealing with the toll mental illness also takes on loved ones.
E. J. Noyes is one of the most talented authors right now. While it is definitely a love story, Ask Me Again is certainly not a romance. It is not light and witty and heartwarming. It is intelligent and intense and heartbreaking. It is so good and true and terrifying and beautiful at the same time. It is also wonderfully written, as are all E. J. Noyes’ books, and so well narrated by Abby Craden that I am in total denial that Sabine and Rebecca are not real people. If you’re like me, this book will break you. Right now, I’m choosing to believe it is for the better. Ask me again in a couple of months.
July 9, 2022
One of the best books I‘ve ever read and I love Abby Craden as a narrator for this one even more. Her voice for Bec is to die for or swoon over. I think it‘s a must read. But it’s not an easy read due to the PTSD of Sabine and the problems it causes for her and the relationship with Bec, family and friends. But the steady love and support of Bec never wavers. She‘s in this relationship for the long haul. I loved Becs character so very much. Thank you E. J. Noyes for a wonderful and incredible book/series. This one goes to my top 3 all time favorites. Highly recommend and 5 ⭐️ are not enough.
I‘m now so looking forward to the 4. book in this series because it‘s from Becs view and also narrated by Abby Craden.
I‘m now so looking forward to the 4. book in this series because it‘s from Becs view and also narrated by Abby Craden.
December 3, 2020
5+Stars for the Audiobook, Ask Me Again by E.J. Noyes, narrated by Abby Craden. This is the sequel for Ask, Tell which you need to read first.
This is a “re-read” but this time I listened to the audiobook. This book works well as an audiobook. One – it’s narrated by Abby Craden and two – its written in First Person with Sabine and Rebecca switching chapters. So with Craden’s stellar narration, it lends itself well as an audiobook with their two viewpoints and emotions as the couple tries to deal with Sabine’s PTSD.
FYI: I wrote a more detailed review for the ebook of Ask Me Again.
This is a “re-read” but this time I listened to the audiobook. This book works well as an audiobook. One – it’s narrated by Abby Craden and two – its written in First Person with Sabine and Rebecca switching chapters. So with Craden’s stellar narration, it lends itself well as an audiobook with their two viewpoints and emotions as the couple tries to deal with Sabine’s PTSD.
FYI: I wrote a more detailed review for the ebook of Ask Me Again.
July 15, 2019
Audiobook review
This was the highly anticipated sequel to Noyes’ debut novel ‘Ask, Tell’. Although technically not necessary to read the first installment to enjoy this one, I highly recommend doing so in order to fully grasp the dynamics within the story.
‘Ask Me Again’ picks up 2 years after the end of the first book. Surgeon Rebecca Keane is now retired from the Army and runs a civilian trauma center in Washington DC. Captain Sabine Fleischer is finishing her second to last deployment before fulfilling her contract with the Army. Everything should be perfect now that they found a way to be together, however, they are both reeling from ‘The Incident’ and Sabine’s subsequent Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Can their love be enough to keep them together?
The mains in this story are very likable and already established from the previous book. Now, this one is narrated from Sabine and Rebecca’s alternating first person point of view. This opens up the storytelling and we get to hear about Bec’s struggles too, which would be too easy to miss if only Sabine was narrating like in the first book. I also got the story of how Bec felt and managed during the immediate period after ‘The Incident’, which I wondered about since reading it.
I also tried to imagine what would be the aftermath of such a traumatic event. PTSD is a term that gets thrown around frequently, but I doubt people in general understand what it means or how crippling it can be. Sabine is an accomplished surgeon with a great support system, yet can not help feel impaired by the disorder. Her struggles taint what should otherwise be a beautiful relationship with Bec, a rewarding career and simply, her independent and capable self.
I had the opportunity to listen to the recently released audiobook. As with the first installment, Abby Craden was the narrator. I can say without a doubt, this one is my favorite performance by Ms Craden. The book is full of high and lows (ok, mostly lows) and the narrator totally enhances the feelings in the story. The happiness and the sorrow, it is all beautifully told with such sentiment, that is difficult to not get totally wrapped in the story and root for these characters to find a way out of their predicament. I most definitely felt more connected with Bec, and Ms Craden simply made her feel as someone any person could love. I’m not a fan of calling someone darling, but I love when Bec calls Sabine that! Somehow it is not stiff and proper but rather sweet and caring. Even amongst all the sadness, Ms Noyes injects her ever present witty dialog and Ms Craden also pulls that off magnificently. The narrator took an already fantastic book and made it even better. This one is a true synergistic collaboration between author and narrator.
At the end of the day, this is a terrific love story and a brilliantly narrated audiobook that will appeal to all fans of the genre. 5+ stars
This was the highly anticipated sequel to Noyes’ debut novel ‘Ask, Tell’. Although technically not necessary to read the first installment to enjoy this one, I highly recommend doing so in order to fully grasp the dynamics within the story.
‘Ask Me Again’ picks up 2 years after the end of the first book. Surgeon Rebecca Keane is now retired from the Army and runs a civilian trauma center in Washington DC. Captain Sabine Fleischer is finishing her second to last deployment before fulfilling her contract with the Army. Everything should be perfect now that they found a way to be together, however, they are both reeling from ‘The Incident’ and Sabine’s subsequent Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Can their love be enough to keep them together?
The mains in this story are very likable and already established from the previous book. Now, this one is narrated from Sabine and Rebecca’s alternating first person point of view. This opens up the storytelling and we get to hear about Bec’s struggles too, which would be too easy to miss if only Sabine was narrating like in the first book. I also got the story of how Bec felt and managed during the immediate period after ‘The Incident’, which I wondered about since reading it.
I also tried to imagine what would be the aftermath of such a traumatic event. PTSD is a term that gets thrown around frequently, but I doubt people in general understand what it means or how crippling it can be. Sabine is an accomplished surgeon with a great support system, yet can not help feel impaired by the disorder. Her struggles taint what should otherwise be a beautiful relationship with Bec, a rewarding career and simply, her independent and capable self.
I had the opportunity to listen to the recently released audiobook. As with the first installment, Abby Craden was the narrator. I can say without a doubt, this one is my favorite performance by Ms Craden. The book is full of high and lows (ok, mostly lows) and the narrator totally enhances the feelings in the story. The happiness and the sorrow, it is all beautifully told with such sentiment, that is difficult to not get totally wrapped in the story and root for these characters to find a way out of their predicament. I most definitely felt more connected with Bec, and Ms Craden simply made her feel as someone any person could love. I’m not a fan of calling someone darling, but I love when Bec calls Sabine that! Somehow it is not stiff and proper but rather sweet and caring. Even amongst all the sadness, Ms Noyes injects her ever present witty dialog and Ms Craden also pulls that off magnificently. The narrator took an already fantastic book and made it even better. This one is a true synergistic collaboration between author and narrator.
At the end of the day, this is a terrific love story and a brilliantly narrated audiobook that will appeal to all fans of the genre. 5+ stars
December 6, 2018
Sequel to Ask, Tell by EJ Noyes this book had to be written.
Sabine is back from another military tour but her PTSD is worse than ever. She is struggling to function in her day to day life but more so, she is struggling with her relationship with her beautiful girlfriend and ex commanding officer, Rebecca. It’s undeniable they are meant to be together and the love they have for one another is even stronger than ever before. But with Rebecca struggling to move on from the part she played in Sabine’s PTSD and with Sabine wanting to fix herself without worrying Rebecca… They need to find a way to work together before they can move forward to the life they truly deserve.
This book was an emotional roller coaster that I am so glad I jumped on. Even through the entire trauma these two go through, the love that is between Rebecca and Sabine is so freaking potent that even in the hardest conversations and moments throughout the book, you know there is only one way this can go. I can’t believe I am saying this but I loved this book more than the first book, Ask Tell.
Rebecca and Sabine’s love story is written beautifully and EJ Noyes really worked hard to make the reader aware that no matter what, they are soul mates and nothing will tear them apart.
The main difference in this story from the first in the series is that we have both Sabine and Rebecca’s point of view which was pivotal to the flow of the story and to really know how these characters feel about not only each other, but how they are both dealing with Sabine’s PTSD separately and together.
The secondary characters in the book were fantastic especially Sabine’s sister, Jani. She cracked me up but also was a major support to both characters in different ways throughout the story, if only she wasn’t straight because I’d love to read a story about her falling in love.
This story was soul stirring, powerful and so emotive that I don’t think I could really put into words how outstanding this book actually is. In the end I came up with this… Ask Me Again is about real love, not a fairy tale love but real, messed up, adoring and sometimes hard, Love.
A very powerful, 5 stars!
Sabine is back from another military tour but her PTSD is worse than ever. She is struggling to function in her day to day life but more so, she is struggling with her relationship with her beautiful girlfriend and ex commanding officer, Rebecca. It’s undeniable they are meant to be together and the love they have for one another is even stronger than ever before. But with Rebecca struggling to move on from the part she played in Sabine’s PTSD and with Sabine wanting to fix herself without worrying Rebecca… They need to find a way to work together before they can move forward to the life they truly deserve.
This book was an emotional roller coaster that I am so glad I jumped on. Even through the entire trauma these two go through, the love that is between Rebecca and Sabine is so freaking potent that even in the hardest conversations and moments throughout the book, you know there is only one way this can go. I can’t believe I am saying this but I loved this book more than the first book, Ask Tell.
Rebecca and Sabine’s love story is written beautifully and EJ Noyes really worked hard to make the reader aware that no matter what, they are soul mates and nothing will tear them apart.
The main difference in this story from the first in the series is that we have both Sabine and Rebecca’s point of view which was pivotal to the flow of the story and to really know how these characters feel about not only each other, but how they are both dealing with Sabine’s PTSD separately and together.
The secondary characters in the book were fantastic especially Sabine’s sister, Jani. She cracked me up but also was a major support to both characters in different ways throughout the story, if only she wasn’t straight because I’d love to read a story about her falling in love.
This story was soul stirring, powerful and so emotive that I don’t think I could really put into words how outstanding this book actually is. In the end I came up with this… Ask Me Again is about real love, not a fairy tale love but real, messed up, adoring and sometimes hard, Love.
A very powerful, 5 stars!
February 8, 2019
'Ask Me Again' is a deeply moving continuation of 'Ask, Tell.'
It felt as if I was a spectator (or fly on the wall) throughout this entire story. And it was uncomfortable. I imagine Noyes did PTSD justice. It was horrifying to watch Sabine struggle with the changes, actions, and feelings she could not prevent. And alternatively just as terrifying to observe Rebecca's silent suffering while trying to support her girlfriend.
This is one of those books that is tough to read but you feel like you've gained something from having made it to the end.
Rebecca was a saint. I don't think anyone like that exists in real life. The most enjoying aspect of 'Ask Me Again' was her determined and absolute resolve to remain constant. Such a rarity.
The length felt long. It might have been because of the uncomfortable material, though. I wish the the catalyst to Sabine's restroom epiphany would have been something different and more profound. It also seemed like the doctor with the son who wanted to go the military kind of just dropped out of the end of the book. I was expecting some kind of something and got nothing.
3.5 rounded up.
It felt as if I was a spectator (or fly on the wall) throughout this entire story. And it was uncomfortable. I imagine Noyes did PTSD justice. It was horrifying to watch Sabine struggle with the changes, actions, and feelings she could not prevent. And alternatively just as terrifying to observe Rebecca's silent suffering while trying to support her girlfriend.
This is one of those books that is tough to read but you feel like you've gained something from having made it to the end.
Rebecca was a saint. I don't think anyone like that exists in real life. The most enjoying aspect of 'Ask Me Again' was her determined and absolute resolve to remain constant. Such a rarity.
The length felt long. It might have been because of the uncomfortable material, though. I wish the the catalyst to Sabine's restroom epiphany would have been something different and more profound. It also seemed like the doctor with the son who wanted to go the military kind of just dropped out of the end of the book. I was expecting some kind of something and got nothing.
3.5 rounded up.
July 11, 2019
Okay so to all the people who warned me that this book would be even more emotional than the first one.. y'all were fucking right. I can easily listen to a audiobook in one day but this took me over two days to finish because I would get so overwhelmed by my stupid feelings that I have to take several breaks.
It was so beautiful though, I loved the first book but I think I loved this just a tiny bit more. The writing is amazing and the relationship between Sabine and Bec is beautiful. Noyes is definitely gonna become a auto-buy author from now on. I'll happily read anything she writes.
There's not a single thing about this novel that I'd wished been done differently or that I didn't like. I was on the edge of my seat the entire time while listening to this and I will absolutely re-read this in the future.
I listened to the audiobook for this like I did with the first book and it's freaking awesome. I would 100% recommend it if you're thinking about reading this or even if you have already read it.
This book is definitely going to be on my top 10 books of this year. It was simply amazing.
It was so beautiful though, I loved the first book but I think I loved this just a tiny bit more. The writing is amazing and the relationship between Sabine and Bec is beautiful. Noyes is definitely gonna become a auto-buy author from now on. I'll happily read anything she writes.
There's not a single thing about this novel that I'd wished been done differently or that I didn't like. I was on the edge of my seat the entire time while listening to this and I will absolutely re-read this in the future.
I listened to the audiobook for this like I did with the first book and it's freaking awesome. I would 100% recommend it if you're thinking about reading this or even if you have already read it.
This book is definitely going to be on my top 10 books of this year. It was simply amazing.
December 10, 2019
Ask Me Again is not a light read (or listen in this case as it was the audio book). PTSD is just a very serious subject matter and it was heartbreaking to witness Sabine’s struggle. I have a serious character crush on Rebecca, or maybe it’s a combination of E. J. Noyes’ masterful writing and the silken voice of Abby Craden bringing her to life.
OMG!!! Abby fucking Craden is a marvel. Her voice acting absolutely took my breath away. And with so many emotional scenes this must have been a tough book to narrate. The end was glorious. Noyes wrapped it all up with a big bow and it felt so good because these two women really deserve to be happy.
Noyes is such a bright star in lesfic today. I love her work to bits! Keep on shining!!
f/f explicit
Themes: PTSD, I want to marry Abby Craden just so she can talk to me all day ;-)
5 Stars
OMG!!! Abby fucking Craden is a marvel. Her voice acting absolutely took my breath away. And with so many emotional scenes this must have been a tough book to narrate. The end was glorious. Noyes wrapped it all up with a big bow and it felt so good because these two women really deserve to be happy.
Noyes is such a bright star in lesfic today. I love her work to bits! Keep on shining!!
f/f explicit
Themes: PTSD, I want to marry Abby Craden just so she can talk to me all day ;-)
5 Stars
April 28, 2022
I listened to this one again after reading ‘If I Don’t Ask’. Still as superb as the first 4-5 times I read/listened. Noyes at her best.
January 20, 2025
Sometimes a book is really hard to read and this is one of those. Every page is a roller coaster that emotionally drains me. For that reason it's hard work with, for me and the mood I'm in, not enough respite. It's hard enough reading it - but wow, my heart goes out to the two living it & the one writing it!!
Even on Audio found it too hard not to skip chapters.
Even on Audio found it too hard not to skip chapters.
November 16, 2024
The second book in the Ask, Tell series is just as powerful as the first, if not more. Sabine and Rebecca are back, and this time, they’re navigating the aftermath of the incident. Set two years after the events of the first book, this story digs deep into the emotional impact of what happened, both for Sabine and for Rebecca, and it’s impossible not to feel for them every step of the way.
E.J. Noyes does an exceptional job of exploring PTSD in a way that feels both real and raw. The story is told from both Sabine and Rebecca’s perspectives, and that dual viewpoint really allows you to experience firsthand how deeply the trauma affects both of them. It’s a heartbreaking journey at times, full of intense moments and emotional struggles, but there are also some truly beautiful and healing scenes along the way.
Overall, I think this series is something really special. The way it balances the emotional weight of military life and personal relationships with authentic, well-developed characters is something that really resonated with me. I’m already looking forward to rereading the books or diving into the audiobooks again in the future. Highly recommend this series to anyone who loves a deeply emotional and beautifully written romance.
Audiobook Review:
This was my first time listening to the audiobook version of Ask Me Again, and I have to say—it took the experience to a whole new level. Abby Craden’s performance is outstanding. She brings so much emotion and depth to the characters, capturing the pain, hope, and love in a way that enhanced the story even more. Her narration felt incredibly intimate, almost like she was right there in the room with you, sharing the characters’ journey. If you’re a fan of audiobooks, I highly recommend this one—it adds a new dimension to the story that’s definitely worth experiencing.
E.J. Noyes does an exceptional job of exploring PTSD in a way that feels both real and raw. The story is told from both Sabine and Rebecca’s perspectives, and that dual viewpoint really allows you to experience firsthand how deeply the trauma affects both of them. It’s a heartbreaking journey at times, full of intense moments and emotional struggles, but there are also some truly beautiful and healing scenes along the way.
Overall, I think this series is something really special. The way it balances the emotional weight of military life and personal relationships with authentic, well-developed characters is something that really resonated with me. I’m already looking forward to rereading the books or diving into the audiobooks again in the future. Highly recommend this series to anyone who loves a deeply emotional and beautifully written romance.
Audiobook Review:
This was my first time listening to the audiobook version of Ask Me Again, and I have to say—it took the experience to a whole new level. Abby Craden’s performance is outstanding. She brings so much emotion and depth to the characters, capturing the pain, hope, and love in a way that enhanced the story even more. Her narration felt incredibly intimate, almost like she was right there in the room with you, sharing the characters’ journey. If you’re a fan of audiobooks, I highly recommend this one—it adds a new dimension to the story that’s definitely worth experiencing.
December 3, 2018
Detailed score: 3.5 rounded down.
Ok. First things first. Don’t even think about reading this one if you haven’t read Ask Tell first. And even if you have read it, it’s probably worth a refresher.
Now. On to the review. Right. Might just do some vacuuming first. And the dishes. Oooh better walk the dog...
Sigh.
Maybe I’m an alien from the planet zorg and no one told me but... I really didn’t like this book. 3.5 stars rounded down is the highest score I could possibly give it. If I was being harsher / more honest I’d probably give it a 2.75.
This book just felt unnecessary. Probably my biggest peeve was that, despite the alternating view points, I did not feel I get to know Bec or why she was particularly drawn to Sabine (apart from the fact that she’s hot and they’re great in bed).
Most of this was just an unasked for lecture on the impact of PTSD on friends and family and, of course, the person with the disorder themselves.
I will give it credit for not opting for the ‘love of a good woman makes the PTSD’ go away trope which would have annoyed me even more. It was well written and clearly well researched.
I’m all for learning new things through reading but ultimately, this book felt unbalanced to me. Too much PTSD-related side effects, flashbacks, treatment, impacts. Too little character growth and love.
I’m clearly in the minority though, so I’ll be on my way back to Zorg ... once I find the keys to my spaceship.
Ok. First things first. Don’t even think about reading this one if you haven’t read Ask Tell first. And even if you have read it, it’s probably worth a refresher.
Now. On to the review. Right. Might just do some vacuuming first. And the dishes. Oooh better walk the dog...
Sigh.
Maybe I’m an alien from the planet zorg and no one told me but... I really didn’t like this book. 3.5 stars rounded down is the highest score I could possibly give it. If I was being harsher / more honest I’d probably give it a 2.75.
This book just felt unnecessary. Probably my biggest peeve was that, despite the alternating view points, I did not feel I get to know Bec or why she was particularly drawn to Sabine (apart from the fact that she’s hot and they’re great in bed).
Most of this was just an unasked for lecture on the impact of PTSD on friends and family and, of course, the person with the disorder themselves.
I will give it credit for not opting for the ‘love of a good woman makes the PTSD’ go away trope which would have annoyed me even more. It was well written and clearly well researched.
I’m all for learning new things through reading but ultimately, this book felt unbalanced to me. Too much PTSD-related side effects, flashbacks, treatment, impacts. Too little character growth and love.
I’m clearly in the minority though, so I’ll be on my way back to Zorg ... once I find the keys to my spaceship.
January 26, 2019
Oh my gosh!
What a powerful story! Many sad and emotional heartbreaking things happened in this exceptional sequel. Fortunately, there are also beautiful moments, full of love, that will warm your heart. The author does a more than excellent job describing what Sabine and Rebecca has to go through to re-establish the life they once knew. I devoured every word and I highly recommend it to everyone.
What a powerful story! Many sad and emotional heartbreaking things happened in this exceptional sequel. Fortunately, there are also beautiful moments, full of love, that will warm your heart. The author does a more than excellent job describing what Sabine and Rebecca has to go through to re-establish the life they once knew. I devoured every word and I highly recommend it to everyone.
January 15, 2020
🏳️🌈👭📚👩❤️👩🏳️🌈
A while ago, I was offered the paperback of « Ask Me Again » by a very good Friend of mine 🙃🙂 (from the bottom of my heart : THANK YOU, again, my Dear !! 😊🤗).
To understand properly everything’s happening in « Ask Me Again » (and why), it’s highly recommended to read « Ask, Tell » first … ‘cause « Ask Me Again » is the sequel of « Ask, Tell » ( https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3... )
For whose who’d have missed my review on it, here is the link ( https://www.goodreads.com/review/show... ).
The story focuses on Captain Sabine Fleischer, still a skilled and dedicated U.S. Army surgeon who’s now back at home (after her physical therapy following « The Incident » which almost cost her her life & being deployed again, during 10 months, to the same combat hospital in Afghanistan) … and her girlfriend, former Colonel Rebecca Keane, who left the Army & is now running a trauma department in a civilian hospital… By now the US Army DADT policy is in the past … They should be happy but Sabine’s PTSD reappears worse than before and Rebecca’s left struggling with her own guilt. For sure they both want the same thing & need each other but by doing what they think is the right thing to protect and help the other, they make their own couple life more complicated and dangerous than it should be … We’re the silent witnesses of their difficult and painful struggle leading to their real HEA…
All those who have read my review about « Ask, Tell » know that I deeply loved the novel, the characters, etc … « Ask Me Again » being its sequel, of course I was impatient to read it, to meet with Sabine & Bec again (like you could be impatient to be reunited with some long lost friends …) Why ??? Because, IDK how she does such a thing but, beside writting masterly in different (not always easy) genres (romance, military story, sport story, etc..). E.J. Noyes has, no matter the genres in which you include her stories, this very gift to always make you feel a (sometimes very deep) connection to the characters … (For me it happens all the time. This author is among the few who never fail me with any of their books …). And this already existing connection made me, once again laugh, cry, suffer, etc … in the same time that the narrators during their journey …
The PROS :
° the (seemingly, I guess) very realistic way the difficult subject of PTSD is treated .. its « raw » and definitely heartbreaking drama & the harsh daily struggle led by those who suffer from this syndrome … without forgetting that the book is also about deep and true love between soulmates …
° the double way the story is told …. 1st one = it’s told in the past tense (it was told in the present tense in « Ask, Tell » ) and …2nd one =it’s told with an interesting and original narration choice since from one chapter to the other there’s a change of perspective. I mean that all the novel long, alternately you have Sabine’s perspective and then Rebecca’s. Eeach time you change, you move forward in the story => I think it’s a bloody great idea !!! This way the characters have even more depth & we are able to have « 1st hand » (« directly from the horse’s mouth », if you prefer an animalistic idiom) both MCs’s feelings … ‘cause they both suffered from « The Incident » … it’s like watching a very intimate and detailed documentary about some close & dear friends … And we live all the same emotions as them (their joys, their doubts, their distress, their anxiety, their emotional pain and much more … )
° the good style, great wording and this wonderful, smart-ass sense of humor once again used by the author it makes you laugh when the tension is high and helps you to unwind .. and trust me … when you’re highly sensitive like I am, you need to unwind … (Aside the times I was in beta reader mode, I had to take some breaks in the reading because the story overwhelmed me … several times !! 🤯 🤯 🤯 )
° the real emotional roller-coaster !!! (Not a « kiddie-coaster » like Bec would say, nope, the scary and highly vomit-inducing kind … To know what I’m talking about you’ll have to read the book people … 😉 ) => Nope !!! That’s NOT a con, that’s just the proof the author did a damn good job to convey raw emotions in her story …
° the sweet erotism and the poetry used to relate the few intimate moments between the lead characters …
The CONS … Hmm sorry (but not sorry) … I didn’t find a real one.
This being said … I confess that I’d have appreciated to have a bit more info about the 4 strong secondary characters (they disappear suddenly, kind of …) : Jana, Sabine’s M& M’s and Amy (even if she’s a bit more discreet than the others) …
But … Maybe we’ll be lucky to see them later … => Questions for the author : What can you tell us about that E.J. ?? Please … Will there be a 3rd book about Sab & Bec ??? I really hope so (and I bet I’m not the only one …
=> If I had to make a very short & quite different version of my review it’d be something like this :
° Did I enjoy this book? => Hmm … Enjoy is definitely not the right word here. Seriously, how could someone « enjoy » such a difficult topic ?? From my POV, you can't dive in a novel about a subject which leads you to discover one of the darkest part of human mind (a real misery), daily terror and anxiety with a smile on your face.
° Did I find the characters believable? => Totally. They’re also deeply touching, even more than in « Ask, Tell » …
° Is this book still included in my « must be re-read »-list? => Yes, but someday ….
° Would I read another book by this author? => Of course !!! The paperback of « Turbulence » is already on my bookshelves and I plan to read all the future novels she’ll release …
° Would I recommend this book => Yes … ‘cause, even if the subject is difficult, it’s definitely A MUST READ. 👍👍
Guys and Gals … Now it’s your turn to be supportive to the lovebirds, so, grab your copy !! 😉
💜💙💚💛🧡❤️
🏳️🌈👭📚👩❤️👩🏳️🌈
A while ago, I was offered the paperback of « Ask Me Again » by a very good Friend of mine 🙃🙂 (from the bottom of my heart : THANK YOU, again, my Dear !! 😊🤗).
To understand properly everything’s happening in « Ask Me Again » (and why), it’s highly recommended to read « Ask, Tell » first … ‘cause « Ask Me Again » is the sequel of « Ask, Tell » ( https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3... )
For whose who’d have missed my review on it, here is the link ( https://www.goodreads.com/review/show... ).
The story focuses on Captain Sabine Fleischer, still a skilled and dedicated U.S. Army surgeon who’s now back at home (after her physical therapy following « The Incident » which almost cost her her life & being deployed again, during 10 months, to the same combat hospital in Afghanistan) … and her girlfriend, former Colonel Rebecca Keane, who left the Army & is now running a trauma department in a civilian hospital… By now the US Army DADT policy is in the past … They should be happy but Sabine’s PTSD reappears worse than before and Rebecca’s left struggling with her own guilt. For sure they both want the same thing & need each other but by doing what they think is the right thing to protect and help the other, they make their own couple life more complicated and dangerous than it should be … We’re the silent witnesses of their difficult and painful struggle leading to their real HEA…
All those who have read my review about « Ask, Tell » know that I deeply loved the novel, the characters, etc … « Ask Me Again » being its sequel, of course I was impatient to read it, to meet with Sabine & Bec again (like you could be impatient to be reunited with some long lost friends …) Why ??? Because, IDK how she does such a thing but, beside writting masterly in different (not always easy) genres (romance, military story, sport story, etc..). E.J. Noyes has, no matter the genres in which you include her stories, this very gift to always make you feel a (sometimes very deep) connection to the characters … (For me it happens all the time. This author is among the few who never fail me with any of their books …). And this already existing connection made me, once again laugh, cry, suffer, etc … in the same time that the narrators during their journey …
The PROS :
° the (seemingly, I guess) very realistic way the difficult subject of PTSD is treated .. its « raw » and definitely heartbreaking drama & the harsh daily struggle led by those who suffer from this syndrome … without forgetting that the book is also about deep and true love between soulmates …
° the double way the story is told …. 1st one = it’s told in the past tense (it was told in the present tense in « Ask, Tell » ) and …2nd one =it’s told with an interesting and original narration choice since from one chapter to the other there’s a change of perspective. I mean that all the novel long, alternately you have Sabine’s perspective and then Rebecca’s. Eeach time you change, you move forward in the story => I think it’s a bloody great idea !!! This way the characters have even more depth & we are able to have « 1st hand » (« directly from the horse’s mouth », if you prefer an animalistic idiom) both MCs’s feelings … ‘cause they both suffered from « The Incident » … it’s like watching a very intimate and detailed documentary about some close & dear friends … And we live all the same emotions as them (their joys, their doubts, their distress, their anxiety, their emotional pain and much more … )
° the good style, great wording and this wonderful, smart-ass sense of humor once again used by the author it makes you laugh when the tension is high and helps you to unwind .. and trust me … when you’re highly sensitive like I am, you need to unwind … (Aside the times I was in beta reader mode, I had to take some breaks in the reading because the story overwhelmed me … several times !! 🤯 🤯 🤯 )
° the real emotional roller-coaster !!! (Not a « kiddie-coaster » like Bec would say, nope, the scary and highly vomit-inducing kind … To know what I’m talking about you’ll have to read the book people … 😉 ) => Nope !!! That’s NOT a con, that’s just the proof the author did a damn good job to convey raw emotions in her story …
° the sweet erotism and the poetry used to relate the few intimate moments between the lead characters …
The CONS … Hmm sorry (but not sorry) … I didn’t find a real one.
This being said … I confess that I’d have appreciated to have a bit more info about the 4 strong secondary characters (they disappear suddenly, kind of …) : Jana, Sabine’s M& M’s and Amy (even if she’s a bit more discreet than the others) …
But … Maybe we’ll be lucky to see them later … => Questions for the author : What can you tell us about that E.J. ?? Please … Will there be a 3rd book about Sab & Bec ??? I really hope so (and I bet I’m not the only one …
=> If I had to make a very short & quite different version of my review it’d be something like this :
° Did I enjoy this book? => Hmm … Enjoy is definitely not the right word here. Seriously, how could someone « enjoy » such a difficult topic ?? From my POV, you can't dive in a novel about a subject which leads you to discover one of the darkest part of human mind (a real misery), daily terror and anxiety with a smile on your face.
° Did I find the characters believable? => Totally. They’re also deeply touching, even more than in « Ask, Tell » …
° Is this book still included in my « must be re-read »-list? => Yes, but someday ….
° Would I read another book by this author? => Of course !!! The paperback of « Turbulence » is already on my bookshelves and I plan to read all the future novels she’ll release …
° Would I recommend this book => Yes … ‘cause, even if the subject is difficult, it’s definitely A MUST READ. 👍👍
Guys and Gals … Now it’s your turn to be supportive to the lovebirds, so, grab your copy !! 😉
💜💙💚💛🧡❤️
🏳️🌈👭📚👩❤️👩🏳️🌈
November 22, 2019
Ask Me Again zeroes in on what happens when the body is seemingly healed from trauma but the mind and spirit lag far behind.
Captain Sabine Fleischer is over two years removed from the Incident, an enemy attack on her humvee which she barely survived. She battles PTSD on a daily basis and to complicate matters, her girlfriend, Lt Col. Rebecca Keane is the surgeon who saved her life on the operating table. Bec herself struggles with guilt and a deep sorrow. Keane is retired from the army while Fleischer is between deployments when they attempt to settle into a routine home life in Washington DC.
Grueling is the best way that I can describe this read, as we get both pov’s in a microscopic way, every frustrating and terrifying moment described with deceivingly mundane, repetitive details that create an exhausting, claustrophobic world. Sabine is trapped and at times paralyzed by fear, anxiety, and defeat. Bec is in anguish because there’s nothing worse than watching a person you love suffer and not knowing how to help. I genuinely cried a few times and was scared to turn the page because Sabine is the family member that you hold dear and desperately want to keep from drowning. HEA but it’s earned at the deepest level by two people who bravely refuse to give up on each other and themselves.
Captain Sabine Fleischer is over two years removed from the Incident, an enemy attack on her humvee which she barely survived. She battles PTSD on a daily basis and to complicate matters, her girlfriend, Lt Col. Rebecca Keane is the surgeon who saved her life on the operating table. Bec herself struggles with guilt and a deep sorrow. Keane is retired from the army while Fleischer is between deployments when they attempt to settle into a routine home life in Washington DC.
Grueling is the best way that I can describe this read, as we get both pov’s in a microscopic way, every frustrating and terrifying moment described with deceivingly mundane, repetitive details that create an exhausting, claustrophobic world. Sabine is trapped and at times paralyzed by fear, anxiety, and defeat. Bec is in anguish because there’s nothing worse than watching a person you love suffer and not knowing how to help. I genuinely cried a few times and was scared to turn the page because Sabine is the family member that you hold dear and desperately want to keep from drowning. HEA but it’s earned at the deepest level by two people who bravely refuse to give up on each other and themselves.
September 5, 2019
5+ Stars for this sequel of Ask, Tell. Probably in my Top 10 for 2019.
You really must read Ask, Tell before reading this book, Ask Me Again. US Army surgeon Captain Sabine Fleischer has returned from Afghanistan. She and her buddy, Mitch are assigned to Walter Reed Hospital, until they get orders for their next deployment. Sabine surprises her girlfriend, now a civilian and ex-commanding officer, Rebecca Keane by arriving a day early. Trauma surgeon, Rebecca, now heads a trauma unit at a civilian hospital.
Noyes very effectively wrote this in first person with Sabine and Rebecca switching chapters. Sabine is suffering from severe PTSD, the effects of almost dying when the Humvee she was in was hit by an explosive. Rebecca is also struggling as her commanding officer, doctor and lover.
By switching POVs, we get to know Rebecca better as she tries to help Sabine with her PTSD. She walks the fine line of supporting her and yet gently nudging Sabine to be more open and in compliance for her treatment (such as taking her meds) rather than trying to do it on her own. And with Sabine, we struggle along with her. We are with her as she deals with anxiety, nightmares and OCD tendencies. Such as requiring to drive rather than being the passenger in the car, or deciding what pattern to mow the lawn. But through all the struggles, Rebecca is there for her, patience of a saint (or a woman in love) and gently pushing when necessary. (I must note that although Sabine has PTSD, she is still an effective, talented surgeon).
Noyes does such a good job, that I had a difficult time reading this book. I don’t do angst. I bought it when it first came out, read a chapter or two and put it down. When I finally, decided to read it, I would read a few chapters, then pick up a lighter book or story before returning. The last half or so, I was able to read it straight through. But with all this angst, at its core it is a love story.
The reviews are saying that the audiobook narrated by Abby Craden is excellent. When I re-read this, I may go this route with tissues in hand.
You really must read Ask, Tell before reading this book, Ask Me Again. US Army surgeon Captain Sabine Fleischer has returned from Afghanistan. She and her buddy, Mitch are assigned to Walter Reed Hospital, until they get orders for their next deployment. Sabine surprises her girlfriend, now a civilian and ex-commanding officer, Rebecca Keane by arriving a day early. Trauma surgeon, Rebecca, now heads a trauma unit at a civilian hospital.
Noyes very effectively wrote this in first person with Sabine and Rebecca switching chapters. Sabine is suffering from severe PTSD, the effects of almost dying when the Humvee she was in was hit by an explosive. Rebecca is also struggling as her commanding officer, doctor and lover.
By switching POVs, we get to know Rebecca better as she tries to help Sabine with her PTSD. She walks the fine line of supporting her and yet gently nudging Sabine to be more open and in compliance for her treatment (such as taking her meds) rather than trying to do it on her own. And with Sabine, we struggle along with her. We are with her as she deals with anxiety, nightmares and OCD tendencies. Such as requiring to drive rather than being the passenger in the car, or deciding what pattern to mow the lawn. But through all the struggles, Rebecca is there for her, patience of a saint (or a woman in love) and gently pushing when necessary. (I must note that although Sabine has PTSD, she is still an effective, talented surgeon).
Noyes does such a good job, that I had a difficult time reading this book. I don’t do angst. I bought it when it first came out, read a chapter or two and put it down. When I finally, decided to read it, I would read a few chapters, then pick up a lighter book or story before returning. The last half or so, I was able to read it straight through. But with all this angst, at its core it is a love story.
The reviews are saying that the audiobook narrated by Abby Craden is excellent. When I re-read this, I may go this route with tissues in hand.
November 18, 2018
This book is a tough cookie.
I had a hard time reading it, because the subject, PTSD coupled with a first person narrator, makes it very difficult to "enjoy".
You don't plunge in the one of the darkest part of human mind and misery, daily terror and anxiety with a smile on your face.
It was implied at the end of the precedent story that Sabine may have PTSD.
Two years later, in denial, she goes deeper and deeper into irrationnality.
It's balanced by the chapter with Becca as narrator. And while she's not as okay as we might like, it still manages to counterbalence Sabine instability leaking through the pages.
Reading this was not my cup of tea, but I still think it's a great book, worth rereading when I'm feeling more brave.
I had a hard time reading it, because the subject, PTSD coupled with a first person narrator, makes it very difficult to "enjoy".
You don't plunge in the one of the darkest part of human mind and misery, daily terror and anxiety with a smile on your face.
It was implied at the end of the precedent story that Sabine may have PTSD.
Two years later, in denial, she goes deeper and deeper into irrationnality.
It's balanced by the chapter with Becca as narrator. And while she's not as okay as we might like, it still manages to counterbalence Sabine instability leaking through the pages.
Reading this was not my cup of tea, but I still think it's a great book, worth rereading when I'm feeling more brave.
October 12, 2023
What you should NOT do while reading this book: Let your friends drag you out to the new J-Lo movie right smack in the middle of the story. Also, do not go to a theatre that does not serve alcohol in their screening rooms, and if you do, don't forget your flask, like I did, so you won't be forced to chug a glass of rose in 5 minutes in the lounge. If you find yourself in this situation, you will be thinking about this book whilst trying to focus on Jenny from the block manoeuvre her way through a huge life lie. Also, choose your seats wisely so you don't end up sitting next to a middle aged couple who start fighting 20 minutes in and the wife leaves in a huff yelling "GIVE ME MY PHONE!" (he does not give her the phone). You will miss the alcohol you so very much need to get through this movie, but you will also silently weep in the darkened theatre, wondering what happens next with Rebecca and Sabine.
This book....THIS BOOK. This story has many layers and so much depth that I am always seeking in lesfic. We see the continuation of "Ask, Tell" and are privy to personal and private moments between a loving couple that are doing all they can to heal fractures from war. This book was all set in the states though, no war scenes, however deals with Sabine's struggles with reintegrating into "normal" life, dealing with PTSD.
I work in mental health, and I commend the author for her great care at writing about this subject. Sabine's struggles with wanting to heal herself through therapy alone, without medications was so very real. The added voices of her sister and parents give dialogue to Sabine's character and personality growing up, her strong will and wanting to excel and be perfect in all she does, so it is fully believable that she would act this way. It wasn't just a stubborn "no meds I'm tough" stance, it went well beyond that mentality.
Rebecca....I think she is one of my favourite lesfic characters. She remains calm, caring, supportive and loving throughout. She cracks at times, who wouldn't? But her devotion and loyalty is clear. I'm sure we have all had moments where we feel utterly helpless when faced with something we cannot fix, and Ms. Noyes handles her character brilliantly. Also, shout out to Amy! Haha, I wish she had more play because I liked her scenes so much. In fact all of the secondary characters were strong.
Throughout this complex, emotional story there are still great moments of intimacy, which the author does extremely well. It's not just about sex, which the two desperately want but have to work at (but trust me, when it happens, daaaammmmmnnnnnn...), but also the cuddles, touches, gazes, which add such a beautiful aspect to the story.
Thank you thank you thank you, Ms. Noyes, for yet another unforgettable read. This one will stay with me for a long time. Unlike the J-Lo movie, which is already grey and fuzzy.
This book....THIS BOOK. This story has many layers and so much depth that I am always seeking in lesfic. We see the continuation of "Ask, Tell" and are privy to personal and private moments between a loving couple that are doing all they can to heal fractures from war. This book was all set in the states though, no war scenes, however deals with Sabine's struggles with reintegrating into "normal" life, dealing with PTSD.
I work in mental health, and I commend the author for her great care at writing about this subject. Sabine's struggles with wanting to heal herself through therapy alone, without medications was so very real. The added voices of her sister and parents give dialogue to Sabine's character and personality growing up, her strong will and wanting to excel and be perfect in all she does, so it is fully believable that she would act this way. It wasn't just a stubborn "no meds I'm tough" stance, it went well beyond that mentality.
Rebecca....I think she is one of my favourite lesfic characters. She remains calm, caring, supportive and loving throughout. She cracks at times, who wouldn't? But her devotion and loyalty is clear. I'm sure we have all had moments where we feel utterly helpless when faced with something we cannot fix, and Ms. Noyes handles her character brilliantly. Also, shout out to Amy! Haha, I wish she had more play because I liked her scenes so much. In fact all of the secondary characters were strong.
Throughout this complex, emotional story there are still great moments of intimacy, which the author does extremely well. It's not just about sex, which the two desperately want but have to work at (but trust me, when it happens, daaaammmmmnnnnnn...), but also the cuddles, touches, gazes, which add such a beautiful aspect to the story.
Thank you thank you thank you, Ms. Noyes, for yet another unforgettable read. This one will stay with me for a long time. Unlike the J-Lo movie, which is already grey and fuzzy.
June 6, 2021
I’m not one to cry while reading a book, watching tv or a movie. But E. J. Noyes got me so close to crying. This book is just beautiful.
Subjects as anxiety and PTSD are not easy, not to read about and I think neither to write about. But what a great job in this book. It’s so gut wrenching and emotional. You really go on this journey with Bec and Sabine. But I think most of all this is a story about true love and devotion. These characters are so beautifully flawed, I can’t get over it.
I loved it, the book made me feel and think and kept me on edge because I didn’t want certain things to happen. And I am over the moon Noyes didn’t go there. I think I will just sit and think about this one for a day or so. So beautifully written
Subjects as anxiety and PTSD are not easy, not to read about and I think neither to write about. But what a great job in this book. It’s so gut wrenching and emotional. You really go on this journey with Bec and Sabine. But I think most of all this is a story about true love and devotion. These characters are so beautifully flawed, I can’t get over it.
I loved it, the book made me feel and think and kept me on edge because I didn’t want certain things to happen. And I am over the moon Noyes didn’t go there. I think I will just sit and think about this one for a day or so. So beautifully written
September 22, 2020
Wow... this was one intense read. sometimes I felt as if I couldn’t breathe in some parts. This was heartbreaking and I don’t think I’ve ever cried this hard while reading a book. But I’m so happy to see how Sabine never stoped fighting to get better and how she overcame all her fears and anxiety bit by bit. of course, it will never go away 100%, but the improvement towards the end made me so damn happy for her and for Rebecca. They deserve all the happiness in the world!! My babies 🥺💛 This author’s writing is one of my favorites and the way she wrote this book and how she approached all these heavy topics with such care but also making them feel real, because they are, and how she never romanticized them like many books do, was so different in a good way, refreshing. It was painful to read but also hopeful because of how happy Sabine and Rebecca were in the end. Those little things make all the difference. I 100% recommend this book. And I can’t wait to read Jana’s story now 😍
July 14, 2025
4.5 edging upwards as I think back on it ...
This is a tough and immersive read (or listen, narrated by the amazing Abby Craden); it’s genuinely the dark sister of the series, picking up from the events that befell Sabine in book 1. EJ Noyes doesn’t shy away from taking us down into the trenches of Sabine’s challenges, and I genuinely appreciated and, mostly, enjoyed that.
There is plenty of love and connection between MCs Sabine and Rebecca, and you’ll root for them throughout. Ms. Noyes has chosen a dual POV this time, which helps us see each character from the other’s perceptions (very much needed here) and also brings us closer to Rebecca. I loved hearing about how things were for Bec back in Afghanistan and how she secretly felt about Sabine, and that helps underpin her devotion to Sabine through sometimes intensely difficult days.
If this hasn’t been meticulously researched, then the author has definitely fooled me. This felt real and raw at times, and as such, wasn’t always what I was in the mood for. These days, I often listen to one and read a different story concurrently, mainly as a result of acquiring text and audio versions in different ways, but I prefer not to listen to two different stories (not sure why!). So I was stuck getting through this aurally. Which didn’t always fit my mood. But it did echo, in a way, the challenge that Sabine faces. There is no getting away from dealing with PTSD, and I had no choice, as it were, but to join her journey to its conclusion here.
I’ll say two more things only: Light and fluffy and funny, this is not, but DO read this if you want a story with meat and guts and angst that is very organic and any reversals that aren’t simply some kind of silly miscommunication (all too common in the genre, alas).
Last, book 3, If the Shoe Fits, returns to much lighter fare and features Sabine’s sister Jana, but includes Bec and Sabine too. I’ve read 3 of the 4 in this excellent series, and they’re all superb in different ways but all feel organic and real.
This is a tough and immersive read (or listen, narrated by the amazing Abby Craden); it’s genuinely the dark sister of the series, picking up from the events that befell Sabine in book 1. EJ Noyes doesn’t shy away from taking us down into the trenches of Sabine’s challenges, and I genuinely appreciated and, mostly, enjoyed that.
There is plenty of love and connection between MCs Sabine and Rebecca, and you’ll root for them throughout. Ms. Noyes has chosen a dual POV this time, which helps us see each character from the other’s perceptions (very much needed here) and also brings us closer to Rebecca. I loved hearing about how things were for Bec back in Afghanistan and how she secretly felt about Sabine, and that helps underpin her devotion to Sabine through sometimes intensely difficult days.
If this hasn’t been meticulously researched, then the author has definitely fooled me. This felt real and raw at times, and as such, wasn’t always what I was in the mood for. These days, I often listen to one and read a different story concurrently, mainly as a result of acquiring text and audio versions in different ways, but I prefer not to listen to two different stories (not sure why!). So I was stuck getting through this aurally. Which didn’t always fit my mood. But it did echo, in a way, the challenge that Sabine faces. There is no getting away from dealing with PTSD, and I had no choice, as it were, but to join her journey to its conclusion here.
I’ll say two more things only: Light and fluffy and funny, this is not, but DO read this if you want a story with meat and guts and angst that is very organic and any reversals that aren’t simply some kind of silly miscommunication (all too common in the genre, alas).
Last, book 3, If the Shoe Fits, returns to much lighter fare and features Sabine’s sister Jana, but includes Bec and Sabine too. I’ve read 3 of the 4 in this excellent series, and they’re all superb in different ways but all feel organic and real.
November 19, 2018
This is the sequel of 'Ask, tell' which was one of my favourite lesfic books of 2017, so I was anxiously waiting for it and wondering where was Ms. Noyes taking one of my favourite couples in lesfic. If you haven't read 'Ask, tell' I strongly recommend that you read it first as this sequel won't have the same emotional impact if you don't understand the background story and, anyway, it's a must read for any lesfic fans.
'Ask me again' is a different kind of book by Ms. Noyes. Normally, she writes romances in which conflict is a mechanism to create tension and move the story forward. In this case, the conflict is in the driving seat of the story and the romance is in the background. The main issue is Sabine's PTSD as a consequence of serving as an army surgeon in Afghanistan and her partner Rebecca trying to help her cope with it. As you can imagine, this isn't a light read. It's intense, raw, emotional and even heartbreaking. At times I wanted to crawl inside the book and give the characters a hug, it's a story that gets the reader that emotionally involved.
This author normally writes in first person point of view. 'Ask, tell' was written from Sabine's but this sequel is written from both Sabine's and Rebecca's points of view in alternating chapters. It works well as the reader has a prime view to Sabine's OCD and anxiety issues and it gives a new dimension to Rebecca's character. Both of them have their own distinct voices and their personalities are built to the tiniest of details. This couple works not only in their chemistry but in a deeper level of relationship which feels realistic and believable. A surprising addition is Jana, Sabine's sister, a larger than life character who introduces some very much needed levity to this book. Ms. Noyes is planning to write a book based on her and I can't wait to read it.
Overall, a novel with a surprising level of depth and a sequel that does justice to the characters' story. Both highly recommended books to read in chronological order. 5+ stars.
ARC provided by the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
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'Ask me again' is a different kind of book by Ms. Noyes. Normally, she writes romances in which conflict is a mechanism to create tension and move the story forward. In this case, the conflict is in the driving seat of the story and the romance is in the background. The main issue is Sabine's PTSD as a consequence of serving as an army surgeon in Afghanistan and her partner Rebecca trying to help her cope with it. As you can imagine, this isn't a light read. It's intense, raw, emotional and even heartbreaking. At times I wanted to crawl inside the book and give the characters a hug, it's a story that gets the reader that emotionally involved.
This author normally writes in first person point of view. 'Ask, tell' was written from Sabine's but this sequel is written from both Sabine's and Rebecca's points of view in alternating chapters. It works well as the reader has a prime view to Sabine's OCD and anxiety issues and it gives a new dimension to Rebecca's character. Both of them have their own distinct voices and their personalities are built to the tiniest of details. This couple works not only in their chemistry but in a deeper level of relationship which feels realistic and believable. A surprising addition is Jana, Sabine's sister, a larger than life character who introduces some very much needed levity to this book. Ms. Noyes is planning to write a book based on her and I can't wait to read it.
Overall, a novel with a surprising level of depth and a sequel that does justice to the characters' story. Both highly recommended books to read in chronological order. 5+ stars.
ARC provided by the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
See all my reviews at
www.lezreviewbooks.com
May 5, 2022
Oof. Nobody is having a good time in this one.
This is not a pleasant read or listen, but not because it’s not well written, or the characters aren’t compelling or the narration is bad, just… it’s sad. Everyone in it is some degree of sad, and everyone in it is trying, and everyone in it loves each other and… that’s not always the cure. Love doesn’t solve things. It helps. But it can’t fix anything magically.
This… was a little hard to get through for me. Some of Sabine’s anxiety and compulsions hit a little close to home to one of my own family members and it was… well, frankly it sucked. I know how it feels to be Rebecca and Jana, trying to help, not sure how, and also… honestly, incapable of doing anything because this is the kind of thing that has to come from the person it’s happening to. It’s a really shitty situation to be in. I’m… sort of still in it, with my person, so this was a hard listen in that respect.
I was DELIGHTED that this was dual povs and we got to have Rebecca’s perspective. Abby Craden’s voice for her is just… so dreamy and sexy and I love it so much. I love Rebecca as a character a lot, and I loved seeing her relationship with Jana!!! (When Jana was just like “bye love you” in the beginning my heart soared!! Found family!!! Sisters!! Ahhhh!!) All in all, this was a hard listen, but a really good one and I really liked getting to have a continuation of these characters. It’s so nice to get established relationships and I wish we had them more often in sapphic fiction, honestly. I love to watch people fall in love as much as the next gal, but it’s also realllllly nice to see people build lives together and work through their issues in a totally different way.
This is not a pleasant read or listen, but not because it’s not well written, or the characters aren’t compelling or the narration is bad, just… it’s sad. Everyone in it is some degree of sad, and everyone in it is trying, and everyone in it loves each other and… that’s not always the cure. Love doesn’t solve things. It helps. But it can’t fix anything magically.
This… was a little hard to get through for me. Some of Sabine’s anxiety and compulsions hit a little close to home to one of my own family members and it was… well, frankly it sucked. I know how it feels to be Rebecca and Jana, trying to help, not sure how, and also… honestly, incapable of doing anything because this is the kind of thing that has to come from the person it’s happening to. It’s a really shitty situation to be in. I’m… sort of still in it, with my person, so this was a hard listen in that respect.
I was DELIGHTED that this was dual povs and we got to have Rebecca’s perspective. Abby Craden’s voice for her is just… so dreamy and sexy and I love it so much. I love Rebecca as a character a lot, and I loved seeing her relationship with Jana!!! (When Jana was just like “bye love you” in the beginning my heart soared!! Found family!!! Sisters!! Ahhhh!!) All in all, this was a hard listen, but a really good one and I really liked getting to have a continuation of these characters. It’s so nice to get established relationships and I wish we had them more often in sapphic fiction, honestly. I love to watch people fall in love as much as the next gal, but it’s also realllllly nice to see people build lives together and work through their issues in a totally different way.
December 24, 2018
Wonderful story of love. Excellent!
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