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DON'T FORGET YOUR CROWN: Self-Love has everything to do with it.
The dating scene frustrates you, relationships have failed you, ‘Happily ever after’ alludes you, and having to start all over again afterwards scares you, but why?
Because your entire life, you were taught to love everyone else, even your enemies, but you were never taught to truly love yourself. Don’t Forget Your Crown puts the power in your hands to change that by bringing every aspect of relationships back to what the foundation should have been from the beginning; self-love.
It’s not that everything you’ve been taught was wrong, it’s that it no longer applies to today’s world because most relationship advice has been tailored to whatever hand society dealt. But the world has changed, and women are no longer in need of validation from a man. Men are now aware of emotional needs once ignored. Narcissists are everywhere, sex has never been easier to find, and true commitment has never been valued less.
Trying to follow Granny’s blueprint for her 60-year marriage, applying recycled techniques from books published decades ago, or listening to well-intended friends who hate to see you alone more than they are aware of how to stop you from hurting isn’t going to cut it. If you’re going to end the cycle of giving your all to someone and getting half of that, at best, in return, you’re going to have to use a more practical approach that has proven successful for millions of people no matter what the circumstances were. You’re going to have to start with you.
Don’t Forget Your Crown is a break down of the most commonly misconstrued relationship beliefs handed down over the years that have resulted in the rampant dysfunction today for both men and women. By taking a second look at these concepts through a lens of self-love, we see the holes in the logic that has created both victims and perpetrators of ghosting, cheating, situationships, forced relationships, emotional abuse, and running back to the same situation that broke us just to be broken again.
No, that’s not “just the way life goes.” It ends here, if you decide it will. Building an empire with the love of your life is not a matter of luck reserved for a chosen few. It’s a matter of not forgetting your crown so you can recognize and receive the one who has theirs, as well.
Because your entire life, you were taught to love everyone else, even your enemies, but you were never taught to truly love yourself. Don’t Forget Your Crown puts the power in your hands to change that by bringing every aspect of relationships back to what the foundation should have been from the beginning; self-love.
It’s not that everything you’ve been taught was wrong, it’s that it no longer applies to today’s world because most relationship advice has been tailored to whatever hand society dealt. But the world has changed, and women are no longer in need of validation from a man. Men are now aware of emotional needs once ignored. Narcissists are everywhere, sex has never been easier to find, and true commitment has never been valued less.
Trying to follow Granny’s blueprint for her 60-year marriage, applying recycled techniques from books published decades ago, or listening to well-intended friends who hate to see you alone more than they are aware of how to stop you from hurting isn’t going to cut it. If you’re going to end the cycle of giving your all to someone and getting half of that, at best, in return, you’re going to have to use a more practical approach that has proven successful for millions of people no matter what the circumstances were. You’re going to have to start with you.
Don’t Forget Your Crown is a break down of the most commonly misconstrued relationship beliefs handed down over the years that have resulted in the rampant dysfunction today for both men and women. By taking a second look at these concepts through a lens of self-love, we see the holes in the logic that has created both victims and perpetrators of ghosting, cheating, situationships, forced relationships, emotional abuse, and running back to the same situation that broke us just to be broken again.
No, that’s not “just the way life goes.” It ends here, if you decide it will. Building an empire with the love of your life is not a matter of luck reserved for a chosen few. It’s a matter of not forgetting your crown so you can recognize and receive the one who has theirs, as well.
167 pages, Kindle Edition
Published October 5, 2018
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About the author
Derrick Jaxn
13 books160 followersA man is as a man does; not says, hopes, or promises. Derrick Jaxn (Jackson), a native of Enterprise, Alabama, found his purpose in his exceptional ability to impact lives by relating to others through the written world. The former student athlete turned author and spoken word poet grew up as the youngest of 5 in a single parent household. Jaxn witnessed his mother overcome life threatening illnesses while working multiple jobs, which would later become the catalyst in his drive to impose a standard of excellence, logic, and originality on a world dictated by blind conformity.
Derrick Jaxn founded a non-profit teen mentoring organization Team Jaxn, won national and multiple conference football championships in the SIAC as a tight end for Tuskegee University, and beat the Generation Y statistics of being underemployed or not employed at all by garnering a sales position within a Fortune 500 company immediately following graduation. While those who know Derrick all agree that his story is nothing short of inspirational the former Sales and Marketing major obtained his Bachelor of Science Degree from the College of Business and Information Science from one of the most well noted historically black colleges and universities and shortly after penned his first novel “A Cheating Man’s Heart”. For Derrick the real work has just begun. In less than 60 days his debut novel “A Cheating Man’s Heart” maintains a 5-star Amazon rating, has over 300 reader reviews and remains in the top #25 in genre fiction/biographical on Kindle and genre fiction/urban life in paperback books. Over 500 comments from readers are posted sharing how his book has entertained, encouraged and informed about relationships.
In a short amount of time, Derrick has elevated his personal blog http://www.derrickjaxn.com from being a diary of thought and perspective, to a lifestyle platform that has garnered him over 100,000 social media followers and friends. Popular articles such as "12 Things She Wishes You Understood" and "The Wake Up Call, Sincerely Trayvon Martin" have been shared among social network users over 75,000 times each. Derrick Jaxn is an authentic voice with unwavering ambition, and boundless potential to be one of the most influential men among millennials. He is ‘one to watch’.
Derrick Jaxn founded a non-profit teen mentoring organization Team Jaxn, won national and multiple conference football championships in the SIAC as a tight end for Tuskegee University, and beat the Generation Y statistics of being underemployed or not employed at all by garnering a sales position within a Fortune 500 company immediately following graduation. While those who know Derrick all agree that his story is nothing short of inspirational the former Sales and Marketing major obtained his Bachelor of Science Degree from the College of Business and Information Science from one of the most well noted historically black colleges and universities and shortly after penned his first novel “A Cheating Man’s Heart”. For Derrick the real work has just begun. In less than 60 days his debut novel “A Cheating Man’s Heart” maintains a 5-star Amazon rating, has over 300 reader reviews and remains in the top #25 in genre fiction/biographical on Kindle and genre fiction/urban life in paperback books. Over 500 comments from readers are posted sharing how his book has entertained, encouraged and informed about relationships.
In a short amount of time, Derrick has elevated his personal blog http://www.derrickjaxn.com from being a diary of thought and perspective, to a lifestyle platform that has garnered him over 100,000 social media followers and friends. Popular articles such as "12 Things She Wishes You Understood" and "The Wake Up Call, Sincerely Trayvon Martin" have been shared among social network users over 75,000 times each. Derrick Jaxn is an authentic voice with unwavering ambition, and boundless potential to be one of the most influential men among millennials. He is ‘one to watch’.
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March 28, 2021
I liked the beginning of the book as the author shares stories about himself and his wife. But, sorry to say, as the book went on I lost interest. A lot of Derrick’s advice seems to be for younger women or women in need of a boost of confidence. His target audience appears to be women with low self-esteem. He writes a lot about self-love which is good. But I really didn’t need that message. Although I did agree with some of his thoughts and advice, I still found myself getting bored.
I also had to reread a lot of his long winded sentences to get a clear understanding of the message he was trying to convey.
Overall I would give this book 2 1/2 out of 5⭐️s. But as I always say...just because this book was not meant for me does not mean it is not meant for you!
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I also had to reread a lot of his long winded sentences to get a clear understanding of the message he was trying to convey.
Overall I would give this book 2 1/2 out of 5⭐️s. But as I always say...just because this book was not meant for me does not mean it is not meant for you!
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April 25, 2020
This book came at the perfect timing. I was busy blaming myself for the behavior of others. My biggest take away from this book is that someone’s actions are not a reflection of my value and it is important for me to love and take care of myself.
October 7, 2018
Wow what a waste
I was expecting more and this was not it this did not cover what the title say it is. I do enjoy listening to him but this book was contradictory to the title. I thought it was about self love this was just lil stories.
I was expecting more and this was not it this did not cover what the title say it is. I do enjoy listening to him but this book was contradictory to the title. I thought it was about self love this was just lil stories.
June 24, 2020
“The lessons you’ve learned along the way and the scars you’ve endured that represent what could not stop you, are now a measurement of the royalty you are and standard for which you deserve to be treated. It’s because of that, you’re not in need of someone to bestow you your crown; you’ve already earned it, and it’s simply your responsibility to never forget it.” - page 190
This book is for anyone (particularly ladies) who have been involved in what seems to be a merry-go-round of senseless relationships, that leave you feeling nauseous but mostly, like a fool for having invested your time in going literally nowhere.
You’ll come to learn the truth of what to expect from the (2020 and beyond) dating scene; how to think with both your head, heart and intuition (which always serves for your greatest good) and how to finally love “yourself.” Something, might I add, that we don’t do enough of, because we feel as though someone else is supposed to fulfill those areas within us. This is how and why we keep repeating vicious and extremely painful cycles. Only after this, can one realize that self-love and self-healing are the only things that can ultimately bring you the happiness you seek to find.
This was truly needed.
With the world that we currently live in, promoting selfish and unwholesome themes towards love and life, this book serves as a life-saver to those who are tired of being deceived, manipulated, used and treated as a pawn. Once you’ve established the true power of loving yourself first, all of these teachings and principles implemented here will come to you as second nature; because at the end of the day you deserve to be loved and in the right manner, but with this book, Derrick teaches you how to do it for yourself FIRST, so there won’t be any exceptions to the rule when another person wants to show you love; you’ll know what it looks like, sounds like and most certainly feels like (without the help of a bed).
I highly recommend this and it is surely worth more than a second read; reread it as often as life allows. It’s kind of like insurance and you are as always, your greatest investment.
This book is for anyone (particularly ladies) who have been involved in what seems to be a merry-go-round of senseless relationships, that leave you feeling nauseous but mostly, like a fool for having invested your time in going literally nowhere.
You’ll come to learn the truth of what to expect from the (2020 and beyond) dating scene; how to think with both your head, heart and intuition (which always serves for your greatest good) and how to finally love “yourself.” Something, might I add, that we don’t do enough of, because we feel as though someone else is supposed to fulfill those areas within us. This is how and why we keep repeating vicious and extremely painful cycles. Only after this, can one realize that self-love and self-healing are the only things that can ultimately bring you the happiness you seek to find.
This was truly needed.
With the world that we currently live in, promoting selfish and unwholesome themes towards love and life, this book serves as a life-saver to those who are tired of being deceived, manipulated, used and treated as a pawn. Once you’ve established the true power of loving yourself first, all of these teachings and principles implemented here will come to you as second nature; because at the end of the day you deserve to be loved and in the right manner, but with this book, Derrick teaches you how to do it for yourself FIRST, so there won’t be any exceptions to the rule when another person wants to show you love; you’ll know what it looks like, sounds like and most certainly feels like (without the help of a bed).
I highly recommend this and it is surely worth more than a second read; reread it as often as life allows. It’s kind of like insurance and you are as always, your greatest investment.
October 23, 2018
The best advice book I have read in a long time!!!!
I have been following Derrick Jaxn on Facebook for a while. His advice is always real and applies to current situations and actual real couples. I was interested in reading this book, but never thought that I would be not only reading it in just 2 days but also highlighting a lot of paragraphs and sharing them with my girlfriends and my feed. He gives us a new perspective on familiar situations, his advice is real and will work when applied consistently. I have recommended this book to my best friends already.
I have been following Derrick Jaxn on Facebook for a while. His advice is always real and applies to current situations and actual real couples. I was interested in reading this book, but never thought that I would be not only reading it in just 2 days but also highlighting a lot of paragraphs and sharing them with my girlfriends and my feed. He gives us a new perspective on familiar situations, his advice is real and will work when applied consistently. I have recommended this book to my best friends already.
March 15, 2020
This book was no near what I was expecting it to be. Most of the information in the book has been already discussed at his online videos except his relationship with his wife which I don’t think it is very relevant to what he was talking about or I cared to know.
June 16, 2020
Well rounded book. Took you through his life story and his mature conclusions that came from it. A must read for any person that wants to level up and take their love life seriously.
October 8, 2018
Love, love, love!!!
This book was a such a great read. What I loved most about it is how it relates to me. I’ve been through half the things mentioned and is still going through new obstacles in my life regarding dating and relationships. I am currently working on myself in the single phase working on my own healing and discovering who I am. This book encourages me that I’m on the right path. I would 100% recommend this book to both men and women. Not only did the author speak directly to me because there were many topics I already knew but I also learned many things. This book was great and I plan on buying the paperback copy as well and gifting it to those I thought of while reading. Thank you Derrick Jaxn!
This book was a such a great read. What I loved most about it is how it relates to me. I’ve been through half the things mentioned and is still going through new obstacles in my life regarding dating and relationships. I am currently working on myself in the single phase working on my own healing and discovering who I am. This book encourages me that I’m on the right path. I would 100% recommend this book to both men and women. Not only did the author speak directly to me because there were many topics I already knew but I also learned many things. This book was great and I plan on buying the paperback copy as well and gifting it to those I thought of while reading. Thank you Derrick Jaxn!
June 20, 2019
I discovered Derrick’s YouTube channel like a year ago. I instantly fell in love with his point of view and how he values women. Which is the main reason I subscribed to his channel and I punched the book. This book help me understand why my relationships failed and most importantly why my last relationship didn’t last. After the breakup I didn’t get the closure I needed from my partner; I experienced anxiety and early symptoms of depression. I’ve started my new journey of strengthening myself and practicing faith, but I also wanted to learn about things that I can avoid, save some time and protect my heart. Thank God he wrote chapters like “Mistakes Women Make on the First Few dates”, “Recognizing a Good Man” “Unconditional Love is Dangerous” etc. because now I can see red flags, I can see things I tolerated; things I justified in my past.
This book also helped me understand how important is to heal and get back on your feet by yourself. Being single ain’t a bad thing, it’s an opportunity to evolve and grow. Creating your personal space, growing emotionally, mentally and financially is the best way to prepare yourself for upcoming blessings.
And let’s not forget, Derrick’s advocacy for self love and self respect, that will open your eyes and remind you of how amazing you are. So I recommend...
Get your copy! He’s the GOAT!!
This book also helped me understand how important is to heal and get back on your feet by yourself. Being single ain’t a bad thing, it’s an opportunity to evolve and grow. Creating your personal space, growing emotionally, mentally and financially is the best way to prepare yourself for upcoming blessings.
And let’s not forget, Derrick’s advocacy for self love and self respect, that will open your eyes and remind you of how amazing you are. So I recommend...
Get your copy! He’s the GOAT!!
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October 8, 2018
Couldn't put it down!
I got this book and could not put it down! Derrick's storytelling style is powerful and compelling. He speaks mainly from his own experience. I was looking for help with self-love and it was part of the entire book. I would highly recommend this book to anyone seeking to find a healthy relationship or strengthen an existing one. This is the first book I have ever felt compelled to review. I am an avid reader.
I got this book and could not put it down! Derrick's storytelling style is powerful and compelling. He speaks mainly from his own experience. I was looking for help with self-love and it was part of the entire book. I would highly recommend this book to anyone seeking to find a healthy relationship or strengthen an existing one. This is the first book I have ever felt compelled to review. I am an avid reader.
August 31, 2020
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06/18/2020
Unable to cancel $37/month subscription. Website links to a bogus site for cancellations. Derrick Jaxon has been billing my debit card since November 2019 of $37/month. I have been attempting to cancel the subscription; however, there is no way to contact the company. There is a link on the website on which one is to click to cancel the subscription or send an email to cancel the subscription, but it is a bogus link. It comes up as unavailable. I am trying to stop the monthly payments
Whom It May Concern
Please be aware that this product, called the Self Crowned Gold VIP membership (free trial) 29.99/ month with a 14 day trial, is at the very least tricky and at the most could be construed misleading.
I was pleased to find it, because it states that:.
If a person signs up for a free membership and cancels before the 14 day trial, the new member will not be charged if done within that time period. I followed the instructions on how to cancel the membership by submitting information at https://www.youvecometoofartoquitonyo....
The advertising advises the following:
"Cancellation requests submitted at least 72 hours before billing period will not be charged, IF it is during the 72 hours before free trial period has ended FOR FULL REFUND FOR SHIPPING COST." Terms and conditions- Self Crowned with Derrick Jaxn.
Happy with the promise, I tried it out and quit after 20 minutes, informing the company that I was cancelling.
I was told that because I used the membership and/ or signed in that "Google was not willing to refund my account after finding that I had actually used the service." If you logged into the application, you used the service, regardless if it was during the trial or not so there actually was no lie on our end." Derrick Jaxn staff and/or Derrick Jaxn.
It is obvious that this company did not notify Google of their promise, which smacks of misrepresentation or falseness in advertising.
This entire statement contradicts the notion of free membership is. Obviously, signing in or up for trial membership doesn't mean that you are supposed to be charged, based solely on their wording. Free is free, and the idea that it IS free is in the context that the trial will convince you the membership is something you would want.
This brings us to the second point. After saying I owe them under a free membership == the company replied that my account wasn't found. Then how can they say I was even a member? Because it was a TRIAL MEMBERSHIP. The company then tells me I should have canceled -- in a Google play store -- yet that process was not offered in its ad. This hook 'em and hold 'em process should be noted.
Google agent wrote: Google Play store just acts as a storefront to all the third party apps, only the app developer will have access to the app server and payments
https://www.bbb.org/us/ga/cumming/pro...
Derrick Jaxn 29 complaints on BBB
06/18/2020
Unable to cancel $37/month subscription. Website links to a bogus site for cancellations. Derrick Jaxon has been billing my debit card since November 2019 of $37/month. I have been attempting to cancel the subscription; however, there is no way to contact the company. There is a link on the website on which one is to click to cancel the subscription or send an email to cancel the subscription, but it is a bogus link. It comes up as unavailable. I am trying to stop the monthly payments
Whom It May Concern
Please be aware that this product, called the Self Crowned Gold VIP membership (free trial) 29.99/ month with a 14 day trial, is at the very least tricky and at the most could be construed misleading.
I was pleased to find it, because it states that:.
If a person signs up for a free membership and cancels before the 14 day trial, the new member will not be charged if done within that time period. I followed the instructions on how to cancel the membership by submitting information at https://www.youvecometoofartoquitonyo....
The advertising advises the following:
"Cancellation requests submitted at least 72 hours before billing period will not be charged, IF it is during the 72 hours before free trial period has ended FOR FULL REFUND FOR SHIPPING COST." Terms and conditions- Self Crowned with Derrick Jaxn.
Happy with the promise, I tried it out and quit after 20 minutes, informing the company that I was cancelling.
I was told that because I used the membership and/ or signed in that "Google was not willing to refund my account after finding that I had actually used the service." If you logged into the application, you used the service, regardless if it was during the trial or not so there actually was no lie on our end." Derrick Jaxn staff and/or Derrick Jaxn.
It is obvious that this company did not notify Google of their promise, which smacks of misrepresentation or falseness in advertising.
This entire statement contradicts the notion of free membership is. Obviously, signing in or up for trial membership doesn't mean that you are supposed to be charged, based solely on their wording. Free is free, and the idea that it IS free is in the context that the trial will convince you the membership is something you would want.
This brings us to the second point. After saying I owe them under a free membership == the company replied that my account wasn't found. Then how can they say I was even a member? Because it was a TRIAL MEMBERSHIP. The company then tells me I should have canceled -- in a Google play store -- yet that process was not offered in its ad. This hook 'em and hold 'em process should be noted.
Google agent wrote: Google Play store just acts as a storefront to all the third party apps, only the app developer will have access to the app server and payments
January 20, 2019
Because You Don’t Have Anything To Lose
...Read this book. Oh My Lord! The hardest part about this book is how soon should a young lady read it, being the mother of a soon to be 15 year old. But the answer is ‘as soon as she can listen’. For example, if a woman reads it then she can speak greatness into her daughter and son for that matter. Instead of TV, this could very well be many conversation starters among parents, lovers, friends, cool ex’s (lol), and much more. Man to Man conversation about some of these topics would be ground breaking though, honestly. If I had read this book before my marriage, I probably wouldn’t have entered it secretly feeling “too strong” because society (especially when you’ve grown up in the hood) has a funny way of making women feel bad for acquiring the knowledge and skill of being wholesome, sexy, assertive, and unapologetic. This read is straight to the point: Men, IF you find a good woman chances are that you have been blessed to GROW and have PARTNERSHIP with a brilliant soul. Women, IF you are a good woman chances are that all the men know that...and it’s YOU knowing your self worth that’s going to make way for you to recognize the potential provider for you because you will be content without having him IF he is not pushing for growth and partnership with you. This book is for everyone! Especially everyone I know. I would give it 10 stars if I could. Book club here we come! Thankful this gem was shared!
...Read this book. Oh My Lord! The hardest part about this book is how soon should a young lady read it, being the mother of a soon to be 15 year old. But the answer is ‘as soon as she can listen’. For example, if a woman reads it then she can speak greatness into her daughter and son for that matter. Instead of TV, this could very well be many conversation starters among parents, lovers, friends, cool ex’s (lol), and much more. Man to Man conversation about some of these topics would be ground breaking though, honestly. If I had read this book before my marriage, I probably wouldn’t have entered it secretly feeling “too strong” because society (especially when you’ve grown up in the hood) has a funny way of making women feel bad for acquiring the knowledge and skill of being wholesome, sexy, assertive, and unapologetic. This read is straight to the point: Men, IF you find a good woman chances are that you have been blessed to GROW and have PARTNERSHIP with a brilliant soul. Women, IF you are a good woman chances are that all the men know that...and it’s YOU knowing your self worth that’s going to make way for you to recognize the potential provider for you because you will be content without having him IF he is not pushing for growth and partnership with you. This book is for everyone! Especially everyone I know. I would give it 10 stars if I could. Book club here we come! Thankful this gem was shared!
January 13, 2022
After the self-proclaimed relationship guru had his infidelity scandals last year it made me really question all the advice I'd spent years absorbing so I finally decided to read the book out of curiosity. I had bought this book a couple of years ago when I found out about him on IG, he would answer fan questions and react to viral relationship videos. This book was similar to the way he would talk in those videos, it wasn't written in a storytelling or descriptive voice but more so as someone who is talking to you. Although he makes some valid points regarding relationships some of it felt isolating to his partner, there were relationship rules they both had, he was very big on privacy and allowing friends to give her advice. After learning of his indiscretions, I can see why. A lot of this book was giving his own examples of instances when men failed women because they were too immature or unfaithful or broken. He included his own romantic experiences and his other male friends/colleagues, sometimes he'd throw in hypotheticals just for the fun of it. He talked a lot about his current wife which did stretch on, it wasn't a long book but boy did it feel long. It got kind of hard to read 3/4 of the way in, you could tell he just wanted to get it over with and finish the damn thing. Overall, it was okay, he talks more about relationships do's and don't's than self love, it's not the most informative book on relationship advice or self-help.
May 17, 2020
I am a total fan of Derrick Jaxn and I probably only started watching his YouTube channel in the last 6 months. I thought this book would be perfect since I am newly single after a 3 year relationship and I am on a “self” journey (self love, self esteem, self worth, self respect). His book is the first of many I have purchased to read for “self help”. Honestly I expected more from the book, I don’t really feel like it’s a self help book; maybe that wasn’t his intention in the first place. He did have some good tips in the book I highlighted and will reflect back on. I especially enjoyed reading about his situation with his wife and how he had to prepare himself for her by pretty much “growing up” into the man he is destined to be. I feel like this book was more about his journey and offering advice he has learned as opposed to self love that he is promoting. I feel like a different title would have been more appropriate than “Don’t forget your crown”. I love the title but it’s a bit misleading. The language in the book is also a bit complex, I read another review that stated she had to keep reading certain paragraphs. I literally had the same problem. He makes a lot of comparisons that weren’t always easy to understand initially. He also has opinions that I didn’t necessarily agree with but I respect his opinion. He’s a man and I understand men are wired differently.
March 25, 2020
Awesome read
This has been an awesome read. I have been married for 27 years and over the past three years, I have been struggling with many feelings about my husband and marriage. Over the past year, I made a conscious decision to truly take a look at myself and make some changes to become a better woman. Your book has opened my eyes and some ways validated or just provided a better understanding of why I accepted the things I did throughout my marriage. I am a 51 year old woman and have evolved into understanding myself for the first time in my life and marriage. I have been following you for awhile and everything that you talk about resonates with me in some form or fashion. Thank you Derrick Jackson for sharing this god given gift you have bestowed upon the world. You have touched my life in a way I didn't expect and your many messages on your social media platforms are outstanding. Thank you . Keep writing and god bless you and your family. This book was AMAZING!!
This has been an awesome read. I have been married for 27 years and over the past three years, I have been struggling with many feelings about my husband and marriage. Over the past year, I made a conscious decision to truly take a look at myself and make some changes to become a better woman. Your book has opened my eyes and some ways validated or just provided a better understanding of why I accepted the things I did throughout my marriage. I am a 51 year old woman and have evolved into understanding myself for the first time in my life and marriage. I have been following you for awhile and everything that you talk about resonates with me in some form or fashion. Thank you Derrick Jackson for sharing this god given gift you have bestowed upon the world. You have touched my life in a way I didn't expect and your many messages on your social media platforms are outstanding. Thank you . Keep writing and god bless you and your family. This book was AMAZING!!
April 14, 2019
I picked this book up from my local library and thought the title on the cover was very interesting. Reading this book I realized that I ignore a lot of the red flags that were mentioned in the book. I will not say that I was blind to all of them, but most of them I was and chose to stay in the relationship. Looking back now on the failures that I endured I will say that I am a much smarter woman now than I was in the past. I think I will purchase a copy of this book so that I can reference back on things that were mentioned. One quote that opened my spirit was when Derrick stated "If it's an old flame, it needs to be out out or will eventually burn down the new house you're trying to build." I found myself focusing on this because I almost found myself doing this same thing he mentioned.
This was a very interesting book to read for me now I have found myself going through self-love now before I can begin to love anyone else again.
This was a very interesting book to read for me now I have found myself going through self-love now before I can begin to love anyone else again.
November 4, 2018
Babie, dont forget your crown!
I wasn't meant to be buying new books till I finished what I was reading, but then you had to go mentioning it on your social media. I bought it before it was released and was counting down the days till I got it on my Kindle. Thank you. Reading it just helped me reaffirm my present state of being single. It's for me a d not them. They get to benefit from this time of self-love. I agreed with most of what you said, they are things I tell my friends all the time. Then there were those things that struck a nerve and had me pausing and staring into space a while. I keep mentioning it to my sister....she thinks I'm crazy.
P.S. I'm glad your story with Da'Naia had a happy ending.
Keeping doing what you are doing and letting God use you Derrick. Thank you.
I wasn't meant to be buying new books till I finished what I was reading, but then you had to go mentioning it on your social media. I bought it before it was released and was counting down the days till I got it on my Kindle. Thank you. Reading it just helped me reaffirm my present state of being single. It's for me a d not them. They get to benefit from this time of self-love. I agreed with most of what you said, they are things I tell my friends all the time. Then there were those things that struck a nerve and had me pausing and staring into space a while. I keep mentioning it to my sister....she thinks I'm crazy.
P.S. I'm glad your story with Da'Naia had a happy ending.
Keeping doing what you are doing and letting God use you Derrick. Thank you.
November 22, 2018
It was beautiful
I had always wanted to buy a book by Derrick Jaxn but I was unsure about this one because I thought it was a relationship advice book. Luckily this book is not a manual on what to do and what not to do but more like who to be and how to value yourself. It is about growth and self love and how to have that in the context of a relationship. It has provoked a need in me to find out more about my personality, about how to better love myself and how to have self control. I leave this book and I am going straight to looking for more books on self love and care. I love the idea that in his relationship he seeks professional counsel only. I will certainly be taking that because where you get advice is very , not everyone should be privy of advising you. I hope he writes another one on self love!
I had always wanted to buy a book by Derrick Jaxn but I was unsure about this one because I thought it was a relationship advice book. Luckily this book is not a manual on what to do and what not to do but more like who to be and how to value yourself. It is about growth and self love and how to have that in the context of a relationship. It has provoked a need in me to find out more about my personality, about how to better love myself and how to have self control. I leave this book and I am going straight to looking for more books on self love and care. I love the idea that in his relationship he seeks professional counsel only. I will certainly be taking that because where you get advice is very , not everyone should be privy of advising you. I hope he writes another one on self love!
July 27, 2019
Amazing!!!
Favorite part in book: Protecting your relationship from the inside out will start with you. First, with self-loving yourself so deeply, consistently, and faithfully that those who want your love can only have what’s left over after your cup has already run over, which that will be more than enough. It starts with self and continues through each level of your life, new career, and new person you decide to allow in your circle to enjoy and maximize the happiness you’ve worked so hard to create. The lessons you learned along the way and the scars you’ve endured that represent what could not stop you are now a measurement of the royalty you are and standard for which you deserve to be treated. It’s because of that, you’re not in need of someone to bestow you your crown; you’ve already earned it, and it’s simply your responsibility to never forget it.
Favorite part in book: Protecting your relationship from the inside out will start with you. First, with self-loving yourself so deeply, consistently, and faithfully that those who want your love can only have what’s left over after your cup has already run over, which that will be more than enough. It starts with self and continues through each level of your life, new career, and new person you decide to allow in your circle to enjoy and maximize the happiness you’ve worked so hard to create. The lessons you learned along the way and the scars you’ve endured that represent what could not stop you are now a measurement of the royalty you are and standard for which you deserve to be treated. It’s because of that, you’re not in need of someone to bestow you your crown; you’ve already earned it, and it’s simply your responsibility to never forget it.
March 24, 2020
Insightful and self love 💘
I choose to read this book after debating on dating after being divorced for 2 yrs. I knew I wanted to heal and not rush into a relationship this book is apart of my self love movement. This book help me see some of the mistakes I made with my ex husband I ignored many red flags thinking he would change. You have me a little hope on not giving up on men. Because seriously having standards these days doesn't mix well with just being friends. Some men are just so bold these day they will flat out ask what they want and what they will do to you. It's not a turn on, all I can do I SMH and not answer DM's. Anyway I feel there was a balance of point of views in this book, you shared what women had to say. So I wouldn't change anything about this book. I'm so happy for you and your wife. Thanks so much for your insight.
I choose to read this book after debating on dating after being divorced for 2 yrs. I knew I wanted to heal and not rush into a relationship this book is apart of my self love movement. This book help me see some of the mistakes I made with my ex husband I ignored many red flags thinking he would change. You have me a little hope on not giving up on men. Because seriously having standards these days doesn't mix well with just being friends. Some men are just so bold these day they will flat out ask what they want and what they will do to you. It's not a turn on, all I can do I SMH and not answer DM's. Anyway I feel there was a balance of point of views in this book, you shared what women had to say. So I wouldn't change anything about this book. I'm so happy for you and your wife. Thanks so much for your insight.
April 17, 2020
Living and Learning, Learning and Growing
I rate this read five stars. Mr. Jackson uses the vulnerability of his life experience to mentor and provide a sense of encouragement to women and also men. To the men who assess themselves and seek to take the steps necessary to "be ready" oppose to "getting ready" for their Queen, this is a guideline to adhere to. I started listening to Mr. Jaxn in 2017 and at first, I thought all he did was man bash until I listened again with an open mind. I thought he was a guy who portrayed himself as the perfect man for any woman for a while until I saw that he is human too. Because this book captures his true self and as he opened up about his faults, I was able to connect and understand more of what he was saying. This is an awesome book one I intend to practice consistently. I look forward to reading the additional chapters.
I rate this read five stars. Mr. Jackson uses the vulnerability of his life experience to mentor and provide a sense of encouragement to women and also men. To the men who assess themselves and seek to take the steps necessary to "be ready" oppose to "getting ready" for their Queen, this is a guideline to adhere to. I started listening to Mr. Jaxn in 2017 and at first, I thought all he did was man bash until I listened again with an open mind. I thought he was a guy who portrayed himself as the perfect man for any woman for a while until I saw that he is human too. Because this book captures his true self and as he opened up about his faults, I was able to connect and understand more of what he was saying. This is an awesome book one I intend to practice consistently. I look forward to reading the additional chapters.
April 26, 2020
A true conversation about real life and love
Derrick Jackson has created a simple, conversational and real story-type advice book that can help others to see what needs to be done to be successful in self-awareness and love.
To be honest, I did not necessarily learn anything that I didn’t know. But, knowing things does not mean that we actually use them for our best interest. His examples and honest take on things serves as a reminder of how we need to love and respect ourselves and teach others to do the same - this includes friends and family.
Thank you, Derrick. Thank you for reminding me of what I already knew and for the wake up call that really helped me through something I have been struggling with for the past six months. I look forward to reading your other books.
Derrick Jackson has created a simple, conversational and real story-type advice book that can help others to see what needs to be done to be successful in self-awareness and love.
To be honest, I did not necessarily learn anything that I didn’t know. But, knowing things does not mean that we actually use them for our best interest. His examples and honest take on things serves as a reminder of how we need to love and respect ourselves and teach others to do the same - this includes friends and family.
Thank you, Derrick. Thank you for reminding me of what I already knew and for the wake up call that really helped me through something I have been struggling with for the past six months. I look forward to reading your other books.
November 3, 2018
While reading this book it brought me back to my past relationships and I started to notice the red flags everywhere. I thought it was one of the best books I’ve ever read. It is brutally honest, thought provoking, and insightful in a significant way. The author did a great job on waking up my senses and knowledge that I already had but never cared to pay attention to. I would recommend this read to all women and men as well. I liked how he explained the difference between a man and a boy, someone serious with life goals vs someone that’s fine with just getting comfortable and being selfish. I would give this book 5/5! Every young girl should read it! Every man should also read it and take note!
February 2, 2019
Recognizing and finding yourself
This book reinforced a lot of things that I have come to realize about how the opposite sex operates. It has helped me to realize that my self-worth is not bending to others ideation of me. I believed in loving myself but as soon as a man that I really like comes into my orbit, I lose myself in the shuffle over time. This book is the catalyst for helping me to realize that some things in my life aren't negotiable and that I have to consistently love myself throughout my relationships. One of the things that shook me was that I have to stop giving more than I'm receiving. I am learning to value my worth and not let others redefine it for me.
This book reinforced a lot of things that I have come to realize about how the opposite sex operates. It has helped me to realize that my self-worth is not bending to others ideation of me. I believed in loving myself but as soon as a man that I really like comes into my orbit, I lose myself in the shuffle over time. This book is the catalyst for helping me to realize that some things in my life aren't negotiable and that I have to consistently love myself throughout my relationships. One of the things that shook me was that I have to stop giving more than I'm receiving. I am learning to value my worth and not let others redefine it for me.
January 17, 2021
I read this book at a point that I had matured enough to criticize the content. And while that was not that was not my intent at all, as I’m always open to learning from others, I think that when men start to structure books in a way that give women advice and tools for mating with and relating to men, it gets a bit redundant. I think there were some valuable lessons shared by Derrick, however, I’m not impressed with the delivery and structure as it relates to trying to encourage women. I again think the lessons he’s learned and shared are valuable, but in my opinion, the book would have been of more value to me, if it had been structured in way that was not focused on helping/educating women. There’s always a factor of lack of fully understanding women with books of this kind...
February 17, 2021
Let me start this review by mentioning that I really appreciate Derrick Jaxn. I think that more man and woman should start learning from him.
His advices and opinions come from a person who took the time to know himself and understand what behavior, qualities and values will bring joy and happiness into a relationship.
Listening to his videos online, before buying the book made me give the 4*. The book is very good and well structured but because I know his vibe and the way he sends a message I did not sense his energy in this book.
Nothing to comment on the content: well structured and with plenty examples to get the idea. On my side everything there is common sense. I did had some notes on: Narcissistic red flags - In my opinion this was the best chapter.
His advices and opinions come from a person who took the time to know himself and understand what behavior, qualities and values will bring joy and happiness into a relationship.
Listening to his videos online, before buying the book made me give the 4*. The book is very good and well structured but because I know his vibe and the way he sends a message I did not sense his energy in this book.
Nothing to comment on the content: well structured and with plenty examples to get the idea. On my side everything there is common sense. I did had some notes on: Narcissistic red flags - In my opinion this was the best chapter.
December 19, 2018
I have to say that I was not expecting such a deep journey of his romantic life, but he wrote it so eloquently while providing beautiful self love advice. This is not a "how to get a man" book. It all about trusting yourself and loving yourself enough to know when to walk away and when it's worth staying. It was a very different, but enlightening read for me. The author wrote this book in way that both men and women can read this book. I finished this book in one sitting. I highly recommend this book. I don't normally write reviews, but I felt compelled to write one for this book. Please come out with an audiobook/audible.
December 24, 2018
Agree to Disagree
This is a good book if your ideals about relationships, falls in line with the authors views. I didn't feel like it focused on women loving themselves as much as it did with how to spot and deal with relationships that aren't healthy or a good fit. I was curious to see if what Mr. Jaxn said was different from what many say, it wasn't. Don't take my review as the answer to whether or not you should read it. Everyone should make that decision by actually reading the book, not the review. Tastes are different, views are different, what each of us seeks is different. Just didn't vibe with me.
This is a good book if your ideals about relationships, falls in line with the authors views. I didn't feel like it focused on women loving themselves as much as it did with how to spot and deal with relationships that aren't healthy or a good fit. I was curious to see if what Mr. Jaxn said was different from what many say, it wasn't. Don't take my review as the answer to whether or not you should read it. Everyone should make that decision by actually reading the book, not the review. Tastes are different, views are different, what each of us seeks is different. Just didn't vibe with me.
January 6, 2019
Very good. Solid, powerful content
I liked very much how it was “raw and real” I would have liked less on cheating and more on other issues, however I’m fortunate to not have that issue in myself or my partner so my focus was on other things. Namely how to improve my understanding of how to get needs met without being prey to social conditioning from movies romance books etc and how to be more understanding of a real, flawed, thoughtful and loving human being in our relationship at its weakest connection moments. There was solid improvement points for what I needed, I just wanted more 😝
I liked very much how it was “raw and real” I would have liked less on cheating and more on other issues, however I’m fortunate to not have that issue in myself or my partner so my focus was on other things. Namely how to improve my understanding of how to get needs met without being prey to social conditioning from movies romance books etc and how to be more understanding of a real, flawed, thoughtful and loving human being in our relationship at its weakest connection moments. There was solid improvement points for what I needed, I just wanted more 😝
April 5, 2019
Insightful young man
You have done your research well and listened to your calling. Your respect and understanding of human beings is refreshing and honorable. You have a generational approach and appeal that many should be able to relate to. There were a few points that you'd made that were a little harsh and seemingly unfair because they appeared to include a whole generation of people and not just the ones you'd encountered. The bottom line is what brings it all home though, and that is understanding the and implementing the title "DON'T FORGET YOUR CROWN: Half-Life has everything to do with it." Great read.
You have done your research well and listened to your calling. Your respect and understanding of human beings is refreshing and honorable. You have a generational approach and appeal that many should be able to relate to. There were a few points that you'd made that were a little harsh and seemingly unfair because they appeared to include a whole generation of people and not just the ones you'd encountered. The bottom line is what brings it all home though, and that is understanding the and implementing the title "DON'T FORGET YOUR CROWN: Half-Life has everything to do with it." Great read.
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