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Fake Love Need Not Apply: The Single Girls Guide To Avoiding Posers Losers Scammers and Predators Online
The online dating world is filled with lies. How will you find the one partner who's ready to give the love you're looking for? Motivational speaker Chantal Heide has done it again, showing you how to achieve true love using her easy to follow 7 step formula. Learn how to recognize the sort of guys who deceive their way into getting what they want without being prepared to give you what you need, and avoid getting trapped in the same cycles of disappointment and craving change. Find out how to become free of one sided relationships, and get a crystal clear idea of what pitfalls and red flags to look for so you can see them a mile away. And best of all, learn what attracts and keeps real love in your life so you can step into loving and supportive unions that help you become the greatest version of yourself while taking you on the best ride of your life. Relationships will either heal your past pains or create new ones. Choose wisely, and blossom into the woman you were born to be - a healer, a lover, and a teacher. Chantal Heide is a Human Relations and communications expert with a successful practice helping clients learn how to find and keep a "magical" loving relationship. She is a motivational speaker, workshop leader, coach, frequent media contributor, and author of several books including No More Assholes - Your 7 Step Guide To Saying Goodbye To Guys And Finding The Real Man You're Looking For. Visit Chantal's website at www.CanadasDatingCoach.com
203 pages, Paperback
Published February 28, 2017
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February 14, 2021
This book got recommended to me by the author popping up on my fyp (for you page) on the app TikTok. In the book, it feels like the writing has been 'dumbed-down' - as if she is writing to a bunch of Valley girl teenagers. There are a few grammatical mistakes and spelling mistakes in the book, that make you question the editing.
Some of the information in the book is good, but a lot of it is rambling about the same thing - whether to enforce a point or because it's simply poor writing, I do not know.
Reading a CBT book alongside this would do one well, as then it gives you proper actions to put into place. The book does have some relatable topics I found, but because of the nature of the writing, can lead you to feel very childlike.
Some of the information in the book is good, but a lot of it is rambling about the same thing - whether to enforce a point or because it's simply poor writing, I do not know.
Reading a CBT book alongside this would do one well, as then it gives you proper actions to put into place. The book does have some relatable topics I found, but because of the nature of the writing, can lead you to feel very childlike.
September 27, 2020
I read this book after finding Chantal on tiktok and watching her lives. I really like her philosophy and the advice that she gives, but the style of writing makes it hard to read. I find that the examples about what men can do should you not be careful (sucking all the money out of you until you have to furlough your house) seem a little overexaggerated for the average person and the overall writing comes off as slightly infantilizing.
That being said I will probably be purchasing No More Assholes because the actual advice given in this book was all stuff I needed to hear. Remember ladies, men GIVE and boys TAKE.
That being said I will probably be purchasing No More Assholes because the actual advice given in this book was all stuff I needed to hear. Remember ladies, men GIVE and boys TAKE.
April 13, 2022
This book is more about learning to love yourself before finding love rather than the horror stories of catfishing, which isn’t a bad thing. This is a free ebook on Chantal’s website, which I found through Tiktok. There’s some pretty good advice, but it’s fairly simple. Of her two books i’ve read, I’d recommend No More Assholes over this one.
February 3, 2026
"I can tell you all about the warning signs of scammers and emotionally unavailable men, but if you’re not prepared to 1) stand alone till you meet someone worthy and 2) be a good partner when you meet him, anything I say is moot."
February 28, 2026
I picked up Fake Love Need Not Apply after seeing the author on TikTok and noticing she offered the book for free. I wanted to see what her work was about before forming an opinion.
This book focuses largely on heterosexual relationships and often frames examples around women seeking male partners. Readers who identify outside of that dynamic may not feel represented. I believe this scope should be stated clearly at the beginning so expectations are set from the start.
The message centers on self worth, emotional regulation, and building a healthy self concept as the foundation for relationships. If you learn to manage your emotions and feel secure on your own, you are more likely to choose partners who treat you well. As a therapist who has read many self help books, I did not find the ideas new. Still, I appreciated how she explained meditation and emotional regulation in her own voice, using personal stories instead of clinical language. Her care for the subject comes through, and her lived experience shapes the tone of the book.
I noticed several grammatical errors despite the mention of an editor in the acknowledgments. The content remained clear, but the mistakes distracted me at times. The book also leans into self promotion, especially toward the end, where she references her other titles and coaching programs. I understand that this is part of her business model, though it felt excessive and slightly off putting to me.
I am giving this book three out of five stars. It did not add new insights for me, and I do not plan to read her other books. That said, I believe it could be helpful for readers who are struggling with dating, self esteem, or unhealthy relationship patterns. If you are in a painful relationship or working on rebuilding your sense of self, this book offers reassurance and practical guidance. Peace within yourself and a steady sense of self respect do shape the quality of your relationships, and this book reinforces that clearly.
This book focuses largely on heterosexual relationships and often frames examples around women seeking male partners. Readers who identify outside of that dynamic may not feel represented. I believe this scope should be stated clearly at the beginning so expectations are set from the start.
The message centers on self worth, emotional regulation, and building a healthy self concept as the foundation for relationships. If you learn to manage your emotions and feel secure on your own, you are more likely to choose partners who treat you well. As a therapist who has read many self help books, I did not find the ideas new. Still, I appreciated how she explained meditation and emotional regulation in her own voice, using personal stories instead of clinical language. Her care for the subject comes through, and her lived experience shapes the tone of the book.
I noticed several grammatical errors despite the mention of an editor in the acknowledgments. The content remained clear, but the mistakes distracted me at times. The book also leans into self promotion, especially toward the end, where she references her other titles and coaching programs. I understand that this is part of her business model, though it felt excessive and slightly off putting to me.
I am giving this book three out of five stars. It did not add new insights for me, and I do not plan to read her other books. That said, I believe it could be helpful for readers who are struggling with dating, self esteem, or unhealthy relationship patterns. If you are in a painful relationship or working on rebuilding your sense of self, this book offers reassurance and practical guidance. Peace within yourself and a steady sense of self respect do shape the quality of your relationships, and this book reinforces that clearly.
June 1, 2020
Not to sound corny but this book is a life changer! Learning how to meditate and how it has calmed my anxiety, cleared my head, given me energy, allowed me to be comfortable with myself and improved my sleep was the first big “Wow” moment of SO many whole reading this book! I have had 22 years filled with more dysfunctional relationships and in those relationships was 2 failed marriages. I recognized a lot of the old me in many chapters and see the woman I am becoming because after my most recent divorce I saw the patterns that got me in that relationship and have been working on myself to never retrace those steps. After reading this book it has strengthened my foundation and I can’t wait to read the others. Thanks to this book I am finally in the most important relationship I have ever been in and that’s with myself! Read the book and you’ll find out why that is crucial. Even though this book is geared towards women it translates for men too. No matter you’re age or where you’re at in your relationship status, I highly recommend picking this up!
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April 8, 2023
So far, I’m not impressed. While the author does give good advice, it reads a little like an article in cosmo magazine that takes real information and dumbs it down.. yet also making it less effective and harder to understand for readers who are looking for a deeper understanding or need that.
It’s easy to read but a bit of a quick-fix-vibe. The blueprints are there but I don’t know if it’s as helpful as it makes out to be for the average reader.
I bought this because of her TikTok where she I actually asked questions in the live chat and saw others ask similar, they weren’t addressed. I think her method has holes in it and she doesn’t seem to fully explain her reasoning.. I’ve yet to finish the book and if I get there I’ll update my review.
It’s easy to read but a bit of a quick-fix-vibe. The blueprints are there but I don’t know if it’s as helpful as it makes out to be for the average reader.
I bought this because of her TikTok where she I actually asked questions in the live chat and saw others ask similar, they weren’t addressed. I think her method has holes in it and she doesn’t seem to fully explain her reasoning.. I’ve yet to finish the book and if I get there I’ll update my review.
March 7, 2026
I enjoyed this quick read. What is offered is deceptively simple, but infinitely something that so many people struggle with, myself included. The information provided in this book may be things you've heard before, but I was grateful for the manner in which it was communicated because it really made me see where I'd abandoned myself and put the happiness of others before the things I claimed I wanted in a relationship. I like the author's tough love, no nonsense style of writing, and I think that making it easy to read serves everyone and is a welcome change for someone who has to read more high-level works for her job.
March 14, 2026
Most self help books recycle adages and info from previous self help teachers. But I gotta hand it to Chantal for really pointing out how you can elevate yourself, emotionally, mentally, when trying to attract the right kind of relationship. She teaches you to see what is actually happening, and starts with the fundamentals of meditation which, per Harvard, genuinely changes areas of the brain, like the amygdala, to be less reactive, less fearful, so you can find your confidence.
I am in a great relationship with my husband, but (in her words) I have dated so many "guys" in my past. Reading this has helped me mentally just tap on that old version of me and help her heal.
I am in a great relationship with my husband, but (in her words) I have dated so many "guys" in my past. Reading this has helped me mentally just tap on that old version of me and help her heal.
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