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Advice Column Mystery #3

Asking For Murder

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READERS AND WRITERS ARE ASKING FOR ISLEIB

When advice columnist Dr. Rebecca Butterman’s friend and fellow therapist Annabelle Hart is found badly beaten and left for dead, Rebecca is determined to help search for answers.

256 pages, Mass Market Paperback

First published September 2, 2008

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Roberta Isleib

11 books52 followers
New Jersey born clinical psychologist Roberta Isleib (who also writes as Lucy Burdette) took up writing mysteries to justify too much bad golf. Her Cassie Burdette series was nominated for an Agatha and two Anthony awards. Her new series debuted in March with DEADLY ADVICE, starring a psychologist/advice columnist. PREACHING TO THE CORPSE will follow in December. Roberta is the president of Sisters in Crime National.

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Profile Image for Chelsea.
167 reviews11 followers
December 7, 2014
I was tired of Dr. Rebecca Butterman's personality a third of the way into the book.
533 reviews38 followers
October 5, 2023
3.5 stars A fairly fun cozy read. The main character is impulsive and sometimes does things that leave the reader shaking their head, but overall an enjoyable book.
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1,454 reviews61 followers
May 6, 2018
From time to time, I like to go back to a series that I had let fall off my radar. Sometimes to see if the series still holds my attention, but mostly to see if the writing can hold the test of time. When it came to this book, “Asking for Murder”, neither were true, all I found was stale, flat, and dated. The Advice Column Series ran it course after three books and though Roberta Isleib left a few “what-ifs”, the characters were left up to their own devices and the readers can make up their own minds as to what happened between Dr. Rebecca Butterman, her ex-husband Mark, and any future with Detective Meigs.

When Rebecca finds her friend, and fellow therapist severely injured, she takes it upon herself to find what happened. Was it as simple as the local police wanted to make it sound – a home invasion, or was there more to it and now everyone in Annabelle’s life is in danger.

As Roberta Isleib weaves a dull trail, the reader trudges along in hopes that something will spark and the path to the end was worth it, but unfortunately, not in this book. The who seemed to come out of nowhere and the reasoning for the deaths was weaved out of thin cloth. If you have not already started this series, I would say to just wave it off.
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2,098 reviews161 followers
January 30, 2011
This is the third book in the Advice Column series, since it stopped over here. In the last book of the series, Dr. Rebecca Butterman encounters her best friend, Dr. Annabelle Hart's, unconscious body in her own home. She calls the cops and handles business for her, including Annabelle's patients. She also butt heads with Meigs and encounters Victoria, Annabelle's sisters. On this investigation, she finds out what happened to Annabelle, when Victoria gets murdered. Also Rebecca does some soul-searching on romance and establishing a relationship with her father. I'll be reading #2 of this series, later this year.
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165 reviews1 follower
May 17, 2024
Love this series

I've loved all of the books in this series and can only hope that more show up some time. It's a great twist to get inside views into the pyscotherapist who is also dealing with her own issues. It makes for a very human character. This one had me reading every spare moment as I kept wondering where we were going and what would be next. Very absorbing and kept me guessing to the end. So sorry to lose Victoria as it would have been nice for Annabelle to have more of a family to mend with. But Victoria's murder added to me not being able to put the book down. Great read.
359 reviews
June 13, 2021
This was hard for me to read because I couldn’t stand the main character. I think she suffers from narcissistic personality disorder.
Profile Image for Louise Foster.
Author 14 books152 followers
May 17, 2023
Murder from the perspective of a clinical psychologist was a new twist for me. The story kept me interested until the end. The red herrings and various characters flowed naturally.
Profile Image for Barb Mcmahan.
107 reviews
September 7, 2023
It was okay. I had issues with the main character. Felt she was wishy washy.,I put the book down many times but eventually finished it.
556 reviews
March 20, 2017
This third (and last? :( ) book in the series was of the can't put it down variety. Packed with action and twists and turns. Surprises around every corner.
Profile Image for LK Hunsaker.
Author 23 books48 followers
May 9, 2009
“People who aren’t in our profession don’t like to hear that their shrinks might have these thoughts – especially about them.”

In “Asking For Murder,” Roberta Isleib crosses a line or two: she makes therapists sound human, and she reveals that “shrinks” don’t always have all the answers. I’m all for crossing lines, especially when doing so open doors into formerly private worlds and aids in understanding.

Dr. Rebecca Butterman, a clinical psychologist, finds her best friend who happens to be a social worker specializing in sand therapy beaten and close to death in her own home. Rebecca, as a sideline to her therapy, has already come to the local police agency’s attention as an amateur private detective without credentials. To their consternation, and while raising eyebrows from the rest of the local therapy world, she refuses to let the police handle the case alone. Oh, it should be mentioned that Rebecca is also secretly an advice columnist.

In a story full of twists, including the therapist dealing with her own family-related issues and failing relationships, Rebecca is not what “people who aren’t in our profession” would expect from a clinical psychologist. She is human – fallibly and laughingly human while jumping to conclusions, searching everywhere she looks for possible suspects, admitting she doesn’t have a clue about what a sand scene could mean or even what sand therapy is all about, and ignoring advice she would give clients when it comes to her own affairs of the heart. She is a delightful character, full of energy and ambition with a charming mix of arrogance and insecurity, and leads the search for a killer through routes we can’t guess, up until the time of revelation.

In the midst of the story, we get to peak into the world of a therapist, inclusive of professional conundrums and defined disorders. We also get a look at a therapy technique the public has often never heard of: sand tray. While I would have liked to see the definitions of sandplay versus sand tray more differentiated, I enjoyed Isleib’s inclusion of sand tray and her way of handling this branch of the art therapies.

An admission: I don’t read mysteries. However, if more were like this one, I would be searching them out. “Asking For Murder” does open a door – to a large audience, including those in the psychology field, those not in the field who may want a closer look, to romance readers interested in something different, to readers looking for a light weekend or beach read, and to anyone who enjoys spunky fallible female lead characters. If you don’t read mystery, try it anyway. I finished the novel thinking I would have to go back and catch up on more of Dr. Butterman’s adventures in Isleib’s Advice Column Mysteries.
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641 reviews73 followers
October 21, 2012
2008, #3 Rebecca Butterman, psychotherapist; cosy/amateur sleuth, but with an edge.

Review originally written for, and printed in, Mystery News Reviews, November 2008:

Psychotherapy can be deadly, as therapists Rebecca Butterman and her best friend Annabelle Hart find out when they cross the path of a very determined killer - one with a particularly plausible story and a trustworthy face. Rebecca can be quite formidable when she gets her teeth into a problem, and finding Annabelle beaten almost to a pulp is not likely to get her to give up the chase, now, is it? Of course not.

I enjoyed meeting the determined Rebecca and her constellation of friends and acquaintances, and even enjoyed meeting some of the patients. The pacing is very good and the plotting is wonderful, as the story opens with the particularly gory and wrenching scene of Rebecca finding the bloodied body of her best friend, and never lets up from there. Many screwy people, some nice folks, a few funny - and rueful - episodes, and several intertwined plot threads all work together beautifully, with a crisply woven climax that really works well, and ending with a sweet coda that ties up all the loose bits.

This was a very satisfying amateur sleuth story, not too sweet and just enough dry humor for leavening, but there’s an awful lot of psychological commentary and description and information scattered throughout, which might not be everyone’s cuppa tea. It’s not “psychobabble” or heavy handed, though, mostly serving to advance the story, and Rebecca’s nicely skewed attitude helps make it enjoyable - she’s the sort of woman I might want for a friend, and I’ve found that those are the amateur sleuths that “wear well” for me. Ms. Isleib’s work is very professional, crisp and flavorful, and I look forward to reading others in the series soon.

Not recommended for gritty PI or police procedural lovers, but highly recommended for those who enjoy watching a smart woman work her way through a deadly problem aided - and occasionally hindered - by friends and family, and her own past emotional history. Not sweet, but cosy, and while a few scenes are rather graphic, over all the novel isn’t terribly shocking; it is, however, sometimes scary, occasionally rather mournful, and quite sad at times. Pacing very good, plotting excellent, characterizations superb.
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32 reviews
March 13, 2009
One of the best genres written these days are murder mysteries. Roberta Isleib, author of “Asking for Murder,” writes a gripping story of who-dun-it that makes you ponder all the twists and turns of the mystery. This book is the third book of the “An Advice Column Mystery” series that Isleib has written, but the first of hers for me to read. She writes in what I call simple talk. No big words, no complex thoughts or hard to understand plots that could make the story drag. I look forward to reading more of her books.


The series main character is Dr. Rebecca Butterman who finds her friend Annabelle, a fellow therapist, badly beaten and near death. Rebecca wants to help find answers to who wanted to cause her friend harm, but no one wants her nosing around. From strange patients to an estranged sister, the suspect list begins to grow. A clue to solving the crime may lie in the sand play therapy that Annabelle uses in her sessions with clients. It is up to Dr. Butterman to get in to the sand and see what suspects she can find to help her friend before it’s too late!


I love these women, amateur-sleuth type books that make you want to get in to the book and be a sleuth too! The plot is very simple and easy to follow, but it leaves you wondering ‘who’ the actual attacker is until the very end. Rebecca is a strong and intelligent woman who doesn’t quite have her life ‘all together.” I think that is why we love her so much, she is one of us. The few advice columns that are put in throughout the book, really don’t add to the story, but do give you a bit of insight into Rebecca’s state of mind as she responds to the questions.


If the first two books of the series are like this one, I can’t wait to read them. Having not read the other books, I had no problem jumping in to the storyline without knowing the characters background. So, if you’re looking for a cozy mystery to cuddle up with after a hard day, I would recommend “Asking for Murder.”
Profile Image for Patricia.
453 reviews20 followers
November 9, 2008

When Annabelle Hart isn’t at her office when Dr. Rebecca Butterman drops by to pick her up for lunch, Rebecca is more perturbed than worried. Rebecca was looking forward to a lunch at Louis’ Lunch, a place in New Haven, Connecticut famous for the burgers. Rebecca is a clinical psychologist and also writes an advice column on the side. Annabelle is also a therapist and specializes in sand therapy.

After a question and answer period with Dr. Frazier, the therapist down the hall from Annabelle, and leaving numerous messages for Annabelle, Rebecca finally decides to go to Annabelle’s home. Rebecca finds Annabelle badly beaten to the extent that it will be amazing if she can survive.

Detective Meigs who investigates thinks the crime was a botched robbery or a relationship gone sour but Rebecca is not convinced. Not only does Rebecca have her own practice to handle, her advice column to write, she also has an agreement that she will handle Annabelle’s patients in case of an emergency. Rebecca sets out to find the real story behind the attack on Annabelle.

Annabelle’s sister comes to the hospital when Rebecca calls her but is very standoffish and doesn’t want to allow Rebecca visitation privileges since she is not family. It seems that no matter which way she turns Rebecca is met with an obstacle in her quest to find justice for Annabelle.

This is the third book in the Advice Column Mysteries but works very well as a stand-alone story.
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984 reviews20 followers
July 12, 2016
I received this book for free from the publisher. All content and opinions are my own.

Dr. Rebecca Butterman is a clinical psychologist and part-time advice columnist with a penchant for amateur sleuthing. At the outset of this installment, Rebecca discovers her friend, Annabelle, severely beaten and left for dead. Rebecca, of course, sets out to discover what happened to her friend.

Though not technically a murder mystery (rather a coma mystery), this book had all of the other tenets of the genre. The red herrings abound. The frightening events occur in rapid succession. The culprit was revealed in a climactic scene. The ending seemed a little rushed, but I tend to think that about most mysteries.

This book works as a stand alone story. Though I have not read the previous two books in this series, I didn’t feel like I was missing anything. Isleib did a good job of updating the reader without belaboring the past. Still, the ending was more set up for the fourth book than I prefer.

In all, this was an interesting and compelling story. The writing flowed pretty well, the character development was generally believeable, and Rebecca was a likeable narrator. Mystery lovers will enjoy this quick and eventful story.
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Author 27 books64 followers
October 19, 2008
When psychotherapist Rebecca Butterman’s friend, therapist Annabelle Hart, misses a luncheon engagement and does not return her calls, Rebecca becomes concerned. She goes to her friend’s house and finds Annabelle badly beaten. Annabelle is rushed to the hospital, where she lies in coma. Rebecca’s attempts to see Annabelle at the hospital are denied by Annabelle’s sister, a cold woman who writes a catty gossip column. Rebecca incorporates the help of Detective Meigs, who concludes that Annabelle was beaten as the result of a botched robbery, and then mysteriously disappears. Rebecca decides to do some sleuthing on her own, which isn’t easy with so many people connected to Annabelle acting suspicious, if not guilty.

This third outing in the Advice Column Mystery series by Roberta Isleib proves another winner. Rebecca Butterman is complicated, has unresolved issues, and is still trying to find her way in the world. She can be petty and has lingering doubts about her divorce, but overall is intelligent and loyal and works hard to make the best out of the situations she finds herself in while trying to deal with past traumas and lingering issues. Isleib throws in plenty of red herrings, wrapped around an intriguing plot.

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51 reviews16 followers
August 17, 2009
Roberta Isleib writes entertaining murder-mysteries with characters who completely draw you into the story. In “Asking for Murder,” readers are reacquainted with Dr. Rebecca Butterman, the ever-so-likable psychologist who has an unfortunate knack for stumbling upon crime scenes, then becoming consumed by the need to solve each case. This time, when her best friend Annabelle doesn’t show up for a lunch date, Rebecca investigates – only to find Annabelle’s bloody body in her own home. Naturally Rebecca has to get to the bottom of things, and in the process she gets herself into several tight situations. This is one of the things I love most about her character – although she’s not a trained detective and is often out of her depths, Rebecca is a fiercely loyal, intelligent woman who’s far braver than most would be in similar situations. The story’s an easy read, and while I could have done without the “advice column” snippets – where Rebecca shares and responds to her readers’ letters – I understand why this element of the story was essential to an advice column mystery. Perhaps it’s simply that the problems Rebecca’s readers ask her for advice on seem so petty compared to the issues she is dealing with herself!
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733 reviews16 followers
September 1, 2008
I have been a huge fan of Roberta Isleib's novels ever since I read and reviewed her first Cassie Burdette golf mystery. ASKING FOR MURDER is the third in her Advice Column Mystery series featuring an equally intriguing protagonist in the form of Dr. Rebecca Butterman, a therapist with a growing practice who writes advice columns under a pseudonym. In this book Rebecca puts her skills to the test and her life on the line after her social worker friend is beaten into a coma. Rebecca does not agree with the police's assessment that her friend was the victim of a robbery gone awry. I always learn something along with being entertained with Ms. Isleib's books. In this entry I was captivated by the use of sand trays and figurines in treating patients with mental issues. Rebecca is a competent woman, but what makes her the most appealing,in my humble opinion, is her vulnerable side as she deals with her own difficult past and current inner demons. The author gives enough back story for the new reader to be able to jump into the storyline, but why not start with the first book in this captivating series, DEADLY ADVICE?
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Author 14 books15 followers
August 10, 2008
Sometimes when you read a book with a non-professional investigating a crime, you wonder why in the world the character keeps insinuating himself into the crime, but not with the lead in Asking for Murder. Dr. Rebecca Butterman is a psychologist and advice columnist and she’s thrown right into the center of the crime and has to stay involved to protect patients.

She’s a believable character who wants to be a good friend, needs to straighten out her own relationships, and realizes her life is in danger. She’s not getting a whole lot of help from the police, the family of the victim, or fellow professionals.

But it’s not like she has a whole lot of choices. She can’t turn her back on those who need her. She has to figure out not just the who of the crime but the why.
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2,003 reviews53 followers
February 5, 2011
Second in a series featuring a psychologist-cum-advice columnist, and even more enjoyable than the first (Preaching to the Corpse). Dr. Rebecca Butterman lives in rural Guilford, Conn. and works in New Haven, and I read the first book as part of my A Mystery for Every State project. In Asking for Murder, Rebecca discovers a close friend, also a therapist, beaten and left for dead in her own home. As her friend fights for her life in a coma, Rebecca tries to figure out who could have done this to the gentle woman who helps people by using sandtray therapy. Was it a mysterious new boyfriend, a former or current client, or even one of her own sisters? The solution was one I certainly didn't see coming. This was just the thing to provide a relaxing few hours for a harried tax preparer!
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1,869 reviews1 follower
August 26, 2016
I'd thought this would be a cozy mystery; after all, there are cats, lots of mentions about food preparation, and a touch of romance. I'm not often keen on the genre because often the author is saccharine sweet and the characters are stereotypes. That is NOT true of this author! Her characters were more developed, and likeable -- except the badies. Her plot moved along nicely and there were sufficient clues to let me THINK I might solve it before she did -- only to get surprised at a completely different outcome.

I will definitely be reading more of Roberta's work, and those under her other pen name: Lucy Burdette.
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524 reviews48 followers
May 31, 2009
Dr. Rebecca Butterman arrives at her friend and colleague, Annabelle Hart’s office for their lunch date. Rebecca immediately expects the worst when Annabelle isn’t in her office. Her assumptions appear to be correct when she learns Annabelle has not shown for her morning therapy sessions. Rebecca immediately goes to Annabelle’s home where she discovers Annabelle badly beaten. Who left Annabelle for dead? An angry client? Her new boyfriend? Or was it a burglary gone bad? Rebecca is determined to solve this mystery.
998 reviews25 followers
December 26, 2015
This is the earlier incarnation of Lucy Burdette who writes Key West mysteries.
This is a well done, somewhat gritty look at the reality of therapy, both those getting the therapeutic assistance and those giving it.
The characters are solid and believable and the mystery keeps you guessing.
I am sorry that there are not more books in this series.
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192 reviews2 followers
November 14, 2016
active...keeps you guessing.

this book kept me reading. had to struggle to put it down for breaks. story line was good. ending was a total blast. it helped me understand some people I have known. folks I thought were just plain buttheads, actually seemed to fit into sime of the cubbyholes described. read it.
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Author 5 books17 followers
August 13, 2008
These books get better all the time.... it's nice getting to know the main character better. Definitely someone I could be good friends with.
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94 reviews
January 21, 2009
This was a good read and a solid third installment in the series. We'll see if there are more--I read an interview online where Dr. Isleib says there are currently no plans for a future installment.
318 reviews7 followers
May 14, 2011
My favorite of the three. Dr. Rebecca Butterman's friend Annabelle is beaten up and it is up to Rebecca to find out who. The story was good from beginning to end.
124 reviews1 follower
June 3, 2012
Finished in one day. I am sad that she hasn't written any more books in this series. I did get her golf series to try. i hope they are as good as these.
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