The Making of Us: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned

by Sheridan Voysey

Beautiful Things Can Emerge from Life Not Going as Planned When life takes one too many unexpected turns, do you find yourself saying, “I don’t know who I am anymore”? In the wake of shattered dreams, do you wonder how you will keep going—and if you’ll ever find purpose or joy again? After infertility, an international move, and a professional change shook Sheridan Voysey’s world, he realized that he couldn’t reconcile his expectations with the life he was living. Feeling lost, he decided to pair his spiritual journey with a literal a hundred-mile pilgrimage along the northeast coast of England. Inspired by the life and influence of the seventh-century monk Cuthbert, Sheridan travelled on foot from the Holy Island of Lindisfarne to Durham. Taking his friend DJ along for the journey, and keeping a journal by his side, Sheridan discovered not resolution but peace. Not ambition but purpose. Not shouts of convictions but whispers of the presence of God. In The Making of Us , Sheridan invites us to join him as he walks along England’s shores and we trace the borders of our own hearts. Part pilgrim’s journal, part call to reflection, The Making of Us eloquently reminds us of the beauty of journeying into uncertainty, the freedom of letting go, and the wonder of losing our identity only to discover who we really are.

Genres: Nonfiction, Christian, Memoir, Travel, Christian Living, Self Help

240 pages, Paperback

Published March 19, 2019

About the author

Sheridan Voysey is a writer, speaker and broadcaster on faith and spirituality. He is the author of seven books, including The Making of Us: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn't Go as Planned (March 2019), Resurrection Year: Turning Broken Dreams into New Beginnings, Resilient: Your Invitation to a Jesus-Shaped Life, and the award-winning Unseen Footprints: Encountering the Divine Along the Journey of Life.

Sheridan is a presenter of Pause for Thought on BBC Radio 2's Breakfast Show (heard by 10 million people each day), and writes for Our Daily Bread, a devotional read by 90 million people daily. He has been featured on BBC Breakfast, BBC News, Day of Discovery, 100 Huntley Street, BBC Radio 4, BBC Radio 5 Live, the ABC, Moody Radio, and in publications like The Sunday Telegraph, The Daily Mail, and Christianity. Sheridan is married to Merryn and lives in Oxford, United Kingdom, from where he travels to speak at events around the world.

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Reviews

[Vince Rockston · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Making of Us is no pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps, eight-days-to-Christian-maturity workbook! It doesn’t offer much in the way of answers. Rather, many soul-searching questions.
As we follow Sheridan Voysey and his companion, DJ, on their eight-day pilgrimage in the footsteps of 6th century Celtic monk Cuthbert, we discover the author to be a humble man who has made mistakes and faced shattering disappointments, but who has the audacity to reflect deeply on life’s choices and omissions, fates and fortunes. As the hike progresses and the hikers interact with many colourful locals, the pilgrimage becomes something of a live parable: Which path should we take at the fork? How do we overcome the frustration after taking a wrong turn? Can we persevere in spite of our aches and weariness? Is it all worth the effort?
Voysey seeks to learn from the giant personages who trod those paths in earlier ages. How did those ancient monks gain the inspired wisdom and courage to face hardship and aggression, to counsel kings, mediate conflicts, minister to poor peasants, draw many a searching soul into the arms of a loving heavenly Father, and pen their insights for posterity? What moved other forgotten strivers to build great monuments in the hope of gaining vain fame?
And how, in this day and age, should we set about discovering the right path for our lives in the face of possibly misguided pressure from parents and teachers; our own youthful blunders or afflictions; the tragic loss of a loved one or a failed career choice; deception or opposition on the part of others?
Curious about how their trek will develop, and without realising where the author is leading us, we are drawn on from the practicalities of hiking with blistered feet over sand flats and moorland trails to the overarching Big Questions: Does God have a plan for my life? Has He a particular mission for me to fulfil? How can I become the man or woman He wants me to be?
Beware: The Making of Us is an inspiring book with some beautifully crafted passages; it’s hard to put down!
I received a complimentary copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review.

[David Pott · Rating 5 out of 5]

About two years ago I came across Sheridan Voysey in connection with mutual interests we share including pilgrimage and the arts. He is an Australian who has been living in the UK for some time and is a writer and broadcaster. I have just finished reading his latest book, The Making of Us. It is the story of a pilgrimage he made with his friend DJ from Lindisfarne to Durham and records their experiences along the way and the conversations they had as they walked together.

Pilgrimages are an opportunity to take stock and reflect on life’s journey - indeed a pilgrimage can helpfully be thought of as a metaphor for your whole life with a beginning, a middle and an end. I have led pilgrimages which have included reflections on the stages of life. So for example on the first day, we reflect together on the names we were given and their meaning and about the stories we have been told about our birth. I don’t think Sheridan and DJ went that far back in their conversations but they do reflect back from childhood about significant life events and how they have shaped them. Inevitably as you read, you start reflecting and comparing your own life experiences.

Sheridan Voysey writes beautifully. Here is his description of his first steps from Beal to Lindisfarne: “The water is cool on the toes. I venture out a few metres. A centimetre of receding tide still covers the sand and has turned the mudflats into a mirror that stretches for miles. I am standing on water. I am walking on sky. I slosh forward, making ripples in upturned clouds. Lead me God. Lead me.”

There is another presence on the journey who is often referred to and that is St Cuthbert. Incidents from his life illuminate conversations such as this one about the legacy we will leave behind us. Sheridan refers to an incident where Cuthbert saw a woman clutching her dying son to her chest in a plague ridden village. He approached the woman, took the boy in his arms , and prayed and blessed and kissed him. “Do not fear or be sorrowful,” he told the woman, “for your child shall be healed and no one else of your household will die.” The boy lived and Sheridan comments in this way:
“Books in his honour. Churches in his name. A city built on his shrine. But perhaps eternity will record Cuthbert’s legacy more like this:
A mother noticed.
A body held.
A forehead kissed.
Holiness.”

This is a book that will be especially helpful for those who have found that life has not turned out quite as they had hoped or planned for. “Perhaps the company folds, the marriage ends or the kids leave home, or the accident happens… Any idea we had about our place in the world vanishes like mist, and we find ourselves asking What am I here for? all over again.” Sheridan and DJ open up to each other sharing their struggles and weaknesses, but encouraging each other and the reader to press on through.

All this reflects the physical side of the journey. The first part which includes Lindisfarne, Cuthbert’s Cave, Bamburgh, the Farnes and the beauties of the Northumberland coast is fairly upbeat, but as blisters and aching muscles take their toll at the same time that they walk through the more industrialised coast north east of Newcastle, they have quite a struggle to keep going! Fortunately renewed inspiration from the legacy of Bede at Jarrow and determination to reach the Lindisfarne Gospels exhibition at Durham Cathedral before it closes sees them through.

At the end, there is an excellent reflection guide with questions about each chapter which, as well as being helpful for individuals, makes the book ideal for a group to study together. This book will be a great help and encouragement to many.

[Tony Horsfall · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book about pilgrimage, and there are two inherent dangers with such writing. Too much geography and history and it becomes a travelogue; too much introspection and navel gazing and it becomes self-indulgent. Thankfully, Sheridan Voysey’s account of his walk from Lindisfarne to Durham, with his friend DJ, is neither.
The two men took 8 days to make the journey, following in the footsteps of Cuthbert but also learning from the life of Bede and other Celtic saints. Both felt the need for some time out and an opportunity to reflect; hopefully, to gain a sense of what God was doing in their lives. We are invited to walk with them and share their journey (minus the blisters). We are welcome to eavesdrop on their conversation, and learn from their discussions. More importantly, we are given the opportunity to start our own inner journey, a pilgrimage of the heart, as we read and reflect.
This is a beautifully constructed book. Sheridan is a wordsmith of high calibre. He paints pictures with words so that we can imagine ourselves on the road with them. He is also a deep thinker, a man with mature spiritual insight who has had to work through his own disappointment and heartache. A master storyteller, he shares openly and honestly with us from his own experience and that of others. As we read, it feels as if he is speaking directly into our soul. Every chapter is like a session with a wise and understanding spiritual director.
Sheridan writes for those who are in transition, moving from one phase of life to another. He has in mind those who are rebuilding their lives after dreams have been shattered and life has not turned out as planned. He directs his words to those who are looking for meaning and a new purpose, who feel adrift as he did, like a plastic bag blown aloft by the breeze.
Some big themes emerge. The question of finding our true identity runs like a thread through the narrative – knowing we are loved by God helps us find acceptance in who we are, not what we have or achieve. Understanding God’s will for our life, and recognising how God guides us, is another theme. Through their conversations and the happenings on the journey we are led to consider what it means to live for the glory of God, to understand and value the unique gifts God has given us. We begin to learn how God weaves a tapestry in our lives from all the broken pieces, and how even suffering and adversity can be used for good – indeed, in the making of us.
This is an enjoyable read, but in no way is it lightweight. It is best read at least twice. Once, simply to enjoy the story itself. Then again, to ponder what it is saying and let it speak to you. It will make an excellent companion to a retreat, or as the basis of a study group.
I see only one thing missing – a map would have been very helpful to get more a sense of the journey and the places visited.
I hope ‘The making of us’ will be widely read, it’s story enjoyed, and its message taken to heart.

[Jackie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Our own words for expressing our thoughts, yearnings, fears, dreams and hoped-for paths, can often be inadequate (or in my case, almost AWOL) so we search for a song, or a psalm, and let those words become ours. They can be words of worship, or words of gut-wrenching pleas. Or just words that help us process what’s going on around us.

I’ve never been on a physical pilgrimage, but thin wafers of my life have been spiritual pilgrimages, and I’ve often been lost trying to find the words I need. Sheridan Voysey’s book “The Making of Us” pulled together ribbons of words that became prayers, psalms and songs – and that became mine and made sense of many pieces of my life’s journey so far.

Pilgrimage can be muddy boots and tired feet, or fresh air and history. Or pilgrimage can be speechless opening of the soul. Or it can be both and can become a little bit more of “the making of me”.

“The Making of Us” is far beyond a journal. It’s actually a place... it’s where our conversations and cries to God can unravel. #TheMakingOfUs

[Linda · Rating 5 out of 5]

As an English/Scots flying Kiwi (now based in Australia), I was always disappointed that I never got to see as much of England as I wanted to. I lived there for Among many reasons was the horrendously expensive train fares on the British rail system (which means that for many UK residents, it's cheaper to travel to destinations overseas than within their own countries).

So I was rather envious of the author having the opportunity to do this pilgrimage! And I loved going on the journey with him through this book.

Having read his work before (Resurrection Year, Resilient, and blog www.sheridanvoysey.com) and having heard him speak at public events and on BBC Radio 2, I have always thought he was an excellent communicator.

However, it's clear here that Sheridan Voysey's writing has gone to the next level - you really feel like you are travelling with him - there are so many wonderful details here.

For example, in the first chapter he skillfully weaves the story of the beginning of his journey (right down to descriptions of the other passengers on the carriage - respectfully and kindly done, because he is clearly a good soul) with updating details on what's been going on in his life in the last few years after he published Resurrection Year and moved to Oxford so that his wife could pursue her career related dreams....then moving on to conversation with a taxi driver and the various details of his accommodation.

I would recommend this book to any spiritual seekers who feel like they are at a crossroads (especially those in their 30s/40s/50s/60s) and/or those wanting a great book for Lent or Advent reading. What I like most about the author's work is that he clearly has a strong faith - but he doesn't provide cheesy, easy, Christianese-y answers to all your problems.

[Penelope · Rating 4 out of 5]

I wanted to read Sheridan Voysey’s book The Making of Us as the action takes place on a pilgrimage, and I have done several so enjoy reading about the experiences others have while walking. He walked from Lindisfarne/Holy Island to Durham, and it didn’t sound as though he had done much preparation, as the physical experience was demanding and tough and blister-making! I was expecting some of that and it gives some dramatic impulse – will he and his friend be able to make it in time to see a certain exhibition in Durham before the closing date?
Along the way, as the two of them walk and ponder, they learn more of the ups and downs not just of walking a long distance but of the adventure of life itself. And how God can make the parts of life, which appear to us to be almost disastrous and certainly painful, into something which helps us to grow, go deeper, find ourselves. And become ourselves.
The book is an easy read; and one could just read it for the pleasure of an interesting walk through the countryside of north-east England. But there is much to savour and think through; I had to read it twice – once for the walking interest and once to go deeper into some of the thought-provoking ideas that challenged me and helped me reconsider some of my own painful times of life and how they had in fact become the making of me.
I received a complimentary pre-launch copy of this title and this is my own review.

[S.C. Skillman · Rating 5 out of 5]

This, the story of a pilgrimage on foot from the island of Lindisfarne (Holy Island) to the Shrine of St Cuthbert at Durham Cathedral, is also a Christian-inspired self-help book enabling readers to reflect upon their own life journeys. Following the rhythm of the two pilgrims, (the author Sheridan Voysey and his friend DJ), we can visualise the scenes he describes and feel the spiritual highs and the physical and emotional lows of the journey.

Sheridan himself is originally from Brisbane in Australia, though he now lives in Oxford in the UK. I find his observations about Brisbane and Sydney particularly poignant as I lived in Brisbane myself for four and a half years before returning to live in the UK.

Through the medium of this physical journey, Sheridan teaches us much deeper values which may apply to our own lives, especially those of us who may define ourselves by, perhaps. who we know, or by our possessions, our status, our dreams and ambitions or job titles. His journey through the woods and fields and paths and roads of Northumberland then starts to parallel our own life journeys. During his description of the walk, he reflects upon periods in his own past life story. Places he and DJ visit give rise to memories of people he has known whom he now sees in a new light.

In all this, Sheridan’s purpose seems to be to shift our own value systems, our vision of what really matters about our lives here on this earth. He interweaves biographical information about the Celtic saints Aidan and Cuthbert into his pilgrimage, giving us the opportunity to relate aspects of their journeys to our own.

One of the most striking sentences in the book is “Maybe when identity is lost we can discover who we really are.” And the most challenging question: “Could you be content having your contribution to the world left unknown or forgotten, yet known by God and pleasing to him?”

At the end of the book, Sheridan gives a series of questions to reflect on for each chapter, and several blank journalling pages if you wish to use the book as the basis for a much more in-depth project of self-knowledge; and the book can be used as a group or individual resource. He also offers a contemporary “Creed” which you may download from his website sheridanvoysey.com.

Highly recommended.

[Ruth Hettler · Rating 4 out of 5]

Not only was this book food for my soul, but it was nourishing and life-giving. It spoke to me on a deep level whilst also being an easy read (perfect for this busy Mum of 4 living life in Africa). But don't let the phrase 'easy read' put you off.....Sheridan weaves deep truth and important reflections into the journey of his pilgrimage.
It is a book you can read and re-read. I read some paragraphs and pages multiple times as I was stopped in my tracks; almost compelled to reflect on what I was reading and knowing this could (& would) change me.
I have read other of Sheridan's books and his message is important, even essential, for our culture that measures so much on external values and appearance. This book, for me, was like breathing-in lungfuls of cool fresh air and exhaling deep.
Buy this book, make a large mug of your favourite beverage, grab a blanket and begin your own journey as you follow Sheridan on his. Enjoy and breath deep.

[Yolanda Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sheridan’s book is a lyrical piece of beauty. His heart resonates on every page. Honest, refreshing, and masterful.

[Adam Walton · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a beautiful, enjoyable and profound book. I have already read several parts of it twice, and look forward to returning to it again. Voysey knows from experience that life is a journey with many twists and turns. I read this book at a point in my life when things haven’t been going as I would hope or expect. Voysey managed to weave together his literal walking journey / pilgrimage, with aspects of both his own life journey and those of his travelling companion DJ, Saint Cuthbert in whose steps they are walking, and others in such a way that they spoke helpfully and encouragingly into my situation. In different ways each chapter helped me to step back and see more of what God might be up to in my life, and to reflect on how I might respond.

Voysey writes with gentleness, tenderness, humour and an excellent eye for detail. His evocative, immersive descriptions provided me with new spaces in which to think about who God is, what he desires for us, and what he might be calling me to. My reflections on life in the church, and ethics generally, have frequently drawn me back to those who emphasise the importance of character and virtue. It is difficult, however, to find books which unpack in accessible ways what God’s concern for who we are as people looks like in the messiness of life. The Making of Us is such a book. I am grateful for Voysey’s attentiveness and for the ways in which this book has helped, and I trust will help, me to be more attentive. I suspect that this will be a book I find myself giving as a gift to many in the future.

I received a free copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review (and I have already bought another!).

[Ellen Carr · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book of pilgrimage, both physical and spiritual. Sheridan Voysey takes us along on his hundred mile pilgrimage from the Holy Island of Lindisfarne to Durham on the northeast coast of England. As he and his friend DJ walk this long distance, blisters and all, we are invited into Sheridan's thoughts and the two friends' conversations about the big issues of life.

Sheridan has left behind a successful radio career in Australia and is in the process of allowing God to show him his new calling. He learns from the great saints who have walked those paths in centuries past and re-evaluates his life.

His writing style draws the reader in and offers opportunity for personal reflection and growth, and even healing. And he challenges us to see the 'cracks in our hearts' and our 'empty spaces' as having potential to become 'channels of God's power, our lack birthing new life in others.'

A Reflection Guide at the end of the book gives the reader an opportunity to delve more deeply and biblically on the thoughts and issues the book raises. I like the way the Bible references are located in this segment rather than being peppered through the main part of the book.

Although aimed mainly at people in mid-life the book will resonate with all age groups. I thoroughly recommend it.

Note: I received a free copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review.

[David Tanner · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’ve now finished reading Sheridan Voysey’s new book The Making of Us for the second time. The first time was just to enjoy the story, the wonderful descriptions of the pilgrimage and the little nuggets of truth I came across. The second reading has been with a notebook to hand. I knew that there would be more to discover this time and I certainly wasn’t disappointed.
I was drawn to the book because I too undertook a similar walk in the same area a few years ago, visiting some of the same places so I was keen to read about Sheridan’s experiences.
Sheridan has managed to infuse the book with his sense of the constant presence of God, not in any spectacular way, rather in the gentle whispers that come to those who “attend”. This takes the book from being an excellent account of a long walk to something that has the potential to touch the hearts of many readers in different ways; speaking into the unique circumstances of their lives.
Writing about some of the specific content of the book would be a spoiler so I’m not going to give the game away.
I will certainly be returning to this book again and again.
Thanks for a great read and so much more Sheridan.

I received a free copy of this title, and this is my own fair and honest review.

[Vicki Cottingham · Rating 4 out of 5]

In the introduction to his book Sheridan writes:

"Beautiful things can emerge from life not going as planned. It can even be the making of us.”

In ‘The Making of Us’ Sheridan writes about the pilgrimage he takes with his good friend DJ, following in the footsteps of St. Cuthbert. Together they embark on what is both a physical and spiritual journey.

As Sheridan and DJ go on their journey, Sheridan writes about what they see and the people they interact with on the way. But what was most powerful to me were the conversations between the pair. Their discussions go deep, as they can only do when they are between two people who know each other really well. Oftentimes, conversations only scratch the surface as we are reluctant to reveal who we really are and allow ourselves to be vulnerable. As I read, I felt like I was a silent companion with them on their journey. I loved to listen in on their conversations and learn from them and their experiences.

Sheridan writes about how our broken dreams can shatter our sense of who we are, and how our true identity can only be found in knowing we are children of God. Whether we are known by others or not, each one of us is truly known by God and he sees our significance. He poses the question: Who is the real us? Who we once were, or are now, or the person we will become?

Two chapters which particularly spoke to me were chapters four and eight. In chapter four Sheridan considers our calling - how God makes his call known to different people in various ways and how the way ahead can often be confusing.

In chapter eight he writes about learning to stop comparing ourselves with others and accepting our own limitations and weaknesses. It is then in this place that God can break in with his divine grace and power and use for his glory.

In my opinion, Sheridan’s Reflection Guide at the end of his book is one of the best I’ve come across. The best way to use it is to read a chapter of the book and then work through the corresponding chapter in the Reflection Guide. The Reflection Guide will help you to process what you have read and apply this to your own journey. I think there is also something to be said for two friends reading the book and then coming together to go through the Reflection Guide. You can hold each other accountable and support and encourage each other as you process and reflect on what you've read.

Having finished the book and reflected on it, I believe that it’s everything we experience in life – the good, the bad and the ugly – and what we learn as we journey with God through this life, that makes up who we really are and who God wants us to be. It reminded me of how important it is to go on this journey with God at my side. It is when I keep in step with his Holy Spirit and partner with him, that real transformation can happen so that more and more I become the person God made me to be.

Although this book is aimed at those in their mid-thirties/forties, I believe that it is beneficial to anyone, whatever their age may be. Those who are younger have the opportunity to learn from Sheridan’s experiences and insights which will help them to navigate their own journey. Those who are older will still be blessed as it is never too late to learn something new. It is never too late to reflect on where we have been on our own pilgrimage and where we are heading. We will never truly be all we are made by God to be until we see him face to face at the end of our pilgrimage. Every step we take draws us closer to making us more like Jesus.

I received a free copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review.

[Liz Carter · Rating 5 out of 5]

'While we may feel like jigsaw puzzles thrown in the air, or wonder who we are and why we're here, the one who made the heavens and the seas made us by his infinite wisdom too. The same hands that made the galaxies crafted us in the womb, making us as significant as the stars.'

I wasn't sure I would love this book, because I'm not always keen on 'pilgrimage' stories, following the writer on a journey while we are invited into their thoughts. Yet this one resonated with me in deeper places, and drew me right into this particular journey. I have a particular fondness for Lindisfarne and the North East, and I found the author's descriptions evocative of the wild beauty of this area. I wanted to be there with these two pilgrims - Sheridan and DJ - as they trod a path from Lindisfarne to Durham, recounting something of the history of Christianity, and so much more besides.

It's written in present tense, which for me brings a sense of immediacy, of being able to do just that - to go on this pilgrimage as well. There is so much to think on along the way, and the reflections on how life doesn't always go quite how we'd like it to are actually brought into even starker life through the descriptions of all that is around, and the retellings of history which are scattered through the text. It's written with humour and lightness, a definite page-turner, and yet underpinned with a profundity that can be hard to pin down, and is often lacking in other books which purport to help with difficult times. I'm grateful for Sheridan's honesty in sharing of himself and his story, and his conclusions chime greatly with me: it's in the loss of our identity we find out who we are, in the tough times life throws at us where we are formed and made into who we are created to be.

As someone who sometimes feel like life has handed a bitter pill, I warmed to the words in this book, and they led me right back into the heart of God - the heart of the one who formed me, who loves me passionately, and who walks with me through my pain. Sheridan talks of the pain of childlessness: I haven't experienced this particular agony, but the way he writes of how he felt that somehow, his faith wasn't enough, that it should have moved mountains and didn't, that somehow, he wasn't spiritual enough, that compared with others, he wasn't enough, resonates so greatly with me as someone who lives with chronic illness. I want to read all the words of this book slowly and allow them to sink into my soul. The words of his 'new creed' alone are enough to transport my soul into a place of profound joy, yet rooted in the bitterness of lived reality. There are great words in here; read them and take them in.

At the end the author includes a reflection guide, which is helpful for taking the material and applying it to our lives. This could be useful both for personal reflection and small group discussion - I'm planning to use it in my group, as there is much that is helpful and thought provoking.

In the end, this book isn't a book of easy answers or solutions to a problem, but a book of parts, of a pilgrimage narrative interspersed with observations, reflections and stories. It is lyrical, inspiring and profound, and I would recommend it to anyone who doesn't always feel like their loose ends tie up or their lives make complete sense, and for anyone who feels like they have been left in pain and in difficulty, and don't quite get why. It's a book which will lead us back into the heart of God, reminding us that the hand that spins galaxies formed us and loves us.

I received a free copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review.

[Sharon · Rating 5 out of 5]

“The Making of Us” is an important book. A life changing book. The thing that strikes you about this book is that on the surface it is a gentle read. But there are so many layers underneath. I expected confronting truths and lots of hard hitting theology and it wasn’t until the end that I realised that I had in fact gotten that and more. There had just been no angst. Sheridan had not tried to argue or convince. There was just truths lovingly shared. This book is in fact primarily a love story. A love story between Sheridan and God. As Sheridan shares, it all boils down to love – that is in fact the purpose of our lives, the very reason we are here. That is the treasure waiting to be discovered in the shattered remains of our broken dreams.
While this book stands alone I am so glad I read Sheridan’s other book Resurrection Year first. While Sheridan still shares deeply personal stories in “The Making of Us” it is from a position of not just acceptance but true resolution. It is from the position of really knowing that God has a plan for us which is wonderful and way beyond what we could imagine and that whatever we have had to lose on the way was worth it. What we gain – the understanding of what life is really about – about how much we are loved and how we are able to share that with others makes it all worthwhile.
The really fantastic thing about this book is that I would be totally comfortable giving it to a non-christian. Funnily enough my initial instinct was that this book was a travel book, and despite being personally affected on such a deeply spiritual level I would stick with that classification. It can be read both as the story of a physical journey and of a historical journey and Sheridan covers both aspects beautifully. It is of course also the story of a hard fought spiritual journey. For most of us England is imagined as a green and pleasant land. Much like Sheridan’s book however that gentle exterior belies the reality. The area that Sheridan explores is one of the most rugged in the UK. The causeway to Lindisfarne is one of the most dangerous roads in the world. Those gentle hills have witnessed a brutal and at times painful history. There is so much more beneath the surface. This book is much the same and if you are not ready to look below that surface then that is OK. As I said the underlying truths are shared so gently. They are there if you want them but are not threatening or confronting. You can tuck them away for later if you want to but they will definitely stay with you. When you are ready to go beneath the surface this book WILL change your life.
Disclosure: I received a free copy of this book but this is my own fair and honest review.

[Jennie Pollock · Rating 4 out of 5]

Sheridan and Merryn Voysey moved to England in 2011 to allow Merryn to take up a post at Oxford University. They had not long lain down their dream of having children, and Merryn was pursuing another long-held dream. But Sheridan found himself at a bit of a loss. His successful radio career behind him in Australia and nothing very much ahead, who was he? What was he supposed to do now? What was his purpose, his calling?

As he wrestled with those questions he decided, as many have done before him, to go on a pilgrimage.

'The Making of Us' is the story of that pilgrimage - a walk from Lindisfarne to Durham, with his friend DJ, in the footsteps (and coffin-steps!) of St Cuthbert - in order to see the Lindisfarne Gospels, illuminated in the saint's memory in the 8th century.

Sheridan's writing is lyrical and poetic. He describes the beautiful, wild landscape so vividly that it almost made me want to turn my collar up, imagining the wind whipping across the fields and along the beaches. Beautiful though it sounded, however, it certainly did nothing to convince me that walking 115 miles was a sensible way to spend a week (especially when it came to the descriptions of DJ's blisters...)!

Yet as they walked and talked and thought and worshipped together, Sheridan did find he had the time and space to process many of the questions that had been bothering him.

The result is a beautiful, helpful, hopeful book for anyone who is wrestling with knowing how to keep walking forwards when the road ahead is unclear and its destination uncertain.

There is a 'reflection guide' at the end with questions to help you think more deeply about the themes and lessons of each chapter, which are really helpful. I think I found them more thought-provoking than the actual chapters, somehow, and would have liked them to have been interspersed through the book, to force me to pause and reflect.

I've given it a 4-star review only because I'm not in a place of wrestling with these questions at the moment, so although I think everything Sheridan is saying is helpful, I can't wholeheartedly guarantee it. But I did learn some fascinating things about Hilda and Caedmon, so that's something!

(Note: I received a complimentary copy of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review.)

[Roe Kitchin · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was privileged to be able to join the ‘launch team’, a group of interested readers from around the globe for Sheridan Voysey’s latest book, ‘The Making of Us’. Knowing and enjoying Sheridan’s radio programs, his wisdom and insight and his previous books I came to this with expectations of a good read and treasures but not exactly sure what.

The making of us….what I hadn’t realised was that the making of the book was a pilgrimage he and mate DJ had undertaken along the St Cuthbert’s Way along the coast of NW England in search of Lindisfarne xxx. As they journeyed through changing landscapes and experiences (and blisters) while reflecting of their lives’ journeys, I found myself flicking between Google maps to check where they were, my note taking ap jotting down quotes not to be missed and stopping the read to reflect on similar or not so similar challenges in my own life. ‘And a memory surfaces’…. A quote from the book and a lasting memory of the book.

There are so many quotes I’d love to share that will challenge me for years to come. So much wisdom ..’ There is no discovery without movement, no direction without action.’ ‘Surely such a rhythm is key to managing life’s tensions, keeping rest and action, contentment and ambition, an acceptance of who we are with the drive to become something more…all in balance.’’ The theme of relinquishment is unavoidable…’

And the ones I am still digesting …’ Can I be content as a child of God without a career-centred identity?’ ‘Busyness is a bully at the best of times. Busyness writes David Whyte is a sure sign we are either living someone else’s life or doing someone else’s work…’ (for those who know me, that’s a biggie!)

I finished reading this book during a silent retreat at our local Benedictine Abbey…bliss. It made the book more enjoyable, more real, more a taste of being with them on pilgrimage.

Whatever your age, faith background or experience I highly recommend this book. Do yourself a favour, take time out to learn, read, reflect, be guided and prepared for what might lie ahead. While I read this as an ebook, I’ll be buying a printed version to re-read, underline and savour and the copies to give away.

So, ‘What would you tell your 17 year old self knowing what you know now about your life journey?’

[Christopher Baker · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sheridan Voysey and his friend DJ begin a pilgrimage from Lindisfarne to Durham Cathedral. The purpose: to view the Lindisfarne Gospels. Along their journey they talk through personal experiences with an honesty and vulnerability that not just impacts each other, but also those reading them. They share the joys, the 'what might have beens,' the struggles, the 'whys.' And as they travel together, talk together, share the road together Sheridan reflects not just on the experiences of his life, but those he's met whilst speaking and broadcasting. The stories that have impacted him, of those willing to share their vulnerabilities just as he shares his. That there is a 'Tribe' of people who stay hidden, who have experienced such pain and hurt that they suffer in silence and alone. Through Sheridan sharing from his own experiences publicly, honestly and with great vulnerability, others have come to know that they're not alone. That others go through the same things. Although others may define us as being childless, clinically depressed, divorced etc. or that we might define ourselves in that way too, God looks down and says 'You are my beloved child, in whom I am well pleased.' That going through them, becoming vulnerable and sharing them with others, can be the making of us.

This is a book I will need to read more than once as there is so much to discover and take in. A one off reading is not enough. Sheridan paints pictures with his words, draws me in as he struggles with the elements and the impact the walk has on his body and mind. As he describes the people he meets on the way and the places he passes through, some of which I know well having spent time on the coast of Northumberland, his writing draws me in so that I want to hear more because I share in some of the struggles he has faced. He is a friend who shares the same journey as me, a journey to becoming the person God wants us to become. That through the journey, whatever we may face or go through, it will be the Making of Us.

I cannot recommend this book enough. It is a must read for all who want to find meaning through the difficulties and struggles of life, for in reading The Making of Us you will discover that you are not alone.

[Ruth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sheridan Voysey’s delightful new book, The Making of Us, slotted into my “unputdownable” category after I read the first few pages. This well written book tells the story of many journeys and is a fascinating read.

There is the physical journey which Sheridan takes to the Holy Island of Lindisfarne, where his friend, DJ, joins him. The two then make a hundred mile pilgrimage on foot (mostly!) to Durham on the northeast coast of England, where the famous Lindisfarne Gospels are on display for a short while. Sheridan’s descriptions are such that I felt as if I was travelling with him—experiencing the highs and the lows along with landscapes, seascapes and skyscapes. I marvelled at God’s Creation with him and met the many colourful characters Sheridan tucked into the pages.

The physical and spiritual journeys of Cuthbert, the 7th century monk who was one of the first evangelists in northern England, and other saints of yore, are interwoven with Sheridan and DJ’s journey. Interesting snippets of historical detail signpost the way and add to the richness of the narrative.

But the most important journeys are the spiritual journeys of Sheridan and DJ which seamlessly unfold through the walk. They seek answers to questions which we all ask at times such as: Who are we? What makes us who we are? What happens and who are we when our lives do not play out as we hoped or planned? Sheridan shares his experiences and epiphanies with us in a way which makes them relatable to our everyday lives.

At the end of the book there is an invitation to take a spiritual journey of our own. This is in the form of a Bible-based refection guide for each chapter, which will help us to learn more about God’s love and our identity in Him. I look forward to accepting the invitation and taking up the challenge of working through this section as I read the book again slowly so that I can savour every page.

I read this book hoping to enjoy Sheridan's writing and to learn more about drawing closer to God. It exceeded my expectations and I give it a five star rating.

I received a free copy of this title, but it is my own fair and honest review.

[Sue · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was expecting a book written from the heart, a book to encourage & guide those who may be in a confusing season. Like Resurrection Year Sheridan encourages readers through his own life lessons & reflections. I am so grateful for honest writers who share their struggles & journeys in an effort to personally journey with us.
Honestly, I never even understood a pilgrimage yet very early in the book I felt like I was a pilgrim journeying through the steps of Cuthbert. Through Sheridan’s memoir etched on each page I was able to pause & go deeper. I feel like Sheridan wrote this book for me, but I know that just like Resurrection year this book will meet many different people who are on many different life journeys.
So often life gets messy, confusing & hard, it’s difficult to understand whats going on & hard to feel positive, through “The making of us” Sheridan allows for all those situations, I felt like he understood life’s disappointments so well. Even allowing the mess & confusion to actually play a part in our own forward journey, all the while he kept pointing us to God - Our amazing constant companion through life.
The space for journaling, the reflection guide, additional notes & the creed at the back all enable is each pilgrim reading to journey through discovering the making of themselves.
This book met all my expectations, but something more, It has embarked me on an exploration.......through the deep questions & profound insights that only a traveller gone before would know to share.
Thank you Sheridan for opening my eyes & heart to so much more then the mundane everyday rutt of life, thank for for the creed for the reminder that “my days are sacred....to aim for great things but leave my legacy to God”.
I am grateful to have received a free copy of this title, however this absolutely my own honest & fair review.

[Daria Hadley · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was expecting a great book and instead I got a masterpiece of writing, which as all great books do
for me, made me a voracious reader. My expectations were met by me being not only able to
understand about the author's knowledge of early English church history and how the pieces of the
story fit together, but also in the way that I saw into his heart for people. This book has made me fall
in love with his natural curiosity for getting to know people. Having previously had a career in radio
amongst other things, in which he did an great job, I can clearly remember how he would welcome
his guests and encourage them to say how they feel.
This book has taught me a lot. I’ve gained more of an understanding about saints and religion in
England than I had previously. I’ve thought more about my current life situation, and how things
could be changed or improved. The reflection guide and creed are also something I am glad to see.
They have challenged me to seriously question my thoughts on things like dreams, gifts from God
and encouragement, and loss and grief. I love the imagery used to describe the pilgrimage itself, it
really made me want to be there as well. Reading the conversations between Sheridan and DJ
reminds me of good conversations I’ve had with close friends before.
This book is for people who love reading about Christianity and its history in England, people who
enjoy walks around villages and towns in and around the area where the pilgrimage occurred, to
people who love castles and other monuments and to those who like reading books that help reflect
on new paths and journeys in life. This book isn’t just for the recommended target audience,
everyone from young to old can learn something from this book, that they may have never heard anywhere else. After all, when life doesn't go as planned, who else do we become?

[Dikabo Mogopodi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Having read two of Sheridan’s books “The Resurrection Year” and “Resilient” I could not wait to read “The Making of Us”. I find the book-The Making of Us-a fresh of breath air and Sheridan’ story telling skills shine through every page of the book. The book is an account of Sheridan’s pilgrimage with his friend DJ. In a simple conversation the two friends become each other’s teacher, the two draw lessons in their past life and the two question life deeply. It is true that travelling is spiritual and can make you come face to face with deep and intense parts of your make up and that’s what happened during Sheridan’s pilgrimage. There are parts about purpose, regrets and loss. As Sheridan and his friend share parts of their past journey even parts of their childhood I realize these words to be true by unknown author to be true that every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
While Sheridan’s pilgrimage maybe different from mine and yours, there are life questions that he comes face to face with that I believe are common to many of us in this life’s journey, questions like what do I want and what God wants for my life, what was my life teaching me all along? I especially like how Sheridan integrates the scripture and God into the book in a non-obvious way, I don’t believe God should always be thrown into people’s faces and I don’t believe the gospel truth should always be bulldozed into people’s heart. There are softer and gentle ways which are just as effective and powerful and this book is powerful in subtle ways. I think this book is especially a feast to the souls that loves travel and to the soul that loves to write and I am both.

[Steph Gutmann · Rating 5 out of 5]

When I first set out to read Sheridan’s latest book, I did so purely with the view of reviewing it. Convinced I could read it within a weekend.

But it became more than that. It became a personal reflection and an “enforced” facing of where I am. I should have known....I’ve read a lot of Sheridan’s writings in print, and online!

As Sheridan describes his journey, it becomes a proverbial refection of the journey of life. Its challenges, its twists; as smooth paths become rough, and idyllic scenery becomes more industrial and somewhat unappealing.

I once set out on a path I thought had been carefully plotted, only to find unexpected difficulties, and unforeseen stumbling blocks. Like when what looked like a stream on the map, is actually the mouth of a river. Or when there is no easy way to navigate a slight incline which feels like Mount Everest, when you’re as broken and as bruised as Sheridan and DJ’s feet became.

As someone who is part of some misfortunate tribe, I have always connected with Sheridan and Merryn’s story. Mine as similar as it is different. A personal journey trying to work out who the “me” is after a season of heartache and broken dreams. I may not feel the need, as Sheridan has, to embark on a pilgrimage. But to an extent, aren’t we all on a pilgrimage?

Sheridan’s newest book is a literary pilgrimage for anyone who is living a life which didn’t play ball with the dreams you once had. Sure. You can read it in a weekend. But, with the reflections and questions Sheridan and DJ share, come the personal answers for yourself. Give yourself the time, and the permission, to really read it. It might just be the making - or redefining - of you.

[Anne Tissier · Rating 5 out of 5]

As an author in the making myself, I have only one disappointment with this book: I didn’t write it! Not that I could, it is Sheridan’s personal story. But therein lies the gracious yet influential command of his words describing a pilgrimage of disappointment, confusion, realignment and restoration that so many of us have journeyed, or indeed, are still walking.
From his train trip to a station near Lindisfarne, through his pilgrimage from Holy Island to Durham accompanied by good friend, DJ, to concluding reflections in an Oxford coffee shop, Sheridan inspires the reader to walk each step alongside him. To feel the trek and trudge physically, limping with blisters and pulling down caps against blast of wet wind on face. To perceive the journey mentally as he writes at a pace which leaves space to breathe, to reflect, and ponder personal implications. To engage with the pilgrimage spiritually, responding to the Presence of our constant Companion; for as the author reminds us -‘It is a holy thing to be called a friend.’
At one point Sheridan, writes, ‘I want to craft words that captivate the heart and open eyes to see God.’ In this book he has done just that; pages that read like a transcript of my heart through his engaging, lyrical wordsmithing, helping me reassess and evaluate struggles I’ve failed to address, in turn, hauling me back to a path of wholeness of wellbeing. I believe that will be the case for many other readers too. Be blessed, encouraged and renewed with fresh hope as you read.

I am most grateful to have received a free copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review.

[Russell A · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Making of Us sounded like an intriguing read, so when I had the chance to read an advance copy (see the note below), I took it! The book explores life’s journey – including disappointments – in the context of the author’s own pilgrimage throughout northern England. As an armchair traveler and historian, I enjoyed the travel-guide aspects of the book. As a follower of Christ, I appreciated the tie-ins to the spiritual life.

One thing I wish I would have done was to engage in the questions appropriate to each chapter as I was reading the book. There are follow-up questions to each chapter at the end of the book. I will now have to (well, get to!) read the book again, and following each chapter, I will refer to and explore the questions posed for each one; I want to re-read the book anyway! Reading on a Kindle, it was hard to go back-and-forth.

There were moments in the book where I wanted to “stop” and think about the concept more. Voysey describes his literal pilgrimage in northern England, yet also ties in aspects of his own life’s journey. I think it will resonate for those of us who are looking to explore the meaning of our own life’s trajectory. He and his companion had a grueling schedule, yet they were able to explore life together in a way that travel often stimulates.

This book will resonate with you if you struggling to understand your purpose, or if you know someone who is struggling with understanding their purpose. I think the target audience is those in their middle years, though I’m sure a broader age bracket could glean from the book.

Note: I received a free copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review.

[Jane Dunn · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sheridan Voysey's latest book takes the reader on a journey. There's the physical pilgrimage Sheridan and his friend DJ undertook, and there's the spiritual journey he undertook at the same time.

We all have great plans and ideas as to how our lives will turn out when we're young. As we get older, some of these plans get fulfilled, others change, and others become a long lost dream. There's any number of reasons why this happens, but when our life's plans change due to circumstances outside of our control such as health issues, fertility problems, etc, we can feel a huge void in our lives and become unsure of who we are now.

As always, Sheridan's honesty and heartfelt sharing of his journey create challenges and much thought provoking self talk along the way. For all of us who have suffered loss in our lives, who have had our lifelong dreams and plans changed in a totally unexpected way, this is the book for you. Through his incredibly honest and open retelling of his pilgrimage from Lindisfarne to Durham, Sheridan gives us a picture of the scenery along the way as well as the spiritual and personal pilgrimage he took in a way that is just so easy to read and keeps us wanting to read more and more. This book raised so many questions for me, but more importantly, made me look at those questions and honestly review them, and started a spark which lead me to start looking at things differently and re-evaluate the priorities in my life. Do yourself a favour and add this book to your list of books to read!! You won't regret it for a single second.

I received a free copy of this title, but this is my own fair and honest review.

[Lisa Walker · Rating 5 out of 5]

“The making of us” is a beautiful written book in which the author draws ‘us’ in, inviting us to ponder upon our own journeys, as the author travels his own. Life’s purpose is everyone’s question at some point in time, but even more poignant for those of us who have faced something which challenges the very core of who we believe we are and what we are on this planet for. This book is a personal account of the authors musings on such topics as he treks through the North Coast of England with his friend. The safety and security this friendship affords the author allows him to explore in conversation some deep and thoughtful personal questions. It is sensitively and descriptively written. Due to the pilgrimage taken in the story, travel and history lovers in particular will enjoy the detail of this book.

I was anticipating reading ‘The Making of Us’, after being seriously impacted by Sheridan Voysey’s previous book ‘The Resurrection Year’. When I read ‘The Resurrection Year’, I felt as though the author had read my personal journal as background preparation, all the while acknowledging that ultimately, life doesn’t go as planned for many of us. Both books are highly recommended for this reason- I believe they appeal to anyone who is willing to slow down and reflect upon the purpose of their lives, particularly in the context of failed dreams. The real beauty of this book is the sense that life is in fact a journey, and despite the sometimes undulating and perilous paths we walk or stumble along, there is a purpose and hope for us.

I received a copy of ‘The making of us’ in exchange for a fair and honest review.

[Andrew · Rating 5 out of 5]

If a “life detour” has challenged your “life purpose”, then this book will encourage you to reset your bearings and walk on! Whatever your tendency to identify in, this book brings great insight and appreciation for both our individual and common experience, our questions and yes, even answers!

I found myself totally absorbed by Sheridan Voysey’s ability to paint a true masterpiece, capturing the landscapes, people’s characters and life’s questions, in words, as he and his friend DJ go on a 12-day pilgrimage along England’s NE coast. They follow the footsteps of a humble Monk, “Cuthbert” who left the world some very distinctly supernatural memories! All new to me, and inspiring for sure. As I read, I was enlightened, encouraged and found myself engaged as a silent companion in all they traversed; physical, emotional and spiritual.

Full of truth and empathy, you will find; mystery unveiled, laughter burst forth, integrity, gentle questioning and clarity cut through what may have been foggy for so long! Even experience an invisible restoration of peace and hope in life.

This book is like putting on a pair of boots that, as you read, mould perfectly to our feet, minds, souls and spirits. A very enjoyable and exceptionally satisfying read. Highly recommended. Don’t miss taking this extraordinary pilgrimage with Sheridan that restores identity and opens doors to new life and adventures ahead!

I received a free copy of this title, but also bought one, because its exceptional! Above is entirely my own and honest review

[Julia Conway · Rating 5 out of 5]

It is easy to be full of hope and optimism when life is going well, however how do we cope when challenges and obstacles come our way? Sheridan Voysey's book Resurrection Year speaks volumes about ‘real Life’ and so given the opportunity to read a copy of “The Making of Us” for review was a privilege.
The reader becomes an unseen companion on hundred-mile pilgrimage via the northeast coast of England from the Island of Lindisfarne ending in Durham. The description of the journey through the eyes of the author transports you and one feels as if you are walking alongside him. Sheridan embarked on this journey with a travelling companion and friend DJ, the pilgrimage like life is not without its challenges. Vulnerability and reflection walk alongside the pilgrims – invisible to man but real in our travellers soul. Questions about suffering sometimes go unanswered and yet we push forward knowing that there is a caring and loving Father. Who knows why some seem to have more challenges than others?

The historical information enlightens one - how quickly we forget the suffering of saints who walked before us? In recent times, the Christian message has not always painted a true picture of disappointment, pain and suffering. Why some suffer and some don’t will only be answered at the end of life’s journey. Sheridan puts life in perspective in his latest book. An excellent read and very thought provoking.

[Rebecca Roberts · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was so keen to read The Making of Us as I’ve long been a fan of Sheridan Voysey, having listened to his fabulous radio program Open House for many years and having read several of his previous books.

The topic of this book, which is all about how beautiful things can emerge when life doesn’t go as planned, resonates with me as I know my life hasn’t always gone as planned.

Sheridan takes us on a beautifully descriptive journey as he and his friend DJ walk in the footsteps of St Cuthbert on their pilgrimage to Lindisfarne. Along the way DJ & Sheridan have deep conversations and what they share and discuss is very real and raw as they seek wisdom and understanding.

I loved so many things that Sheridan said, but one so important reminder is that our one great calling is to love God and love others. When one stream ends, go back up the river and simply love those standing before you. And when we can’t become what we want to be, we can still become who we’re meant to be.

I believe we all can identify with life not going as we planned and there is wisdom to be found in this book for us all. Don’t hesitate! Read it now and discover the gems inside!

I listened to the audio version of the book as I love Sheridan’s familiar voice... I recommend this as a great way to listen to the book!