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Master motivationalist Zig Ziglar champions romantic commitmentin his new guide to living happily ever after. Ziglar has constructed a six-step process for keeping the commitmentin marriage-or getting it back once it is gone. Good advice, homespun stories, challenging data, and penetrating application are combined to create a tribute to the romantic marriage that lasts.
288 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1990
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Zig Ziglar
398 books1,374 followersZig Ziglar was a motivational teacher and trainer who traveled the world over, delivering his messages of humor, hope, and encouragement. As a talented author and speaker, he had international appeal that transcended every color, culture, and career. Recognized by his peers as the quintessential motivational genius of our times, Zig Ziglar had a unique delivery style and powerful messages that earned him many honors. Today he is considered one of the most versatile authorities on the science of human potential. Ten of his twenty-eight books have been on bestseller lists, and his titles have been translated into more than thirty-eight languages and dialects. He was a committed family man, a dedicated patriot, and an active church member. Zig lived in Plano, Texas, with his wife, Jean.
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November 2, 2010
I listened to this a few years ago and decided to listen to it again. The audio version is more like a long lecture by Zig Ziglar than a book, but he presents in a way that is humourous and challenging. Some may suggest that his views are antiquated, but I find myself agreeing with most of what he has to say and it was a reminder to me of the things I need to keep in front of me as most important. That is, helping my wife to see how unique, special and loved she is.
February 9, 2025
Mi-am dus câteva cărți pe care nu le citisem din bibliotecă la casa de la țară pentru a le avea acolo și a le citi când mergem și stăm mai multe zile (de regulă, vara), printre care și aceasta. Andreea când a venit din vacanță de la bunici mi-a adus-o să o citesc. Așa că s-a întors în bibliotecă și am citit-o. 😀
Cartea nu aduce lucruri revoluționare, dar merită citită. Conține sfaturi pertinente și te ajută să-ți reamintești că și după ce te căsătorești trebuie să faci ce făceai înainte de căsătorie:
-să flirtezi cu jumătatea ta;
-să fii drăguț/ă, să-i faci o bucurie, să ajuți, să faci un compliment;
-să-i fii fidel;
-să lași de la tine și să te îndrepți către împăcare;
-să încerci să repari înainte de a te îndrepta către divorț.
“Iubirea reprezintă unul dintre sutele de lucruri mărunte pe care cei care iubesc le caută pentru a-i face o bucurie zilnică partenerului. Sunt convins că o căsnicie stabilă și plină de iubire se bazează pe acele lucruri mărunte pe care le facem zilnic unul pentru celălalt.”
Cartea nu aduce lucruri revoluționare, dar merită citită. Conține sfaturi pertinente și te ajută să-ți reamintești că și după ce te căsătorești trebuie să faci ce făceai înainte de căsătorie:
-să flirtezi cu jumătatea ta;
-să fii drăguț/ă, să-i faci o bucurie, să ajuți, să faci un compliment;
-să-i fii fidel;
-să lași de la tine și să te îndrepți către împăcare;
-să încerci să repari înainte de a te îndrepta către divorț.
“Iubirea reprezintă unul dintre sutele de lucruri mărunte pe care cei care iubesc le caută pentru a-i face o bucurie zilnică partenerului. Sunt convins că o căsnicie stabilă și plină de iubire se bazează pe acele lucruri mărunte pe care le facem zilnic unul pentru celălalt.”
February 28, 2018
Zig has some good advice, but the book is very dated. I was surprised it was published in 1990; it reads more like it was written in the 50s or 60s. Very heteronormative, very traditional views about marriage (for one MAN and one WOMAN), and with antiquated gender roles. This guy is so conservative that he is NEVER alone with one woman, ever. He doesn't believe in true friendships between men and women. And there was way too much "get in the kitchen"-type stuff. And his advice is like, "This will definitely work! Just do these simple things!" Doesn't really acknowledge that there are no quick fixes.
His best section was the advice on how to be a better listener, and the quizzes yielded interesting conversations, but really, I only found about 10-20 pages of this relevant/useful/applicable.
His best section was the advice on how to be a better listener, and the quizzes yielded interesting conversations, but really, I only found about 10-20 pages of this relevant/useful/applicable.
March 17, 2011
honestly, it was really basic stuff that I've heard a ton of times. Absolutely nothing new in this. All true and good counsel.
Just doesn't hit me like, whoa! Now THAT I can change! It was like, "yeah yeah, of course I shouldn't cheat on my spouse... of course I should do things he like to do..."
Just doesn't hit me like, whoa! Now THAT I can change! It was like, "yeah yeah, of course I shouldn't cheat on my spouse... of course I should do things he like to do..."
January 18, 2021
A nice Book Overall.
If you read this book with an open heart, and try to understand the fact that the writer was born in 1926 when times looked completely different, and basis of the society was traditional family, you will probably enjoy the parts that are good and still actual.
Yes, I agree it’s the old way of thinking with clearly defined roles for women and men in the „family chain of command“, but still, try to keep an eye on the very good and useful aspects which made author‘s marriage a marriage that we, young people, admire.
We all crave to have a „marriage like that“ , when we see 2 elder people holding hands, and wonder what is the secret... well... the secret is maybe one that we don’t want to hear it’s receipt, or maybe is not entirely compatible with our principles and beliefs anymore, plus some of the common sense principles.
The basis of the book is that if you start to treat your partner the way you used to do at the beginning and have a strong belief in God, following some bible rules , you can improve, safe or maintain any marriage.
Even if the book is pretty conservative, the authors tries to explain why his marriage rules are acceptable in his view, even when they sound a bit too sexist, therefore I enjoyed the book overall. It’s like hearing the love story secret receipt of your grandfather... and that‘s nice :).
If you read this book with an open heart, and try to understand the fact that the writer was born in 1926 when times looked completely different, and basis of the society was traditional family, you will probably enjoy the parts that are good and still actual.
Yes, I agree it’s the old way of thinking with clearly defined roles for women and men in the „family chain of command“, but still, try to keep an eye on the very good and useful aspects which made author‘s marriage a marriage that we, young people, admire.
We all crave to have a „marriage like that“ , when we see 2 elder people holding hands, and wonder what is the secret... well... the secret is maybe one that we don’t want to hear it’s receipt, or maybe is not entirely compatible with our principles and beliefs anymore, plus some of the common sense principles.
The basis of the book is that if you start to treat your partner the way you used to do at the beginning and have a strong belief in God, following some bible rules , you can improve, safe or maintain any marriage.
Even if the book is pretty conservative, the authors tries to explain why his marriage rules are acceptable in his view, even when they sound a bit too sexist, therefore I enjoyed the book overall. It’s like hearing the love story secret receipt of your grandfather... and that‘s nice :).
December 22, 2016
Exactly what is needed for relationships
Recommend to anyone and everyone who has a good marriage and wants to make it great, or whoever has a struggling marriage and you want to get it back. Lots of actionable tips mixed in with Zig s classic style and humor.
Recommend to anyone and everyone who has a good marriage and wants to make it great, or whoever has a struggling marriage and you want to get it back. Lots of actionable tips mixed in with Zig s classic style and humor.
January 8, 2020
Basic, common sense relationship advice. A bit too much religion. A bit too much my-marriage-is-perfect-and-my-wife-is-amazing kind of writing. Not to be dismissed, though, it has some good advice. Very traditionalist.
October 26, 2018
In normal Ziglar fashion, Zig shares his heart for people (The Redhead) and talks about real marriages, real problems and what it takes to create a loving caring marriage.
January 11, 2020
This book should be read by both.
June 20, 2023
(audiobook) This is essentially a long cowboy-preacher style sermon by Zig Ziglar. The other reviews about this book being heteronormative and problematic are absolutely valid. This is old school marriage advice that your Christian grandma would give you. There were a few religious sections that I had a hard time with but despite ALL OF THAT I literally cried listening to this book and could see revisiting it in the future. These words made me evaluate a lot about myself and my relationships. The audiobook is extremely engaging because he has an awesome speaking voice.
August 12, 2024
While other reviewers point out that some references are dated and this sounds like what would be their grandparent’s advice, I don’t think they can point out much that is incorrect or unhelpful. Great reminders to put your spouses needs ahead of your own if you want them to feel loved. To guard your marriage against outside influences that can only damage your relationship. My wife and I will celebrate 30 years of marriage this year and am thankful for the reminders that this book provided on how to love my wife better each day.
April 25, 2019
Enjoyed zig ziglars wit!
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May 12, 2021
Excellent book. It is a very practical and insightful book to help one be a better husband or wife.
November 25, 2023
A great and successful marriage doesn’t just happen. It takes hard work from both couples. And Zig Ziglar shares with us how? Great and insightful book.
December 19, 2023
I was not zigging when Zig was Zagging. Rather, I was zigging when Zig was Zigging. You should too.
April 24, 2025
Practical wisdom, a touch of surprise, and a ton of “aha!” moments - plus I’m grateful for the author’s authentic, high-standard example, even if some of the advice feels a bit old-school or stricter than my own style.
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COURTSHIP AFTER MARRIAGE. A marriage cannot be happier then the people in it! Genuinely impressive to see how Zig never stops investing in his marriage. You can marry the “wrong” person and treat them right and end up with the right partner, or marry the “right” person and treat them badly and end up with the wrong one. You get what you want from your relationship by helping your partner get what they want - classic Zig. Funny, in every couple both partners feel like they’re the only one cleaning up the kitchen etc - truth is, you’re both mostly the same and whine about the other. In the jungle they don’t have watches, but they’ve got plenty of time: real priorities, not hours, make the difference.
ABUNDANCE AND FAMILY. Marriage myths: “I’ll change him/her” and “I’m marrying her, not her family.” Nah, you marry the whole system. Most successful people in long marriages are with their first spouse, with family values high. If you claim you don’t bring home troubles to work, you’re probably lying about other stuff too - work and home life can’t really be separated, so take care of your home foundation first.
CHANGING YOUR PARTNER. Yes, you can change your partner - but you do it by changing yourself. When you love, you inspire love. There’s a powerful exercise: make a weekly habit of telling each other what you appreciate. You will suddenly find soon there is more to appreciate.
SMALL GESTURES MATTER. Grand romantic gestures are fun, but daily small acts - kisses, hugs, saying thanks - are the real foundation. Do something for your partner every day they could do for themselves. Open the car door, and if you forget, let her honk at you to remind. Greet your spouse like every day might have been tough, because you never know.
RELATIONSHIP ATTITUDE. A woman wants a man she can look up to, but never one who looks down on her. The happiest couples spend the most time together.
OWNERSHIP AND PRIDE. In disagreements, don’t blame her - just say how you feel (“I feel unappreciated, am I being unfair?”), never “you should be doing X.” Confrontation with condemnation only creates defensiveness. Marriage is a union of two forgivers.
INTEGRITY AND BOUNDARIES. Zig literally organized his life so he’d never be alone with another woman and risk gossip or temptation. Many affairs start with “we were just friends” so avoid the situation entirely. At the first hint of outside sexual tension, one could removed himself from the formula. For Zig, even talking with someone who’s attracted to him is a line did not want to cross, because his partner deserves that respect.
CHEATING AND CONSEQUENCES. Cheating has a butterfly effect, damaging not just partners, but kids, parents, friends, colleagues, even reputations and entire careers. It devastates peace of mind and destroys integrity - decide in advance if a moment’s pleasure is worth such a colossal loss.
LAUGHTER, ENCOURAGEMENT, AND ENERGY. Laughter really is medicine - you can’t be mad or anxious and laugh at the same time. Start your morning with a joke; it’s contagious and free. Never make jokes about your partner; everyone may laugh, but the one who’s the punchline will remember it forever.
DAILY PRACTICE AND SACRED TIME. Dress up for your partner, not just the world. Greet each other with positive energy, not complaints about their day. Treat mealtime as sacred; don’t bring up negatives at family table, save it for later. There are no “family values” - there are just values. The way you treat your partner is the way you treat everyone.
SHOWING LOVE AND MAINTENANCE. Don’t blame your partner for what’s missing - invest for your own sake, because it’s your relationship to build. Be proud of your spouse in public, and let others know they’re #1.
COMMUNICATION. Balance conversation so your partner does most of the talking - never interrupt, even if you know what she’s saying. Ask about her favorite topics and create opportunities for her to share. When you disagree, do so agreeably - no confrontation with condemnation.
***
COURTSHIP AFTER MARRIAGE. A marriage cannot be happier then the people in it! Genuinely impressive to see how Zig never stops investing in his marriage. You can marry the “wrong” person and treat them right and end up with the right partner, or marry the “right” person and treat them badly and end up with the wrong one. You get what you want from your relationship by helping your partner get what they want - classic Zig. Funny, in every couple both partners feel like they’re the only one cleaning up the kitchen etc - truth is, you’re both mostly the same and whine about the other. In the jungle they don’t have watches, but they’ve got plenty of time: real priorities, not hours, make the difference.
ABUNDANCE AND FAMILY. Marriage myths: “I’ll change him/her” and “I’m marrying her, not her family.” Nah, you marry the whole system. Most successful people in long marriages are with their first spouse, with family values high. If you claim you don’t bring home troubles to work, you’re probably lying about other stuff too - work and home life can’t really be separated, so take care of your home foundation first.
CHANGING YOUR PARTNER. Yes, you can change your partner - but you do it by changing yourself. When you love, you inspire love. There’s a powerful exercise: make a weekly habit of telling each other what you appreciate. You will suddenly find soon there is more to appreciate.
SMALL GESTURES MATTER. Grand romantic gestures are fun, but daily small acts - kisses, hugs, saying thanks - are the real foundation. Do something for your partner every day they could do for themselves. Open the car door, and if you forget, let her honk at you to remind. Greet your spouse like every day might have been tough, because you never know.
RELATIONSHIP ATTITUDE. A woman wants a man she can look up to, but never one who looks down on her. The happiest couples spend the most time together.
OWNERSHIP AND PRIDE. In disagreements, don’t blame her - just say how you feel (“I feel unappreciated, am I being unfair?”), never “you should be doing X.” Confrontation with condemnation only creates defensiveness. Marriage is a union of two forgivers.
INTEGRITY AND BOUNDARIES. Zig literally organized his life so he’d never be alone with another woman and risk gossip or temptation. Many affairs start with “we were just friends” so avoid the situation entirely. At the first hint of outside sexual tension, one could removed himself from the formula. For Zig, even talking with someone who’s attracted to him is a line did not want to cross, because his partner deserves that respect.
CHEATING AND CONSEQUENCES. Cheating has a butterfly effect, damaging not just partners, but kids, parents, friends, colleagues, even reputations and entire careers. It devastates peace of mind and destroys integrity - decide in advance if a moment’s pleasure is worth such a colossal loss.
LAUGHTER, ENCOURAGEMENT, AND ENERGY. Laughter really is medicine - you can’t be mad or anxious and laugh at the same time. Start your morning with a joke; it’s contagious and free. Never make jokes about your partner; everyone may laugh, but the one who’s the punchline will remember it forever.
DAILY PRACTICE AND SACRED TIME. Dress up for your partner, not just the world. Greet each other with positive energy, not complaints about their day. Treat mealtime as sacred; don’t bring up negatives at family table, save it for later. There are no “family values” - there are just values. The way you treat your partner is the way you treat everyone.
SHOWING LOVE AND MAINTENANCE. Don’t blame your partner for what’s missing - invest for your own sake, because it’s your relationship to build. Be proud of your spouse in public, and let others know they’re #1.
COMMUNICATION. Balance conversation so your partner does most of the talking - never interrupt, even if you know what she’s saying. Ask about her favorite topics and create opportunities for her to share. When you disagree, do so agreeably - no confrontation with condemnation.
May 24, 2025
Lovely book! Very helpful advice on how to support and encourage your spouse and strengthen your relationship. It is a good foundation with habits to begin practicing to help you communicate well together.
This is not a guide of fixing major problems in your marriage, but more advice on how to build a strong relationship so you can avoid them.
I listened to the audio version, which is a series of recorded lectures given by Zig Ziglar, with studio recorded additions by his son Tom Ziglar.
This is not a guide of fixing major problems in your marriage, but more advice on how to build a strong relationship so you can avoid them.
I listened to the audio version, which is a series of recorded lectures given by Zig Ziglar, with studio recorded additions by his son Tom Ziglar.
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January 4, 2011
Had some great points, but a little slow to get through.
December 10, 2019
This is one of the best books I have ever read about marriage. I bought several copies personally and have recommended to many others. Don’t consider divorce until you have read this book.
January 30, 2023
Prea multă religie.
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