Wow, this is quite an enlightening read. I love books that shift the perspective on things, this one basically flips the whole thing over! It’s not often that professionals go out on a limb to put forward some radical ideas, but that’s exactly what Dr Dan Siegel has done here. If I could describe this book in 3 words there would be: Delightful, Actionable and Novel (DAN) haha no... but the acronym game in the book is serious, you have been warned!
The idea presented here is quite mind blowing, it’s that our minds are not just limited to the confines of our skulls or even our bodies. Instead the mind exists within and between us, in our relationships with other people and with the environment! I feel as if this is a Darwin level shift of realising that we can’t really properly define where the self begins and where it ends or how far it extends. The theory would have been just fascinating were it not for the practical applications for it in psychological practice in aiding/understanding people suffering from PTSD, ADHD, anxiety, depression and just the hum drum of daily life etc. as presented in the book.
If not entirely revolutionary, it’s at least a useful way to view the mind and how it relates to other people and to the environment.
The key takeaway is the idea that the mind is an embodied and relational, self organising emergent process that regulates the flow of energy and information both within and between us. The book elegantly explores the implications of such a view but makes it clear that we don’t really know for sure or that the view is probably incomplete. Dan gets into some pretty wild physics of time, spacetime, quantum entanglement etc. that make for some fascinating reading. I wouldn’t be quick to dismiss it though, that is, if you’re of the view that assigning one unknown to another unknown is a bit too out there. It’s still a very fascinating and enlightening way to view reality that can be helpful in finding balance in life.