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The Art of Impactful Communication: How to Genuinely and Effectively Connect, Talk to be Heard, and Create Remarkable Relationships
Break through the static and make a real impact on people. Improve your speaking and listening, and everything in-between. Communication is not just chit-chat, and it is not just the words coming out of people’s mouths. It’s like an onion with layers and layers of nuance, and the deeper you go, the more important it becomes. Learn how to utilize this powerful tool to your fullest advantage. Cultivate respect, trust, and comfort with anyone you come across. The Art of Impactful Communication is about the most important skill you can ever how to clearly communicate your thoughts and feelings, and receive the same from others. It sounds simple, but then you realize that every day is filled with misunderstandings, passive-aggression, missed opportunities, and emotional outbursts. Why? Genuine communication that leads to long-lasting relationships is rare, and it’s not easy to discover the gaps that hold us back. This book shows you the way and draws deep into both human psychology and usable tips and tricks to transform the way you relate to others. Effectively use communication to accomplish your personal and professional goals. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He’s taught direct communication skills for a number of years, and innately understands how to get below the surface with people and spark up relationships. Apply these principles parties, networking events, dates, and family get-togethers. • Learn the approach, mindset, and mental slogans for opening people up. • How to understand subtext, empathy, and everything that’s not being said. • How human psychology plays motivates clear communication practices. Learn social intelligence, empathy, and social awareness. • Validation and respect - why they are so difficult to achieve. • How to listen with intent, actively listen, and the four stages of listening. • Breaking down people’s defenses and getting personal quickly. Build fulfilling new relationships, and nurture and deepen your existing ones. People don’t have the time to give you second chances. Put your best foot forward by understanding what really matters in communication. Relationships are the key to happiness and fulfillment, and this book unlocks them. Get ready to connect by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page.
243 pages, Kindle Edition
Published July 21, 2018
About the author
Patrick King
218 books352 followersPatrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
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December 5, 2022
Perfect book….for someone in the fifth grade. As a leader, I strive to read one chapter of a leadership book daily. When I searched for leadership books on Amazon, I didn’t expect to get a book with 14 font, 1 1/2 space, and written at an elementary level.
March 31, 2026
I was extremely hopeful with this book to help with how to start up conversations. Unfortunately, that is not what I got. It was so hard getting through this because it had things that I feel are common sense. Don't over talk to manipulate conversations or interrupt someone. Hopefully I find a book that will be better at helping start conversations than this one.
April 14, 2025
Elementary, but good reminders.
March 31, 2026
It is a very good and short manual on how to treat people in your life with respect. It refers to other great books on relationships on how to.
May 24, 2025
2.5 stars
This was my least favourite Patrick King book so far. I didn't learn much from the content, and some sections were basically repeated from other books of his so they weren't even new.
I think if you are a beginner just learning some basics about how to improve your communication, this is actually a worthwhile book. However, if you're more a more experienced communication learner, this book will likely be a lot of review.
In terms of the title - "How to Genuinely and Effectively Connect, Talk to be Heard, and Create Remarkable Relationships"
Genuinely & effectively connect - 4/5
Talk to be heard - 2/5 (this book seemed way more about listening than it did about 'talking to be heard')
Create remarkable relationships - 3/5 (this book seemed more like it would help you create decent/good relationships, not 'remarkable'. It taught basic listening, conversation and communication skills--but did not include enough higher-level emotional guidance to create amazing relationships)
I actually like the points in the summary; they show the author was well-organized and gave sound advice. Sometimes it was the way he went into too much detail that was the problem, not that the content itself was bad (it wasn't).
Summary
1. Take initiative to build relationships
2. Change your goal - entertain/engage others rather than impress
3. Stay curious about others
4. Communication is sometimes indirect; subtext; have empathy
5. Be positive, give compliments, become a giver, understand the five love languages, manage negative emotions
6. Validation (what is it?), 6 step path (be present, accurately reflect emotions, guess emotions, understand in context, affirm emotions, be honest)
7. Shut up and listen (5 stages of listening--more like 5 categories, not stages)
8. "Most opinions are unnecessary or useless"
9. Dig deep by revealing more about yourself, ask deeper open-ended questions, and use topics not about you or the other person
For example, staying curious, communication is indirect, the whole "be positive" section, shut up and listen, dig deep were all review/old news for me.
The Good
"We need to look past impressing people and more toward being the person who creates comfort, familiarity, engagement and happiness" (25)
PAGE 179: GOOD PAGE
Using "you" statements to empathize/validate
The Bad
page 22: People's new friends: "They shared news and gossip while pretending to be non-judgmental." Not sure how you can assume they were 'pretending' to be non-judgmental.
The examples in this book were interesting..
"Does someone comb their hair in a particular way? When did they start to do that? What's the story behind it, and why dos it differ from your method?" (31)
I think there could have been a more relevant example used.
Subtext explained in way too much detail - page 59
"If someone says yes but they are angry, then they are probably not happy with the outcome.
If someone is serious and they say yes, then they are conflicted or probably don't care." (61)
Great jumping to conclusions for the second one - how would you even know??
"Love Languages: Keep small gifts handy, such as gum, mints or cigarettes" (94)
Cigarettes?? That's a bit of an outdated gift...
"You will creep people out if you have no normal reactions to life" (101)
"If you were to lose your job, you want to act sad and let your grief or horror show" (101)
I don't even have words to respond to these...
page 156: This language was a bit too crude
"If anyone you engage with answers your questions happily but doesn't pause to ask how you're doing, then they need to shut up more. If that's you, you're the one who needs to shut up more." (156)
All in all, I would recommend this book to BEGINNERS who have read zero or very little about how to improve their communication/conversation skills. If you don't know much about being curious about others, how to validate, love languages, giving others a chance to speak, indirect communication and how to connect deeper than surface-level topics, this book might be a good choice for you.
This was my least favourite Patrick King book so far. I didn't learn much from the content, and some sections were basically repeated from other books of his so they weren't even new.
I think if you are a beginner just learning some basics about how to improve your communication, this is actually a worthwhile book. However, if you're more a more experienced communication learner, this book will likely be a lot of review.
In terms of the title - "How to Genuinely and Effectively Connect, Talk to be Heard, and Create Remarkable Relationships"
Genuinely & effectively connect - 4/5
Talk to be heard - 2/5 (this book seemed way more about listening than it did about 'talking to be heard')
Create remarkable relationships - 3/5 (this book seemed more like it would help you create decent/good relationships, not 'remarkable'. It taught basic listening, conversation and communication skills--but did not include enough higher-level emotional guidance to create amazing relationships)
I actually like the points in the summary; they show the author was well-organized and gave sound advice. Sometimes it was the way he went into too much detail that was the problem, not that the content itself was bad (it wasn't).
Summary
1. Take initiative to build relationships
2. Change your goal - entertain/engage others rather than impress
3. Stay curious about others
4. Communication is sometimes indirect; subtext; have empathy
5. Be positive, give compliments, become a giver, understand the five love languages, manage negative emotions
6. Validation (what is it?), 6 step path (be present, accurately reflect emotions, guess emotions, understand in context, affirm emotions, be honest)
7. Shut up and listen (5 stages of listening--more like 5 categories, not stages)
8. "Most opinions are unnecessary or useless"
9. Dig deep by revealing more about yourself, ask deeper open-ended questions, and use topics not about you or the other person
For example, staying curious, communication is indirect, the whole "be positive" section, shut up and listen, dig deep were all review/old news for me.
The Good
"We need to look past impressing people and more toward being the person who creates comfort, familiarity, engagement and happiness" (25)
PAGE 179: GOOD PAGE
Using "you" statements to empathize/validate
The Bad
page 22: People's new friends: "They shared news and gossip while pretending to be non-judgmental." Not sure how you can assume they were 'pretending' to be non-judgmental.
The examples in this book were interesting..
"Does someone comb their hair in a particular way? When did they start to do that? What's the story behind it, and why dos it differ from your method?" (31)
I think there could have been a more relevant example used.
Subtext explained in way too much detail - page 59
"If someone says yes but they are angry, then they are probably not happy with the outcome.
If someone is serious and they say yes, then they are conflicted or probably don't care." (61)
Great jumping to conclusions for the second one - how would you even know??
"Love Languages: Keep small gifts handy, such as gum, mints or cigarettes" (94)
Cigarettes?? That's a bit of an outdated gift...
"You will creep people out if you have no normal reactions to life" (101)
"If you were to lose your job, you want to act sad and let your grief or horror show" (101)
I don't even have words to respond to these...
page 156: This language was a bit too crude
"If anyone you engage with answers your questions happily but doesn't pause to ask how you're doing, then they need to shut up more. If that's you, you're the one who needs to shut up more." (156)
All in all, I would recommend this book to BEGINNERS who have read zero or very little about how to improve their communication/conversation skills. If you don't know much about being curious about others, how to validate, love languages, giving others a chance to speak, indirect communication and how to connect deeper than surface-level topics, this book might be a good choice for you.
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