At Their Feet: Piety Towards Parents

by Ibn al-Jawzi

Genres: Islam, Religion

96 pages, Paperback

Published June 1, 2016

Reviews

[Amr Mohamed · Rating 3 out of 5]

قال الله تبارك وتعالى: وَقَضى رَبُّكَ أَلّا تَعبُدُوا إِلّا إِيّاهُ وَبِالوَلِدَينِ إِحساناً إِمّا يَبلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُما أَو كِلاهُما فَلا تَقُل لَهُما أُفٍّ وَلا تَنهَرهُما وَقُل لَهُما قَولاً كَريماً وَاِخفِض لَهُما جَناحَ الذُلِّ مِنَ الرَحمَةِ وَقُل رَبِّ اِرحَمهُما كَما رَبَّياني صَغيراً

اتي رجل لعمر رضي الله عنه، فقال: إن لي أماً بلغ بها الكبر، وأنها لا تقضي حاجتها إلا وظهري مطية لها، وأوضئها، وأصرف وجهي عنها، فهل أديت حقها؟ قال: لا.
قال: أليس قد حملتها على ظهري، وحبست نفسي عليها؟
قال: إنها كانت تصنع ذلك بك، وهي تتمنى بقاءك، وأنت تتمنى فراقها

سألت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: أي العمل أحب إلى الله عز وجل؟
قال: الصلاة لوقتها
قلت: ثم أي؟
قال: بر الوالدين
قلت: ثم أي؟
قال: الجهاد في سبيل الله

وعن أبي سعيد الخدري، أنه صلى الله عليه وسلم، قال: لا يدخل الجنة صاحب خمس: مدمن الخمر، ولا مؤمن بسحر، ولا قاطع الرحم، ولا كاهن، ولا منان

وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه، أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، قال: إن أعمال بن آدم تعرض على الله كل خميس ليلة جمعة، فلا يقبل عمل قاطع رحم

قال الله تعالي : فَهَل عَسَيتُم إِن تَوَلَّيتُم أَن تُفسِدوا في الأَرضِ وَتُقَطِّعوا أَرحامَكُم أَولَئِكَ الَّذينَ لَعَنَهُم اللَهُ فَأَصَمَّهُم وَأَعمى أَبصارَهُم

كتيب جميل عن بر الوالدين وصلة الرحم لكن النسخة التي قرأتها لم تكن محققة فيوجد بعض الاحاديث الضعيفة والموضوعة

[eny · Rating 5 out of 5]

رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

[umm mus’ab · Rating 5 out of 5]

A book that will make you reflect deeply on your role as a child. May Allah forgive us and grant us al-birr and taqwa and may Allah make us obedient to our parents and gain their duas.

In an era saturated with information about "toxic families" and strategies for dealing with "toxic" parents, this book serves as a reminder of what truly matters when it comes to our relationship with our parents. Their difficulties should never justify allowing negativity to prevail, leading us to treat them disrespectfully. As always the Islamic method is best and that is what we follow should we desire an eternal peaceful abode.

Please read and take on board how much we truly owe it to our parents, if we want to please Allah سبحانه وتعالى, we must please our parents and show them a level of u matched respect.

[Dima · Rating 4 out of 5]

Wonderful albeit brief. Similar to ibn al Qayyim’s book I previously rated. Great great great reminders in here. Some weak ahadeeth were included but the implications still remain important.

[Shahrian Shihab · Rating 4 out of 5]

"For your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And honour your parents. If one or both of them reach old age in your care, never say to them ˹even˺ ‘ugh,’ nor yell at them. Rather, address them respectfully. And be humble with them out of mercy, and pray, “My Lord! Be merciful to them as they raised me when I was young.”"

(Qur'an,17: 23-24)

And We have commanded people to ˹honour˺ their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years. So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return.

(Qur'an, 31:14)

Abu Huraira reported: A man asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, “Who among prople is most deserving of my good treatment?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked, “Then who?” The Prophet said “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your father.”

(Bukhari, #5971; Muslim, #2548, Musnad Ahmad, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah)

30.11.2021

[HASE Trek · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good book , quick read and some very good quotes in the book.

[m. · Rating 3 out of 5]

Makes me think about my relationship with my parents and made me aware of my duties towards them. Heart softening and an excellent and compulsory read for me.

[Idil · Rating 3 out of 5]

3 stars only because some weak narrations are included otherwise, a great read!

[Rukaiya Nabila · Rating 4 out of 5]

In the words of the author :
“This text made me deeply reflect upon the relationship with my own parents. I have an awareness of my acute sense of falling short in regards to them. It has made me remorseful and yet at the same time, ignited within me a higher determination to bridge any failings I have in becoming a more dutiful (daughter). May Allah grant us Tawfiq and aid us in everything that leads to His Pleasure.”


I took off a star because there were many weak, and unreliable ahadith. They made the book lose a bit of its authenticity in my opinion.

Nonetheless, it was still a wonderful book that has opened my eyes to how much I need to do, to better myself and honor my parents the way they deserve to be honored.

[MuntahaZad · Rating 5 out of 5]

10/10; masterpiece. What a great book: can it be pararelled with any other similar literature? I don't know.

[Hajar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mooi boek wat ons eraan herinnerd hoe belangrijk de omgang met onze ouders is.

[Hanif Ur-Rehman · Rating 5 out of 5]

A wonderful short book about how to respect your parents. An invaluable guide containing many hadiths of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).

[s · Rating 4 out of 5]

put me to shame:(
may our parents always be pleased with us and be a means for us to enter jannah.

a few weak ahadith but the grading of the isnad is always stated at the bottom!

[Faizan Fayaz · Rating 5 out of 5]

10🌟

[lovelyi · Rating 4 out of 5]

this was a good reminder in regards to our parents. the only downside was all the ahadith that were included, many of them were weak or fabricated, so having to check the footnotes every page to see whether you were reading something authentic or inauthentic was rather confusing. allahu alim. otherwise it was a good reminder الحمد لله