F*ck it - Het is wat het is

by John C. Parkin

‘Fuck it – Het is wat het is’ is hét boek over alles accepteren zoals het is. Geschreven door dé Fuck it autoriteit John Parkin. Van ‘Fuck it – deel 1’ zijn meer dan 25.000 exemplaren verkocht!

Het is inmiddels een gevleugelde uitspraak: ‘Fuck it!’ In dit nieuwste boek tilt John Parkin dit motto naar een nieuw niveau. Velen van ons stellen hun leven uit omdat ze denken: ik kan pas gelukkig zijn als ik ... (tien kilo ben afgevallen, die baan krijg, meer geld heb…). Fuck it met al die excuses! Het leven is wat het is en het is heel goed mogelijk om gewoon tevreden te zijn. In dit uitdagende, grappig geschreven boek vertelt John Parkin hoe. Een inspiratiebron voor persoonlijke ontwikkeling.

‘Fuck it’is een oefening in accepteren en loslaten, maar dan zonder esoterisch gezever. – de Volkskrant

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Mental Health, Personal Development

176 pages, Paperback

Published June 19, 2018

About the author

http://www.meettheauthor.com/bookbite...

Reviews

[Haya Dodokh · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book got a simple idea at its core!
And Just when I thought it couldn’t get any better, he takes it to another level - Level 3.
It’s my first book for John Parkin and I must say he’s a unique blend of wisdom, normality, charm and humor, he manages to deliver a profound message, simply.

Though I am aware of the ideas he’s approaching, but I couldn't but to enjoy reading!
This book will free you from the burden of all that and all the other positive, goody-goody, you-must-be-perfect-in-everyday modes of being. For me, it helped with my realization to be at peace with my faults, making mistakes. & allowing myself to be at peace with life just the way it is

[Kennedy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book helped me a lot in my opinion...
I struggle with chronic illnesses so bad I can barely move forward with life.
I practically should just drive an ambulance as my daily vehicle and just live in the ER at this rate!!!
I'm 20 years old, and life is unbearable.
But this book helped a bit with realizing the things in life that I love...
And reasons why I need to be thankful for why i'm here, and why I can love so passionately, because of everything i've been through I am strong of because of it.
This book helped me say 'F**k It'.

[Nea Britto · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think this is a good book if you want to learn to live more in the present moment. I like the way the author has put it into three different levels. That being said, I feel like the end didn’t feel very practical and it got a bit repetitive for me. I mean, it felt like he wanted you to be okay with not being at peace too? But then, I don’t get the title. I guess it’s more about acceptance but nothing groundbreaking for me.

[Stephen McNulty · Rating 2 out of 5]

A little disappointing. The author does, essentially, make a good point about learning to be okay with things being as they are, but I feel like the book offered very little practical advice about how to actually achieve this calm he advocates. It was mostly a list of things we could be anxious about, and then variations on the theme of “well, don’t.” The humour also felt a little forced at times.

[Daina · Rating 1 out of 5]

I was at peace when i finally finished this "book".

[Nicola Bell · Rating 1 out of 5]

Garbage

I always think the book is doomed when the introduction is either oddly defensive or when it says that people who don't get vakue from the book are just (implied to be) stupid. I think the reason this book is rubbish, however, can be best summed up by this charming quote: "As soon as you can in your practice, enjoy feeling superior to stressed-out non-peace-seekers. It’s going to happen at some point, so you might as well get it out of the way now. Do enjoy it though. It’s like seeing other fatsos when you’re on a diet".
Yuck.

[Helen Morgan · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book.
As for writing a review - life’s too short to spend time on that sort of thing, so F**k it!
Read the book and you’ll understand! 😜

[JK I'm Exploring · Rating 1 out of 5]

I bought this when I was at a completely different point in life and I didn't think I'd get anything out of it. The entire first 52 pages were just saying "you think you'd be happier after xyz but the first step is to realize that's not how it works" and I don't need that anymore because I already know that just from life. I don't need a book to tell me that.

[Karlijn · Rating 3 out of 5]

Level one and level two were very clear, but level three was a little vague at times. Also too many Trump references for my taste.

[Simone Cox · Rating 4 out of 5]

It was similar to other self help books I've read so nothing really new. But the author was british and I liked that :)

[Chantal · Rating 3 out of 5]

Niet echt veel inzichten bijgekregen, maar wel herkenbaar en grappig neergepend.

[Francisco Zambrano · Rating 1 out of 5]

F**k It!

Es basura reciclada engaña bobos.

Tengo la mala costumbre (quizá buena) que una vez que inicio un libro nunca lo abandono hasta que lo acabo.

Últimamente he leído libros de autoestima, motivación personal y de herramientas para ayudar a organizar mejor nuestra vida y alcanzar nuestras metas. Hay un nuevo boom de esta literatura, muchos de estos libros están bien sustentados, integran los avances que hay en las distintas áreas del conocimiento humano: psicología, neurología, sociología, etc.

El libro de John C. Parkin es simplemente basura reciclada, contradictoria, recetas fáciles pero sin fundamento alguno y por lo tanto inútiles. Tal vez, como él mismo dice, traerá más paz y sabiduría a tu vida “sentarte a tomar una taza de té” que perder el tiempo leyendo esta porquería. Además, de que te ahorrarás 15 dólares.


ENGLISH


It's recycled garbage fools fools.

I have a bad habit (maybe good) that once I start a book I never leave it until I finish it.

Lately I hace been reading books related to self esteem, personal motivation and tools to help organize our lives better and achieve our goals. There is a new boom in this literature, many of these books are well supported, they integrate the advances that exist in the different areas of human knowledge: psychology, neurology, sociology, etc.

John C. Parkin's book is simply recycled, contradictory garbage, simple recipes but without any foundation and therefore useless. Perhaps, as he says, bring more peace and wisdom into your life "sit down for a cup of tea" than waste time reading this crap. Also, you'll save $ 15.

[niepoczytalna · Rating 3 out of 5]

PL: Z filozofią *fuck it* Johna C. Parkina polubiłam się już dość dawno, za sprawą innych książek, które miałam okazję czytać, ale i też słuchać. Dlatego, kiedy zobaczyłam nowy tytuł z tej serii, bez wahania zdecydowałam się właśnie na audiobooka.

Książka ta jest raczej nietypowym poradnikiem, bo nie oszukujmy się... Czy spodziewalibyście się po jakiejkolwiek książce rozwojowej rady w stylu "pieprz bycie optymistą"? Raczej nie, ale mnie właśnie za to tak bardzo się podoba. Za to że jest pozbawiona tych pseudo motywacyjnych gadek. Jest szczera, jest zabawna, pozwala odpuścić, wyluzować, a przede wszystkim być sobą i zaakceptować to, jak jest. Autor nie stara się nam wcisnąć niczego na siłę, nie każe nam zmienić nagle całej swojej osobowości, stylu bycia, by dopasować się do jego wizji spokoju i szczęścia. Nie... Autor mówi nam: "pieprz to!".

Przede wszystkim myślę, że przed sięgnięciem po "F**k it, tylko spokój może cię uratować" warto zapoznać się z pierwszymi publikacjami autora, jak chociażby "Terapia f**k it", która jest osobiście moim faworytem jeśli chodzi o tę serię książek. Pozwoli to bardziej zrozumieć całą filozofię pieprznizmu, jak i styl oraz poczucie humoru autora. I chociaż w tej części może brakować niektórym konkretów, i ogólna konkluzja wobec całości może wydawać się niezrozumiała to, kiedy już przerobimy kilka poprzednich lekcji *pieprzenia* naprawdę będziemy w stanie zastosować tę filozofię w swoim życiu i osiągnąć wewnętrzny spokój ducha. Według mnie tytuł ten zasługuje na zainteresowanie, takie mocne 3,5*

[Hannah · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book had a couple of good thoughts in it. It talked about holding seemingly opposite but true ideas in our minds (dialectics, though it never called it this) and the idea of stopping deferring peace. However, it felt very introductory and lazy. It promises to teach relaxation techniques, but uses only one (go and have a cup of tea without distraction) and races through chapters in a clear trying-to-fill-up-as-many-pages-as-the-publishers-require way. Thanks to its excessive blank pages, the book took me two hours to read. Yes, it has some good ideas, but they would have easily fit into a pamphlet.

In addition, it would have been nice to have a few pages of reflection on privilege. While there are a couple of nods to people having real worries and problems, there's little real acknowledgement that some people are born with more privilege than others. While, obviously, a self-help book dwelling on problems for its entirety would be no help to anyone, an acknowledgement would make me more confident that he's reflected on the variety of human experience, rather than just his own.

[Konumuz Kitap · Rating 3 out of 5]

Detaylar: https://www.konumuzkitap.com/2025/06/...

Hayat sizi bunaltıyor mu? Kendinizi sürekli başkalarının beklentilerine göre yaşarken mi buluyorsunuz? Belki de artık sihirli iki kelimeye ihtiyacınız vardır: S*ktir Et!

Hayatınızı bir düşünün: "Hafta sonu geldiğinde mutlu olacağım.", "Keşke zengin olsam.", "Kendi evim olduğunda harika hissedeceğim." Ve bu liste uzar gider...

Bu kitapta bunun yollarını bulacak ve kolay yöntemler öğrenerek nasıl huzurlu olacağınızı öğreneceksiniz. Ve daha da önemlisi, biraz "S*ktir Et" le her soruna rağmen nasıl huzurlu hissedeceğinizi öğrenmeye başlayacaksınız.

John C. Parkin S*ktir Et " metodunu 3 seviyede ele alıyor. Örnek olarak stres durumunu verelim. İşte Parkin'in metot seviyelerin sıralaması şöyle:

1.Seviye: Stresliyim ve huzurlu hissetmiyorum.
2.Seviye: Huzurlu hissetmek için bir yol bulurum.
3.Seviye: Bazen stresli bazen de huzurlu olmakla bir sorunum yok çünkü her ikisi de hayatın doğal bir parçası.

Eğer siz de artık bazı şeyleri takmamak istiyorsanız, bu kitap sizin için bir başlangıç olabilir.

[Anna · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’ve got another of John Parkin’s books and really liked its message so when I saw this one in the library, the title really appealing to the state I’m currently in, it was an easy choice. It’s taken me a while to read as I’ve not consistently had the capacity to deal with deep thinking recently (grief) but now I’ve finished it I’ve ordered my own copy. I want to go through it again, underline the things that really resonate, try the exercises again. It’s the sort of book you can get more and more out of when you revisit it.
It’s helped me to accept all the shitty ways I’m feeling, to allow them, given me the permission to tell other people to back off and let me feel shitty, and I’ll work my own way back to positive when I am ready. It’s also put a nice name to the way I feel when I’m watching the birds on the feeder outside, or painting in my amateur fashion: peace. I do feel it at times, I just hadn’t realised it. Thanks John.

[MrBuk · Rating 3 out of 5]

W sumie można streścić to książkę w dwóch zdaniach...
Pieprzyć to, pieprz to, pieprz wszystko! Wypij herbatkę i zapal faję! (no może bez tej faji ;P)

Autor potrafi lać wodę a jego słowotok obija się o głupkowate gadulstwo. Chciałbym mieć A.I. która by mi to przemieliła i skompresowała wycinając niepotrzebne i rozwleczone teksty.

Najbardziej zabawno-tragiczne było rozwlekanie rzeczy które nas dołują - hmm chyba wszystko i tak nawet piardy mogą nas gnębić - pieprzyć to! Niby autor mówi prawdę ale nie podoba mi się, że tyle tego bajania - przypomina mi to monolog mojego sąsiada który gada i gada, już masz go dość a on to widzi uśmiecha się i dalej gada...
Pieprzyć to, nie ma co rozmyślać nad takimi głupotami!~Książkę wysłuchałem w ponad 4 godziny i to już za mną!
A dam mu 3 STARS bo po prawdzie ma rację a co się nagadał a raczej napisał niech mu się sprzedaje ta książka!

[Mariam Al Mehyas · Rating 3 out of 5]

Just finished reading the book “f**k it - be at peace with life as is” for the author John Parkin

An interesting book that gives you direct insights on how to be at peace with whatever you have as is regardless of the changes in the daily life.. no matter how you feel or what issues come across your way, accept and be at peace..

Although the author hasn’t brought anything new, yet I liked his book and the content.. his humor sense and the simple language without any complications make reading the book more interesting..

L3 and L4 were my favorites, and I loved how the author merged his personal experiences with the lessons he would like the reader to understand..

A nice book to read

20.12.2019

[Bess Ophelia Haase · Rating 2 out of 5]

To me, this book seems like it was written for people who have never been to a basic therapy session before. That’s where some people begin to learn for the first time that all feelings are valid and the only way out of them is through them - that’s it, I just summed up the book in one sentence.

It goes over the positive benefits of daily gratitude, affirmations, and overall mindfulness, which I have been heavily into lately with COVID19 and quarantine. Basically teaching us “My life is complete as is.”

Maybe if you’ve never engaged in meditation, gratitude, or therapy before in your life this is a good read?? But for the most part, it’s very basic knowledge.

[Paulina · Rating 4 out of 5]

F**k it Tylko Spokój Może Cię Uratować" to książka idealna na początek swojej przygody z tym gatunkiem. John C.Parkin w doskonały sposób prowadzi czytelnika przez kolejne poziomy pieprztologii nie szczędząc zabawnych anegdot czy własnych przemyśleń.Autor naprawdę trafia w sedno i porusza ważne tematy takie jak wpływ stresu na nasze życie oraz zdrowie i jak sobie z nim poradzić. Wiele z przemyśleń Parkina zastosowałam w swoim życiu i naprawdę czuję się bardziej zrelaksowana.

Książka idealna dla osób zmagających się ze stresem oraz studiujących psychologię!

[Dorothy Yoder · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was elementary, the thoughts were incomplete, lacking any form of deep development. It read like the author was half interested in writing a book and half interested in sitting on the beach which caused the casualness of the author to be off putting. I did not learn anything new, hated the title (totally unnecessary) and found the political jabs had nothing to do with the premise of the book.

[Firat Fidan · Rating 3 out of 5]

‘Rahatla, boşver’ mottosunu neredeyse her satırda tekrar ederek ilerleyen bu kitap bana oldukça klişe ve yüzeysel geldi. Bu tekrarlar, ne yazık ki özgün bir içsel yolculuk hissi yaratmaktan çok uzak. Daha önce okuduğum ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck*’ kitabının benzer bir yaklaşımını deneyen Parkin, aslında modern hayattan kaçış yolunu ‘F*ck It’ diyerek çözmüş olsa da bu görüşünü mistik ya da felsefi derinlikle beslemek yerine, tekrarlayan ve basit motivasyon sloganlarıyla yüzeyde kalıyor.

[Ivana · Rating 3 out of 5]

It makes one very good point: peace does not come after the next big think you think you need to achieve happiness and purpose (if you need a car to be happy, you'll forget about it when you get a car and find something else to worry about).

Other things I already know or came up with by myself, it's nothing new.

[Anna Strandberg]

Can’t rate this bc I started reading it years ago (literally) and have forgot (ish) the first half of the book. And no, I do not intend on starting it over.

The only thought I had at the end was that it was a bit sloppily put together, since there were many different subjects covered in the last few chapters, but none of them were really explored in depth which was disappointing.

[Eline · Rating 4 out of 5]

Vorm: nah. Veel te veel "ik zit hier te schrijven" en overlopen van humor zoals de achterflap beweerde, deed het allesbehalve.

Inhoud: yes. Gelijkaardige boodschap als bij een Eckhart Tolle maar dan op een lichter verteerbaar, beter begrijpelijk (wegens veel dichter bij het alledaagse leven) niveau uitgelegd. Petje af.

[Maranda Fox · Rating 2 out of 5]

I'm currently 50 pages in and I am NOT enjoying it whatsoever. It's not really thought provoking and I feel like the topics could definitely be elaborated on much more instead of such short chapters. I really enjoy the concept but it definitely could go further. Will update once I finished though.

[Jess Wilson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Simple practices

Just learn to say F**k It in life and you’ve read the book. There wasn’t anything here in this edition which wasn’t in the original or revised editions. The revised edition is good.

[Mariam Daboul · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's a nice book but very simple it also makes me realize that it doesn't have to be that impressive it's a good book not super but good it really lets you live in the moment and makes you realize that you're doing pretty well it's recommended because he uses examples and personal experiences!

[Lyndsey · Rating 3 out of 5]

Easy to read and written in a manner that appealed to me. Hope the guidance is as easy to apply!!

[Hannah-Louise Smith · Rating 4 out of 5]

Pretty good, could have been longer