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Не рычите на собаку! Книга о дрессировке людей, животных и самого себя
Уникальная книга, которая способна сделать ваши взаимоотношения с любым человеком, животным и даже с самим собой гораздо лучше. Карен Прайор предлагает гениально простую и потрясающе эффективную методику, которая поможет вам научить кого угодно поступать так, как вам хочется. Речь не идет о коварных манипуляциях, гипнозе и полном подчинении воли. Речь идет о положительном подкреплении - самом надежном и действенном способе влиять на поведение других. Вы узнаете, как заставить супруга раз и навсегда перестать ворчать; как научить трехлетнего ребенка вести себя прилично; как объяснить кошке, что не надо залезать на кухонный стол; как сподвигнуть начальника регулярно повышать вам зарплату; как улучшить свои собственные результаты в любой деятельности - от занятий спортом до сочинения стихов - или избавиться от вредных привычек с помощью положительного подкрепления.
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First published January 1, 1984
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61 books133 followersKaren Pryor was an American author who specialized in behavioral psychology and marine mammal biology. She was the founder and proponent of clicker training. She was formerly a Marine Mammal Commissioner to the U.S. government.
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December 25, 2019
A self-help manual on how to train:
- yourself
- your kids
- your pets
- and everyone else.
Main takeouts:
- behaviouristic nifty trickies
- positive reinforcement
- other fun ideas for efficiency and general living
Of-freaking-course, all of this should be taken with a spponful of salt but, then, to what the same wouldn't apply?
- yourself
- your kids
- your pets
- and everyone else.
Main takeouts:
- behaviouristic nifty trickies
- positive reinforcement
- other fun ideas for efficiency and general living
Of-freaking-course, all of this should be taken with a spponful of salt but, then, to what the same wouldn't apply?
June 9, 2013
I train dogs, completely positive reinforcement training. I owe a lot of what I do to Karen Pryor and people who worked to make positive reinforcement training what it is today.
The book is well written, easy to read despite Pryor's usage of scientific terms. Which I enjoy, because I think it makes the reader stronger in knowledge by the end of the book.
The most well-done aspect of the book is Chapter 5. It contains tables of various situations to represent each method of "training." This makes it easy to follow how one would use each technique, and makes it easier to extrapolate to real-world situations.
I will say, though, that this book was tainted by a few passages that grated. One especially where Pryor discusses a cat she had that peed on the stove burners every night. If the burners were covered, the cat peed on the covers. Pryor claims she never caught the cat in the act and could therefore not manage the behavior. Now, she might not have wanted to go into all the details of this issue, but when the issue is resolved by euthanizing the cat, I think it deserves more than a gloss. A professional behaviorist euthanized a cat for a non-aggressive, annoying behavior! I was appalled and a little disgusted.
I had a troublesome urinator, too, and I went through a lot to solve that problem. Even if I might have thought of finding her a new home, I never would have put her down because I couldn't figure out her motivation.
She also discusses repeatedly how ineffective aversives are, especially to cats, but she does mention that spraying cats in the face is extremely effective at managing behavior. DO NOT SPRAY YOUR CAT IN THE FACE! Not with water, and not with wine, like the author did. Discover the motivation and alter the behavior.
Yeesh.
It may be unfair to pick on a book so highly regarded in the training world because of a few instances. But the fact is many amateurs in training and behavior will pick up this book and not know where the author is outdated, or wrong, or just incomplete. I think it's important just for that reason to highlight the aspects of a book that are questionable.
Overall, good material on positive reinforcement and training methods. This will not be the book that tells you how to teach your dog to sit, but it will explain the background about why trainers do it a certain way and why it works.
The book is well written, easy to read despite Pryor's usage of scientific terms. Which I enjoy, because I think it makes the reader stronger in knowledge by the end of the book.
The most well-done aspect of the book is Chapter 5. It contains tables of various situations to represent each method of "training." This makes it easy to follow how one would use each technique, and makes it easier to extrapolate to real-world situations.
I will say, though, that this book was tainted by a few passages that grated. One especially where Pryor discusses a cat she had that peed on the stove burners every night. If the burners were covered, the cat peed on the covers. Pryor claims she never caught the cat in the act and could therefore not manage the behavior. Now, she might not have wanted to go into all the details of this issue, but when the issue is resolved by euthanizing the cat, I think it deserves more than a gloss. A professional behaviorist euthanized a cat for a non-aggressive, annoying behavior! I was appalled and a little disgusted.
I had a troublesome urinator, too, and I went through a lot to solve that problem. Even if I might have thought of finding her a new home, I never would have put her down because I couldn't figure out her motivation.
She also discusses repeatedly how ineffective aversives are, especially to cats, but she does mention that spraying cats in the face is extremely effective at managing behavior. DO NOT SPRAY YOUR CAT IN THE FACE! Not with water, and not with wine, like the author did. Discover the motivation and alter the behavior.
Yeesh.
It may be unfair to pick on a book so highly regarded in the training world because of a few instances. But the fact is many amateurs in training and behavior will pick up this book and not know where the author is outdated, or wrong, or just incomplete. I think it's important just for that reason to highlight the aspects of a book that are questionable.
Overall, good material on positive reinforcement and training methods. This will not be the book that tells you how to teach your dog to sit, but it will explain the background about why trainers do it a certain way and why it works.
November 28, 2016
A fabulous and easy-to-understand book about how to best use behaviorism. What is behaviorism? Essentially, the study of human and animal behavior - so this book sheds light on the most effective principles to use if you want to better the way you act. You can apply these concepts to so many areas, ranging from bolstering your health to training your dog. One of the most important takeaways: use positive reinforcement, not punishment. While our society prefers punishment in many ways (e.g., the mass incarceration in the US, how we expel kids from schools, etc.), research has shown its ineffectiveness, because it often shames people and makes them less productive. Positive reinforcement, or praising people for performing the desired behavior, has been linked to many more favorable outcomes.
Overall, recommended if you are interested in psychology or why humans act the way they do. Clear, concise, and in large part optimistic, Karen Pryor has written a wonderful book about behaviorism with Don't Shoot the Dog!.
Overall, recommended if you are interested in psychology or why humans act the way they do. Clear, concise, and in large part optimistic, Karen Pryor has written a wonderful book about behaviorism with Don't Shoot the Dog!.
March 28, 2011
On my recent, wonderful trip to Sacramento, I was fortunate in learning many new things and meeting many fabulous new people. One of those folks was a dear friend of Kyrana’s, named Laurel, who is an educator, currently working on a graduate degree in counseling. She is a delightful woman I am now proud to know, and I enjoyed many a thought-provoking conversation with her throughout the week, on a number of different subjects.
One of the books she was reading (it turned out it was Kyrana’s copy of the book, so both of them are huge fans of it), and not for the first time, was this book entitled, Don’t Shoot the Dog! The New Art of Teaching and Training. Kyrana had learned to love the book when working as a wild animal handler and trainer.
Written by Karen Pryor, one of the trainers who put clicker training on the map, this is an amazingly intelligent, well-written study on behavior training and communication. It is a scholarly work in that it references psychology and concepts that the author assumes her reader already understands. But, it is still approachable and easy enough to read that it makes the techniques she is teaching, accessible and attainable for just about any reader.
I was instantly attracted to the title, because I so strongly believe that there are really no bad dogs (or children, for that matter) just bad owners and parents. I am an avid disciple of Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer, and I have even given some thought to a new career as a dog (and owner) trainer. I believe that with the right communication, discipline, motivation and appreciation, dogs of all breeds can be loyal, well-behaved companions, and children can be prevented from running like wild animals through restaurants! I could write reams just on that latter subject! But, I digress.
I was well and truly hooked, once I realized that the concepts of clicker training and positive reinforcement were being taught to teachers and school counselors! Finally! the pendulum of discipline and control swings back toward sanity!
So, I began reading, and before the week was out, I had purchased my own copy and transferred my bookmark.
In this classic bestseller, Pryor outlines and explains, giving easily understood and useful examples, the various types of behavior modification methods and when each one is or isn’t appropriate. She presents eight methods of ending undesirable behavior from furniture-clawing cats to sloppy roommates. The ten laws of “shaping” behavior are listed and fully explained—methods of creating the behavior you want without ever raising a voice or a hand. For me, the book casts the word “manipulation” in the benign, neutral light it deserves. After all, the primary meaning of the word is “to manage skillfully and effectively”—something I know I strive to do. It offers up interesting anecdotes not just about dog training, or children in classrooms, but about dolphins and elephants and cats and department managers.
And, there is the undeniable aspect of all this, that we train ourselves on a daily basis, too. We train ourselves how to eat, exercise, sleep—how to spend our time. We train ourselves how to deal with people. And, in the words of another well-known psychologist, Dr. Phil—”we teach people how to treat us.” Why not get a better handle on what we’re teaching?!
This book stands to benefit, not only dog owners and trainers … not only teachers and parents … but anyone who ever hopes to get other people (or themselves) to behave in a certain way—employees, co-workers, bosses, customers, contractors … restaurant servers and bartenders … the guys who pick up your trash — in short, it can benefit you.
I have read the whole thing, and will likely read it again. I hope Kyle will read it. I have recommended it to others, as well. I can’t promise to remember everything I’ve learned, but I can promise I’ll know what book to reference when I come up against an interpersonal relationship that isn’t working, or a behavioral problem with my dogs.
So, take a look at Don’t Shoot the Dog! Even if you aren’t into “self-help books.” ;-)
Opening sentence: This book is about how to train anyone—human or animal, young or old, oneself or others—to do anything that can and should be done.
~MB
One of the books she was reading (it turned out it was Kyrana’s copy of the book, so both of them are huge fans of it), and not for the first time, was this book entitled, Don’t Shoot the Dog! The New Art of Teaching and Training. Kyrana had learned to love the book when working as a wild animal handler and trainer.
Written by Karen Pryor, one of the trainers who put clicker training on the map, this is an amazingly intelligent, well-written study on behavior training and communication. It is a scholarly work in that it references psychology and concepts that the author assumes her reader already understands. But, it is still approachable and easy enough to read that it makes the techniques she is teaching, accessible and attainable for just about any reader.
I was instantly attracted to the title, because I so strongly believe that there are really no bad dogs (or children, for that matter) just bad owners and parents. I am an avid disciple of Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer, and I have even given some thought to a new career as a dog (and owner) trainer. I believe that with the right communication, discipline, motivation and appreciation, dogs of all breeds can be loyal, well-behaved companions, and children can be prevented from running like wild animals through restaurants! I could write reams just on that latter subject! But, I digress.
I was well and truly hooked, once I realized that the concepts of clicker training and positive reinforcement were being taught to teachers and school counselors! Finally! the pendulum of discipline and control swings back toward sanity!
So, I began reading, and before the week was out, I had purchased my own copy and transferred my bookmark.
In this classic bestseller, Pryor outlines and explains, giving easily understood and useful examples, the various types of behavior modification methods and when each one is or isn’t appropriate. She presents eight methods of ending undesirable behavior from furniture-clawing cats to sloppy roommates. The ten laws of “shaping” behavior are listed and fully explained—methods of creating the behavior you want without ever raising a voice or a hand. For me, the book casts the word “manipulation” in the benign, neutral light it deserves. After all, the primary meaning of the word is “to manage skillfully and effectively”—something I know I strive to do. It offers up interesting anecdotes not just about dog training, or children in classrooms, but about dolphins and elephants and cats and department managers.
And, there is the undeniable aspect of all this, that we train ourselves on a daily basis, too. We train ourselves how to eat, exercise, sleep—how to spend our time. We train ourselves how to deal with people. And, in the words of another well-known psychologist, Dr. Phil—”we teach people how to treat us.” Why not get a better handle on what we’re teaching?!
This book stands to benefit, not only dog owners and trainers … not only teachers and parents … but anyone who ever hopes to get other people (or themselves) to behave in a certain way—employees, co-workers, bosses, customers, contractors … restaurant servers and bartenders … the guys who pick up your trash — in short, it can benefit you.
I have read the whole thing, and will likely read it again. I hope Kyle will read it. I have recommended it to others, as well. I can’t promise to remember everything I’ve learned, but I can promise I’ll know what book to reference when I come up against an interpersonal relationship that isn’t working, or a behavioral problem with my dogs.
So, take a look at Don’t Shoot the Dog! Even if you aren’t into “self-help books.” ;-)
Opening sentence: This book is about how to train anyone—human or animal, young or old, oneself or others—to do anything that can and should be done.
~MB
May 25, 2009
A good book if you are training animals. I would recommend it if you want to teach your dog or cat new tricks. However, she attempts to relate all of her training techniques to human relationships: how to train your kids, how to train your lovers, how to train your friends. I cannot say that I agree with this method at all, since we, as humans, have much better means of communicating and understanding, and when we start to "train" friends and family,I don´t see how that is any different than manipulating them.
January 31, 2020
Hm. Hard to review. This is fluidly written, funny, and fun to read. It bounces from stories of clicker-training a fish to experiments with improving her own golf and tennis skills. I think there are good insights to be gained from it.
It makes sweeping claims with no footnotes, and some of the things it claims strike me as kind of dubious.
It wasn't updated quite enough. The general feeling about animal shows at Sea World, for instance, has changed a lot since the book was first written. And while I think her heart is more or less in the right place, the language she uses about autistic kids, which would probably have sounded reasonable even five years ago, now betrays some unconscious beliefs about what those kids are capable of that make it deeply unpleasant to read.
She does say, and I agree, that we try to change each other's behavior all the time, but I wanted more philosophical or ethical thought about when it is and is not acceptable to do that, especially if there's a power differential. It's all very well to talk about reinforcing someone for not interrupting you or for calling you on the phone, but imagine how we'd feel about a guy using these techniques to reinforce his female employee to wear shorter skirts.
More than that, though, there are all these stories that say things like "Here's an example of a technique that doesn't work at all. Of course, this is how grade schools are always run." Or "so they didn't even know the kid had any vision at all until they had a technique that made the lights react to his behavior, and they saw him respond, but of course the experiment ran out of money and they couldn't keep on with it." Over and over, without any acknowledgement that when you tell me a story about how someone discovered that they could communicate with a kid or an adult or even an animal, but then went back to not communicating with them, that is a tragedy.
Practical lessons to take: you're probably not reinforcing what you think you're reinforcing; when you perform training, the subject is also training you; it's very hard, even with a fellow adult, to really communicate what it is that you want; and before you can do that, you have to know what you want, with a fair amount of precision.
It makes sweeping claims with no footnotes, and some of the things it claims strike me as kind of dubious.
It wasn't updated quite enough. The general feeling about animal shows at Sea World, for instance, has changed a lot since the book was first written. And while I think her heart is more or less in the right place, the language she uses about autistic kids, which would probably have sounded reasonable even five years ago, now betrays some unconscious beliefs about what those kids are capable of that make it deeply unpleasant to read.
She does say, and I agree, that we try to change each other's behavior all the time, but I wanted more philosophical or ethical thought about when it is and is not acceptable to do that, especially if there's a power differential. It's all very well to talk about reinforcing someone for not interrupting you or for calling you on the phone, but imagine how we'd feel about a guy using these techniques to reinforce his female employee to wear shorter skirts.
More than that, though, there are all these stories that say things like "Here's an example of a technique that doesn't work at all. Of course, this is how grade schools are always run." Or "so they didn't even know the kid had any vision at all until they had a technique that made the lights react to his behavior, and they saw him respond, but of course the experiment ran out of money and they couldn't keep on with it." Over and over, without any acknowledgement that when you tell me a story about how someone discovered that they could communicate with a kid or an adult or even an animal, but then went back to not communicating with them, that is a tragedy.
Practical lessons to take: you're probably not reinforcing what you think you're reinforcing; when you perform training, the subject is also training you; it's very hard, even with a fellow adult, to really communicate what it is that you want; and before you can do that, you have to know what you want, with a fair amount of precision.
January 21, 2012
Забавная книга об искусных методах манипуляции окружающими, у которой есть три больших недостатка (начну с недостатков, а потом сконцентрируюсь на достоинствах): 1) ужасный перевод на русский 2) американский популизм, сквозь который на каждом шагу приходится прорываться 3) отсутствие защиты от дурака, который пойдёт и будет делать “по букварю” всё так, как в ней описано.
Наибольшую пользу от этой книги можно получить, если любить людей и исходить из всленского блага. Карен, увы, ничего не пишет ни о вселенском благе, да и вобще о высоком, а зачастую прямо сравнивает дрессировку обезьян с дрессировкой людей. Если читать внимательно, то можно понять, что на самом деле никакого сравнения нет, да и цели у неё весьма гуманные. Более того, становится весьма очевидно, что при использовании “позитивного подкрепления” (её термин), люди начинают творить великие чудеса, которые им самим и не снились. Особенная ценность книги в том, что автор доступно и ясно показывает, почему традиционные методы воспиятания детей неэффективны. Почему нужно хвалить, а ругать стоит очень редко и в конкретных случаях. ��ричём описаны разные инструменты методики и каждому сопустсвует объяснение, почему так, а не иначе.
В общем при правильном настрое на то, что книга крайне практического толка, а местами даже несколько примитивная, от её прочтения можно полуить ощутимую пользу и получить пару инструментов на предмет того, как, например, не скандалить с мужем или не идти на поводу у назойливых родственников.
Наибольшую пользу от этой книги можно получить, если любить людей и исходить из всленского блага. Карен, увы, ничего не пишет ни о вселенском благе, да и вобще о высоком, а зачастую прямо сравнивает дрессировку обезьян с дрессировкой людей. Если читать внимательно, то можно понять, что на самом деле никакого сравнения нет, да и цели у неё весьма гуманные. Более того, становится весьма очевидно, что при использовании “позитивного подкрепления” (её термин), люди начинают творить великие чудеса, которые им самим и не снились. Особенная ценность книги в том, что автор доступно и ясно показывает, почему традиционные методы воспиятания детей неэффективны. Почему нужно хвалить, а ругать стоит очень редко и в конкретных случаях. ��ричём описаны разные инструменты методики и каждому сопустсвует объяснение, почему так, а не иначе.
В общем при правильном настрое на то, что книга крайне практического толка, а местами даже несколько примитивная, от её прочтения можно полуить ощутимую пользу и получить пару инструментов на предмет того, как, например, не скандалить с мужем или не идти на поводу у назойливых родственников.
January 25, 2020
I know this is considered THE book on animal training, and the information is laid out cohesively and thoroughly.
HOWEVER - it was hard for me to read the author's examples, as she clearly worked on training marine mammals (dolphins, killer whales) at places like Sea World, and pretty much every single real-life example included that past experience. I am against the imprisonment of cetaceans such as those, training for the express purpose of entertaining us (easily bored) humans. To confine these mammals, who are meant to swim 65-165km/daily, taking them away from their pods (family), forcing them to mate early...so we can watch a dolphin jump through hoops or a killer whale eat from a trainer's hand...no. Let's evolve OURSELVES, as a species, and recognize other species' needs and put those above our own desire for entertainment and profit.
This is not the 1980s anymore, when Karen first wrote this book and those places thrived, and I look forward to the demise of places like Sea World and Marine World.
HOWEVER - it was hard for me to read the author's examples, as she clearly worked on training marine mammals (dolphins, killer whales) at places like Sea World, and pretty much every single real-life example included that past experience. I am against the imprisonment of cetaceans such as those, training for the express purpose of entertaining us (easily bored) humans. To confine these mammals, who are meant to swim 65-165km/daily, taking them away from their pods (family), forcing them to mate early...so we can watch a dolphin jump through hoops or a killer whale eat from a trainer's hand...no. Let's evolve OURSELVES, as a species, and recognize other species' needs and put those above our own desire for entertainment and profit.
This is not the 1980s anymore, when Karen first wrote this book and those places thrived, and I look forward to the demise of places like Sea World and Marine World.
December 28, 2017
This was absolutely FASCINATING and I would highly, highly recommend it to anyone and everyone I know. I picked it up based on the title, thinking it would be about dog training, but it's actually not about dogs at all -- it's a general interest book about how all living creatures (humans AND animals!) learn, form habits, and assign meaning to different patterns of behavior. If your job involves any kind of teaching, training, managing, or communication, I think you would find this book useful and thought-provoking. I have so many more thoughts about this and will probably write a longer review on Tumblr about a cluster of seemingly disparate things I've read or listened to recently (among them Don't Shoot the Dog, Bones Would Rain from the Sky, The Lost Art of Listening, Culture Clash, Living a Feminist Life, and the podcast S-Town) that are sparking so many exciting thoughts for me about teaching and writing. I am also definitely going to seek out more recent material on this subject (this was published in the 1980s).
Pryor has a great section near the end of the book where she addresses some of the critiques of applied behaviorism, which seem to mostly revolve around the fear that focusing too much on observable behavior and "training" positive behaviors = Orwellian dystopia. I can kinda see where those fears come from, but I think they are based on a distortion or misinterpretation of the basic principles of this teaching method. This kind of teaching doesn't have to be at odds with humanism--in fact, I think that humanism and behaviorism have a lot to teach each other, and Pryor talks about how observable behavior is one "ring" in a series of interlocking rings: behavior is one; ethology or internal emotional states is the second, and the third level (which we do not yet fully understand) has to do with behavior like play, empathy, imaginativeness, and creativity. I found it so exciting to think about how methods like the one Pryor describes can be used to foster creativity, innovation, and generosity, and to see those qualities not as things that you either have or don't have, but as behaviors that can be nurtured in ways that eventually inspire the learner to initiate and deepen those behaviors of their own volition. This is surprisingly relevant to my own academic work, which involves thinking about how certain narrative structures/forms produce patterns of affective response, which in turn shapes the way readers interpret the material they're reading *and* the social worlds they inhabit. To use Pryor's rhetoric: I write about how literary forms (as well as the forms of interpretation we are taught in literature classrooms) help "shape" qualities like empathy, openness to new experiences, acceptance of self and others, etc. In other words, narrative forms can be pedagogical tools that teach us different ways of interpreting and responding to the world around us. It's not just "reading makes you a better person," although I think it often does. Rather, I'm thinking about how literary communities like fandoms encourage readers to see themselves as capable interpreters and potential content-creators in their own right -- in part by positively reinforcing certain behaviors and by making reading itself a form of community-building.
I also LOVED the description of teaching as a two-way communication between teacher and learner, a dynamic relationship in which both subjects are actively learning from each other and shaping their ability to listen and communicate with each other. And I think that it's so, so true that when learning isn't happening, it's not because the learner is lazy, stupid, incapable, or defiant; it's a sign that the teacher needs to more closely examine the environment and also their own practices of communication, so that they can figure out what is "blocking" that channel of communication and develop new strategies for breaking complex tasks down into smaller tasks that students can achieve. This method of teaching requires teachers to be so much more attuned to their own practices and responsive to the needs of the students. It means approach the teaching situation from a place of understanding and empathy -- empathy towards the student but also towards yourself, as you reflect on where your frustration or anger is coming from and develop ways to move through those feelings.
Lastly: I think this book has also helped me understand why academia is such a soul-crushing endeavor for many people, myself included. There is little positive reinforcement in your day to day life, and plenty of opportunities to accidentally develop and reinforce unhealthy behaviors like procrastination. You live with a crushing sense of guilt (a behavior that Pryor says is almost completely useless -- it teaches you nothing, and only serves to heighten responses like avoidance, resentment, and depression). The tasks are not broken up into manageable chunks; you are expected to flounder around, ideally while wallowing in despair and shame, until you happen to (usually accidentally) make a massive leap to the next stage. If you struggle with making this leap, as most people do, you are meant to feel that you are simply undisciplined, lazy, or not smart enough to hack it. You are often expected to regulate and assess your own progress with minimal feedback or support, even though you may have only a hazy idea of what progress looks like or what criteria you'll be measured by. IT'S A BROKEN SYSTEM!!! but it passes off responsibility for its structural problems in large part by making people feel like they are the ones who are broken.
Pryor has a great section near the end of the book where she addresses some of the critiques of applied behaviorism, which seem to mostly revolve around the fear that focusing too much on observable behavior and "training" positive behaviors = Orwellian dystopia. I can kinda see where those fears come from, but I think they are based on a distortion or misinterpretation of the basic principles of this teaching method. This kind of teaching doesn't have to be at odds with humanism--in fact, I think that humanism and behaviorism have a lot to teach each other, and Pryor talks about how observable behavior is one "ring" in a series of interlocking rings: behavior is one; ethology or internal emotional states is the second, and the third level (which we do not yet fully understand) has to do with behavior like play, empathy, imaginativeness, and creativity. I found it so exciting to think about how methods like the one Pryor describes can be used to foster creativity, innovation, and generosity, and to see those qualities not as things that you either have or don't have, but as behaviors that can be nurtured in ways that eventually inspire the learner to initiate and deepen those behaviors of their own volition. This is surprisingly relevant to my own academic work, which involves thinking about how certain narrative structures/forms produce patterns of affective response, which in turn shapes the way readers interpret the material they're reading *and* the social worlds they inhabit. To use Pryor's rhetoric: I write about how literary forms (as well as the forms of interpretation we are taught in literature classrooms) help "shape" qualities like empathy, openness to new experiences, acceptance of self and others, etc. In other words, narrative forms can be pedagogical tools that teach us different ways of interpreting and responding to the world around us. It's not just "reading makes you a better person," although I think it often does. Rather, I'm thinking about how literary communities like fandoms encourage readers to see themselves as capable interpreters and potential content-creators in their own right -- in part by positively reinforcing certain behaviors and by making reading itself a form of community-building.
I also LOVED the description of teaching as a two-way communication between teacher and learner, a dynamic relationship in which both subjects are actively learning from each other and shaping their ability to listen and communicate with each other. And I think that it's so, so true that when learning isn't happening, it's not because the learner is lazy, stupid, incapable, or defiant; it's a sign that the teacher needs to more closely examine the environment and also their own practices of communication, so that they can figure out what is "blocking" that channel of communication and develop new strategies for breaking complex tasks down into smaller tasks that students can achieve. This method of teaching requires teachers to be so much more attuned to their own practices and responsive to the needs of the students. It means approach the teaching situation from a place of understanding and empathy -- empathy towards the student but also towards yourself, as you reflect on where your frustration or anger is coming from and develop ways to move through those feelings.
Lastly: I think this book has also helped me understand why academia is such a soul-crushing endeavor for many people, myself included. There is little positive reinforcement in your day to day life, and plenty of opportunities to accidentally develop and reinforce unhealthy behaviors like procrastination. You live with a crushing sense of guilt (a behavior that Pryor says is almost completely useless -- it teaches you nothing, and only serves to heighten responses like avoidance, resentment, and depression). The tasks are not broken up into manageable chunks; you are expected to flounder around, ideally while wallowing in despair and shame, until you happen to (usually accidentally) make a massive leap to the next stage. If you struggle with making this leap, as most people do, you are meant to feel that you are simply undisciplined, lazy, or not smart enough to hack it. You are often expected to regulate and assess your own progress with minimal feedback or support, even though you may have only a hazy idea of what progress looks like or what criteria you'll be measured by. IT'S A BROKEN SYSTEM!!! but it passes off responsibility for its structural problems in large part by making people feel like they are the ones who are broken.
October 10, 2014
Life changing, quite possibly the ultimate self-help book.
Karen Pryor was basically the inventor of clicker training. Going deeper, she brought BF Skinner's experiments in operant conditioning of lab animals to popular culture, particularly with dogs but adaptable to any species, including humans. Her method isn't pure Skinner, he was also into negative reinforcement which Pryor uses very gently and sparingly.
Pryor started in the 1970's with the training of some freshly captured wild dolphins (I know, sad) who cannot be harnessed or punished into any behavior except to stress them out, which will effectively stop them from doing anything. They literally sink to the bottom of the pool and freeze.
Teenagers are kind of like dolphins, too slippery and big and sensitive to respond to force or punishment. I have a tween and a teen now with whom I needed help, which is what brought me back to Pryor's engaging and educational writing. I had read this book 15 years ago when I was a dog walker and found it fascinating but never really tried it out, not even with my own dogs. I guess you could say I was a passive believer.
I also tried what Pryor refers to as pseudoscience: "alpha" training and had no success with that either and got bitten or growled at a couple of times in the process.
So I just stopped training my dogs.
Living with dogs in their natural, untrained state is a bit like being held hostage. They have to be limited to parts of the house you don't mind them peeing and pooping (but I actually do mind, I just tolerated it.) They annoy you with their noise and their out of control play. They steal your food. You can yell at them or even hit them to stop the behavior for a second but it doesn't work in the long run and hurts your bond. For me, the worst part was that they were an embarrassment, so we haven't had guests other than tolerant family for ages.
This "natural" approach sets a terrible example to the kids of how to be a responsible dog owner. I remember my son asking why someone else's dog had to be let out. "Can't they just poop in the house?" Ay yi yi.
Occasionally I have had "shoot the dog" fantasies of getting rid of the dogs altogether (which would completely extinguish the behavior!). But I do love them and don't believe in throwing pets away because they are inconvenient. I have never felt that way about the kids, but sure have wanted to hide from them at times.
But I digress, sort of. I read this book wanting a refresher on operant conditioning for the kids--the dogs were at the back of my mind filed where I put resigned-to live-with stuff. I wanted to stop yelling at my kids. I wanted a more positive method of managing self and other destructive behaviors that are a natural part of teen life but need to be curtailed for survival and success as a human being. Abject force works with little kids who can't really fight back (a cruel reality for too many kids.) But you cannot force a teen to do anything. And if you try too hard to run their lives, they can simply walk out the door.
As it turns out, just a few days after starting the book, by using Pryor's positive approach, I am getting fast results with both kids and dogs and the kids are loving the dog training we are doing so that part has become a family bonding project. It's a win for the dogs, a win for the kids, a win for the parents and a win for the family. There is no down side!
Instead of waiting 15 years, I need to reread this book (and her others) yearly, as well as any behavior-centric books that rely not on punishment but reward, which by the way is different from bribery. Trust me, positive reinforcement is not really about bribery but you'll have to read Pryor's books to learn how, and then get on an internet forum of experienced users of these methods to fine tune, as I am now doing and getting super fast and very effective results.
Karen Pryor was basically the inventor of clicker training. Going deeper, she brought BF Skinner's experiments in operant conditioning of lab animals to popular culture, particularly with dogs but adaptable to any species, including humans. Her method isn't pure Skinner, he was also into negative reinforcement which Pryor uses very gently and sparingly.
Pryor started in the 1970's with the training of some freshly captured wild dolphins (I know, sad) who cannot be harnessed or punished into any behavior except to stress them out, which will effectively stop them from doing anything. They literally sink to the bottom of the pool and freeze.
Teenagers are kind of like dolphins, too slippery and big and sensitive to respond to force or punishment. I have a tween and a teen now with whom I needed help, which is what brought me back to Pryor's engaging and educational writing. I had read this book 15 years ago when I was a dog walker and found it fascinating but never really tried it out, not even with my own dogs. I guess you could say I was a passive believer.
I also tried what Pryor refers to as pseudoscience: "alpha" training and had no success with that either and got bitten or growled at a couple of times in the process.
So I just stopped training my dogs.
Living with dogs in their natural, untrained state is a bit like being held hostage. They have to be limited to parts of the house you don't mind them peeing and pooping (but I actually do mind, I just tolerated it.) They annoy you with their noise and their out of control play. They steal your food. You can yell at them or even hit them to stop the behavior for a second but it doesn't work in the long run and hurts your bond. For me, the worst part was that they were an embarrassment, so we haven't had guests other than tolerant family for ages.
This "natural" approach sets a terrible example to the kids of how to be a responsible dog owner. I remember my son asking why someone else's dog had to be let out. "Can't they just poop in the house?" Ay yi yi.
Occasionally I have had "shoot the dog" fantasies of getting rid of the dogs altogether (which would completely extinguish the behavior!). But I do love them and don't believe in throwing pets away because they are inconvenient. I have never felt that way about the kids, but sure have wanted to hide from them at times.
But I digress, sort of. I read this book wanting a refresher on operant conditioning for the kids--the dogs were at the back of my mind filed where I put resigned-to live-with stuff. I wanted to stop yelling at my kids. I wanted a more positive method of managing self and other destructive behaviors that are a natural part of teen life but need to be curtailed for survival and success as a human being. Abject force works with little kids who can't really fight back (a cruel reality for too many kids.) But you cannot force a teen to do anything. And if you try too hard to run their lives, they can simply walk out the door.
As it turns out, just a few days after starting the book, by using Pryor's positive approach, I am getting fast results with both kids and dogs and the kids are loving the dog training we are doing so that part has become a family bonding project. It's a win for the dogs, a win for the kids, a win for the parents and a win for the family. There is no down side!
Instead of waiting 15 years, I need to reread this book (and her others) yearly, as well as any behavior-centric books that rely not on punishment but reward, which by the way is different from bribery. Trust me, positive reinforcement is not really about bribery but you'll have to read Pryor's books to learn how, and then get on an internet forum of experienced users of these methods to fine tune, as I am now doing and getting super fast and very effective results.
May 4, 2008
Received a copy of this as a gift from a biologist friend to help me deal with my rabbit problems, but it's a great read. She believes in using positive reinforcement in every area of life, whether with a pet or a difficult roommate.
A year or two ago when surfing the net I found a conservative excoriation of an article in the New York Times in which the author used positive reinforcement to train her husband. These bloggers seemed to be afraid their wives would learn something. Really, it involves training oneself as much as the dog or the other person.
Here's the NY Times article: What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage
Actually, turns out that this book isn't mentioned anywhere in the article. Still, I love this behavioral stuff.
Whenever I add a book to my shelf here at Goodreads, it says "You've now got three books!" or something like that. Nice positive reinforcement. I noticed I tend to want to post here, when I'm allergic to posting nearly anywhere else.
A year or two ago when surfing the net I found a conservative excoriation of an article in the New York Times in which the author used positive reinforcement to train her husband. These bloggers seemed to be afraid their wives would learn something. Really, it involves training oneself as much as the dog or the other person.
Here's the NY Times article: What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage
Actually, turns out that this book isn't mentioned anywhere in the article. Still, I love this behavioral stuff.
Whenever I add a book to my shelf here at Goodreads, it says "You've now got three books!" or something like that. Nice positive reinforcement. I noticed I tend to want to post here, when I'm allergic to posting nearly anywhere else.
April 15, 2018
Interesting historical artifact. Pryor is a “behavioral biologist” who worked with B. F. Skinner in Hawaii’s Sea Life Park. She’s used operant conditioning to train everything from fish to orcas, cats to elephants, children to co-workers. She was one of the early proponents of clicker training. An accessible review on dog training with some interesting suggestions for adapting it to in-law management and tennis practice.
I can’t say that I loved the book. It was more than usually self-aggrandizing, which would have been easier to accept if she hadn’t had a cat put to sleep because she couldn’t figure out how to train it out of an unpleasant behavior (peeing on the burners). I don’t know why she included that particular story, other than perhaps show she’s not a woo-woo sentimentalist. Also I don’t care about tennis. But it gave me some new ideas for trying to teach my young lab not to bark at the neighbors quite as much.
I can’t say that I loved the book. It was more than usually self-aggrandizing, which would have been easier to accept if she hadn’t had a cat put to sleep because she couldn’t figure out how to train it out of an unpleasant behavior (peeing on the burners). I don’t know why she included that particular story, other than perhaps show she’s not a woo-woo sentimentalist. Also I don’t care about tennis. But it gave me some new ideas for trying to teach my young lab not to bark at the neighbors quite as much.
October 17, 2012
The book seems to mainly talk about training animals, but if you're willing to experiment, I believe it is a good guide on how you can use some of the principles listed to shape your relationship with others.
Now, you might think that's crazy. We shouldn't be "training" people like we are training animals. It's humiliating to the other party.
However, you need to keep in mind that what the author advocates is positive reinforcement. By using this principle as your guide, and using the methods listed in the book, you'll see that it's not at all a humiliating practice.
For example, the author talks about how she "trained" her mother to have a pleasant conversation with her every time she calls, rather than ending with tears and accusations which only makes her avoid the calls.
By positively responding to some of the topics that brings joy to both of them, Karen Pryor reinforced her mother to be more positive in their conversations. Win-win? You bet!
Now, you might think that's crazy. We shouldn't be "training" people like we are training animals. It's humiliating to the other party.
However, you need to keep in mind that what the author advocates is positive reinforcement. By using this principle as your guide, and using the methods listed in the book, you'll see that it's not at all a humiliating practice.
For example, the author talks about how she "trained" her mother to have a pleasant conversation with her every time she calls, rather than ending with tears and accusations which only makes her avoid the calls.
By positively responding to some of the topics that brings joy to both of them, Karen Pryor reinforced her mother to be more positive in their conversations. Win-win? You bet!
June 7, 2011
Man, this book was AMAZING. Everyone should read it.
It's about using positive reinforcement and behavioral training, not just in the context of training a dog, but for use with . . . everyone. Roommates, co-workers, husbands, dolphins, you name it.
I want Chris to read this book because I want him to use it on me. I think that I respond very well to positive reinforcement!
It's about using positive reinforcement and behavioral training, not just in the context of training a dog, but for use with . . . everyone. Roommates, co-workers, husbands, dolphins, you name it.
I want Chris to read this book because I want him to use it on me. I think that I respond very well to positive reinforcement!
May 22, 2009
This was the first book I read on clicker training and I read it in 2006, Bonnie (then a pup - now a Dog Scout) watched intently as I read pages and then tried things out "on her". One day I left the book on the coffee table and returned from a phone call only to find Bonnie with paws planted firmly on the book proudly sharing that she had ripped it in half. Needless to save "I did not shoot the dog (-o: " we continued with Karen's program and my timing improved, my knowledge grew and we have had fun ever since.
January 27, 2024
Really good book on training methods, helpful, good for beginners, and interesting examples used. Goes well beyond dog training and even how to use positive reinforcement in work relationships, family relationships, etc. I learned a lot. One of my complaints was the weird part where she talked about euthanizing a cat that peed on the stove top. To me, that kind of counteracted her points that you can untrain behaviors using positive reinforcement. And also, seems like there were several other options if that was truly the reason for euthanasia…
November 29, 2025
Read this for work, but it was pretty good! Basic but there’s a lot of good info here
January 4, 2020
As someone who is a huge believer in rewards-based training, this book has always been on my to read list, and recommended to me countless times by countless people. I was hoping, after reading it myself, to be able to recommend it to individuals I know who are still proponents of aversive techniques and dominance theory. I'm sorry to say that I found this book incredibly dry and to a certain degree morally suspect. Though Karen Pryor lauds the benefits of positive reinforcement, she doesn't disavow negative reinforcement either. In describing certain negative techniques of dealing with unwanted behavior, she shares the following horrifying story:
"I once had a cat that developed the peculiar habit of stealing into the kitchen in the night and urinating on
the stove burners. The odor, when you unknowingly turned on one of those burners the next day, was
incredibly offensive. The cat had free access to the outdoors, I never caught her at the behavior, and if you
covered the burners she urinated on the covers. I could not decipher her motivation, and I finally took that cat
to the pound to be put to sleep."
I honestly don't know how you could do such a thing and consider yourself a trainer, and while her contributions to the pet training world may be significant, I'm fairly repulsed by what I've read and wont be passing on any recommendations for this book any time soon. A far better resource for learning about the laws of learning and rewards-based training, in my opinion, is The Complete Idiots Guide To Positive Dog Training by Pamela Dennison, which is much more clear and succinct, and also devoid of this book's merciless clinical sterility.
"I once had a cat that developed the peculiar habit of stealing into the kitchen in the night and urinating on
the stove burners. The odor, when you unknowingly turned on one of those burners the next day, was
incredibly offensive. The cat had free access to the outdoors, I never caught her at the behavior, and if you
covered the burners she urinated on the covers. I could not decipher her motivation, and I finally took that cat
to the pound to be put to sleep."
I honestly don't know how you could do such a thing and consider yourself a trainer, and while her contributions to the pet training world may be significant, I'm fairly repulsed by what I've read and wont be passing on any recommendations for this book any time soon. A far better resource for learning about the laws of learning and rewards-based training, in my opinion, is The Complete Idiots Guide To Positive Dog Training by Pamela Dennison, which is much more clear and succinct, and also devoid of this book's merciless clinical sterility.
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June 6, 2024this was read for work, that is all i will say
March 4, 2017
I first read this book as a young pre-teen on the advice of one of my instructors, and I am forever indebted to him for he way this shaped my thinking and interactions with animals (and people) throughout my life. This book has held up to several rereads over the years, & it is a simple & easy to understand introduction to the world of behavior modification. Highly recommend this book.
October 26, 2015
I had to read this book as homework for an intensive DBT training and am so glad that I did! This is a wonderful book which clearly explains behavioral reinforcement. I use the concepts as a therapist, a wife, and a dog owner. The book is easy to understand and gives lots of relatable examples.
November 24, 2013
Ironically, this is required for my human behavior course.
April 27, 2025
Less reflective than the more recent Reaching the Animal mind, Don’t Shoot the Dog is both a practical guide to clicker training for humans and animals and a glimpse into the mid-1980s when it was less ubiquitous than it is now. And those elements are fantastic.
But other parts of the book have aged poorly. Marine mammals in captivity feature heavily without any note about their quality of life, and some of the language surrounding disability in the section on children is pretty regressive even by the standards of 1984.
There’s also the odd inclusion of a sorry about euthanizing a cat after not being able to catch it in a misbehaviour that’s a bit horrific, as it’s used as an illustration of the “Shoot the Dog” training option, which initially appears to be metaphorical, but apparently isn’t.
But other parts of the book have aged poorly. Marine mammals in captivity feature heavily without any note about their quality of life, and some of the language surrounding disability in the section on children is pretty regressive even by the standards of 1984.
There’s also the odd inclusion of a sorry about euthanizing a cat after not being able to catch it in a misbehaviour that’s a bit horrific, as it’s used as an illustration of the “Shoot the Dog” training option, which initially appears to be metaphorical, but apparently isn’t.
October 11, 2025
I had to read this for work so I feel like I cant give it a real rating since it was homework though it was very informative on training so it was interesting but alas.
June 18, 2024
Much more entertaining than I was expecting. Can’t wait to start carrying a clicker everywhere I go!
August 25, 2020
All you need to know about this book: the author put her cat to sleep, because the cat was pissing on Karen's hotplate. Yes, killing is literally one of the methods in her list. Even though Karen makes some sentimental statements about animals here and there, in general, she seems to be absolutely fine with animal abuse, beating, circuses, etc. People who praise this book probably can't read between the lines and unable to see a full picture of narratives or their authors.
March 6, 2019
Прекрасна книжка. Вважаю що кожен хто хоче вчити когось, передавати знання, виховувати, дресирувати повинен прочитати цю книжку=надбання-досвід авторки.
Як заставити сусіда перестати розкидати речі? Як перевчити собачку чи кота робити шкоду? Як тренуватися чи тренувати якісніше?
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Як заставити сусіда перестати розкидати речі? Як перевчити собачку чи кота робити шкоду? Як тренуватися чи тренувати якісніше?
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March 5, 2018
This is a great book. but it actually plays fast and loose with negative reinforcement and punishment at times, which I find maddening. Still, it's is a good read when trying to figure out solid, research-based approaches to pet and human behavior issues.
September 28, 2020
Punishing is also reinforcing for the punisher because it demonstrates and helps to maintain dominance.
Until the day when a boy is big enough to hit his brutal father back, the father feels dominant and is in truth
the dominant one. This in fact may be the main motivation behind our human tendency to punish:
establishing and maintaining dominance. The punisher may be primarily interested not in behavior but in
being proved to be of higher status.
Dominance hierarchies and dominance disputes and testing are a fundamental characteristic of all social
groups, from flocks of geese to human governments. But perhaps only we humans learn to use punishment
primarily to gain for ourselves the reward of being dominant. So think, when you are tempted to punish: Do
you want the dog, the child, the spouse, the employee to alter a given behavior? In that case, it's a training
problem, and you need to be aware of the weaknesses of punishment as a training device. Or do you really
want revenge? In that case you should seek more wholesome reinforcers for yourself.
Or perhaps you really want the dog, the child, the spouse, the employee, the neighboring nation, and so
on to stop disobeying you. In whatever manifestation, do you want the subject to stop going against your
superior will and judgment? In that case it's a dominance dispute, and you're on your own.
Guilt and shame are forms of self-inflicted punishment. Almost no sensation is more disagreeable than the
clammy hand of guilt closing around one's heart; it is a punisher that only the human race could have
invented. Some animals—dogs, certainly—can show embarrassment. But none, I think, waste time suffering
from guilt over actions in the past.
The amount of guilt we deal out to ourselves varies hugely One person can feel relaxed and justified after
committing a major crime while another feels guilty over chewing a stick of gum. Many people do not
experience guilt or shame in their daily lives, not because they are perfect, nor because they are unfeeling
hedonists, but because they respond to their own behavior in alternative ways. If they do something that
bothers them in retrospect, then they don't do it again. Others make the same mistake over and over—acting
the fool at a party, saying unforgivable words to a loved one—in spite of invariably feeling hellishly guilty
the next day
One would think that fear of feeling guilty would act as a deterrent, but usually at the moment we are
doing the deed that will later cause guilt, we are feeling impeccably fearless. As a way of changing behavior,
guilt ranks right along with flogging or any other form of delayed punishment—it is not very effective.
Until the day when a boy is big enough to hit his brutal father back, the father feels dominant and is in truth
the dominant one. This in fact may be the main motivation behind our human tendency to punish:
establishing and maintaining dominance. The punisher may be primarily interested not in behavior but in
being proved to be of higher status.
Dominance hierarchies and dominance disputes and testing are a fundamental characteristic of all social
groups, from flocks of geese to human governments. But perhaps only we humans learn to use punishment
primarily to gain for ourselves the reward of being dominant. So think, when you are tempted to punish: Do
you want the dog, the child, the spouse, the employee to alter a given behavior? In that case, it's a training
problem, and you need to be aware of the weaknesses of punishment as a training device. Or do you really
want revenge? In that case you should seek more wholesome reinforcers for yourself.
Or perhaps you really want the dog, the child, the spouse, the employee, the neighboring nation, and so
on to stop disobeying you. In whatever manifestation, do you want the subject to stop going against your
superior will and judgment? In that case it's a dominance dispute, and you're on your own.
Guilt and shame are forms of self-inflicted punishment. Almost no sensation is more disagreeable than the
clammy hand of guilt closing around one's heart; it is a punisher that only the human race could have
invented. Some animals—dogs, certainly—can show embarrassment. But none, I think, waste time suffering
from guilt over actions in the past.
The amount of guilt we deal out to ourselves varies hugely One person can feel relaxed and justified after
committing a major crime while another feels guilty over chewing a stick of gum. Many people do not
experience guilt or shame in their daily lives, not because they are perfect, nor because they are unfeeling
hedonists, but because they respond to their own behavior in alternative ways. If they do something that
bothers them in retrospect, then they don't do it again. Others make the same mistake over and over—acting
the fool at a party, saying unforgivable words to a loved one—in spite of invariably feeling hellishly guilty
the next day
One would think that fear of feeling guilty would act as a deterrent, but usually at the moment we are
doing the deed that will later cause guilt, we are feeling impeccably fearless. As a way of changing behavior,
guilt ranks right along with flogging or any other form of delayed punishment—it is not very effective.
March 16, 2021
At first I wondered to myself “Why this title? What does ‘don’t shoot the dog’ mean?” It’s all come together in my head now. Pryor’s 8 methods of how to get rid of unwanted behaviour sum up how different people chose to tackle problems they encounter in daily life, with themselves, other people and pets. They make total sense. She explains how positive reinforcement of wanted behaviour will always be superior to punishment or avoidance of unwanted behaviour. I admit some of the references to the real world and human activity and behaviour did go over my head a bit eg the orchestra conductor examples. However, I found most of them helpful in understanding the points she was making.
Ok so this book wasn’t one that I couldn’t put down or one that I couldn’t wait to pick up the next morning, but that’s because it’s gritty informative stuff. It’s not a non-fiction novel about crime or time travel so what did I expect?
Overall I can’t deny it has opened my mind not only to ways in which I should treat others to achieve a peaceful and positive relationship, but also how I should expect to be treated by others.
I am currently doing an Advanced Applied Canine Behaviour course and so far this book has been essential in laying the groundwork for how dogs learn.
Highly recommend to anyone.
Ok so this book wasn’t one that I couldn’t put down or one that I couldn’t wait to pick up the next morning, but that’s because it’s gritty informative stuff. It’s not a non-fiction novel about crime or time travel so what did I expect?
Overall I can’t deny it has opened my mind not only to ways in which I should treat others to achieve a peaceful and positive relationship, but also how I should expect to be treated by others.
I am currently doing an Advanced Applied Canine Behaviour course and so far this book has been essential in laying the groundwork for how dogs learn.
Highly recommend to anyone.
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