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472 pages, Paperback
First published August 1, 2017
“Women make up over 50 per cent of graduates, and tend to match or outperform men in any test where intellect and aptitude are the only measures of success—school examinations, for example. But whenever large numbers of men are involved in the hiring or selection process, women fall behind.”I actually have no idea whether this is objective fact, especially in math and the sciences, but close enough. You get the point. It would be laughable, and used to be, behind closed doors, or behind hands if men were present. But now we don’t feel like laughing anymore and are tired of this argument about “objective merit.” I like Penny’s phrase, “When you’re used to privilege, equality feels like prejudice.” Welcome to the melting pot, white men.
“The experience was like having your forebrain slowly and laboriously beaten to death by a wilting erection wrapped in a copy of the Patriot Act: savage and silly and just a little bit pathetic.”But before you roar your displeasure over her attack, she freely admits watching the films are a guilty pleasure. And she adores Daniel Craig, “who appears to be about as unsexist as anyone who has worked in Hollywood for twenty years can be.”
“Trigger warnings are fundamentally about empathy. They are a polite plea for more openness, not less; for more truth, not less. They allow taboo topics and the experience of hurt and pain, often by marginalized people, to be spoken frankly. They are the opposite of censorship.”I could quote this woman all day long. She writes extremely cogently, answering ideas that have been floating about your head and your world and have never adequately articulated. Even if you don’t agree, her point of view has an inexorable logic that in her snarky tone has a bell-like clarity.
“..the lacquered, lying sack of personality disorders...made no attempt to hide his vision of the entire damn world as the next acquisition in his dodgy property portfolio.”We need this woman. She amuses us, commiserates with us, and leads us. She has reached a language virtuosity on a level with Matt Taibbi, much-vaunted American political journalist whose snark is considered an art form.
The media on both sides of the pond has fallen over itself to consider whether the boiling bigotry on display might somehow conceal ‘legitimate concerns’.(the phrase "economic insecurity" comes to mind…). She is not afraid to question rationales and frequently reduces what passes as rational thought to rubble. The book is divided into 8 general categories: Introduction: Bitch Logic, Madness and Resistance: A US Election Diary 2016, Love and Other Chores, Culture, Gender, Agency, Backlash, Violence, Future. Each section has 3-4 essays loosely related to the given topic. Backlash and Madness and Resistance stood out for me. Penny is fierce and fearless and an many of her retorts are clever and collectable. Some examples:
It is no longer an overstatement to suggest that toxic masculinity is killing the world.
When I started out, my world was overfull of stern men imploring me to strive for objectivity – which meant, in practice, that I ought to tell the story as a rich older man might see it.
I am done pretending that the good intentions of white patriarchy are more important than the consequences enacted on the bodies of others.
‘Trumpism’ was doing to the American psyche: The public rhetoric of Trumpism normalizes what therapists work against in our work: the tendency to blame others in our lives for our personal fears and insecurities and then battle these others instead of taking the healthier but more difficult path of self-awareness and self-responsibility. It also normalizes a kind of hyper-masculinity that is antithetical to the examined life and healthy relationships that psychotherapy helps people achieve. Simply stated, Trumpism is inconsistent with emotionally healthy living – and we have to say so publicly.
Do not doubt that this is a war of nerves as much as a war of resources.
I’d never considered as a literature student: that Austen’s famous novels of shrubbery romance in stately homes and claustrophobic marriage plotting make a lot more sense once you realise that all her protagonists are profoundly depressed and economically desperate. The reason that her middle-class heroines are so singularly fixated on marriage is that they have no meaningful alternatives: without a suitable mate, they face poverty, shame and social isolation. They are not romances. They are horror stories.
Capitalism has managed to incorporate the mass entrance of women into the traditionally male workplace by depressing wages, but the question of how households will be formed and children raised is still unsolved. Public anxiety over the low fertility rate among middle-class white women is matched only by the modern hysteria about working-class, black and migrant women having ‘too many’ babies – the attempts by neoconservatives to bully, threaten and cajole wealthy white women back to the kitchen and nursery are as much about racist panic as they are about reinstituting a social order that only ever worked for men.
The part of our cultural imagination that places white Western men at the centre of every story is the same part that legitimises racism and sexism.
The title is a provocation, but so is the rest of the book. How could it be otherwise? Anything any woman ever writes about politics is considered provocative, an invitation to dismissal and disgust and abuse, in much the same way that a short skirt is considered an invitation to sexual violence. That’s the point. I have learned through years of writing in public that if you are a woman and political, they will come for you whatever you say—so you may as well say what you really feel. If that makes me a bitch, I can live with that.
I’m middle-class, white, well educated. I have less to lose by taking my own advice than others do. I have less to lose by seeking freedom than my mother did, and she had less to lose than her mother, although they both had far more to win. There is still a world to win.
I’m not writing as everygirl, because there is no such thing. The idea that any person could speak “for women” is cartoonish in its misunderstanding of what feminism is, what women are. (11)
All politics are identity politics, but some identities are more politicized than others … this is not a problem for the traditional left. It is a problem for the traditional right, which has pursued a divide-and-conquer strategy for centuries … a hierarchy of victimhood that diverts energy and anger away from the vested interests bankrolling the entire scheme. (4)
I’ve heard it said that for a progressive, equal society to come about, the one we have now has to collapse completely. I’ve heard this said almost overwhelmingly by men on the left who nurse guilty hard-ons over visions of dying in battle as martyrs. Civilisation, they say, needs to collapse completely before we can have the revolution we need. (17)
It’s all about controlling women’s bodies before, during and after pregnancy. Almost every ideological facet of our societies is geared towards that end—from product placement and public health advice to explicit laws forcing women to carry pregnancies to term and jailing them if they fail to deliver the healthy babies the state requires of them. (236)
Finding out that you’re not the Rebel Alliance, you’re actually part of the Empire and have been all along, is painful.
This is not a book which sets out specifically to upset conservatives of any flavour - it just doesn't particularly care if it does.