In this spiritual memoir, a white woman in an interracial marriage and mixed-race family paints a beautiful path from white privilege toward racial healing, from ignorance toward seeing the image of God in everyone she meets. Author and speaker Cara Meredith grew up in a colorless world. From childhood, she didn't think issues of race had anything to do with her, and she was ignorant of many of the racial realities (including individual and systemic racism) in America today. A colorblind rhetoric had been stamped across her education, world view, and Christian theology. Then as an adult, Cara's life took on new, colorful hues. She realized that white people in her generation, seeking to move beyond ancestral racism, had swung so far in believing a colorblind rhetoric that they tried to act as if they didn't see race at all. When Cara met and fell in love with the son of black icon, James Meredith, the power of love helped her see color. She began to notice the shades of life already present in the world around her, while also learning to listen in new ways to black voices of the past. After she married and their little family grew to include two mixed-race sons, Cara knew she would never see the world through a colorless lens again. Cara Meredith's journey will serve as an invitation into conversations of justice, race, and privilege, asking key questions, such Plus, Cara offers an extensive Notes and Recommended Reading section at the end of the book, so you can continue learning, listening, and engaging in this important conversation.
There are few white women I trust more than Cara Meredith to write about race without becoming defensive, sentimental, or detached. The Color of Life defies all of these things as Cara digs deep into doing her own work around privilege.
Hers are the hard-won reflections born of real relationships which include a black husband, biracial children, and a civil rights icon for a father-in-law. She admits her romanticization with being a mixed-race couple. She questions calling her sons her "little caramels." She accounts for why a white woman is writing a book about a topic like this in a time like this. And she does so with the wisdom of a theologian and the winsomeness of a writer. Cara is a writer's writer, easy-to-read and hard-to-put-down.
As a parent of brown children who's navigating life between the black and white, I can't get enough of generous conversations like the one Cara is joining. When is the sequel coming out? I'll be passing along my copy promptly and hoping to find more conversation partners close to home.
(Disclaimer: Cara is a friend and I was sent an Advanced Reader Copy from the publisher to review. I received no compensation for the review of this book.)
I was blessed to receive an Advanced Reader Copy of this book in exchange for an honest review, and here it is. This book was beautiful. It was part memoir, part love story, part history, part research. Cara Meredith was so vulnerable in sharing her own journey toward racial justice, unraveling her own deep-ingrained biases, her own (sometimes painful) learning process as she, a white woman, married a black man and is raising their children. The writing was beautiful, the information woven in in such a meaningful way, and I found it to be so hopeful. As a white woman learning as much as I can about racial reconciliation and social justice, this book gave me so much.
Such a great book. This is the kind of book you will read in a weekend and think about for a month or even longer. It will change the conversations you have with strangers and friends, and hopefully it will add to your reading list as you explore the topics of Civil Rights History (which is American History), white privilege and fragility, current issues of racial justice and identity, etc.
Cara is a masterful storyteller who weaves together her own personal experiences and relationships and our national histories of race and justice, and a Christian theology that actually matters to our world today. She writes from a place of humility and curiosity, the only way for a white person to enter in.
I highly recommend this book for your own enjoyment, learning, and exploring of new ideas. It is best digested through conversations with friends so you can work out your own internal reactions to some of the issues raised and conversations described in this book. Challenging in the best of way.
I will be giving away copies of this book and encouraging friends and the members of my church to read and learn from this book.
(Disclaimer: Cara is a friend and I was sent an Advanced Reader Copy from the publisher to review. I received no compensation for the review of this book.)
The things I didn’t I didn’t know. I loved reading Cara’s story, learning about James Meredith, and being invited deeper into discussions of faith, history, and the way redemption story of justice is for each and every one of our lives. I really appreciated Cara’s point that racial justice is something we all work out from the inside out, not just for the black and brown people in our lives but for the wholeness of our own life and soul.
My curiosity and my to-be-read list to help me understand more just grew by a lot.
Thank you for sharing your heart, wisdom, and story, Cara.
(I received a digital advance reader copy of this book from the author/publisher.)
Hard to put into words how important this read is for all white folks…especially us white folks in meaningful relationships with black/brown folks. (It is a good read for all, but, disclaimer: it is written by a white woman about her experiences of racial reconciliation.)
Being able to “not notice” and to step in and out of the fight for equality is the core of white privilege. But since redemption is the heart of the gospel, we cannot afford to stay silent or turn away.
“[We] can choose a different way of noticing and listening. I can tune my ears to hearing a new song. Closing my eye, I can let new rhythms and melodies make room in my soul, just as I can allow new sounds of harmonies and dissonance to build a house in my heart. And just as this great symphony begins to swirl around in my blood, it changes me from the inside out. It gives me permission to honor the experiences of my fellow human beings, in all the ways we are the same and in all the ways we are different from one another too.”
I was fortunate enough to receive an advanced copy of this book and absolutely drank it in. The Color of Life is honest, vulnerable, challenging, and redemptive. Cara takes a long, hard look at whiteness and blackness in America through the unique lens of her own family and does not shy away from the complexities of pursuing racial justice as a privileged white woman. She tells her story with a refreshing humility that called me (a fellow white woman) to examine my own place in the pursuit of healing and restoration and reparation of damages I have caused by being complicit in systems that perpetuate racial bias and inequality. Her story is rooted in love, and plunges the depths of what love really means in the face of historical wounds and ongoing questions of equality and humanity. Prepare yourself to be drawn into her storytelling, compelled by the weaving together of her family’s unique perspectives, and challenged to find your own place in the bigger picture of the journey we are all on together in seeing God’s image in every human being. Such a gift of a book!
This book is a story. The true story of how a white Christian girl fell in love with a Black Christian man who is the son of James Meredith and how that led her to realize her ignorance on race in the United States of America. Because it is told in a narrative, engaging way, it would be high on my list of first reads for people, particularly white Christian people, just entering the race conversation. She weaves her husband's father's history with her own story in a way that shows how our own stories can be, and must be, placed into the United States's history of race. She also expresses some global truths she learns on the way that I enjoyed. The book is an invitation to start the journey towards anti-racism for yourself and a guide post of what those steps might look like on the way.
Finding the balance between placing enough stepping stones and challenging white Americans to take the large steps we need to take in order to actually dismantle white supremacy in our country is a difficult task. I felt the book could have been more challenging, but I just finished "Stamped from the Beginning" by Ibram X. Kendi so I might not be the best judge of that. If the book presents her as still a little too attached to white solidarity in the name of kindness and honor that could be, as will be the case for all white people, that she is still on a journey that takes a lifetime.
Overall, it is a book I'm glad exists as it is easy to read and covers a lot of ground a lot of anti-racism works skip over because they assume people have already moved past the color-blind starting place.
This is one of those stories that will change its reader. Cara is a generous soul full of love, and her words reveal that but will also make you reflect on your own bias and possible prejudice. It’s had all the pieces of a good story, but more importantly makes you ask worthwhile questions of your own.
I have never read a book that so clearly spoke words into my life that I have struggled to find on my own. As a white, Christian, female, in this world, I could choose, quite easily, to not engage in conversations about race and social justice. However, that would mean, as a foster mama to three brown boys, I would be setting our family up for failure. Cara Meredith, while she embarked on her own journey in conversations of racial reconciliation through falling in love with a man that did not share her skin tone or her history, shares honestly and passionately, how this difficult but immensely important conversation developed.
One of the most refreshing things about this writing is that Cara acknowledges that the conversation is never-ending. She does not hop on her high horse and tell the world how she has figured it all out. Rather, she shares one mistake, one experience, one bias, and one challenge after another. She not only shares each individual moment, but she shares her process of reflection and growth in the before, during, and after - validating that this process is not easy, but rather, necessary, as a wife, and a mother, in a mixed-race family.
I can't think of anyone that likely wouldn't get SOMETHING from reading Cara's work. However, I will be focusing on sharing it with my white family, because the amount of love and respect Cara holds in her writing, allow it to spark conversation without laying blame or engaging in defensiveness. This truly is a work of art!!
In The Color of Life, Cara Meredith, white wife of the black son of prominent civil rights activist James Meredith, asks how do we navigate ongoing and desperately-needed conversations about race? How do we teach our children a theology of reconciliation and love? And what does it mean to live a life that makes space for seeing the imago Dei in everyone? Cara’s illuminating memoir paints a beautiful path from white privilege toward racial healing, from ignorance toward seeing the image of God in everyone she meets. Read our blog post with Cara here: https://www.biblegateway.com/blog/201...
This is really good, and absolutely worth the read. Cara writes of both her own story, her family’s story, and gives a personal glimpse of James Meredith Sr and his role in the civil rights movement. Good history here, as well as important questions and thoughts from Cara on how we can all do better in conversations of race & justice. It will challenge you (gracefully), invite you into something good and worthwhile, and probably help you want to notice & understand others more. Great stuff, highly recommend!!
This book was amazing! I could not put it down. Cara Meredith deals with the complex issues of racial inequality, white privilege, and racial justice with such honesty and openness. I really related to her perspective, and this book made me think more about my duties as a white person to my family and friends of color. I think this book is a perfect springboard for important discussions on race that need to happen between people in our country. I’m going to recommend it to as many people as I can. Thank you for this book, Cara!
In The Color of Life, Cara issues a gracious invitation into the conversation about race through sharing her own journey. I long for eyes to see what I haven’t yet seen, to better love my neighbor as myself, and to honor the image of God in each one of us. Cara invites us, especially the white reader, to listen carefully to stories we perhaps haven’t listened to before, to feel the pain and injustice we find there, and to remember that when one of us suffers, we all suffer. In her story, I feel permission to learn, to grow, to make mistakes, and to ask forgiveness when needed on the road to healing racial divides. The Color of Life will challenge and encourage you!
Oh this book is so needed, my (white) friends! Cara weaves through American history and her personal story of reckoning with race issues in this beautiful, grace filled book. I loved her honesty and vulnerability. This is a much needed book in this moment of history -one that will make you pause and reflect, and hopefully change in the best, most positive, most justice-oriented way possible.
Wow! If you want a page turner, read this book right now. Cara Meredith understands the power of story and her's is one worthy of your time. Using her own love story as a vehicle, Cara invites you on a journey exploring deep questions of equality, privilege, and humility. I was not prepared for the combination of delight and discomfort this book has to offer, but I'm better for reading it. This courageous book gets personal and goes just far enough to inspire more reflection, conversation and action. I found it thoroughly enjoyable and I set the book down with tears in my eyes reading the closing lines. I won't give them away here, but for those who have ears to hear- listen, listen and keep on listening. In the end, you'll find something beautiful.
What an honest book about the journey of a woman who is white wrestling with what justice looks like in our country for people of all color ... I saw myself in some places both in reflection and sorrow and hope as well as learning more about the history of race on the US and an arms open wide view of justice. I know I will refer to and draw on this book in the weeks and months to come.
The devastation of racism is hard to take in, especially if you're white, and thus removed from the daily slights, dangers, and griefs of systemic inequality. But every time I read a personal account of the particular twisted way that systemic racism lies, cheats and even kills, I find myself surprised and implicated--which spurs me to action, engagement, and a firm resolve. Cara Meredith's story of how, as a white woman she married into a prominent civil rights family, began to understand that particular way that racism had shaped her husband's experience, saw how complacent and willfully ignorant she'd been about race, and then, ever more viscerally, began to understand how race would shape the life of her sons, is one of those stories. It's a smaller story in the grand scheme of race, but it's no less important because of it. It should stand side-by-side by works of people of color on our bookshelves (the reading list at the back of the book is a good place to begin). Yet for white people, seeing how race can blind us and allow us to harm even in our most well-meaning, intimate relationships is a firm wake-up call. It shows just a portion of the journey and resolve we must move towards if we are to be at all engaged in issues of race. And it chronicles the deep fruit of intimacy, awareness, and freedom that happens when we choose to engage in issues of race that our brothers and sisters of color already must engage in. We will be impoverished if we -only- read Cara Meredith's book, but as a stepping-stone to more truth-telling about race, this is an excellent way to begin.
This is a brave and beautiful account of personal growth and a powerful example of asking the right questions as we journey through life. Cara's heartwarming account of her grappling with race, religion, and spirituality is inspiring and the perfect fit for anyone unsure of how they are meant to influence social issues. The sociologist in me loved the way she uses statistics and stories to tell a historical narrative and the spiritual writer in me loved Cara's honest questions and message of grace. We all matter - our pain, our promise, our human-ness. She captures all of these elements so well.
I had little interest in reading a book about race that was written by a white woman. But, after hearing her guest speak in a podcast I knew I had to check it out. As she states in her book there is so little written for interracial marriages and biracial children. This was excellent and needed. Thank you Cara, from one interracial family to another.
I was given an advanced copy to read and I feel so grateful for the opportunity! I’ll be purchasing the book to read again and share. It is part memoir part well researched history with lots of personal insight. It’s a story of love and learning and unlearning. Cara, a white woman, shares how her relationship with her husband (the son of a prominent figure in the civil rights movement whose story is a large part of the book) began a lifelong journey of moving from “not seeing color” to becoming an advocate for racial justice. I learned about parts of our nations history I had never heard before and loved how a beautiful family’s story was woven throughout. This book is relatable and challenging, in all the best ways.
This book has encouraged me to dig even deeper into our nation's history than I already have done. It encourages me to not stop teaching my own children, blonde and blue eyed, about equality and justice and God's love of all people and how he offers dignity to all. And woven through the whole book is Cara's story of love and learning.
While honest, it is at times very dry, self serving, her writing style did not appeal to me. I was disappointed, as it was recommended by someone I respect, and I expected to like it.
Social change often happens when we break down barriers and get to know, and eventually love, the "other." And what happens when the "other" is your spouse and your own children? Cara Meredith weaves heartfelt personal storytelling with unblinking honesty about our country's history of violence, hatred, and discrimination toward people of color, especially African Americans. Even then, she writes with a lot of grace--for herself and for others who are trying to do the right thing but often feel like they have no idea what that is. That, to me, is what makes this book special. Racial reconciliation is extremely complicated, and we will all make mistakes along the way. Meredith readily acknowledges that and, in humility and hope, presses on anyways.
For anyone interested in gaining perspective on the complicated issue of racial issues in our country, Cara’s humble portrayal of her journey to understanding will help. With great transparency, she shares with readers her beautiful interracial marriage and her inner thoughts as a mom to two bi-racial boys, as a wife, as a family member, and community member. With wise reflections woven throughout, we all learn from her experience.
This was a solid book on racial issues through a white Christian perspective. As a white, Christian woman, it was relevant for me. I've heard before that white people shouldn't leave it to friends of colour to explain issues of race and racism to us. So I think there's an important place for this book in the conversation. She highlighted a lot of relevant topics that people in a white bubble would not be confronted by or give thought to.
She did (I presume unintentionally) overlook racism related to indigenous/indian people. Especially when she stated that racism arrived in the USA along with the first boat of enslaved people. It arrived with Christopher Columbus. However, Meredith herself acknowledged that she's still learning, and I get how Black History is particularly close to her heart.
I found it a little mushy/sappy where she described her courtship and marriage, but I would still recommend the book to others.
I am torn on this book. For my own personal reading, I would give this 4/4.5 stars. I appreciated what she had to say and how she said it and it gave me some things to think about. However, I don't think it would be helpful to give to someone who didn't already agree with Meredith for the most part. This disappointed me, as I am always looking for books that I can pass a long as a "Would you consider reading this?" recommendation. While I would recommend this book, I don't think it would actually change anybody's mind if they weren't already heading in the direction Meredith herself was. S
And in case you are wondering about "why not five stars," this would mostly be because of the over use of "for" instead of because/since. I don't know why, as it's correct grammatically but it drives me crazy when a book is full of sentences like: I didn't understand, for I did know grow up similarly. (not a quote, just an example.) There were also a few points where I felt like Meredith did not expand them enough for an uninformed reader to know whether or not she was correct, which is what makes the book weak as far as convincing goes.
I really appreciated how she talked about her own father, though, who clearly disagrees with her in many ways but is not written out or painted like a villain.
This is the second time I’ve read this book. I appreciated it more the second time. Both readings were for two different book clubs. A quote from the book: Compassion is when we’re all sitting on the side of a river watching people drown and responding by pulling people out. But justice is when someone pokes their head up and says, ‘You know what? I’m going to go upstream to see who keeps throwing everyone into the river.’”this is a powerful true story about race and interracial marriage. I had not really thought about racism being a part of me and about my white privilege but Cara helped me understand that it about me too. It is about injustice everywhere. She ( a young, white woman in ministry and James (a business man and the son of James Meredith who was the first Black man to attend a Mississippi university in the 60s). It’s an easy read albeit disturbing at times. I recommend it. Another quote: Maybe that’s when it hit me, maybe for the first time in my life: if redemption is for everyone, then redemption is for me too. I knew this—redemption is at the heart of the gospel.
Like Cara, I grew up in a predominantly white town in the PNW. Colorblind, believing issues of race were a thing of the past. "Of course skin color doesn't matter"! I realize I've had the privilege as well of not having to enter into certain political, justice or race conversations. After reading Ken Wytsma's Myth of Equality, I realized I was privileged because there were certain hardships, I would not, could not ever face because of the color of my skin. So, I continue to push toward learning. Making efforts to read more books by authors who aren't white males. Cara's book is a beautiful memoir covering her marriage, learning through raising mixed-race children, and learning from her own mistakes and courage as she goes. I thank her for sharing her story, and allowing us to learn along with her. She realizes we all need redemption. We are all made in the image of our Creator, who is righteousness, justice, wholeness, abundance, peace, Shalom.
This is a memoir by the white wife of one of James Meredith's sons. It was interesting to me on that basis alone, but I ended up finding the book disappointing, because even though it addresses the weight of her husband's family history, the unique challenges of an inter-racial marriage, important elements of Black history, and the author's education and personal transformation, she wrote almost all of the family-oriented parts in a fluffy, gushing, and sappy way.
Her voice very much fits with that of popular bloggers from the 2010s, and since she was in that world, I will try to cut her some slack. Still, I had a hard time with her cutesy language, emotional gushing, and long-winded, over-explained personal anecdotes, especially since they contrasted so poorly with the seriousness of her primary subject. Other people are likely to enjoy this book far more than I did, but the author's voice did not resonate with me.
If you aren’t sure where you fit in the conversation on racial justice, if you aren’t sure why all this talk about race right now even matters—read The Color of Life. Cara Meredith weaves theology and history into a compelling personal story with the humility and compassion of a mother struggling how to understand how racism will impact her own sons. This book is a place to start and especially if you are a white brother or sister, I hope it is a start indeed. We have a long way to go and we can only do it together.
**I received an advance copy from the publisher for an honest reveiw**