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The Accidental Tsundere: Dating for Late Bloomers, Loners and Misfits
Thirty-five, newly out and...thin for the first time ever ? This should go well. Right?
You are finally ready to step into the last Dating. (Ooh, scary!)
And, imagine the only the only tools you have at your disposal are a quirky sense of humor and a new body you are still shrinking into. In your quest to get your feet wet, you find yourself surrounded by all sorts of characters who play by rules you haven't quite learned yet. You learn pretty quickly, right? (That's gonna be a no .)
Told from the blisteringly funny perspective of a black, queer geek, these stories about searching for love in the modern age will make you laugh, cringe, and nod your head in recognition. If you find that dating in the age of apps, catfishing and ghosting confuses you, pick up The Accidental Tsundere today!
You are finally ready to step into the last Dating. (Ooh, scary!)
And, imagine the only the only tools you have at your disposal are a quirky sense of humor and a new body you are still shrinking into. In your quest to get your feet wet, you find yourself surrounded by all sorts of characters who play by rules you haven't quite learned yet. You learn pretty quickly, right? (That's gonna be a no .)
Told from the blisteringly funny perspective of a black, queer geek, these stories about searching for love in the modern age will make you laugh, cringe, and nod your head in recognition. If you find that dating in the age of apps, catfishing and ghosting confuses you, pick up The Accidental Tsundere today!
161 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 25, 2018
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October 9, 2025
Este libro me dejó exactamente como lo partí leyendo, con cero ganas de tener una relación.
July 12, 2019
I bought this book because I am a late bloomer/loner/misfit. However, I didn't relate to this book. I may have enjoyed it more as an audiobook, as the writing style didn't sync with how I read as a midwestern white queer.
I did find some of her advice to be prevalent and helpful. Lots of folks have no idea how to online date gracefully. Things like, getting to know someone, how to listen and keep conversations going, and staying authentic to yourself. I think her overall message was great : Don't change yourself to fit what you think someone else wants. And her advice for avoiding fuckbo(i/y)s is on point.
1. Pop culture references go unexplained. I've never read a book that's done this, tbh. It felt jarring. Annotations in a future edition would be better.
2. The annotations that were there for name changes were trivial.
3. The book relied on the author's anecdotal experience, some of which reflected unhealthy or irrelevant behavior. She states that the man should always pay for dates, and lack of doing this to be a red flag. I'd think as a formerly-bisexual woman she'd change that up, since she doesn't hold that standard for same-sex dates.
I did find some of her advice to be prevalent and helpful. Lots of folks have no idea how to online date gracefully. Things like, getting to know someone, how to listen and keep conversations going, and staying authentic to yourself. I think her overall message was great : Don't change yourself to fit what you think someone else wants. And her advice for avoiding fuckbo(i/y)s is on point.
1. Pop culture references go unexplained. I've never read a book that's done this, tbh. It felt jarring. Annotations in a future edition would be better.
2. The annotations that were there for name changes were trivial.
3. The book relied on the author's anecdotal experience, some of which reflected unhealthy or irrelevant behavior. She states that the man should always pay for dates, and lack of doing this to be a red flag. I'd think as a formerly-bisexual woman she'd change that up, since she doesn't hold that standard for same-sex dates.
December 29, 2020
A small book with a big aim... Re-entering the dating world no matter ones age is exhilarating and clumsy. Thankfully, L.K. Bennett offers the readers sage, salient and tongue, and cheek perspectives on the journey. The book gave this reader a "meaning making" G.P.S. for the dating ride. Some stuff in the dating realm is confusing, delicious, and at times just make no sense. We are then left to roll around with it all in our heads. If we aren't careful we get stuck or we make really poor choices. The Accidental Tsundere: Dating for Late Bloomers, Loners and Misfits gives the reader some comfort, a smidgen of hopeful perspective and a good dash of humor. I found the book to be a nice departure from a lot of the generic and tone deaf self-help tomes. A Black and Queer perspective is missing from a lot of literature and media...that unique voice is missing from a lot of work focused on dating and queer topics. I am glad we have Bennett weighing in...
October 19, 2018
I enjoy non-fiction books that put you in the same room as the author. The Accidental Tsundere reads as if you were speaking with Bennett face-to-face. Some of the statements had me laughing with their sarcastic but true take on society.
As someone who had a toxic relationship years ago, I really liked that she goes into both ways of dealing with a breakup. She explains how to deal with someone who wants to maintain a friendship with you, and what to do if you don’t want to keep in touch with them. I could definitely identify with the later and I’m glad to hear that the way I handled it, was the way she advises to.
For a complete review of Bennett's book, please click the following link: https://booksmugglersden.com/2018/10/...
As someone who had a toxic relationship years ago, I really liked that she goes into both ways of dealing with a breakup. She explains how to deal with someone who wants to maintain a friendship with you, and what to do if you don’t want to keep in touch with them. I could definitely identify with the later and I’m glad to hear that the way I handled it, was the way she advises to.
For a complete review of Bennett's book, please click the following link: https://booksmugglersden.com/2018/10/...
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