Král, Válečník, Kouzelník, Milovník: Čtyři mužské archetypy

by Robert L. Moore, Douglas Gillette, Jiří Krejčí (Translator)

Tato kniha se snaží znovuobjevit, posílit a podpořit mužnost v mužích. Podle autorů je mužství utvořeno čtyřmi archetypickými mužskými energiemi, které jsou všem mužům vrozené a slouží různým účelům. Aby se muž stal opravdovým, musí projít iniciací chlapce v muže a rozvinout všechny tyto síly: Krále, Válečníka, Kouzelníka i Milovníka. Zralá mužnost není mocichtivá ani násilnická, ale mocná a tvořivá. Společně s Blyovým Železným Janem měla kniha obrovský vliv na rozvoj mužského hnutí.

Robert Moore je jungiánský analytický psycholog a profesor psychologie a náboženství v Teologickém semináři v Chicagu. V Portálu vyšel sborník C. G. Jung a křesťanská spiritualita (1998), který editoval.

Douglas Gillette je mytolog a pastorační poradce.

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction, Philosophy, Self Help, Mythology, Spirituality, Personal Development

184 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1990

About the author

Robert L. Moore (August 13, 1942 - June 18, 2016) was an American Jungian analyst and consultant in private practice in Chicago, Illinois. He was the Distinguished Service Professor of Psychology, Psychoanalysis and Spirituality at the Chicago Theological Seminary; a training analyst at the C.G. Jung Institute of Chicago; and director of research for the Institute for the Science of Psychoanalysis. Author and editor of numerous books in psychology and spirituality, he lectured internationally on his formulation of a Neo-Jungian paradigm for psychotherapy and psychoanalysis. He was working on Structural Psychoanalysis and Integrative Psychotherapy: A Neo-Jungian Paradigm at the time of his death.

Dr Robert Moore was an internationally recognized psychotherapist and consultant in private practice in Chicago. Although he worked with both men and women, and was considered one of the leading therapists specializing in psychotherapy with men because of his discovery of the Archetypal Dynamics of the Masculine Self (King, Warrior, Magician, Lover). He served as Distinguished Service Professor of Psychology, Psychoanalysis and Spirituality at the Graduate Center of the Chicago Theological Seminary, and has served as a Training Analyst at the C.G. Jung Institute of Chicago. He is Co-founder of the Chicago Center for Integrative Psychotherapy.

Reviews

[N Perrin]

The book Jordan Peterson tried to write.

[Laura Oliva · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really loved this book.

First, as a disclaimer, I have found Jungian psychology fascinating since I first discovered Clarissa Pinkola-Estes's book "Women Who Run With The Wolves", back in high school. I found the idea of understanding the human condition via the archetypes found in the myths we all share very compelling, and much more helpful than "traditional" psychological analysis.

Thus disclaim-ed, this book was very helpful for me as a woman writer interested in creating believable heroes. It explores the four basic archetypes that make up the male psyche- the King, the Warrior, the Magician, and the Lover- including what each looks like in childhood, what a poorly formed version looks like, and what a fully mature, "hero-material" version looks like.

It also has a very interesting section on the "rite-of-passage" rituals that have traditionally ushered men from boyhood into manhood, which could be very helpful in designing a hero's inner journey throughout the course of a book.

Again, as a writer, this helps to provide some context when I'm trying to create a hero, or even a villain. It goes into the nuances of the male psyche that a majority of women- and, dare I say, men?- just don't understand. I know that after reading this book, the heroes I create in the future will have that much more depth to them. Excellent resource. Highly recommend!

[Mihai Rosca · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is probably going to be my longest review of any book since I've decided to include my notes on the lecture in here. For such a short book (or so it felt), the amount of notes I took seems disproportionate.

I picked this up again after I started working with Mindworks by Gary van Warmerdam. I wanted to identify some of the main archetypes having their way in my psyche and I remembered that KWML by Moore and Gillette was one good book about Young's personality archetypes.

Long story short, the book really is useful, even with a lot of new age elements in there that might throw some people off. There's a lot of insight into how we sometimes act unlike ourselves and then wonder what came over us. Even if you never practiced introspection, there a good chance you can identify some of those archetypes at work.


NOTES:

THE DIVINE CHILD
• Well being
• Joy
• Adventure
• Enjoys attention while uplifting & inspiring others
SHADOWS:
1. Tyrant
• Demands attention but does not give anything back
• Throws tantrums, fits
• Complains
• Arrogant
• Shuns responsibility
• Does not take criticism well
2. Weakling
• Perfect victim
• Always whines about something
• Never his fault

Integrating the Divine Child into your life as a man ensures that even as you get older, you still remain young at heart; this archetype keeps life feeling fresh, inspires you with a vision of your possibilities, fuels your creativity, and spurs you to adventure. A man who does not retain some of the Divine Child in him loses sight of his great potential and contents himself with being merely mediocre. Successful integration of the Divine Child archetype involves retaining a remembrance of your godlike possibilities, while at the same time having the humility to realize you’re only human after all.

THE KING MAN (evolved from the Divine Child)
• Centered, he encompasses all of the other 3 archetypes
• Decisive. He takes decisions fast and in a resolute way based on experience and his core values
• Has integrity
• Is a protector of his realm and his people
• He is a leader
• Provides order, laws and justice. This comes from within, as the king lives by the same laws and core values that he imposes
• Is inspiring to others around him
• He blesses other and under his blessing their lives flourish. This can be simply recognizing other's merits and appreciating that.
• He leaves a legacy
SHADOWS:
1. Tyrant (evolved from the Tyrant child)
• Narcissistic
• Does not know his own limits, thinks his power is infinite
• Has a scarcity mentality, things are a zero sum game
• He sees others either as threats or as objects of exploit
• Moore believes that the Weakling and Tyrant shadows work in tandem with each other. It’s very rare that a man is ruled by one and not the other. Underneath every blustering Tyrant is a scared Weakling. And underneath every cowering Weakling is a Tyrant waiting to explode.
2. Trickster (evolved from the Weakling)
• Exports decision making to others
• Moore believes that the Weakling and Tyrant shadows work in tandem with each other. It’s very rare that a man is ruled by one and not the other. Underneath every blustering Tyrant is a scared Weakling. And underneath every cowering Weakling is a Tyrant waiting to explode.

Accessing the King archetype can be done, by learning to become a leader, making a life plan, developing and integrating order and discipline into your life and doing all other things that let you access the main man archetypes, as the king is the mix of other three in most part.




THE PRECOCIOUS CHILD
• Has curiosity and wonder
• Likes reading
• Likes learning
• Wants to find out what makes the world tick
• Is introspective
• Is not cynical and teaches the world what he learned
SHADOWS:
1. Trickster
• Mischief (innocent or devious)
• Feels superior
• Deceives, manipulates, charms (Loki!!)
• Enjoys intimidating others with words (but is not prone to physical violence like the bully)
• Points out flaws in others (King's clothes)
• Envy
• He loves to destroy what others build but does not like to build
2. Dummy
• Uncoordinated
• Naïve
• Is tricky because he understands more than lets on, is a secret trickster

A man who has successfully integrated the Precocious Child archetype maintains his curiosity about the world and is dedicated to lifelong learning. He allows himself to contemplate the mysteries of life and is always seeking greater knowledge. But he does not use the accumulation of this knowledge to feel superior to others nor to manipulate and deceive them. Instead, he is devoted to sharing his insights as a mentor and teacher.


THE MAGICIAN MAN (evolved from the Precocious Child)
• Seeks knowledge and truth
• Is a master of technology
• Strategist, chess player
• Sharing with others, but specially with those who are worthy
• Understands the deeper truths of life and the link between them
• The guide, the old man that helps others (think Gandalf)
SHADOWS:
1. Manipulator (evolved from the Trickster)
• Withholds knowledge to retain power
• Tricks others into giving them money and other benefits (think internet scammer all around)
• Thinks too much and never actually lives life
• Does not relate to other human beings and is void of human relationship
2. Innocent (evolved from the Dummy)
• Wants power and fame but is unwilling to put in the work (want to have a pet but without the responsibility of taking care of it)
• Is Lazy
• Has envy and stops others also from achieving their goals

To access the magician in his fullness, create more than you consume, work with your hands, find a mentor, become a mentor, create sacred space in your life, commit to lifelong learning.





THE OEDIPAL CHILD
• romance, connection with oneself and others
SHADOWS:
1. Mama's Boy
• lives to please his mom, puts mom's desires above his own, in adulthood the repercussions are womanizing and porn abuse, searching to fill the void of a woman to fulfill his needs
2. Dreamer
• like to be alone, cuts away human relationships and lives in his dreams about the world, does not learn how to create healthy relationships

A man who has successfully integrated the Oedipal Child into his psyche understands the gentle part of being a gentleman. He can be warm, even “sweet” with others, and he can be introspective and spiritual while still keeping his feet on the ground. He isn’t afraid to tap into “feminine” energy, but he isn’t dominated by it either. He loves his mother, and has learned much from her, but he is decidedly his own man.


THE LOVER MAN (evolved from the Oedipal Child)
• Living fully and loving to live
• Feeling both physical and emotional
• Idealism
• Sensuality
• Empathy
• Creativity
• Reading body language
• Dancing
SHADOWS:
1. Addicted (evolved from the Mama's Boy)
• Eternally restless, looking for a "fix" to make him feel alive
• Constantly hooks and breaks up with girls
• Has lot of things bought on a whim. But without any structure, any overarching life philosophy to connect the things he collects, his life feels fragmentary instead of whole
• Has no defined life structure
• Becomes obsessed
2. Impotent (evolved from the Dreamer)
• Out of touch with most feelings
• Sees the world as gray
• Depressed
• Lost his passion for life
• Can seek refuge in too much structure, but that does not bring joy

The easiest way to tap into the Lover archetype is to take more time to really enjoy the stuff that brings you pleasure in life minding the traps of addiction, but cultivating the virtue of moderation and being fully present in your life.




THE HERO CHILD
• Likes crazy challenges
• Takes risks proving he "can do that"
• Values freedom
• Fights for himself only - is egocentric
• Does not know his limitations

"The Hero is usually the last of the boyhood archetypes to develop and is the peak of psychological development in boys. It is the last developmental stage before a boy transitions into manhood. According to Moore, this transformation from boy to man can only occur through the “death” of the Hero. Through initiation and rites of passage, the boy is symbolically killed only to be reborn as a man. Unfortunately, because many men in the modern West lack a rite of passage into manhood, they remain psychologically stuck in adolescence."

SHADOWS:
1. Bully
• Also believes to be invulnerable
• Is arrogant (the tyrant is also arrogant but the bully is prone to physical abuse as a result of his arrogance and envisioned superiority)
• Does not respect others
• Has inflated ego
• Is insecure and a true coward inside
2. Coward
• Avoids confrontation
• He cannot stand up for himself
• He rationalizes his cowardice as the "manlier thing to do"
• Is a conformist
• He bottles up anger as a result of his cowardice until he lashes out

The complete man must come to understand his own limitations and the true nature of the obstacles in his way; otherwise, he cannot be effective in bringing about real change. At the same time, he cannot lose heart while pushing up against those challenges, and stumble into the kind of cynical apathy that makes seeking greatness seem an impossible task and an entirely worthless endeavor. He needs to be able to sometimes take youthful risks in order to achieve his goals. If a man can pilot his ship through this Charybdis and Scylla, he can become the heroic warrior.


THE WARRIOR MAN (evolved from the Hero Child)
• Aggressively and vigorously going after what he wants
• Has a clear purpose in life
• Is mindful and always watching and observing his surroundings and his enemies
• Contemplates death and is not afraid of it
• Adaptable
• Minimalist
• Decisive
• Loyal
• Emotionally detached
• Destroys to make room for growth and change
SHADOWS:
1. Sadist (evolved from the Bully)
• Totally detached from emotional context and may be married only to their job/mission
• Cruel
• Despises the weak and weakness in general
• Creates unattainably high standards for himself and those around him
• Inside, they don't really what they want out of life and work is a distraction
2. Masochist (evolved from the Coward)
• Feels powerless
• Tries to please people around him
• Likes pain, enjoys being the martyr
• May explode when he feels he had enough into episodes of violence

To access this energy, watch movies about old warriors to see how they acted/lived/were envisioned by others in our society. Read biographies about great warriors, meditate, do things that scare you, stand up to others and learn assertiveness, find principles you abide to, learn to live in a minimalist way.

[Leah · Rating 2 out of 5]

Showing its age, this one.

This appeared at the end too, pretty much out of left field, and made me do a legitimate double-take:

"In this book we have been concerned about helping men to take responsibility for the destructiveness of immature forms of masculinity. At the same time, it is clear that the world is overpopulated with not only immature men but also tyrannical and abusive little girls pretending to be women. It is time for men--particularly the men of Western civilization--to stop accepting the blame for everything that is wrong in the world. There has been a veritable blitzkrieg on the male gender, what amounts to an outright demonization of men and a slander against masculinity."

Uh... whoa. Is it clear? This is literally the first time you've mentioned this. Where the heck did all that come from?

Things kind of go back to the way they were throughout the whole book: focused, affirmative, largely positive, and the book ends on a nice Campbellian note.

But talk about leaving me with a bad taste in my mouth. Did we really need to spend the whole book being largely innocent, and then suddenly spew that out like a repressed Men's Rights' Activist blog entry? Yeesh.

(Also, they totally misspelled Obi-Wan Kenobi as "Obe Wan Kanobe" (I *hope* this was a copyediting error) and made some weird, and some totally incorrect, assumptions about a few movie plots. If you're gonna try to make a point, and gain some pop culture cred, I suggest actually watching the movie you want to reference.)

[Ramzy Alhg · Rating 2 out of 5]

يتحدث الكتاب عن مدرسة "كارل يونج" لعلم النفس التحليلي، عن المباديء الأساسية لرسم الطريق لما يُسمى بالذكورة الناضجة.

يتمحور الكتاب حول النماذج الأربعة التي تمثل عنوان الكتاب، ملك، محارب، ساحر، محب، يصف الكتاب كل نموذج من هذه النماذج ويوضح خصائصه ومواصفاته النفسيّة، ويدعيّ بأنه الطريقة النموذجية والصحيحة والمثالية للوصول إلى الذكورة الناضجة، على الرغم من كونها طرق قديمة ولا يوجد ما يثبت فعلياً أن إتباع هذه النماذج بالضرورة سيؤدي إلى تلك النتائج التي يتحدث عنها الكتاب.

الكثير من النقاط التي أعتقد أن فهمي لها كان بطريقة مختلفة عن النموذجيّة التي يدعيها الكتاب وأتساءل.

لماذا يحاولون حشر الدين الإسلامي أو الجهاد ضمن طاقة المحارب العدواني في محاولة للخلط بين المتطرفين والمسلمين العاديين.

لماذا على الرجل أن يدافع عن نفسه ضد النسويات أو من يسميّن أنفسهن بناشطات الحقوق النسائية.

لماذا علينا أن نطور رجولتنا والتخليّ عن النماذج الأبوية القديمة التي تؤديّ في الأغلب إلى تنشئة صالحة، والنتائج العكسية لا تكاد تُقاس مع النماذج الإيجابية.

عموماً لم يعجبني هذا الطرح، ربما أكون قد أسأت فهم الكتاب أو اجترعته بشكل خاطئ، ربما أنا محق في أنه يحتاج إلى الكثير من إعادة التفكير في مثل هذا الطرح.

[Quan · Rating 2 out of 5]

Eh, I'm not the biggest fan of this book. The authors argue that in today's society, there is a crisis of masculinity because we have gotten away from ancient traditions centered around the four archetypes that make up the book title. However, their evidence is shaky at best. They describe these archetypes and their historical/cultural background well. But they don't offer many reasons why we should necessarily be following these archetypes beyond the fact that they're old and they generally sound cool sometimes. There isn't much empirical evidence to support the supposed ancient wisdom. It's seriously just like, "Shit's old. It's gotta be right." Well, guess what? Prejudice against darker-skinned people is old as shit too but that doesn't mean it's right. Sexism is old as shit but that doesn't mean it's right. Exploitation is old as shit... blah blah you get the point.

The authors also make some problematic statements. There are a couple statements that lead me to believe they may be Islamophobic. Their claim that Islam inherently tends towards aggressive Warrior energy is undermined by their conflation of mainstream Muslims with extremist jihadists. They also make dangerous though typical claims about history and sacrifices made in the name of progress, which at times seems to justify human atrocities and brutal injustice all for seeming "progress." Then in their conclusion, they start talking about a cultural attack on men and how we have to defend ourselves from feminists, which makes them sound like dumbass men's rights activists. The whole book, I'm still generally with them like, "OK, there is a crisis in masculinity. Let us turn inward." Then in the last chapter, they start blaming outer forces? Why did I just read this book? Like, are you guys seriously blaming gender equality for this "attack on men"? Maybe it's that society has progressed and men need to progress our masculinity to adapt and let go of patriarchal ways.

Still, there are some things to take away. Though I don't see much distinction between what they call Boy psychology and Man psychology, I can see the archetypes and the polar spectrum that includes the shadow sides of each archetype. The archetypes they describe are certainly familiar in everyday life. These archetypes do provide some loose guidelines for how you may want to model yourself. I personally took a lot away from the chapters on the Magician and Lover archetypes. So these archetypes can provide some guidance. Just don't expect too much from the authors.

[Jef Sneider · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book about men. It is also a book for men. Women can read it but it might make them angry. It makes some women angry just to hear about it, so be careful when you tell a woman that you are reading book about men and the masculine psyche.

Taken from work done by Carl C. Jung on the collective unconscious and subconscious archetypes, the two authors focus on men and four specific archetypes important to the development of the mature man. Published in 1990, the authors use psychoanalytic jargon and references that are now controversial, but as a man reading this book, I could relate very well to what they were saying.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover are four basic building blocks in the psych of a psychologically mature adult male. That man is adult, secure, sensitive, capable of making important decisions; able to master his own self and biology; able to master technology, special knowledge and share that knowledge with others; able to love and feel strong attachments and emotions but also able keep emotions balanced with other important aspects of life, such as family, work and health; and able to love a person, not just a sex object or disembodied body part to satisfy one's own needs. The authors use many other examples to describe the healthy mature male psyche - my list is a poor substitute for theirs.

The importance of reading this book, for a man, is to understand not just your own strengths, but especially to understand the parts of your life and personality that are underdeveloped and possibly dangerous to yourself and others, especially those you love, or think you love. At the end of the book are some exercises to help the male reader to understand the parts of his life that need further development.

I was stimulated to find this book while reading Michael D'Antonio's book about Donald Trump, "The Truth About Trump." I had previously been fascinated by what I had heard and read about the Archetypes, and I was sure that Donald Trump represented a distortion of the King. Indeed, the underdeveloped King, if too strong becomes a tyrant, and if too weak becomes an ineffective weakling (watch the movie The Lion in Winter for examples of both). Unfortunately for us, Trump exhibits many of the negative immature alternatives to King, Warrior, Magician, Lover such as "The High Chair Tyrant," "The Grandstander Bully," and "the Addicted Lover."

I started to read this book to better understand the attributes of someone else, but I ended up learning about myself, and that must be a good thing

[أمل يعقوب Amal Yaqoob · Rating 4 out of 5]

لطالما كرهت الذكور و هو ما يقلق والدتي كثيرًا (لأنها تبدأ بالتفكير في ماذا لو لم تتزوج ابنتها). لكنني للأسف، لا أستطيع أن أشرح لها لِم لا أحب الذكور (حتى أنني لم أفكر في مسألة الزواج فأنتم تعلمون الأمهات، يفكرون بحياتنا قبل أن نفكر نحن بها ثم ان اذا كان القطار متجه إلى الوجهة الخاطئة، فليرحل) لكنني وجدت هذا الكتاب وأعتقد أنه يمكن أن يشرح لها السبب.. و أعترف أن هذا الكتاب جعلني أغير الطريقة التي أرى بها الرجال، أعتقد أنني أستطيع فهمهم الآن أفضل من ذي قبل.

أنا لا أقف ضد الذكور، و أيضاً لا أقف معهم، كما أنني لا أقف مع الاناث أيضاً. (يبدوا كلامي مناقص لما قلت للتو، أليس كذلك، و لكن دعوني أبرر ذلك).
يقول الكاتب : من الواضح أن العالم مكتظ ليس فقط بالرجال غير الناضجين، بل بالفتيات غير الناضجات كذلك، المستبدات المستغلات اللواتي يتظاهرن أنهن نساء بالغات.
و يقول أيضاً : الرجال لا يجب عليهم أبداً أن يشعروا بالعار من جنسهم لمجرد أنهم رجال، بل يجب أن يركزوا على تنمينة و إنضاج أنفسهم من أجل جنسهم و جنس النساء و العالم أجمع، فالعدو لكلا الجنسين هو ليس الجنس الآخر، بل (العظمة الطفولية و الانشقاق في النفس الكلية وما يحدث نتيجة ذلك).
****
ملك محارب ساحر محب : النماذج السكولوجية الأربعة للذكر الناضج..
يعترف مؤلفون الكتاب بالكوارث التي سببها النظام الذكوري غير الناضج تجاه الإناث و تجاه المجتمع ككل. أتسائل كثيراً لم نرى الكثير من الصبيان ولا نرى رجالاً؟ لم أرى في حياتي سوى صبيان حقا؛ رجل يضرب زوجته، مدير متسلط، زوج خائن، أب يهرب من مسؤولياته تجاه اسرته، شاب مدلل و هؤلاء جميعهم لديهم شي مشترك: إنهم جميعاً صبيان، يتظاهرون أنهم رجال (والحقيقة المرة الذي لا يعرفونها هي انهم فئران).

ما الذي يجعل الذكور صبيان و لايجعلهم رجالاً؟ ما يزعج النساء، هو أن الذكور لا يريدون أن يصبحوا رجالاً! وهذا الشيء كان يستفزني دائمًا ، ولكن بعد قراءة هذا الكتاب ، تمكنت من فهم الذكور ولماذا هم على هذا النحو.
إن الرجل الذي لا يستطيع جمع شتات نفسه هو في الأساس رجل لم يحظ بفرصة للخضوع لعملية طقسية تحضره و تؤهله للرجولة، فيظل طفلاً، ليس لأنه يريد ذلك، لكن لأن لم يعلمه أحد طريقة تحويل طاقته الطفولية إلى طاقات رجولية، لم يرشده أحد إلى عامله الداخلي المليء بالإمكانات الذكورية.

و دعوني أعرض مثال ذكره الكاتب عما يعني ب(عملية طقسية تؤهله للرجولة)، في فيلم (the emerald forest)، يظهر صبي أبيض تم أسره و تربيته من قبل هنود البرازيل، و في أحد الأيام كان الصبي يلعب في النهر مع فتاة جميلة، و قد لاحظ زعيم القبيلة بفطنته أن الصبي لديه اهتمام أو إعجاب ما بالفتاة، و هذا الإعجاب الذي يعتبر من بوادر النشاط الجنسي كان إشارة للزعيم الحكيم، فجمع الزعيم بعض رجال القبيلة وزوجته على ضفاف النهر و فاجأ الزعيم ذلك الصبي تومي و هو يلعب مع الفتاه بقوله : (تومي، لقد حان وقت موتك). و بدا الجميع خائفين،
سألت الزوجة و هي حنونة كجميع الأمهات : (هل يجب عليه أن يموت؟) و أجاب الزعيم : (نعم).
المشهد التالي يدور في عتمة الليل، مع القليل من ضوء نار الحطب، و يظهر تومي و هو يعذب من رجال القبيلة الأشداء و من ثم يدفعوه بالقوة إلى الغابات الكثيفة المظلمة، و هنا يبدو و كأنه يؤكل حياً من قبل نمل الغابة الجائع و المتوحش الذي يغطي جسده.
أخيراً، تسطع الشمس ببطء، و تومي مازال على قيد الحياة، فيأخده الرجال إلي النهر ليحمموه، يزيلون النمل العالق على جسده، ثم يقول الزعيم بصوت مرتفع : (لقد مات الصبي وولد الرجل).
و من ثم يحصل الرجل-أي الصبي سابقاً- على أول تجربه روحانيه له، من خلال نبته مُهلوسة موضوعة في غيلون طويل يستنشقه من خلال أنفه، فيهلوس و تكشف هلاوسه حيوانه الروحي، نسر يحلق به في العالم الجديد للوعي الفائق فيرى - وكأنه ينظر من السماء- غابته المقدسه بكاملها و تكاملها.
ثم يسمح له أن يتزوج، لقد أصبح تومي رجلاً، و حينما يتحمل مسؤلية و هوية الرجال، ينال مرتبة عالية ضمن شجعان القبيلة، و من ثم يصبح زعيم القبيلة.

الخلاصة :من أجل أن يتخلص أي ذكر من نفسية الصبي و يحقق نفسية الرجل، يجب أن يكون هناك موت. يجب على( أنا) الصبي أن تموت، الحياة القديمة بكل ما فيها من أفعال و أفكار و مشاعر يجب أن تموت رمزياً و طقسياً لكي ينشأ الرجل.

***
كتاب لا بد من قراءته، يشرح الكتاب نماذج الذكورة الناضجة مثل: المحب، الملك، الساحر، المحارب. و الغير ناضجة كالطفل الأوديبي، الطفل مبكر النضوج، البطل، و الطفل المقدس.
يتداول الكتاب كل شخصية و جوانبها السلبية و الإيجابية، و يناقش أسباب النضوج و أسبا�� عدم النضوج. آمل أن يتمكن كل رجل من قراءة هذا الكتاب ، وكذلك النساء ، نحتاج أن نستبدل الطفولية بالنضوج، أن يتحول الصبيان إلى رجال و البنات إلى سيدات. كما نحتاج أن نفهم بعضنا البعض لكي نعيش بسلام.

[Benjamin Espen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Based on a recommendation from the Art of Manliness, I bought King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine from Bookmans. I couldn't find it at my local new bookstores, but you can find it online new or used. Since I bought it used, it took me forever to find the tiny "Men's issues" section. It was only one shelf in a rather large bookstore, but I finally found it tucked underneath the sexual self-help books. It was worth the effort.

The four archetypes show their power from the first. These are not alien ideas forced onto us. Rather, they are us, in a more pure form. The archetypes help us to see what is best in ourselves, as men. The King is the source of order, he is wise and just. The Warrior has boundless energy. He is devoted to a cause greater than himself, and fiercely loyal. The Magician is powerful and crafty, and he has the ability to detach himself from events and see more clearly. The Lover seeks beauty in all its forms, and delights in it. He can break down barriers and empathize with everyone.

This book is valuable for anyone who wants to know what it is to be a man. It is also valuable if you are interested in understanding depictions of masculinity, both positive and negative. I can easily think of people I know, or situations I have found myself in, and immediately see the application of these archetypes of masculinity.

Moore and Gillette are definitely children of their age: the Age of Aquarius. With that in mind, I found the chapter on the Lover the most unbalanced. This is the chapter that is the least burdened with scholarship or historical accuracy. It is also the least aware of the negative side of the archetype. The chapter on the King went into great depth on the bipolar shadow Kings, the Tyrant, and the Weakling. The chapter on the Lover talked about the Addicted Lover and the Impotent Lover, but many of the examples used for the Lover per se were really just as bad as the shadow forms. Given that the Lover is the spirit of the age, it is probably hard to attain critical distance.

I see an interesting parallel between Moore and Gilette's four archetypes and the DiSC model created by William Marston. Each one of the four archetypes has a strong relationship to one of Marston's four mental energies. The King is similar to the Steadfast/Submissive energy. This would have been hard to see, except that the woman who taught me about DiSC mentioned that many Fortune 500 companies have CEOs with S personalities. Under the DiSC system, the Dominant type seems like the natural leader. Driven to succeed, quick to think, quick to work, charismatic. Yet, the D energy can be very harsh and unyielding. This is because it is really like the Warrior.

I think the confusion arises from the name. When we in the Anglosphere think of a King, we think especially of the English kings, men like Richard the Lionhearted or Henry VIII, who had big ideas and big appetites, bundles of energy that got whatever they wanted. However, what we are really talking about here is no mere king, but the Emperor. The Emperor is the still center, the source of order who quells rebellion by the rumor of his imperturbability. Except in the direst of emergencies, the Emperor does not take the field of battle himself.

The Lover is like the Influencer. Always talking, focused on relationships, a great love of life, unconcerned about details. The Magician is the Conscientious type. Hardworking, knowledgable, focused on facts and results, quiet and reserved.

One needn't look too far to find things that don't match either. The DiSC model attributes empathy especially to the S, while KWML attributes this to the Lover. Nonetheless, the convergence is striking. I am always interested when two separate lines of thought arrive at the same result. I look forward to reading what Brett on the Art of Manliness posts about this book in the future. This is a topic worth revisiting.

[Mohamed Alemam · Rating 3 out of 5]

أطفأت نجمتين ليس لقلة جودة المحتوى انما هو القصور في استيعابي، اذ ان الكتاب صعب، ليس سهلا وعملية الهضم والاستفادة من هكذا محتوى تحتاج الى اعادة قراءة مرة واثنتان. لا استطيع تصنيف الكتاب كتطوير للذات لأن لغته ليست سهلة لجميع القرّاء، بل احسبه قراءه في علم النفس التحليلي.

ما هو موضوع الكتاب؟
اختصارا لك و لكتابة ريفيو جيد لكتاب صعب كهذا، لم اجد خير من نقل بعض مقتطفات الكتاب لتوضيح موضوع الكتاب. الذي يهتم بالذكورية الناضجة التي وفق رأي الكاتب تتمثل في اربع نماذج وهي ( الملك - المحارب - الساحر - المُحِب ) يسرد الكتاب ايجابيات كل نموذج بالإضافة الى الجانب المظلم لكل نموذج وهو ما يجب تجنبه.

مقتطفات:

١- (لو ااستطاع الرجال المعاصرون أن يأخذوا على عاتقهم مهمة التحول من الطفولة والصبيانية الى الذكورة الناضجة، بنفس العزيمة والجدية التي كان يتحلى بها اجدادهم في القبائل البدائية، حينها فقط نشهد توقف الانهيار البشري)

٢- ( الكفاح من أجل النضوج هو إلزام سيكولوجي و أخلاقي وروحاني داخل كل رجل)

٣- ( الرجال لا يجب عليهم أبداً الشعور بالعار من جنسهم لمجرد أنهم رجال، بل يجب أن يُركزوا على تنمية وإنضاج أنفسهم من أجل جنسهم وجنس النساء والعالم أجمع، فالعدو لكلا الجنسين ليس الجنس الآخر، بل العظمة الطفولية)

[Michael · Rating 1 out of 5]

With the exception of its reiterations of the most commonly accepted and observed realities that contemporary men face, this book is largely just one unsupported assertion after another. Because its premises are assumed to be true and never argued for, I don't even know how anyone would critically evaluate the information except as to whether they find it personally appealing or not. I had to spit out the Kool-Aid.

[Morgan Blackledge · Rating 5 out of 5]

Authors Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette deconstruct male archetypes from a Jungian perspective. The authors posit that the King, the Warrior, the Magician, and the Lover archetypes are universal and inherent in the collective unconscious of men. The authors additionally assert that modern (contemporary to the time of writing) psychological problems men experience are due to a disconnection or toxic relationship to these archetypal energies.

Without going into too much detail:

KING:

THE MATURE KING (K) archetype embodies mature leadership, order, wisdom and justice.

The IMMATURE/ACTIVE KING is a TYRANT.

The IMMATURE/PASSIVE KING is WEAK.

WARRIOR:

THE MATURE WARRIOR (W) embodies courage, strength, and the ability to fight for what is right.

THE IMMATURE/ACTIVE WARRIOR is SADISTIC.

THE IMMATURE/PASSIVE WARRIOR is MASOCHISTIC

- in the bad way I assume 😜.

MAGICIAN:

THE MATURE MAGICIAN (M) archetype embodies knowledge, wisdom, and insight. It involves understanding the deeper truths of the cosmos and using this knowledge responsibly.

THE IMMATURE/ACTIVE MAGICIAN is a MANIPULATOR.

THE IMMATURE/PASSIVE MAGICIAN is in DENIAL.

LOVER:

THE MATURE LOVER (L) archetype embodies passion, appreciation for beauty, and a deep connection with others and the world.

THE IMMATURE/ACTIVE LOVER is ADDICTED.

THE IMMATURE/PASSIVE LOVER is IMPOTENT.

Moore and Gillette argue that each man possesses each of the K/W/M/L archetypes, and that fully realized and mature masculinity involves the integration and balance of all four. Moore and Gillette discuss how imbalances or the shadow aspects of the K/W/M/L archetypes can lead to SERIOUS problems in a man's life and relationships. Moore and Gillette provide framework for understanding men's psychological development and offer guidance on how men can achieve maturity/balance/integration it the K/W/M/L realms.

NOTE:

I really LOVED this book.

But I can’t/don’t endorse (or even fully understand) everything about it, or all of the myriad problematic implications that could (very easily) be implicated in a text like this.

Particularly given more recent popular understandings of the ways sex, gender and sexuality express in a nonbinary spectrum. And differ across cultures, contexts and epochs.

Given that.

This book is MUCH more fun if you can read it in curious good faith, like an applied humanities text. Or as a historical/arcane system (similar to Tarot or astrology). Rather than a psychological text portending to make objective truth claims.

If you can relate to this type of thing based on your personal phenomenological experience. And let go of the stringent literalism that seems to be casting a pox upon humanity at the moment. You’re going to have a better time with this book.

LASTLY:

This book is HIGHLY informed by second wave feminism. It goes in HARD on the PATRIARCHY and TOXIC MASCULINITY.

There is a LOT more progressive/transgressive goodness in here than you might expect.

💕🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️👑🗡️🧙‍♂️😍

[Serge · Rating 3 out of 5]

“Often, conducting a dialogue with inner “opponents”—usually forms of the immature masculine energies—will defuse much of their power. What they—like all children—really want is to be noticed, honored, and taken seriously. And they have a right to be. Once they are honored, and their feelings validated, they no longer need to act out through our lives.”

Jungian psychology has interested me for a long time, and I've had this book in my TBR for a long while, and I'm glad I've finally come around to reading it. The notion of archetypes is a very underrated one in modern psychology, in my opinion, and that is largely due to the fact that it is quite an intangible and abstract concept that is pretty far from the scientific method which modern fields prefer. However, there truly is value to this field if one is willing to give it a try.

Archetypes are general behavioural patterns that have become their own distinct personalities, which we see repeating themselves and being expressed through human beings and through historical events for millennia. We see these archetypes everywhere, when we go out with our friends and notice these behavioural patterns within them, when we open the news and notice those archetypes in our world leaders and even in the general public reacting to world events, when we read any fiction book and see these archetypes being reflected over and over again through characters, and also when we look deep into ourselves and our own motivations. These archetypes exist as their own mental entities, and are finite reincarnations expressed through an infinite potential of human reproduction.



This book specifically explores the male archetypes which, according to the author, every male has within. The just and authoritative and controlled King, the fierce and powerful and courageous Warrior, the intellectual and intelligent and sharp Magician and the sensual, compassionate and warm Lover. Each of these "masculine archetypes" are carry-overs of the corresponding "boy" archetypes, and according to the author, many adult men never evolve from those boy archetypes.

Published in 1991, this book is inevitably painted through a very traditional gender-role lens, with men painted as being meant to take on certain social roles that women are not, though this is implied instead of explicitly said. In addition, there is a large lack of LGBT perspectives being represented, which will leave out or negatively impact a large segment of the population reading this book, who might not relate to these very stereotypical masculine take on the archetypes, though as I've said earlier, that is to be expected from a book published during that time. These aspects make the book a little less relatable and slightly outdated through the lens of modern society, which has gone through radical shifts in the 21st century, especially in terms of liberation of sexual orientation and gender expression, as well as the recognition of non-traditional relationship styles. At one point, this book subtly establishes monogamy as a "norm" or as a sign of "maturity and being grounded" which might not sit well with people who prefer non-monogamous relationships.

“We want to show men how they can access these positive archetypal potentials for their own benefit and for the benefit of all those around them, maybe even for the planet.”

Aside from these inevitable traditional values painting the lens of these ideas, the content here is pretty interesting and decent, and also pertinent to our everyday lives. It is very likely that the reader will find themselves and/or people they know in these described archetypes. I was about to be left disappointed at the lack of "practical" instruction on how to practice integrating these archetypes, but they were thankfully explored at the end of the book.

To end this review with an amusing quote from the book:

"But it isn't just the lack of a vision that signifies the oppressive
power of the Impotent Lover in a man's life. It is also the absence of an
erect and eager penis."

This is a decent short read and I do recommend it, since I think exploring these archetypes is something most people would benefit from. If there's a take on the "female archetypes", I would also like to read it in the future.

[Mai M Ibrahim · Rating 2 out of 5]

حاولت استفيد منه ع قد م اقدر لكن معرفتش اطلع منه ب جملة تفدني
يلا معلش 🙏😄

[Mai Moanes · Rating 5 out of 5]

أشعر في البداية بأنني أخطأت بشرائي لهذا الكتاب، بأنه موجه في الأساس إلي الذكور، بأنه أحد كتب المساعدة الذاتية المستهلكة التي لا تفتأ تعيد صياغة ذات الأفكار مرة بعد أخري...

لكن مع تعمقي أكثر في قراءته، أدرك مدي قيمة الكتاب الذي بين يدي، ومدي عمق مناقشته للسيكولوجية الذكورية بناءا علي مدرسة كارل يونج في التحليل النفسي، وما اكتشفه من النماذج الأصلية الكامنة في اللاوعي الجمعي لكل البشر، البدائي منهم والمتحضر، القاصي منهم والداني...

تبهرني فكرة النماذج الأصلية، كيف أننا جميعا، من أتوا ومن سوف يلوهم، نشترك في عدد قليل من الأنماط الثابتة، فتتنوع وتتباين قصص حياتنا، ولكنها تتبع في النهاية عددا محدودا من الحبكات، تعاد مرة أخري كل صباح وإلي أن يشاء الله، فلا شئ جديد تحت الشمس كما يقولون...

ما أثار انتباهي بهذا الكتاب، أنه وأثناء قراءتي له، وعلي الرغم من كوني أنثي تعتز بأنوثتها وغير نسوية بالمرة، إلا أنني وجدت نفسي ممثلة بدرجة ما في كل من الأنماط الذكرية الأساسية الأربعة، الملك والمحارب والساحر والمحب، وبدرجات متفاوتة بالطبع.. وجدت تفسيرا لهذا في ذات الكتاب، فهو يحدثك عن مفهوم 'الأنيما' وهي الجزء المؤنث في نفس الذكر، و'الأنيموس' وهي الجزء الذكوري في نفس الأنثي، اعتقد أن الأنيموس خاصتي تتبع نموذج الساحر إلي حد كبير...

كان المؤلفان حياديين إلي درجة كبيرة، فهما لا يتحيزان لجنس معين ضد الآخر، وإنما يقران بأن عالمنا اليوم يمتلئ بالنساء غير الناضجات كما يمتلئ بالذكور الصبيانيين غير مكتملي النضج.. ولكن ما سعي الكاتبان إليه هو رفع الظلم الواقع علي جنس الذكور في عصرنا الحالي من قبل النسوية الراديكالية، والتي تسعي جاهدة لإخصاء الرجال معنويا وإلغاء ذكورتهم بشكل جذري.. وهما يعترفان أيضا بأن الإناث لطالما عانت من النظام الأبوي الغاشم، والصبياني في حقيقة الأمر، ولكنهما يريان أن إصلاح الخطأ لا يكون بارتكاب خطأ مثله...

وجدت هذا الكتاب غاية في التشويق والإمتاع، نظرا لما قام به الكاتبان من مزج لعلم النفس والميثولوجيا والأديان القديمة والحديثة، وأيضا بعض المقتطفات من التاريخ والأعمال الفنية...

كان مقدمة جيدة بالنسبة لي ومدخلا بسيطا إلي مدرسة كارل يونج والتي أعلم بكونها شديدة التعقيد والعمق، لا أدري ما خطوتي القادمة في هذا العالم السحري، ولكن سنري...

صحيح كون هذا الكتاب موجه بالأساس إلي الرجال، ليعينهم علي فهم أنفسم بشكل أفضل في رحلتهم نحو مزيد من النضج والانتقال من نفسية الصبي إلي نفسية الرجل، إلا أنني أنصح به أيضا كل أنثي تريد فهم سيكولوجية الرجال في حياتها...

ما أود رؤيته حقا بعد نهاية قراءتي لهذا الكتاب، هو جزء ثان له يناقش النماذج السيكولوجية الأساسية للأنثي الناضجة.. لا أعلم إن كان مثل هذا الكتاب موجودا بالفعل في مكان ما، أم ما إذا كان علي أن أكتبه بنفسي يوما ما...

[blue · Rating 1 out of 5]

I think this is counts as a "self-help" book. But it's terrible because the writer suffers gravely from a generational misreading of C.G. Jung. The author claim that the 4 masculine archetypes (King, Warrior, Magician, Lover) are embodied in every man, & that each has its own shadow. The problem is that they identity the shadow of the king/warrior with the "patriarchy". I often think that although Jung was a little bit arrogant at times, he really saw the archetypes stretching back over millennia. These archetypes didn't just suddenly become 'wrong' in some generations. Moore thinks men should be 'nurturing' & 'mentoring', but there should be no discipline. Or, as to be more accurate, very little discipline & assertive energy. I suppose this is what was in at the time this book was written & published. Moore depicts men like Churchill as stable examples of heroic masculine energy, offset by the lover energy (artistic sensibility) as opposed to the "bullying" drill camp instructor (he thinks military men are too harsh). This is not correct since Churchill was an incredibly brutal man. He wouldn't have said no to harsh military discipline. The author wishes for the "warrior" energy to be some sort of mystical nurturing chief (e.g. for men to be women). This sort of contradicts Jung, since his archetypes were deeply embedded. In short terms, the author simply update Jung for the late 80's or whatever the time this book was written in. He relies quite heavily on films to understand the world (American of course) and ends up interpreting the masculine as feminine in many ways.

[Sina · Rating 5 out of 5]

۲۵ شهریور ۱۴۰۳
این کتاب فوق العاده ست.
راجب ۴ آرکوتایپه که در رشد مردا تاثیر مهمی داره.
صوتیش سه ساعته.

[Ted · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm so glad that I dove into this book. The YouTube channel 'Like Stories of Old' refers to this book in several video essays, which initially got me excited about the concepts proposed in it. I was so excited, in fact, that I didn't think twice about ordering 1-day shipping when I got it on amazon!

With my strong love of mythology and philosophy, there was a lot of material covered in this book that connected with me deeply and instantly. I've had a rough understanding of Jungian psychology for a while now, but any attempts I've made to dive deeper into it were quickly met with confusion and a sense of being overwhelmed. So the practical and cursory nature of the text made the Jungian ideas much more accessible.

I felt an honest validation in reading a book directed specifically at men. A lot of the problems and inner thoughts discussed in the chapters resonated with me. And the fact that it was directly related to masculinity made it a deeper connection. And so with this, Moore's and Gillette's resounding themes of not being ashamed of one's masculinity, and accepting that femininity can sometimes overwhelm us, were equally validating. This book felt like a safe space, like what a psychologist's session is supposed to be. What was also validating was the ways in which Moore and Gillette recommended readers do to put these ideas into practice. The frequent references to men in their workplaces or families as applications to the positive or negative archetype energies, and especially the practices suggested in the end of the book all sounded familiar to me--either because they didn't seem outlandish to imagine, or that they were already a part of my life in some fashion or another.

I greatly look forward to reading the rest of the series in the future, as well as other books in the same vein--like Carol Pearson's 'The Hero Within,' or maybe I can give Joseph Campbell another crack!

[J]

A problem identified and addressed in this book, that boys now are growing into big boys instead of Men, is addressed on the detailed individual level more than the social level, even though the book acknowledges that the transition from boy to Man when executed correctly does not occur without help from elders. Most of the book is devoted to the four archetypes with lots of examples of how they appear in Men (a healthy state) and how their malignant forms appear in old boys. An introspective, reflective reader might get some valuable insights about himself, insights about both his strengths and weaknesses. Some exercises are offered at the end, too, for applying the theory. I don't know whether the authors are right, but I think their ideas are plausible.

[Maha Moustafa · Rating 5 out of 5]

- كتاب ممتاز 🌹 ورغم مرور تلك السنوات على كتابته من ١٩٩٥ إلى الآن، إلا أنه ما يزال مرجعًا مهمًا لكل الرجال والنساء أيضًا حتى يفهمون الرجال من حولهم.
- كنت أثناء الاستماع إلى الكتاب على ستوريتل أحاول ربط كل نموذج سواء بجانب السلبي أو الإيجابي بالأشخاص الذين عرفتهم مما جعل الكتاب مفيد وحي.✨

[Marcus Follin · Rating 3 out of 5]

The authors are correct in the sense that masculinity is lacking in the modern world. The book also contains some interesting perspectives.

However, between the constant Star Wars (and other popular culture references) and factually incorrect statements (such as the claim that SS soldiers were required to torture puppies – in the country with one of the strictest animal welfare laws at the time) I cannot recommend this book.

It also does not contain much in terms of practical advice for men.

[Amir · Rating 4 out of 5]

خوبه که نویسنده به جای پناه بردن به ایدئولوژیِ قربانی دیدنِ یک جنسیت سعی می کنه اون هارو مسئول زندگیشون بکنه. رویوی مفصلی هم براش می نویسم تا چشم هر فمنیست موج چهارمی از حسودی بترکه؛)

this is a man's world, but it wouldn't be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl

James brown

[K.M. Weiland · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good stuff and undoubtedly formative in its day, but it felt a bit lightweight and repetitive in light of other works I've read recently (most of which drew upon this one).

[Abdul Raheem · Rating 4 out of 5]

Femininity is not against Masculinity,
But boyishness is.

Boyishness is characterized by a lack of self-awareness, discipline, and responsibility, and that this can be overcome by embracing the qualities of the mature masculine archetypes.

Moore and Gillette argue that boyish behaviour is often a result of a lack of emotional development, and that individuals who are stuck in"boy psychology" have not fully developed their capacity for empathy, responsibility, and self-awareness. They suggest that by embracing the mature masculine archetypes, individuals can develop these qualities and overcome the negative traits associated with boyishness.


The authors discuss several types of boyish psychology. These include:

1. Divine Child: This type of boyish psychology is characterized by a sense of entitlement and a lack of responsibility. The Divine Child expects to be taken care of and catered to, rather than taking responsibility for his own life and well-being.

2. Oedipal Child: This type of boyish psychology is characterized by a struggle for power and control, particularly in relation to authority figures such as parents or bosses. The Oedipal Child may rebel against authority or seek to dominate it, rather than learning to work within it.

3. Precocious Child: This type of boyish psychology is characterized by a focus on intellectual achievement and success, often at the expense of emotional or social development. The Precocious Child may be highly intelligent and accomplished, but may struggle to connect with others or develop emotional maturity.

4. Heroic Child: This type of boyish psychology is characterized by a focus on physical prowess, competition, and achievement. The Heroic Child may be highly competitive and driven, but may struggle to develop empathy or emotional depth.

5. Puer Aeternus: This type of boyish psychology is characterized by a reluctance to grow up and take on adult responsibilities. The Puer Aeternus may avoid commitments, seekout novelty and excitement, and struggle to find a sense of purpose or direction in life.

To overcome each type of child psychology:

1. Divine Child: To overcome a sense of entitlement and a lack of responsibility, the Divine Child must learn to take responsibility for their own life and well-being. This means setting goals, making plans, and taking action to achieve them. It also means acknowledging the impact of their actions on others and taking responsibility for the consequences.

2. Oedipal Child: To overcome a struggle for power and control, the Oedipal Child must learn to work within authority structures and develop healthy relationships with authority figures. This means respecting the boundaries and expectations set by authority figures, while also advocating for their own needs and interests in a productive and respectful way.

3. Precocious Child: To overcome a focus on intellectual achievement at the expense of emotional or social development, the Precocious Child must learn to value emotional intelligence and social skills as much as intellectual achievement. This means developing empathy, social awareness, and the ability to connect with others on an emotional level.

4. Heroic Child: To overcome a focus on physical prowess, competition, and achievement, the Heroic Child must learn to value empathy, compassion, and emotional depth. This means developing an awareness of their own emotions and the emotions of others, and learning to connect with others on a deeper level beyond the surface level of competition and achievement.

5. Puer Aeternus: To overcome a reluctance to grow up and take on adult responsibilities, the Puer Aeternus must confront their fear of change and embrace the challenges and opportunities of adulthood. This means setting goals, making plans, and taking action towards achieving them. It also means developing a sense of purpose and direction in life, and finding meaning in the responsibilities and challenges of adulthood.

Overall, the key to overcoming these types of boyish psychology is to cultivate self-awareness, responsibility, and emotional maturity. Application of the 4 manhood archetypes, this requires a willingness to confront one's own weaknesses and faults, and a commitment to personal growth and development.

Types of archetypes:

The King archetype involves taking responsibility for oneself and others, setting goals, and living with purpose.

The Warrior archetype involves developing discipline, courage, and a willingness to act in the face of adversity.

The Magician archetype involves developing wisdom, creativity, and intuition.

The Lover archetype involves developing empathy, connection, and sensuality.

Negative traits associated with boyishness can manifest in different ways depending on the archetype that is least developed. For example, a lack of responsibility can manifest as a lack of the King archetype.
impulsiveness can manifest as a lack of the Warrior archetype. manipulation can manifest as a lack of the Magician archetype, and addiction can manifest as a lack of the Lover archetype.

By working to develop these archetypes and overcome the negative traits associated with boyish psychology, individuals can cultivate a sense of purpose, responsibility, and emotional maturity that will help them lead fulfilling and meaningful lives.


Each archetype can have certain "shadow" or negative characteristics that can manifest if not properly integrated and balanced:

1. King:

- Narcissism: The King can become overly focused on his own power and ego, leading to a lack of empathy and concern for others. To avoid this, the King must cultivate humility, empathy, and a sense of service to others.

- Tyranny: The King can become authoritarian and controlling, using his power for his own gain rather than for the benefit of his subjects. To avoid this, the King must practice responsible leadership, listening to the needs and concerns of others, and making decisions that benefit the greater good.

2. Warrior:

- Aggression: The Warrior can become overly aggressive and violent, using physical force to solve problems rather than seeking non-violent solutions. To avoid this, the Warrior must cultivate self-control, discipline, and a willingness to seek peaceful resolutions to conflicts.

- Recklessness: The Warrior can become reckless and impulsive, taking unnecessary risks that endanger himself and others. To avoid this, the Warrior must practice careful planning, risk assessment, and self-reflection before taking action.

3. Magician:

- Manipulation: The Magician can become manipulative and deceitful, using his knowledge and creativity to control others for his own gain. To avoid this, the Magician must practice integrity, honesty, and respect for the autonomy of others.

- Escapism: The Magician can become overly focused on the inner world of ideas and fantasies, avoiding the challenges and responsibilities of the outer world. To avoid this, the Magician must balance his inner exploration with active engagement in the world, taking responsibility for his actions and contributing to the greater good.

4. Lover:

- Addiction: The Lover can become addicted to sensory pleasures, such as sex, drugs, or food, using them as a means of escape or self-medication. To avoid this, the Lover must cultivate self-awareness, self-control, and a sense of moderation in his indulgences.

- Codependency: The Lover can become overly dependent on others for validation and approval, losing his own sense of identity and agency. To avoid this, the Lover must cultivate self-love, self-respect, and a sense of autonomy in his relationships.

The key to avoiding these negative traits is to cultivate a balanced and integrated approach to each archetype. This requires self-awareness, self-reflection, and a willingness to confront one's own weaknesses and faults. By practicing the positive qualities of each archetype and avoiding their negative aspects, you can live a fulfilling and mature life that embodies the best of each archetype.



Archetypes application:


1. King:

- Create a sense of community and support among your peers.

- Serve others

- Practice public speaking by doing a presentation in which you focus on connecting with the audience and creating a positive impact, rather than just looking good.

- Tune into the impact you have on others' well-being and take responsibility for their care.

- Practice self-discipline and hold yourself accountable for your behavior.

- Develop a sense of purpose by identifying your values and mission in life.

- Lead by example and be a positive role model for others.

2. Warrior:

- Take up martial arts, exercise or engage in physical challenges that help you develop strength and endurance.

- Practice telling the truth and maintaining perfect integrity, even when it's difficult.

- Work on maintaining good boundaries to protect your own well-being and stand up for what you believe in.

- Practice mental toughness by setting challenging goals and pushing through obstacles and be consistent.

- Face your fears and take action, even when you feel afraid.

- Develop a sense of honor and integrity by staying true to your values.

- Be courageous and take risks when necessary.

3. Magician:

- Engage in DIY engineering projects or other forms of creative problem-solving to develop your skills and knowledge.

- Build a small laboratory to experiment and learn about the mysteries of the universe.

- Teach something that you are passionate about to share your knowledge and skills with others.

- Engage in practices that enhance your intuition, such as meditation or dream work.

- Explore your creative side by writing, painting, or engaging in other forms of artistic expression.

- Seek out knowledge and wisdom through reading, studying, or seeking the guidance of a mentor.

- Develop a sense of curiosity and wonder by exploring new ideas and experiences.

- Use your creativity and intuition to solve problems and create innovative solutions.

4. Lover:

- Practice empathy and compassion towards others by actively listening and seeking to understand their perspectives.

- Build strong relationships with loved ones by being present and attentive.

- Take up dance lessons or other forms of physical expression to connect with your body and senses.

- Practice sensuality to develop a deeper connection with your own body and the world around you.

- Listen to music that moves you and be present with the experience instead of using it as a distraction from life.

- Start playing an instrument or singing to express yourself creatively and connect with others through music.

- Practice forgiveness and let goof grudges or resentment towards others.

- Cultivate a sense of gratitude for the beauty of life by focusing on what you have rather than what you lack.

[Heather · Rating 3 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book, even though it is ostensibly written for men. I read it because as an aspiring writer I wanted to understand a little more about male psychology, so I could hopefully create decent, realistic characters. The authors do emphasize that women do have paralell archetypes, so I did learn some things that I can use for myself.

It's a good introduction; not very deep. It's very approachable and accessible to the average reader. I would have liked a little more in depth, but I can accept this book for what it is: written to be accessible for people who have little or no background in Jungian psychology.

[Jessica · Rating 1 out of 5]

Too many problems to get past the first ten pages

After finding about 100 errors in both logic and reality in the first 10 pages, I decided I wouldn't read anymore.

Seriously, who gives an example of a tribal initiation by quoting a movie? Apparently this author. Absolute garbage and I'm pretty sure I didn't even get to the worst of it.

[Buck Wilde · Rating 3 out of 5]

Jungian archetypes as applied to masculine gender roles, the way we internalize them, and the behaviors they force. Think of it as Eeveelutions. Everybody starts as the "Divine Child", from which, depending on our environment and natural predilections, we might veer toward the nascent, and eventually the full roles of Warrior, Magician, or Lover. Fire stone, water stone, thunder stone. Ideally, a self-actualized dude will embody all three in the form of the King archetype. That's where the analogy breaks down, although if there's some kind of Eevee Voltron in the new generations, maybe not.

What I find particularly interesting about Jungian archetypal thought is many Jungians seem to interpret the good doctor's alleged mysticism as a legitimate defense of the "collective unconscious" as some primordial hive mind, a telepathic proto-internet where we share memetic knowledge of what these archetypes mean.

With the lexicon available to Jung, he was suggesting that the collective unconscious are our evolutionarily embedded drives and instincts. There's nothing mystical about it. We all have the same hardware, and the collective unconscious are the factory-default drivers. We don't share knowledge of the archetypes -- rather, we share the categories provided by the archetypes, and we ascribe meaning to them based on direct and indirect influences throughout our development. Every man's Magician looks radically different from every other, because we're agreeing only on the general shape of the symbol, and not what the symbol necessarily means.

That said, Moore goes in depth (teehee) outlying unifying characteristics across these typologies and suggests woo-woo quasispiritualist means of getting in touch with them. He bought into the stereotype of Jung as the dude with the crystal ball a little overmuch, I think, but a lot of the suggestions he makes are legitimately therapeutic and have been since the dawn of civilization. These invocations to embodying entities were the purview of medicine men, so named because what they administered was a form of medicine. Directly addressing "the Magician within" in an effort to draw out the repressed desires or deficits he was first created to manage is functionally the same as burning incense to the God of Wisdom. It's a form of secular prayer, and prayer has been shown, demonstrably, to help treat mental and physical illness. It's called "the placebo effect" because it's effective.

I saw myself in some of the archetypes, and I saw a lot of others, too. Fetishized intellectualism is the mark of the Magician, and holy shit, I just wrote this whole big book review for no reason. Moving forward with Jungian psychology is gonna require modification of gendered language, but not necessarily of the gendered archetypes, because the archetypes apply to everyone. I know plenty of women who embodied the Warrior -- a few stuck out in my mind as I read -- and that was supposed to be the most John Wayne stereotypical of the archetypes.

For those of you still chewing on the gendered language, or as the great philosopher Fred Durst put it, "the he said/she said bullshit", it's like this:

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover = Gryffindor, Slytherin, Ravenclaw, Hufflepuff.

Now read another fucking book.

[Mario Tomic · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very insightful writing on masculine energy and how it shapes our lives. This is a book every man should read at least once.

[Aisha · Rating 4 out of 5]

Understanding Mature Masculinity vs. Boy Psychology

---

Introduction:
In societies with increasingly absent fathers, the psychological development of both sons and daughters suffers. Without strong father figures, children often struggle with identity and relationships to the opposite sex.

The book *King, Warrior, Magician, Lover* explains how archetypes are divided into boy psychology and man psychology. In earlier times, boys were guided into manhood through carefully designed initiation rituals. Today, these rituals have nearly disappeared, replaced instead by pseudo-initiations: military boot camps, gangs, prisons, or modern “masculinity bootcamps.” While these reflect a genuine need for initiation, they are often mishandled, leaving men stuck in immature patterns.

When true initiation is absent, boy psychology dominates. This helps explain rising dysfunction in families, relationships, and society at large. What we need is not less masculinity, but more mature masculinity.



From Boy Psychology to Man Psychology:
A man who has not been initiated remains fragmented. He lacks inner cohesion and cannot access the deeper structures of mature masculine energy.

Movies and myths often echo this theme: some portray journeys of initiation, but most modern films glorify fragmented men who confuse arrogance or aggression with maturity.

Pseudo-initiations: whether through military training, gangs, or prison life: may seem highly ritualized, but they produce skewed masculinity: dominance-driven, shallow, and destructive. True initiation requires two key elements:
1: Ego death: the symbolic death of the boy’s identity, making space for transformation.
2: Presence of elders: wise men who embody mature masculinity and can guide the younger generation.

In our culture, such elders are rare. As a result, men often remain stuck in immature forms of masculinity.



Boy Psychology:
The abusive husband, the corrupt politician, the arrogant executive, the absent father, the manipulative minister — all these are boys pretending to be men. Their controlling, hostile behaviors are mistaken for strength, but underneath lies vulnerability and woundedness.

Most men today remain fixated at these early stages, living under blueprints appropriate for childhood but destructive in adulthood.

The boy archetypes include:
: Divine Child: the source of life, wonder, and creativity, but also narcissism and grandiosity.
: Hero: gives courage to break away and face challenges, but is only transitional. If not outgrown, it collapses into arrogance or passivity.
: Precocious Child: cleverness without depth.
: Oedipal Child: seeking ultimate fulfillment in the feminine, leading to restless and destructive patterns.

Shadow forms of boy psychology appear as the Tyrant Child, the Mama’s Boy, or the Coward. These prevent growth into mature manhood.



Man Psychology and the Four Archetypes:
To mature fully, men must integrate four core archetypes: King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover. These provide the structure for balance, growth, and generativity.

A key insight: fully developed men are calmer, more emotionally balanced, and have higher serotonin levels. This neurochemical stability reduces aggression, increases confidence, and allows them to bless others rather than compete destructively. In contrast, men stuck in boy psychology are more anxious, reactive, and dopamine-driven — always chasing highs and dominance.

---

The King: Justice and Blessing
The King is primal energy within men. A good King creates order, blesses others, and provides stability. He embodies calm authority and brings fertility and life to his community.

The shadow King has two forms:
: The Tyrant: abuses power, rules through fear, destroys rather than nurtures.
: The Weakling: avoids responsibility, is indecisive, easily manipulated.

When accessed correctly, the King archetype generates serenity and authority. A mature King lowers anxiety both in himself and those around him, spreading stability and blessing.

---

The Warrior: Discipline and Struggle
The Warrior is discipline, courage, and focus. He sets boundaries, takes action, and endures hardship in service of a cause greater than himself.

In shadow, the Warrior becomes:
: Too harsh: cruel, destructive, consumed by aggression.
: Too weak: cowardly, passive, unwilling to face challenges.

Chronic imbalance in the Warrior often leads to stress, burnout, or collapse. A mature Warrior, however, acts with discipline and calm, not with reactive violence.

---

The Magician: Wisdom and Knowledge
The Magician represents insight, knowledge, and mastery of hidden truths. He is the thinker, the healer, the strategist, and the initiator into deeper mysteries of life.

The true Magician seeks knowledge for growth and transformation. The shadow Magician manipulates, deceives, and distorts truth for personal gain.

Without Magician energy, life lacks meaning and guidance. With it, men gain perspective, clarity, and access to wisdom.



The Lover: Compassion and Connection
The Lover archetype is the energy of intimacy, passion, and devotion. It connects us to beauty, love, and the richness of life.

The true Lover is tender, compassionate, and devoted, while the shadow Lover becomes addicted to pleasure, consumed by passion without purpose, or lost in obsession.

Balanced Lover energy allows for deep relationships, artistic inspiration, and authentic connection with self and others.


Conclusion:
Together, the four archetypes represent the structure of mature masculinity:
: King: Justice, blessing, stewardship.
: Warrior: Courage, discipline, protection.
: Magician: Knowledge, insight, transformation.
: Lover: Passion, intimacy, compassion.

The crisis of masculinity in modern society is the dominance of boy psychology and the absence of true initiation into manhood. Pseudo-initiations leave men fragmented, abusive, or passive. What is needed is not less masculine energy but more mature masculine energy.

Mature men are not more aggressive: they are more serotonin-driven, calm, and centered. This makes them better leaders, partners, and creators. Instead of chasing dominance through fear or ego, they generate stability, wisdom, and compassion, embodying the fullness of King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover.

[حوراء جميل · Rating 4 out of 5]

هناك نماذج نفسية اربعة تظهر وتنمو في نفسية الصبي في مراحل مختلفة من تطوره ونموه النفسي.
النموذج الأول هو الطفل المقدس او الطفل المعجزة. يليه الطفل مبكر النضوج والطفل الأوديبي اما آخر مرحلة في الطفولة يظهر فيها نموذج البطل.

(تظهر هذه النماذج بترتيب مختلف او بتأثيرات خليطة لان التطور الانسان لا يكون ثابتا ولا يسير على وتيرة واحدة، لكن هذه النماذج نفسها تعد مشتركة بين كل الذكور.)

كل نموذج من نماذج النفسية الصبيانية الأربعة، يؤدي الى نشوء نموذج رجولي ناضج،
فعن الطفل يتولد الرجل.

نموذج الطفل المقدس عندما يُغذى بتجارب الحياة يُصقل بها، يتحول الى نموذج الملك، الطفل مُبكر النضوج يتحول الى ساحر، نموذج الطفل الاوديبي يتحول للمُحب، نموذج البطل يتحول للمحارب.

-التحليل النفسي للنفس الذكورية، من قبل كارل يونغ.