This book ranks up there with my all-time favorite teaching books: Transforming Talk into Text by Thomas McCann, Teaching Arguments by Jennifer Fletcher, and Diving Deep into Nonfiction by Jeffrey Wilhelm. It also works really well with methods discussed from Dr. Karp's Happiest Toddler on the Block and Becky A. Bailey's Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline. And, can I also say, that it ranks in my top favorite leadership books, too, with Jocko Willink's Extreme Ownership and Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power.
What is special about this book is that while it is focusing on social-emotional learning, it also encompasses teaching, relationship-building, leadership, and ownership. Some of the books that I have read so far on PBIS have really been pie-in-the-sky visions and there was a certain honesty lacking in the development of the students, teachers, and schools that were illustrated. With this book, the examples showed both what it looks like when the practice works and how it looks like and how to respond when it does not work. I was not left asking, "Well, sure, it worked in this case, but what if...?" because Jen Alexander clearly confronted the what ifs and recognized the imperfection of humans.
I also appreciated that this book focused on redemption in more than a restorative justice lens. With restorative justice, there is much pressure put on the victim to find common ground and to provide a redemptive path to the perpetrator. That is not the case in this book, though it is an option that can be taken IF THE VICTIM WANTS IT AND IS NOT BEING PERSUADED INTO IT BASED ON SCHOOL PRACTICES. This book encourages students to set healthy boundaries to keep themselves physically and mentally safe. There are more avenues for redemption for the perpetrator than needing the victim to play a role in the perpetrator's redemption. That seems mentally healthy to me and is an accurate vision for what we want students to understand prior to developing their adult relationships.
This book was repetitive (that is probably why Dr. Karp came into my mind), and at first, I found myself thinking that I could be through reading the book if there was not so much repetition, but then I realized that the book was mentally coaching my brain. I now have memorized the 4 essentials (safe, connect, regulate, learn) and can tell you that relationship-building and save yourself first are the top premises of this book. So I see this repetitive nature as a good brain training model for those who read it as well as the cohesive nature between the chapters. The top priorities remain the top priorities.
I highly recommend this book for those who are interested in implementing PBIS, Restorative Justice PBIS, and trauma-informed/sensitive school training. This book has a great deal to offer, though it does not offer a blueprint for building schools (that's the only real detractor, but that can be fixed by looking at Chicago Public Schools' restorative justice plan as well as the research article by Chafouleas, Johnson, Overstreet, and Santos (2015) focusing on a blueprint for trauma-informed delivery for schools).