Prayer is about relationship. And more important, it's about friendship with God.
THIS IS HOW WE PRAY departs from other works on prayer in that it does not overwhelm the reader with technical knowledge, nor does it prescribe particular devotional practices. Instead, this book offers a unique and needed perspective on prayer, inviting you into a more intimate friendship with God. Through personal anecdotes, biblical stories, ancient wisdom, and modern insights from spiritual writers, interior designers, and even cooking documentaries, this book looks at how we feel when we try to connect to God through prayer. And how these feelings can direct us towards a more intimate and satisfying life of prayer. God meets us where we are, in the midst of our everyday feelings, struggles, and weaknesses. THIS IS HOW WE PRAY is an invitation to experience fuller communion with Him-more peace, more serenity, and more assurance through your prayers.
Prayer remains elusive to so many of us and I think many of us wonder if God is hearing us. Adam Dressler's new book, This is How We Pray, addresses so many struggles that Christians have with prayer.
This is How We Pray is divided into 15 chapters relating to prayer and God. Chapters address building a sort of friendship in praying with God, addressing the guilt that is often in our hearts, and how so many of us worry instead of praying, among other issues. The last chapter, Simple, offers practical steps to consider in making your prayer life better: Talk to Jesus like a friend, Listening to God, praying briefly but often and other truly practical ideas for bettering your prayer life.
This is How We Pray is written in such a way that I truly enjoyed reading it. Dressler made me think and yet I never felt like he was above me. This book felt like a breath of encouraging air to my prayer life. I have read several books on prayer and I think each one has been helpful, but I have to say this one ranks in my top three favorites. I felt like I truly got something out of this book. I appreciated his references to Scripture and to other Spiritual leaders as well as the stories he shared from his own life. I also truly felt encouraged to do prayer a little differently in my own life. I especially liked the chapter on Others. In this chapter, Dressler encourages us to experience empathy for those we pray for and to let that change our prayers. I think this one thing especially will change my prayers. I would encourage any Christian wanting to improve their prayer life to read This is How We Pray.
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Wow, a beautifully written book of how to talk to God as your friend. Talking with “God” your friend as a confidante and not be intimidated. Easy to understand and relate as an everyday relationship develops and grows through friendship.
Adam’s writing captured me; his description of the many personal struggles that we all let affect our prayer life and/or the intimate relationship God desires with his creation - is spot on.
Personally, God used this book to highlight the need “to become the kind of person who can see God in every distraction; the need to have a heart that yields to God as a King, instead of wanting to be it’s own king; and the need to simply be silent and provide God an opportunity to speak into my life.”
An excellent book, beautifully written and edited. The author tells his own story, highly relatable to young parents. He speaks of the challenges of Christian living while raising small children and dealing with 21st century life. Better yet, Dressler slips in an introduction to many of the major Christian theologians and writers, from antiquity to the present (Augustine to C.S. Lewis to Anne Lamott).
This would be a terrific book for people who are new-ish to Christianity - not exactly brand new but who are still learning the basics of Christian thought and practice. Excellent for post-confirmation small groups or young adults.
About: The chapters here were sectioned based on our different approaches when coming to God in prayer. It addresses praying in the face of busyness, guilt, gratitude, repentance, from a place of disappointment, praying for others, when we feel out of control, or asking for help to forgive. And each chapter offers encouragement to stand firm in prayer.
- Busyness/ distractions Most of us want to make prayer a priority in our lives because we want to love God. But we find that prayer would be so much easier if we didn't have to deal with kids to care for, marriages to work on, work that needs to get done, and mowing the lawn. Dressler encourages us to ask ourselves: Who put these kids in my house that wake up early and demand their milk? Who gave me this job and all these problems that need to be solved? The answer is, God did. God gave us every boundary, constraint, and reality that is in our life. With every distraction, pray to find out what God wants to say to you through the life he is giving you. Because God can speak through distractions (lawn mower experience), nothing is empty.
- Gratitude Sin stems from ingratitude towards God's provision for our lives. Think about how the fall of man happened. And so when we struggle to know what to pray, gratitude is probably the best place to start. Gratitude gives our relationship with God a centre of trust and understanding that God is a God who loves to give to his kids. And so everything he withholds from us is for his own good reason. He doesn't keep things from us because he is cruel or stingy or incompetent.
- Others We often take praying for others as a responsibility. But we can afford to slow down and pray with empathy. Before we speak to God about someone, we can ask God about him. What does it feel like for him? If we can slow down and put ourselves in someone else's position, we can get a better picture of how we can pray for them.
- Worry Happiness is a security brought about by our ability to be in control of our own lives. When we feel out of control, that's when we start worrying. We often end up giving up, or trying harder to exert our control over the situation. But God tells us to do neither of those things. Looking at the story of the widow who went to the judge to seek justice for the death of her husband, in an attempt to deal with her pain and loss. Jesus tells us that the woman remained persistent despite being turned away countless times, she kept knocking at the judge's door. The judge finally answered her request simply because he didn't want to be pestered any longer. Jesus was trying to tell us to put our trust in him when things get frustrating. And sometimes, that can be through beating down his door. That is to address not giving up. To address not trying harder to exert control, Dressler brings up the point that God doesn't save the people who try really hard to be good. He saves the people who know they can never be good enough, so they stop trying to save themselves altogether and instead open their hands to grace.
- Silence God wants us to know that he is there. We must know that even greater than our desire to speak to God is god's desire to speak to us. We must learn to quieten ourselves and give time for God to speak.
- Awareness Since God is the Creator of our world and all that is in it, he must surely be the most obvious, ubiquitous, and important reality. But because he is so obvious and ubiquitous, we so easily take his presence for granted. Because he is everywhere, we end up treating him as if he were nowhere. Hence we tend to make a distinction between "worldly things" and "godly things". Playing golf? Not God. Waiting tables on a Friday night at work? Not God. Reading a commentary about Luke's Gospel? Definitely God. The thing is, God is always beside us. What Paul might've meant to pray "without ceasing" is to acknowledge God and be aware of his presence in our lives. Turn to him now and then, because God is right there.
- Repentance We don't need to try to manufacture feelings of grief or sorrow around our repentance. Psalm 103:14 says "God knows our frame, he remembers that we are dust". God knows who we really are. We don't need to pretend that we feel worse than we really do. When we do something that goes in our own willful direction and against God's, we simply need to admit our wrongdoing and turn around. No emotions required.
- Forgiveness This chapter gave interesting insight, that there is a connection between our willingness to forgive others and God's willingness to forgive us. (Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors). Ultimately, it is good for the heart to forgive rather than swirl in toxicity.
Thoughts: Dressler gives really new perspectives and insights about prayer that encourage me to pursue God more fervently in prayer.
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Author Adam Dressler will be the first person to let you know that his book This Is How We Pray is not really a How-To Guide on how to pray. He offers the reminder many times throughout his long but absorbing book. No, This Is How We Pray is more of a meditation on prayer. It’s a book about why prayer is good when you’re hurting, why prayer is good when you seek forgiveness, why prayer is good in a myriad of other ways and for other reasons. It’s a book that takes its time to unspool its yarn. And, for that reason, it’s a book you can easily get lost in. Dressler has a very winsome and folksy way of writing, so you can simply get carried away by whatever he’s talking about — which may not be a bad thing because this is a book that if you have it on your Kindle, you’ll be making bookmarks and highlighting phrases within it, but then will promptly forget why you made that bookmark or highlighted that phrase to begin with.
Right off the bat, let’s just say that This Is How We Pray can be a confusing read. That’s not necessarily a criticism, but the book does have a tendency to prattle on and is overlong by a few chapters at least. You can tell that Dressler is a preacher because he sure loves to tell stories. Be sure that you know what you’re in for. This is a book, essentially, that is one person’s attempt to reconcile why he prays, and come up with reasons for why he doesn’t when he doesn’t. It’s a spiritual memoir, but it’s also a lengthy sermon. Or sermons. In fact, I kind of imagined that Dressler would speak each new chapter as a new sermon in his church on a given Sunday. There are, I believe, 14 or 15 chapters, so that’s about 14 or so sermons. But wait! I’m making it sound that Dressler is preachy, when that could be the furthest thing from the truth! You see, Dressler feels your pain. Having trouble having a satisfying prayer life because you’re raising four young kids? Dressler gets that! He really and truly does.
This is one of those books I received from the publisher for free in exchange for review, but to be honest, I would have been glad to have paid full price for it, and am really grateful to have found it. The reason is simple. I have read quite a few books on prayer and they have always sort of left me either wanting or feeling inadequate. They either offered "one size fits all" formulas that didn't quite fit, or they made me feel like I was an incompetent pray-er unworthy of so much. This is How We Pray is different. For starters Adam Dressler is honest to a fault about the struggles he faces in prayer. I haven't met many people who really feel like their prayer life is all it should be, and I certainly do not. It's okay, maybe even good, but it's nowhere near where I want it to be. I think the subtitle of the book sums up what Dressler and I and so many others really desire. Discovering a Life of Intimate Friendship with God.
Dressler handles this masterfully, showing us genuine friendship with God that does not diminish God's greatness, Holiness or anything else. Dressler's chapters each have a one word title that relates (mostly) to the struggles we face. He expounds on struggles such as distractions, guilt, disappointment and worry. He also deals with what friendship with God looks like as well as essential topics such as repentance and forgiveness. Using a combination of biblical, personal and literary examples, Dressler fleshes out what we face as we reach toward a deeper relationship with God. The last chapter, Simple, deals with some things to be considered, (tips?) that can be used to enhance our prayer life. It's not one size fits all, just some simple things that we can try. I loved this book and was blessed thoroughly by it. This is one of those books I will return to and read at a slower pace, so I can glean more from it. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has ever struggled with prayer and desired a more intimate walk with God.
This book is unlike any other I have read on prayer. Dressler writes about his experiences of prayer and his thoughts about them. He adds insights from the Bible and books he has read. I would describe this book as thoughts on a philosophy of prayer. It is not a how to book but I have learned more about prayer from it than many others I have read. This book has made me think about prayer, the why and how of doing it. I was surprised Dressler writes about our prayers and how they relate to our character. That gave me much to think about.
One particular aspect of the book I really like is Dressler's honesty. He writes about his feelings when he prays and nothing changes. He feels disappointed and that God is ignoring him. Yet he senses that there is a greater reality than what he is seeing and feeling. And he keeps praying. He writes on topics like pain, silence, repentance, and more.
He reminds us that we cannot know spiritual reality like we do physical reality. Yet we continue to pray to our unseen God. We continue to seek the friendship and love of God. He suggests when we get distracted we try to see God in it and ask what He wants us to learn in this situation. He writes about our wanting control and our frustration when God does not do as we think He should. He writes about a life of prayer in that we recognize the presence of God all the time.
I recommend this book to readers who are on the journey of knowing God through prayer. Perhaps you are puzzled by prayer, the doing of it or the meaning of it. You will gain insight from Dressler about simply being present with God, growing in your relationship with Him. You'll be challenged too.
I received a complimentary egalley of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.
In Adam Dressler’s introduction to “This is How We Pray,” he says “If you’re like me, prayer is something you both long to experience in a deeper way and, at the same time, ironically avoid because most of the time it just seems so hard. Because it’s in prayer that we encounter not only this grand, all powerful God, but also our frail, broken selves.” . His goal is to write to those who have struggled to find a life of prayer that satisfies them. Each chapter is a different “pressure point that, although discomforting, are actually designed to bring us closer to the God we want to know, the God we want to love.” It’s not a how to guide for how to pray better, but an exploration of why prayer is so often discouraging, and how God uses those feelings of discouragement to shape us. There are chapters on distractions, worry, silence, forgiveness, and pain, among others. . I highlighted more in this book than I typically do. Dressler is a great writer-he gets to the point without being “preachy.” He’s funny at times. He points back to the Bible. This is not for the master theologian, but for regular people like me and maybe you, who struggle with prayer, who want to have a better prayer life and to feel closer to God. I got an advanced copy on Kindle, but will also be buying the hard copy.
his Is How We Pray explores how we can initiate and grow a relationship with God through prayer. Adam Dressler writes about how prayer brings us into a friendship relationship with God. Prayer allows us to be truly ourselves with God and allowing God to further our relationship with him. Mr. Dressler also explores the ways in which we may feel unable to communicate with God: such as guilt, and distraction. Mr. Dressler also explores the way in which we may feel that our prayers aren’t answered, our disappointments and worries.
Mr. Dressler is very engaging and relatable from the first page. He documents his prayer journey and the very real struggles he has encountered. Mr. Dressler writes with an honest and relatable voice. Mr. Dressler writes about how God’s invitation to communicate with him in prayer is all we have to accept. This was very sobering to read because so many times we can feel unworthy and that we are not perfect enough to communicate with God, which is not true. God longs to hear from us.
I recommend this book to everyone. Whether you are new to prayer or if you want to deepen your understanding of prayer, read this book.
Sincerely helpful. I’ve read more than a few books on prayer, and always read them while wanting some sort of acknowledgment of the mystery of the entire idea of praying. This book seeks to put some ideas around the mystery of how I pray through distraction, pain, hurry, seasons of life, silence, and many others.
As I said at the beginning; the book is simply and beautifully HELPFUL. I can’t give it a more important summary than that word. Whether a long time Christian seeker of God, or a beginner at trying to grow a friendship with God... the entire book, every chapter is helpful and inspiring.
This is an easy to read book for Christians who may have problems on the topic of prayer. It is a down to earth reading, and which the author helps the reader on topics like what to pray, should there be a time limit, and what to do is prayers are not answered. Although a preacher, the writer gives his honest take of the problems he encounters with the topic that is helpful, and not talking down to the reader. For an in depth review go to: https://lancewrites.wordpress.com/201...
Another book on prayer! In his introduction, Dressler even brings it up - do we need another book on prayer. His approach is practical not theological. He writes, "So I'm writing to those of us (including myself) who have struggled to find a life of prayer that satisfies us, difficulties and all." Dressler encourages us to realize that prayer should be a place to learn that "all is grace." I recommend this book to those Christ-followers who want to get to that same place...all is grace.
Adam is an authentic writer and seeker of more in walking with Jesus. His writing is rich in communicating illustrations that connect the mundane, simple, beautiful, complicated, and mysterious around our connection with God through prayer. My heart affirmed “yes” about so much of this book as I look honestly at my brokenness and how I yearn for more.... from me and from God. So, I am grateful to be spurred on toward more through his writings!
Adam approaches a very difficult subject with humility, thought, and a refreshingly conversational tone. This isn’t a deep theological tome only to be studied in seminary, it is an incredibly easy to understand dive into how we come before our God in prayer.
Some good points but also does not accurately portray certain passages in the Bible (such as with Adam and Eve). Unacceptable, especially for a pastor, especially when the Bible tells you what happened.
Very well written book. Adam did a great job of sharing the importance of prayer with out making it feel elementary. I would recommend this book to anyone
This book is an in-depth look at prayer. It goes into the how's, when's, and why's of prayer. It's a lot of information, but it also has some personal stories that help to keep it interesting.
This was a really great read. I learned a lot about the types of prayers I pray. I would definitely suggest this to anyone who wants to learn more about prayer and the importance of it.
This book also reminds us of the importance of prayer despite all our distractions. This was my favorite, but most convicting chapter to read. It's so easy for me to make excuses to why I don't pray as I should. This book helped me reevaluate my priorities.
I received this book for free from NetGalley in exchange for this honest review.