Love Yourself First!: Boost your self-esteem in 30 Days

by Marc Reklau

Is low self-esteem killing your joy? This straightforward pep-talk will help you step forward while brimming with confidence.Does that little voice in your head constantly nitpick your choices? Are you tired of feeling like your opinion doesn’t matter? Past blunders making the future feel grim? International Bestselling author Marc Reklau has spent over thirty-three years sifting through vast quantities of inspirational information. And now he’s distilled the heart of all the noise into this accessible guide to help you live your ideal life.

Love Yourself FIRST!: Boost Your Self-Esteem in 30 Days unlocks life-changing benefits after an essential perspective shift. Using down-to-earth encouragement, friendly language, and practical exercises, Reklau helps you beat the overwhelm and take manageable steps toward positive transformation. And by learning how to embrace yourself, flaws and all, you’ll achieve tangible rewards and enduring inner happiness.

In Love Yourself FIRST!, you’ll to stop putting yourself down and become steadfastly resilientWays to quit feeling guilty about mistakes so that you can enjoy the good thingsTips for building better social and professional relationships that will help you boldly ask for what you needFreeing permission to express the thoughts and values that you hold so dearlyRevealing journaling questions, anecdotes from experts, personal examples, and much, much more!Love Yourself FIRST! is your essential handbook for vibrant self-assurance and the fourth entry in the Change Your Habits, Change Your Life series. If you like making progress toward big goals, looking at things from a different angle, and welcoming ways to heal, then you’ll appreciate Marc Reklau’s lifeline.

Buy Love Yourself FIRST! to get a breath of fresh air today!

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Audiobook, Personal Growth

202 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 9, 2018

About the author

Marc Reklau (Esslingen am Neckar, Germany, 1973) is an Award Winning and #1 Amazon Best Selling Author, Coach and Personal Development Expert.


His current home base is the beautiful city of Barcelona, Spain.

Marc's mission is to empower people to create the life they want and to give them the resources and tools to make it happen.

He spent thousands of hours researching, studying and applying the principles and secrets of success and happiness.

His message is simple:
Many people want to change things in their lives, but few are willing to do a simple set of exercises constantly over a period of time.

You can plan and create success and happiness in your life by installing habits that support you on the way to your goal.

Reviews

[sAmAnE · Rating 3 out of 5]

از آن دست کتاب‌هایی که در لحظه حالمون رو خیلی خوب می‌کنه و گاها نیاز داریم که این جملات و پیشنهادات رو از طرف کسی بشنویم و مدام به خودمون یادآوری کنیم...
چطور عزت نفسمون رو در مدت زمان کوتاهی بالا ببریم؟
در مورد خودشناسی و دیدن واقعیت‌ها، مقابله با ایده‌آل‌گرایی، بی‌نقص بودن و پذیرا شدن شکست و دیدن جنبه‌های مثبتش، قبول کردن اشتباهات و عدم داشتن حس ناکافی بودن...
دوری از غیبت و قضاوت کردن دیگران و دوری از افرادی که اینکار را می‌کنند.
دلسوزی کردن برای خود، اهمیت گفتگوهای درونی، بخشیدن خود، پذیرفتن تعریف دیگران از خود با روی باز.
و مهم‌ترین چیزی که بهش پرداخته بود تفاوت عزت نفس سالم و عزت نفس کاذب بود.
حالا برای عملی شدن این‌ها و شاید بخشی از این‌ها نیاز هست که روابط اجتماعی سالمی داشته باشیم یا حداقل افرادی که باهاشون سروکار داریم حسابی باشند. که نویسنده هم در نهایت دوری از نشست و برخاست با این افراد و حذف اون‌ها رو پیشنهاد میده، که اینهم در مواقعی کار می‌کنه ولی برای همه کارساز نیست... چون نمی‌تونیم بعضی افراد ناسالم زندگیمون رو کنار بگذاریم، حالا به هر دلیلی!

[El lector de l'antifaç · Rating 4 out of 5]

Magnífico libro de autoayuda, con un logrado y significativo enfoque de utilidad. El lenguaje es muy claro y directo y plantea bastantes ejercicios prácticos y acciones para conseguir el objetivo pretendido de elevar la autoestima y conseguir un relevante crecimiento personal.

[Sandra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Este año descubrí este autor, y sus libros los he escuchado todos en audiolibros, y los he disfrutado mucho todos, y creo que se pueden sacar mucho partido, aunque se que no todo el mundo le gusta este estilo de libro, yo haré lo que recomienda el autor aplicar lo que me pueda hacer falta y releer el libro no solo llega con una simple aproximación.

[Marie (UK) · Rating 1 out of 5]

the whole time i read this i was thinking self esteem is largely connected to work and education and none of these things will work . Humans must accept criticism this should be constructive but you can't just say I won't speak to you whilst you are being critical or negative as the author suggests in one chapter. To be fair i didn't read this book because i have low self- esteem I am reasonably happy with myself, my life etc and yet i feel it is too simplistic for those who do have such issues. I am unsure how to rate it - I certainly wouldn't give 4 or 5 stars I think even 3 would be generous. Yet it is not an awful book and maybe 2 is not enough I don't know so i think i will leave it balnk

[Marcela Heine · Rating 1 out of 5]

Repite mucho lo mismo, incluso con las mismas frases.
Tiene bastantes faltas de ortografía como ausencias de puntos o de paréntesis finales.
Está lleno de las frases clichés que ves en todos lados como "se agradecido", "no envidies", "perdónate", "haz ejercicio" "el sufrimiento es opcional". En fin, que no aporta nada nuevo.

[Aida · Rating 4 out of 5]

پایان: ۱۴۰۲/۱۰/۸
کتاب مفیدی بود، بنظرم اینجور کتاب‌‌های خودیاری/روانشناسی که خیلی هم مفید هستن و زردنیستن باید بیشتر دیده بشن.
کارهایی که گفت رو بیشترش رو باید انجام بدم

[Sara · Rating 3 out of 5]

I found it a little repetitive and some grammar mistakes scattered throughout. I imagine this book could have been condensed down into several less chapters than it ended up being. Later chapters reworded or touched upon ideas and topics that earlier chapters spoke of. I was also expecting a lot more prompts or exercises and methods to helping you achieve high self esteem rather than just inspirational phrases or things that are already widely known but we all still seem to ignore. Worth a read for 99p, not sure I'd be happy if I'd paid more, or finished if the book was much longer.

[Thalia · Rating 5 out of 5]

5/5 "La felicidad es un viaje, no un destino"

Esto es todo lo que necesitaba para sanar mi kokorito :')
Después de una impresión muy fuerte que me llevé, simplemente estaba muy en el fondo y me dolía mucho el alma, no podía ver mi propósito en esta vida y encontrar este libro me ayudó a ver las cosas con más claridad...
Con los ejercicios prácticos y fáciles que tiene este libro, sigo trabajando mi autoestima y mi ansiedad bajó considerablemente.
Dejaré algunas de las frases que más me han ayudado:
- "Los errores son inevitables, el aprendizaje opcional"
-"El dolor es temporal, el sufrimiento opcional"
-"Mantente alejado de las personas pesimistas"
-"eres el promedio de las 5 personas con las que pasas más tiempo" asi que, elige bien tus amistades.
-"Alejate de las personas que no te valoran, la vida es demasiado corta para pasarla con gente que te roba/chupa la felicidad"

¡Gracias Marc! Llegaste justo a tiempo a mi vida con este hermoso libro.

[Kamila Notario-Galaj · Rating 1 out of 5]

Lo primero, el error logístico. Se llama 30 días para aumentar tu autoestima y dentro tiene 100 trucos para hacerlo. Nada que ver con 30 días, un mes o algo. ¿Tan difícil hubiera sido llamarlo "100 trucos para aumentar tu autoestima"?

Títulos aparte, el contenido es malo no, lo siguiente. Con trucos como "perdónate", "quiérete" y textos que podrían haber salido de una revista de adolescentes. OBVIAMENTE SI ESTOY LEYENDO ESTO ES PORQUE NECESITO QUERERME, SÍ, PERO LA CUESTIÓN ES, ¿CÓMO LO HAGO?

En fin, malo, malo, malo. En serio, buscad otra cosa si queréis aumentar vuestra autoestima.

[El placer de leer · Rating 4 out of 5]

Muy bueno, conciso, repleto de motivación e ideas para mejorar y controlar mejor la autoestima.

[Osita Lectora PR · Rating 4 out of 5]

Creo que este es un buen libro para todo aquel que quiera comenzar en el mundo del desarrollo personal. Es un recopilatorio de todo a lo que le debes prestar tu atención y que valen mucho para tener una autoestima saludable. También trae algunos ejemplos y ejercicios prácticos para poder trabajar diariamente. Para los que yá conocen sobre el tema creo que es un libro que sirve como recordatorio y que es bueno hojear de vez en cuando por sí se olvida algún concepto necesario para el día a día.

[Angie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Me ha encantado este libro, y tal como lo dice el autor, volveré a escuchar/leerlo para trabajar en sus recomendaciones.

[Véronique Tremblay · Rating 4 out of 5]

A garder proche en tout temps lors de possible rechute

[Tati Paredes · Rating 4 out of 5]

Buen libro, con ejercicios prácticos de cómo aumentar tu confianza y cómo hacerte consciente de tu vida y tu propósito

[anya · Rating 4 out of 5]

I am a firm believer that there is some unspoken value in surrounding yourself with media that lifts you up. Self-help books, YouTube videos of people enjoying the small moments, reels that emphasize routine and discipline, songs that sing towards inner beauty and peace, you get the memo. Love Yourself First! really spoke to me in this regard; of course it is not the perfect self-help book, but it just filled the darker corners in my life with pockets of hope and messages that empower rather than drag you down. My favorite micro-lessons included in this collection were: self-concept is destiny, stop caring about other people's opinions of you, create your own luck, pain is temporary but suffering is optional. A really well-done collection overall, and I think it touches on more than just self-love, but really on discovering your own identity as a whole. Great read!

[Dori ✨ · Rating 2 out of 5]

Very mediocre. I’ve put this aside for a few weeks, despite I was on 80% and only 45 mins of the book left to complete… that should say something.

I’ve found it rather cliché, something that anyone who does a bit of research on the topic could put together by themselves. Some sentences just sound like straight out of a cheesy instagram post, some referring back to Eckhart Tolle (Eckhart and me don’t get along btw), but really all along I was thinking if any of these thoughts actually belong to the author himself.

Giving it two stars, because though it is cliché, most things mentioned are true - so purely for the effort of collecting these thoughts from around the world and from various people. It wasn’t any life changing, and all the tiny chapters made it feel like somebody’s blog on the great www.

While it didn’t add anything to my life because everything mentioned I have already known, I appreciate that there are people who don’t have this knowledge or in need of a reminder, so this book might be useful for someone. That isn’t me. I wouldn’t personally recommend, because the condescending tone here and there made me frustrated, and it made me feel like someone yelling at me ‘come on, pull yourself together, it’s not that hard!’ - maybe I am just too sensitive 🥴 But joke aside, out of experience that is not the way to talk to people with low self-esteem, but the author himself knows this too, referring to the ‘be kind’ chapters…

Well anyways, I could go on forever, it all comes down to: ain’t my cup of tea, could have should have wasted my time elsewhere.

[Vanessa · Rating 4 out of 5]

*4.5 I’m typically not a big fan of self help books, and I didn’t go into this with high expectations. Really, I started reading it because I was desperate. My self esteem has been at an all time low, and although I didn’t believe that this book would truly help, I thought I would at least try it out, and I’m happy I did.

This book is comprised of a lot of information you can find online, but with the blunt style of writing and short chapters, it was able to compose all of the information into a quick read that’s easy to digest. It is a bit repetitive, and it will not replace therapy, but it has a lot of great tips and messages for improving self esteem and living a happier life.

[Liznel A. · Rating 1 out of 5]

Me parece un libro muy básico. No aporta NADA nuevo.
1. Los consejos que tiene son cosas que ya sabes: "acéptate como eres" ,"aprende de tus errores" "haz ejercicio", cosas muy obvias y básicas.
2. Es repetitivo: vuelve a cosas que ya mencionó anteriormente, como si el autor no tuviera más material para desarrollar. En una ocasión hasta te dice que vuelvas a leer un capítulo anterior.
3. Dice 30 días y ni siquiera tiene una guía diaria de qué hacer en cada uno de los 30 dias.

Yo diría que para alguien que no sepa mucho, este libro tal vez pueda servir de "motivación" para empezar a hacer cosas positivas, pero en mi caso, ya perdí el interés de leer el 30% que me resta.

[Ortansa · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting info

It's a nice quick read but it gets repetitive. I enjoyed the way the author tries to keep the reader entertained and interested but half way through I was honestly just waiting for it to finish. It's a great book as an intro to self help methods but if you've already read about it this isn't for you.

[Paloma SB · Rating 2 out of 5]

Lo que dice este libro es verdad, pero hay mejores lecturas y fuentes de información al respecto. Lo leí rápido pero no me dejó nada. Veo que a mucha gente sí y que lo disfrutaron. No es un mal libro, pero no me dijo nada nuevo a mí.

[Analu · Rating 5 out of 5]

Creo que el valor de este libro no sólo consiste en que te ayudará a mejorar tu autoestima, sino en que hará de ti una mejor persona.

[Laura Lloyd · Rating 5 out of 5]

Explains things really well and after you just feel more determined to achieve your goals in life! I would recommend :)

[Mohammad Esfandiari · Rating 4 out of 5]

بهتر از کتابهای دیگه ای بود که در این زمینه خوندم

[Megan · Rating 5 out of 5]

As people are stuck inside with the weather and Covid and life, I'm encouraging others around me to read. Whether it is my daughter, husband, students, or friends, I've read some great books this year. I'm alternating between fiction and then nonfiction and self help books, mainly because I started the year learning some outstanding strategies for being a better teacher and person, and I want to remember those for my personal life. So, I figure reviewing/reading the books about loving myself, or having better courage, emotional intelligence, and strength... will make those first strategies habits.
This book did not disappoint. I started it 1.5 weeks ago and then dabbled with it but finished it all in one setting. I did the audio version, but I really want to get the hard copy.
There are outstanding ideas for truly having better self-esteem, and it comes down to protecting who we are as individuals, and then helping others.
One tip that really resonated was using a piece of paper to write down all the things that are worrying me, and separating them into 3 categories: things in the past, things in the future, and things out of my control. When I realized that 90% of what I worry about, I can't change, it helps me let go more.
I'm also really bad at saying no. But what hit me was that no one I've ever said "no" to (that I remember) has quit being my friend. And I've not stopped being someone's friend if they say no to me about something. So, it's OK to say no. And if I lose a friend, then that person wasn't a true friend anyway.

[Lilla P. · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was very impressed by the great rating of the book, so I gave it a try. I realized i'm probably just not the right audience. The book lists 100 things one should think/feel/act accordingly, but unfortunately with very little actual, practical, useful help on HOW. This is a general problem with self-help books which is ironic because when I read for days how i should already be thinking/feeling/acting but some of them i'm very far away from two things come in my mind: 1. Thanks but I already know, 2. Shouldn't you be practically helping in the how? You are actually just making me feel worse by putting pressure on me and make wish i haven started to read your book. The "Hey don't think/feel/do this, feel/think/do the opposite instead. Easy, isn't it?" No it isn't and also not a professional advice. It's absolutely unrealistic to expect people to function this way just by telling them "Do it! It's easy!" and in my humble opinion, can even cause more harm than help. If it was I wouldn' t have bought this book. And if it was, there wouldn't be so many people in emotional pain running around in this world. (Tried to ever tell a person suffering from depression to just feel/think better? Right.) It's just an unfortunate "plus" that at least 1/3 of the 100 points are repetitions - not only in content, but even in wording, using the exact same sentences.

[Sammy · Rating 2 out of 5]

I wish I could give this s better rating as I love the concept of the book, unfortunately it has typos and grammar issues that I find very distracting and a bit infuriating. The chapters are also very short and don't go very deep in detail, which I expected from a self-development book, not to mention that there aren't really "exercises" as such but mostly ideas based on the chapter (that you can't distinguish from the main text of the chapter), I found this particularly disappointing as the whole point of the book seems to be to guide people into feeling better about themselves. It has interesting points and is good to read in the sense that it reminds you that you are your own person and have needs that have to be addressed, but it was mostly common knowledge, nothing special. I'm glad I read it on my kindle and didn't pay the full price for it, it would've been a waste of money.
Also, the title is misleading as there isn't any day to day type of programme or anything like that, so I don't understand why advertise it as a 30 day boost in self-esteem, especially considering that there are 100 tiny chapters.

[Dustyloup · Rating 4 out of 5]

Review of audio book:
How could I give 4* to something that's neither well written nor well researched, repetitive, and copy pasta! ?
Because it works. I was at a low point and I needed something to get myself back on track and the repetitive nature helped get my mindset in the right place. I've listened twice and will continue to listen to a few chapters whenever i need a boost.
I am also doing one of the exercises. Again, not necessarily something new (journaling about gratitude) but it was the way i was able to visualize myself doing it and actually feel the gratitude that's different from other times. I don't know if you have had that experience of writing down things you're grateful for but not actually feeling gratitude, just knowing that you "should" feel grateful.
Anyway, if you can get past the things I mentioned above, i definitely recommend

[Aneliya Petrunova · Rating 3 out of 5]

Estoy un poco decepcionada de este libro. Ponía que había ejercicios y el autor lo dice también varias veces. Pero lo que yo vi son consejos: "Haz esto y tu autoestima crecerá". Pero cómo hareclo - no. Ejercicios, lo que se dice ejercicios, había bien pocos, así que no creo que el libro me ayude much0. Ya sé que tengo que dejar de mirar al pasado, dejar de preocuparme por tantas cosas, incluso por lo que la gente va a pensar de mí, pero ¿cómo, diablos, lo hago?

Además, más de la mitad del libro no trataba sobre la autoestima, sino sobre la felicidad en general - esto no está mal, pero no creo que ayude tanto.

Aun así, el libro podría ser útil, si se hacen los pocos ejercicios que contiene y si uno sigue algunos de los consejos.

[Julian · Rating 3 out of 5]

Es un libro de lectura fácil, con concejos generalmente básicos pero que muchos no los tenemos tan presentes.
Se siente mucho marketing en el libro por el título "30 días para aumentar el autoestima", algo que no coincide con su lectura ya que no se encuentra dividido en días sino en los 100 consejos. El hecho de que sean 100 consejos también suena a marketing. Esto sería lo de menos si no fuera que en la lectura te da la sensacion de haber leído el mismo consejo como 5 veces en ocasiones, pero explicado con palabras distintas. Muchos consejos se terminan pareciendo mucho entre sí y da la apariencia de que es un libro con mucho relleno.
Estaría bueno que la práctica este mejor definida en cada sección. Aveces suelen ser preguntas metidas entre los párrafos y pasan desapercibidas.

[christina jarvis · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love this book

I know this may sound cheesy however this book truly changed my life. I was so excited and happy about the book I bought a copy for all my friends. I am going to read all of his books. The most amazing thing about my experience with this book was that I literally was depressed searching for answers, and a way to move on from my past. So I downloaded this book and with in the first few pages stopped me from crying. I got a feeling that was so powerful, that feeling was hope and rejuvenation. I am truly grateful that Amazon had this book available with my prime. I also look forward to reading the rest this author had in store.