The Invisible Bond: How to Break Free from Your Sexual Past

by Barbara Wilson

Get Untied from Your Past

Sex is like glue. Super human glue. Inside marriage, God designed it to be a bond that is powerful and unifying. Outside of marriage, the bonds of sex can be devastating. Long after the lover is gone, the bond we’ve created stays with us, negatively impacting our lives and future relationships. Now, through an impressive combination of Scripture and scientific research, Barbara Wilson shows how God designed us to be uniquely bonded through sex. But even more so, she concentrates on the tangible hope that is yours. This book will equip you not only to break those bonds, but to embrace a new, abandoned, wise, and thankful heart.

You’ve had sex.

But now sex has you.



It’s a past that haunts the present. Sabotaged relationships, low self-esteem, sexual dysfunction, an empty spiritual life. Sex will bind you up and tie you down. Why? It’s just sex.

But “just sex” means your body, soul, mind, and spirit have become one with another. Released from a past of her own, Barbara Wilson now combines scientific research with Scripture to offer striking new insights about what sexual bonding is, why it is harmful, and how to move freely into your future. Complete with a study guide for group or personal use, The Invisible Bond is your hands-on tool for changing not your past …but your life .

“Barb’s honesty and vulnerability will inspire you to let God do in your life what He has done in hers, mine, and millions of other lives. He has set us free from self-defeating guilt and shame, helped us embrace our sexuality rather than fear it, and taught us how to enjoy genuinely healthy, intimate relationships. If that sounds appealing to you, then you hold the right book in your hands.”

Shannon Ethridge

Bestselling author of the Every Woman’s Battle series

Story Behind the Book

As abstinence director and educator for a Sacramento pregnancy center, Barbara Wilson talks to wounded and bleeding hearts every day. They’ve lost the war on sexual purity and the daily consequences are their reality. All they want is hope—hope that they can be free from the pain and shame that their past drags into their present and future. This book reveals the negative impact of sexual bonding and offers steps to freedom from past sexual and emotional bonds. But even more, it offers new direction for the free heart, and how to embrace an abandoned, overflowing life!

Genres: Christian, Nonfiction

224 pages, Paperback

First published March 1, 2006

Reviews

[Kate Lendley · Rating 5 out of 5]

I told a friend recently, while I was in the middle of reading this book, that I wish I had read this book years ago. The decisions I made in college have haunted me for a number years and I now understand they robbed me of true intimacy in my marriage. If you are looking for a book to help you walk the road to healing and freedom from your sexual past this is the book you should read. Do the exercises and read some of the other books she recommends. While this book is not a cure all it will give you the tools to see your healing all the way through.

[Michelle Meyers · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Christian self-help book

[Karen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book! Highly recommend!!

[Kobby Shy · Rating 2 out of 5]

i want break up with my past affairs

[Nicole Asmus · Rating 5 out of 5]

I never had any idea that I would receive so much healing on a path that lead to so much pain. Looking into the eyes of my heart was the best thing I could do - although I spent my fair share in kleenex purchases. Knowing that God was able to see those places of hurt and bless me with healing was a gift that was so undeserved but greatly needed...and changed my life!

[Kendall Faulk · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really good book and a must read for anyone who had sexual encounters prior to giving their life to Christ. Great read while single, it really helped me uncover a lot of trauma I didn’t even know I was hiding.

[Delali Mensah · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good book

[Timi Dunlap · Rating 5 out of 5]

Enjoyed every bit. This is a must read for everyone but especially the youth.

[Natasha · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you're a believer who continues to struggle with the impact of sexual sin committed against or by you in your past, this book is a great tool to help you see the true redemption Christ brings. The author describes the invisible bond that forms between people when they are united sexually, consensual or otherwise. While you may go on to forgive them (and yourself if you were a willing participant), that bond can sometimes still remain and weigh us down in shame, self-loathing, or the inability to grow emotionally close with your spouse. The author describes this bond and also goes through a practical, prayerful process to break those bonds by God's grace and the truth of who we are in Christ.

I recommend this book for any Christian who has had previous sexual experiences, whether they are actively struggling with their past or not.

[Cibele]

I think this book clearly explain that relationships need to be considered seriously and deeper than normally are.
I appreciate the concept of physicall, emocional and mental intimacy growing toghether is healthy.
Specially I think the book can help unhappy people to understand their past, forgive themselves and keep moving in a best way on their relationships.

[Pete Villanueva · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book brought healing to my marriage. I think it's a must read for all married couples who've had sexual experiences prior to marriage. The book contains questions and study material intended to create conversation and individual healing.

[Ntombezinhle Nzama · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book helped me to start a journey on forgiving myself and of healing. Thank you

[Juanita · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good

[Frans Kempe · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good book that addresses the topic of sexual bonding in a personal, clear and straight forward way with grace.