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All his life Kabelo Mosala has been the perfect child to his doting absent parents, who show him off every chance they get. Both his parents and his small community look forward to him coming back after medical school and joining his father’s practice. They also plan to give him the perfect township wedding. But Kabelo’s one wish has always been to get as far away from the township as he possibly can and never come back. A few weeks before he leaves for university, however, he forms a close bond with Sediba, one of his childhood friends, confirming his long-held suspicion that he is gay. Their relationship is thrown into turmoil by social pressures and conflicting desires, and it starts to look as if they can’t be together. But against all odds the two young men make their way back to each other, risking scorn from the community that raised them. In her characteristic, beautifully modulated voice, with razor-sharp clarity, Kagiso Lesego Molope tackles an urgent issue in her country of birth.

220 pages, Kindle Edition

First published August 23, 2018

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Profile Image for Thomas.
1,863 reviews12k followers
August 9, 2020
This book tore my sensitive gay heart to shreds and I loved every freaking second of it. Such a Lonely, Lovely Road follows Kabelo Mosala, a young Black man living in South Africa whose parents aspire for him to go to medical school and then marry a woman. A few weeks before heading to medical school, however, Kabelo forms an intense connection with Sediba, a childhood friend Kabelo had always avoided, despite his interest in Sediba’s uniqueness. Their relationship confirms Kabelo’s queer sexual orientation, which he struggles to hide from his parent sand his community. We follow Kabelo throughout his life as he tries to make sense of and fully inhabit his relationship with Sediba, a relationship that brings him joy in a society that disparages same-sex love.

Okay y’all, I have to say that I literally screamed in my apartment while reading this book because of how invested I felt in Kabelo and Sediba’s relationship. Kagiso Lesego Molope writes with such straightforward poignancy and captured their bond as well as Kabelo’s emotional experience with well-paced scenes and sharp dialogue. The curiosity and tension between Kabelo and Sediba leading up to their first kiss? I screamed. When Kabelo and Sediba reconnect after their first period of spending several years apart? I screamed. Later on in the book when the angst between them gets real and intersects with Kabelo’s emotions of loneliness and grief and confusion about he wants in life? I screamed while lying on my couch and blasting BlackPink’s “Don’t Know What to Do,” making sure to hydrate to replenish the fluids in my body even as Molope’s beautiful writing drained my soul and lifted it into the literary heavens. The romance between Kabelo and Sediba takes up most of the novel, and a lot of people know I’m not a huge fan of romance-centric stories. However, Molope constructs the connection between Kabelo and Sediba with such tender care, I had no choice but to pause my cynicism toward romance and fanboy.

I also loved Kabelo’s character. Molope did such a fantastic job writing compelling scenes and dialogue while giving us perspective into Kabelo’s emotions, like what made him happy and what fueled his worries and insecurities. I think literally all of the characters in this novel, ranging from Sediba as a more central character to Kabelo’s parents as more on the periphery, received such distinct and consistent characterization. I feel like one sign of a truly talented writer is a writer who can make you empathize and care for a character while simultaneously acknowledging that character’s limitations and flaws. That’s how I felt about Kabelo – even when I wanted him to process his emotions about his parents or Sediba with more clarity, even when I wanted him to explore his past loneliness instead of avoiding it, I felt so compelled to root for him and to show compassion for him and his struggles.

Goodreads friends, I ask you to please read this novel so I have people to scream and freak about it with. I so appreciate Molope’s voice and this deep, stirring portrayal of love between two Black men from South Africa. As a queer Asian American I recognize I am definitely removed from these characters’ experiences and at the same time it’s so rejuvenating to witness a queer love story outside of whiteness and a more western context in general. On a more political level some of my takeaways from this book include that we should all take action to eradicate homophobia, dismantle heteronormativity, and end patriarchy so queer folks everywhere can be happy and men can experience the full range of their emotions. Those are my takeaways and Molope doesn’t really directly say any of that in her novel. Instead, she creates a beautiful love story, one that centers a relationship with struggles yet an ultimately healthy and restorative relationship nonetheless. As someone who hasn’t given a book five stars in about two months, as someone who hasn’t had a crush on a guy for awhile (aside from an odd maybe crush on a straight guy which you can read about on my blog, lol), and as someone who values empathy and compassion and connection and novels that promote those things, I’m so grateful for Such A Lonely, Lovely Road.
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Author 2 books417 followers
March 22, 2021
A breathtaking work this. I came to this book with no expectation, but diverse African literature is surprising me with its depth. Molope brings to life a period in South Africa, making me look up and understand for the first time what “townships” really were and the stressors of not being able to love who you want in a society that prizes heterosexual marriage above all else.

Moving and evocative, there were times when I felt I was there too with Kabelo and Sediba as they navigate their tortured, beautiful love. One of the books of the year for me so far.
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681 reviews927 followers
November 16, 2025
5 stars 🌟

This was so heartbreaking and beautiful. I related to so many things the MC said. Highly recommend.

Reviewed on 17th November 2025

DISCLAIMER-All opinions on books I’ve read and reviewed are my own, and are with no intention to offend anyone. If you feel offended by my reviews, let me know how I can fix it.

How I Rate-
1 star- Hardly liked anything/ was disappointed
2 star- Had potential but did not deliver/ was disappointed
3 stars- Was ok but could have been better/ was average / Enjoyed a lot but something was missing
4 stars- Loved a lot but something was missing
5 stars- Loved it/ new favourite
Profile Image for Leila Marshy.
Author 3 books28 followers
July 23, 2019
I loved this book. LOVED IT. The writing is measured and steady, she never gives too much away but if you are patient you can always read between the lines. The discoveries are yours. This creates an intimacy between the reader and the book/characters. This is not to say it is obtuse or vague. It is poetic, mature, never rushed. In Kabelo and Sediba she has created two men I felt I understood and grew to love. Their relationship, stretched out over time and many obstacles, is heart-wrenching. The secondary characters are interesting and well done without being overwrought.

Molope captures the exquisite pain of being queer in a community you love but that at the same time would reject you in a heartbeat.

This was a book I completely entered in to. I trusted the writer. Do you know how long it's been since that has happened? Way too long. I am going to read her other books now.
Profile Image for Ebony Rose.
343 reviews190 followers
July 31, 2021
Beautiful, melancholy and hopeful all at once.
34 reviews
January 2, 2022
Excellent! The perfect story that I consumed in one day. Movie plans!?!
Profile Image for Sandra.
315 reviews30 followers
April 3, 2021
The expectation for Kabelo, a South African young man, is to become a doctor, partner with his father, and marry a good woman from his community. As Kabelo is about to go off to the University of Cape Town, he finds himself in an intimate moment with his childhood friend, Sediba, affirming (to himself) that he is gay. Constrained by the social norms of his hometown, they part, only to find each other again years later. They begin a relationship away from their hometown, in hiding, as Kabelo’s family would never accept his truth.

Told in a compelling and honest voice, this story is both heartbreaking and bursting with pureness and tenderness. This story provides representation and intersectionality of race and sexual orientation, and it is especially interesting when Molope shows the difference in social/cultural acceptance of gay relationships between white and Black men in South Africa. This is a beautiful love story in which I cheered for the characters the entire way through.
Profile Image for Fahimeh Artaa.
20 reviews10 followers
October 12, 2021
This book left me with no choice but to give it a five star.

The story is so realistic, sometimes I had to take a step back from reading it to calm myself down, and then came back to it with much more enthusiasm.
And after reading half of the story, although I knew what would happen at the end(I spoiled it for myself, Imagine how impatient I am.), I couldn't stop reading or pass some parts faster, like I had to savor every single words to the fullest.

If you want a real healthy romantic story, please do yourself a favor and read this.
Profile Image for Sandra.
315 reviews30 followers
April 3, 2021
The expectation for Kabelo, a South African young man, is to become a doctor, partner with his father, and marry a good woman from his community. As Kabelo is about to go off to the University of Cape Town, he finds himself in an intimate moment with his childhood friend, Sediba, affirming (to himself) that he is gay. Constrained by the social norms of his hometown, they part, only to find each other again years later. They begin a relationship away from their hometown, in hiding, as Kabelo’s family would never accept his truth.

Told in a compelling and honest voice, this story is both heartbreaking and bursting with pureness and tenderness. This story provides representation and intersectionality of race and sexual orientation, and it is especially interesting when Molope shows the difference in social/cultural acceptance of gay relationships between white and Black men in South Africa. This is a beautiful love story in which I cheered for the characters the entire way through.
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252 reviews11 followers
February 14, 2021
Molope introduces us to Kabelo, a young South African doctor who is coming to terms with his sexuality and pushes himself to find the courage to come out to his township, while also navigating how a gay, South African man can still maintain his cultural customs (a culture that does not accept gay people).

It took me a few times to start the book, only because I kept getting interrupted. I’m so happy I kept coming back to this book, it is a beautiful story that shows a fearful, young man growing into a confident adult who accepts his sexuality and does not worry what his elders and community may whisper. I especially loved the last few legs of the book (spoilers, maybe?) “Who Sediba and I are to each other js hard on our township friends, but what is going on with them, that fact that losing each other, looking at houses going empty when everyone in them is still young: that is much harder”.
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312 reviews9 followers
May 31, 2022
In a country both gendered and racial, two Mostwana men grapple with he notion that while gay love is acceptable in the white world of South Africa, it’s not as easy for two Black men from a township.

Despite South Africa having legalized same-sex marriages in 2006, the struggle for acceptance in black cultures by the queer community is still a prevalent issue for many.

This a tender love story addressing a side of South Africa we often don't see represented in literature. And this is a moment where representation has become an important propellor of literary conversation, making this novel relatable and insightful.

Kabelo comes from a family that hides things well and habitually; the household he grows up in is paralyzed with secrets. His own secret- being gay- is a lifelong struggle he has with himself and the readers grow with him too through this journey of self acceptance.

Molope’s book tackles themes of racism, cultural norms, sexuality, and identity. It is for anyone- regardless of their sexuality- who has ever struggled with their identity. For anyone who has ever challenged the status quo and lived unconventionally or in secret.
Profile Image for Zinhle Ngidi.
107 reviews30 followers
January 12, 2020
“Sies! A doctor, behaving like a dirty street person? A doctor? A gay? My own child, a gay? Sies! You are a gay? What kind of thing is this? Is this from your White friends? Is this what you think is white? It’s so... it’s not proper, Kabelo. Even if you want to be White, Kabelo, this is repulsive, mara. Hao! Sies! A gay? A gay?

The words from a disappointed mother when after all her hopes of seeing a makoti for her doctor son faded. Few days later, she committed suicide- could it be because of this news or that her husband was sleeping with the helper?
When she said those words after telling her that he was gay, Kabelo felt dirty and disappointed. She did not just say he is gay but “a gay”, which means it’s a “thing” that is worthless, it’s like a disease.

A story about 2 friends that at an early age knew and felt that they are different from the rest of the boys from eKasi. When other boys talked about girls, there was nothing from their side. But they knew it’s something that they cannot talk about, they had to hide how they felt and who they were. His partner in crime Sediba, tried to come out clean to his friends outside the location but Kabelo hid it very well to everybody and even tried experimenting with girls but it all didn’t work. Their age group, friends from ekasi started getting married- the pressure escalated.

Later fighting it seemed impossible. Life events forced Kabelo to move from Durban where he was training as a doctor to face the reality at home. This is after his father also passed away. He had no choice but to come and work in the same community and try it out with his boyfriend. The child is raised by the community- so even after the death of his parents, society still expects umshado from their kids between a male and a female.

The author addresses socio-cultural issues that the society places on men and women. It has themes like homophobic, sex,HIV/AIDS, cheating and many more.

The author did a great job especially writing from the male point of view while being a female. Sex between gays is not as deep as readers that love those scenes might wish. When you think it’s coming she changes the scene. So it is safe for those who do not like details of such, but you will surely get the idea and what being together made the two feel.

Lovely and very interesting story.
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Profile Image for Tshidiso Thekiso.
37 reviews2 followers
January 13, 2019
Absolutely brilliant. In this books Kagiso totally captured the difficulties of our black brothers and sisters go through daily trying hide and not live their truths in the hopes that they don't break their parents hearts.

Kabelo most of all infuriated me so much, he was such a coward from the beginning, Sediba tried with all his might to show Kabelo that true love will shine even in the darkest corners but he was just so scared all the way to him going to study medicine in UCT to transferring to Durban after what happened to his friend. Although I also don't blame him for ditching the friend because of the horrible circumstances that they found themselves in, it would have gotten him expelled from his studies and possibly landed him in jail. Towards the end of the story I loved how he finally came into himself and lived his truth and loved who he loved in spite of all the odds against them.
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Profile Image for priya ☁️.
109 reviews23 followers
March 12, 2021
5 stars for this painful, yet hopeful and beautiful queer story.

"You let go of people and places because of where you are. You choose to forget people you once wanted in your life because they don’t know and you need them not to know. You have fewer family members because you’re afraid of what might happen if they found out. Your loving happens when shadows fall and behind closed doors because that is the only way for it to survive. But here we are in spite of everything. Here we are, a family.”
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181 reviews2 followers
September 30, 2019
Hits hard, with a portrayal of everyday life and its challenges for gay men in township families. Accessible to me and, I imagine, also authentic, telling a simple but important story that as a gay married man myself, from a very different background, rings true.
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1,185 reviews29 followers
February 15, 2019
Beautiful love story between two men, trying to come to turns with who they are,
and how they can really be together.
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57 reviews27 followers
June 13, 2020
The kind of romance that made me want to fall in love again.
6 reviews
September 20, 2021
This is one of those book that you'll never forget, the characters are embedded in for life.What makes it so good is how relatable it is, it's hard to find a book with good representation of the queer culture in South Africa. One of my favorite quotable from the book was when the main character said " the side effect of always hiding something: you become obsessed with wanting to know what will happen next—you hate surprises."
I felt like this book was written for me or written by someone looking into my life. Kabza(the protagonist) feels like a certain version of me, you find youself feeling like you are part of the book, it's beautifully written.
Profile Image for Jayne Bauling.
Author 58 books71 followers
May 15, 2019
Kabelo is gay, the son of conservative parents, living in a small, conservative South African community. He lives in fear of being found out, and finds it impossible, agonising, to admit – even to himself – his love for a local boy Sediba.
The loneliness lasts years, through most of his medical student life in Durban. Away from home, brief sexual encounters are possible, ‘We’d look past each other before, during, and after sex.’
Then Sediba visits Durban, and Kabelo is ‘afraid of what was starting but also very tired of being afraid.’ Durban is one thing. Can they continue their relationship when Kabelo must return to kasi to take over his father’s medical practice? This novel is set during a time when AIDS was spreading rapidly among young people, and doctors were desperately needed in poor communities.
So much fear, so much longing. A moving love story, and a story about people hiding who they are, and aching for the freedom to live openly as lovers.
This powerful and important novel is somewhat let down by some negligent editing/proofreading, and that is a shame.
Profile Image for eri b.❀.
476 reviews40 followers
October 10, 2021
I started wondering if he might not remember loving me.


Such a lovely book. It captured me since the first line and it wouldn't let me go. It had the loveliest writing, every line striking at just the right places. It's a beautiful story, a heartbreaking story, and while the romance is definitely the focus it is firmly intertwined with the boys' identity as black men in South Africa. I had known that in South Africa gay marriage was legal since a while ago, but ignored all the nuances related to this law; especially, the ones related to the lingering effects of apartheid.

It was a thorough read, brilliant both in its writing and its themes, and I couldn't recommend it enough. It's a story that will stay in my heart.
Profile Image for Amber Turnau.
29 reviews
August 30, 2020
This book picks up steam with every page turned. Molope is a nuanced writer and I love that every line intends much more than meets the eye. She invites the reader to discover the complexities of South African culture, amidst the backdrop of the AIDS epidemic and gay rights movement. This is a beautiful story about passion, love, and self-discovery.
124 reviews3 followers
September 6, 2022
A tender and painful but in the softest way that sits deep in your heart, treasure of a book. The prose, while granted contained an occasional grammatical error, shined with a warmth that made me root for these soft boys.
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121 reviews6 followers
August 11, 2021
" I suppose falling in love makes us selfish and oblivious to the rest of the world. I had observed it in other people but never in myself before. Now I forgave everyone I'd ever known their blissful absence while in the cradle of a love affair".

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38 reviews
December 30, 2019
Loved the story. Heartbreaking and hopeful all at once.
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153 reviews3 followers
September 27, 2022
A beautiful love story entangled in the complicated web of cultural expectations and homophobia in South Africa.
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11 reviews8 followers
September 2, 2020
Well... this beautiful book broke my heart. There were so many different issues brought up, some in detail and some in passing but all tugged at some heartstrings. I’m glad I found this book and read it
229 reviews
September 26, 2021
I loved this book. Exploring the difficulties in being a gay black man in South Africa, I could feel
the main characters anguish and loneliness. Although often sad this is a beautiful read.
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